FabSwingers.com forum: First meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have fantasized about MMF and maybe couples swap and even arranged a meet but we cancelled through nerves.

How do single guys feel about a meet where we want them to watch us but maybe not join in? We want to let them eventually but not sure on first time. Would it be annoying?

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By *hythmic DriverMan
over a year ago

Croydon

I'm pretty sure nearly every guy on here would be okay with that

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"We have fantasized about MMF and maybe couples swap and even arranged a meet but we cancelled through nerves.

How do single guys feel about a meet where we want them to watch us but maybe not join in? We want to let them eventually but not sure on first time. Would it be annoying?

Would imagine more frustrating than annoying.

Go to a club, find a caged room and play together.

You will get an audience and if there is someone there that takes your eye then you can always move to a private room and take them with you.

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"We have fantasized about MMF and maybe couples swap and even arranged a meet but we cancelled through nerves.

How do single guys feel about a meet where we want them to watch us but maybe not join in? We want to let them eventually but not sure on first time. Would it be annoying?

That's what we did on our first meet. I felt comfortable after half an hour or so to let him join in a bit though.

Katie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't want to go to club for the first time. Feels a bit too "much" bit could be wrong

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Don't want to go to club for the first time. Feels a bit too "much" bit could be wrong "

Its great fun.

Just don't do what we did as newbies who didn't know the etiquette and didn't put the bolt on the cage.

We were swiftly joined by 4 guys and made for a very hasty exit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have fantasized about MMF and maybe couples swap and even arranged a meet but we cancelled through nerves.

How do single guys feel about a meet where we want them to watch us but maybe not join in? We want to let them eventually but not sure on first time. Would it be annoying?

Trust me the ya single guys are probs more nervous than you guys on the meet! It’s most nerve racking thing meeting a couple! A lot of guys love to just watch or even just have oral and leave! Try dogging if you want to be watched just pick your spot so you don’t get any weirdos :’)

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If you post meets that clearly state it's viewing only and then vet the people interested, you will have lots of interest. The key is to select those who seem experienced and truly are happy to watch only - and possibly never got a meet with you where it's anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a single guy and have never had a meet just yet. But confess I am actually really nervous

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By *Devil77Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"We have fantasized about MMF and maybe couples swap and even arranged a meet but we cancelled through nerves.

How do single guys feel about a meet where we want them to watch us but maybe not join in? We want to let them eventually but not sure on first time. Would it be annoying?

Personally I'd be fine with it.

Going for socials can be nervous,and I've always questioned if I should with everyone I've been to!

I do always go though lol.

End of the day,it's your rules.if the lucky invitie doesn't respect that then his or her night is over and they go.

You do what makes you happy at your pace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are seedy and gross and goung to one for your first three some is like handing your virginity to the local pervert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clubs are seedy and gross and goung to one for your first three some is like handing your virginity to the local pervert "

Err don't know which club you went to love? But speak for yourself!!

OP I'd go with _ophieslut's advice! Spot on, if you make it clear to them, then they can't whine about no play!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Clubs are seedy and gross and going to one for your first three some is like handing your virginity to the local pervert "

As opposed to The local Travelodge where you are on your own and at the mercy of the said local pervert?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clubs are seedy and gross and going to one for your first three some is like handing your virginity to the local pervert

As opposed to The local Travelodge where you are on your own and at the mercy of the said local pervert?"

Travel lodge wow what high standards.

What ever happened to the nice relaxed environment of a nice home where you can make a uniterupted connection with the one's your with.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Clubs are seedy and gross and going to one for your first three some is like handing your virginity to the local pervert

As opposed to The local Travelodge where you are on your own and at the mercy of the said local pervert?

Travel lodge wow what high standards.

What ever happened to the nice relaxed environment of a nice home where you can make a uniterupted connection with the one's your with."

No way, never at home! so the local stalker now knows where you live to and BTW would never even park in the car park at a Travelodge, thank you, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have fantasized about MMF and maybe couples swap and even arranged a meet but we cancelled through nerves.

How do single guys feel about a meet where we want them to watch us but maybe not join in? We want to let them eventually but not sure on first time. Would it be annoying?

If you are up front and honest about what you want then I don't think anyone would be annoyed. It's natural to be nervous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have fantasized about MMF and maybe couples swap and even arranged a meet but we cancelled through nerves.

How do single guys feel about a meet where we want them to watch us but maybe not join in? We want to let them eventually but not sure on first time. Would it be annoying?

