FabSwingers.com forum: Lasting in a club

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We were talking to a couple on here, no names mentioned... And they said they new of chaps that struggled to last and get hard again in a club.

We have never been and want to.. Do gents that go to a club take something? Or just gifted and go hour after hour and up all the time.. Lol

Let us know x. Intrigued

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interaction helps

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"We were talking to a couple on here, no names mentioned... And they said they new of chaps that struggled to last and get hard again in a club.

We have never been and want to.. Do gents that go to a club take something? Or just gifted and go hour after hour and up all the time.. Lol

Let us know x. Intrigued "

Isn’t this a general thing, rather than just in a club? Concentrate on giving women pleasure, learn to relax and control your own orgasm, deliberately stop if you’re close (unless you are one of these fabled repeaters). Maybe it’s an age and experience thing ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me. I can go on for three of four times. Plus i just stay hard.... i have a nickname of always-ready lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Genuinely yes. However this couple we know can last.. However when he went to a club he struggled..

Just a general question x

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"Not me. I can go on for three of four times. Plus i just stay hard.... i have a nickname of always-ready lol

Lucky you...legend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were talking to a couple on here, no names mentioned... And they said they new of chaps that struggled to last and get hard again in a club.

We have never been and want to.. Do gents that go to a club take something? Or just gifted and go hour after hour and up all the time.. Lol

Let us know x. Intrigued "

As others have said, it’s more about concentrating on other people’s pleasure. Over time you get better at controlling your own. The good thing about clubs is that you can stop and do something else (get a drink, go for a dance etc) then carry on where you left off. If you know the sorts of things that push you over the edge then you can avoid or put them off until you are ready as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Viagra helps when we do mff, however it’s not always necessary.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Sildenafil plus new partners and the sexy ambience does it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do. Some don't.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It depends for me I am a clubbed. So sometimes I will take an herbal aid a good 1 hr to 2 hrs before going to the club.

I find that drink and lack of sleep effects if the little man works or not.

Sometimes it can just be just nerves

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

I find that drink and lack of sleep effects if the little man works or not.

Sometimes it can just be just nerves "

This.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

For me (Rob) it can be a 50/50 if I can perform in a club. Mostly it's down to the atmosphere and how tired I am.

At a club last week, I was with steph but just couldn't get hard as there was a group of guys watching from outside, having the loudest conversation about regular things. I just couldn't focus so switched to oral and hands.

Other times, the atmosphere has been super sexy with play going on all around us and I've been hard when needed.

So those who can stay up for hours are either very at ease and aroused or are taking the little blue pill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a general thing, club or with a couple or audience some guys get nervous or put off and can't perform.

There's no shame in it, guys just have to remember it's a state of mind and need to relax.

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

"Not me. I can go on for three of four times. Plus i just stay hard.... i have a nickname of always-ready lol

Lucky you...legend"

Lol famous all over fabland

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Interaction helps "

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids

Hmmm depends on the club, situation and who is around!

I’m in a lucky situation that mr can more or less cum at will and never struggles to repeat!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"We were talking to a couple on here, no names mentioned... And they said they new of chaps that struggled to last and get hard again in a club.

We have never been and want to.. Do gents that go to a club take something? Or just gifted and go hour after hour and up all the time.. Lol

Let us know x. Intrigued "

Do you honestly believe that ALL men can get an erection every single time they want to, cum, and then be ready to go again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were talking to a couple on here, no names mentioned... And they said they new of chaps that struggled to last and get hard again in a club.

We have never been and want to.. Do gents that go to a club take something? Or just gifted and go hour after hour and up all the time.. Lol

Let us know x. Intrigued

Do you honestly believe that ALL men can get an erection every single time they want to, cum, and then be ready to go again?"
they dont?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"We were talking to a couple on here, no names mentioned... And they said they new of chaps that struggled to last and get hard again in a club.

We have never been and want to.. Do gents that go to a club take something? Or just gifted and go hour after hour and up all the time.. Lol

Let us know x. Intrigued

Do you honestly believe that ALL men can get an erection every single time they want to, cum, and then be ready to go again?they dont?

No, they don't at that myth needs quashing, despite how funny people think it is.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"We were talking to a couple on here, no names mentioned... And they said they new of chaps that struggled to last and get hard again in a club.

We have never been and want to.. Do gents that go to a club take something? Or just gifted and go hour after hour and up all the time.. Lol

Let us know x. Intrigued

Do you honestly believe that ALL men can get an erection every single time they want to, cum, and then be ready to go again?they dont?

No, they don't at that myth needs quashing, despite how funny people think it is."

Happy to quash it - not ashamed to admit that I can't and I don't

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"We were talking to a couple on here, no names mentioned... And they said they new of chaps that struggled to last and get hard again in a club.

We have never been and want to.. Do gents that go to a club take something? Or just gifted and go hour after hour and up all the time.. Lol

Let us know x. Intrigued

Do you honestly believe that ALL men can get an erection every single time they want to, cum, and then be ready to go again?they dont?

No, they don't at that myth needs quashing, despite how funny people think it is.

Happy to quash it - not