If you are clear in what you are looking for with the lucky guy you pick, then there shouldn’t be any problem x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can browse by interests on here. Put in other desired search criteria and select voyeurism in interests. Easy-peasy!

And don't arrange meets if there is a chance you aren't going to go through with them!

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

Be honest from the start, be very selective, be patient and if it all seems to be going well then I would have them at home or wherever you choose that is comfortable to you.

I feel that it is the lady you have to lay most importance on, she has to feel 100% sure or there is no mmf!!

After that it is the couple, it’s their relationship and their dynamic, so they have to feel okay with it.

Then it’s the single bloke, he has to be patient, either take directions given or else give help and support throughout the evening if it helps.

Everyone is nervous, for me the nerves and anticipation pre meet are part of the experience!

Enjoy and hope it goes well when you go for it!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"We have fantasized about MMF and maybe couples swap and even arranged a meet but we cancelled through nerves.

How do single guys feel about a meet where we want them to watch us but maybe not join in? We want to let them eventually but not sure on first time. Would it be annoying?

There's no rush so take things at your own pace and you're the best judges of what that pace is. Put a meet up saying you'd like a voyeur to watch you. Personally we'd choose someone well verified and spend the week talking to them till you're all comfortable with the arrangements and go for it. Like we said, take your time and any doubts then don't go through with it, it's your decision. We all have crossed that threshold and for some it's easier than others, good luck with finding your feet around here.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"We have fantasized about MMF and maybe couples swap and even arranged a meet but we cancelled through nerves.

How do single guys feel about a meet where we want them to watch us but maybe not join in? We want to let them eventually but not sure on first time. Would it be annoying?

Not if you explain that's what you want

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

As others have said, I think you'd have no trouble at all finding what you're looking for. Our advice would be to find someone with some good verifications. Chat with them about your boundaries and what you *might* be comfortable with. If it's not for them then move on. If it is, look to arrange a social to see how you feel about them then go from there.

It may sound like a lot of work for some but it's vital to feel comfortable and confident around people for your first times.

I'd also add that clubs are probably the best places to meet someone. You have Townhouse just over the water on the wirral that has an exceptional reputation for looking after newbies

They could also recommend some honourable gents too

Good luck!

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Don't want to go to club for the first time. Feels a bit too "much" bit could be wrong

Its great fun.

Just don't do what we did as newbies who didn't know the etiquette and didn't put the bolt on the cage.

We were swiftly joined by 4 guys and made for a very hasty exit.

I have a benny hill scene in my head lol

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"We have fantasized about MMF and maybe couples swap and even arranged a meet but we cancelled through nerves.

How do single guys feel about a meet where we want them to watch us but maybe not join in? We want to let them eventually but not sure on first time. Would it be annoying?

If it was someone local I wouldn't mind doing this. Being brutally practical about it I could be home fairly quick and knock one out over the experience then.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's the "maybe" not join in that could cause you problems. I think the first time it would be best to say no joining in. You give no false hope then. Everyone knows exactly where they stand and the nerves can be controlled to an extent. If you find you would have enjyed him joining in there's always mext time.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"It's the "maybe" not join in that could cause you problems. I think the first time it would be best to say no joining in. You give no false hope then. Everyone knows exactly where they stand and the nerves can be controlled to an extent. If you find you would have enjyed him joining in there's always mext time.

Exactly, as has been said a few times in the thread. Clear communications are essential on here for any type of meet.

As long as everyone know what the expectations are, and where the lines are drawn then there shouldn't be a problem with however you decide to structure the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of guys are in to that..voyeurism.. may I suggest you meet a first time fella too then you can share your nervousness together and help each other out

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By *ooliganMan
over a year ago

Preston

Sounds like a perfect meet to me! No pressure, just anticipation... I certainly wouldn't be disappointed if nothing else happened...

(as long as you didn't object to me cracking one off!)

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

As others have said go to a club. And play. Let others watch. We do, if wife sees anyone she fancies we will invite to join in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fundamentally I think that the majority of single guys will always be hoping for more. Some guys will accept that they are not going to get more though, so as long as you don’t mind that he will probably be hoping the whole time that he will be invited to join. Guys that get a lot of fun from Fab or from swinging might question whether it’s worth their while. I suspect there will be a higher cancellation rate from guys invited to voyeur only. Like others, I think a club is a good place to play in front of other, and contrary to what’s been said, there are some very nice clubs out there.

Mrs

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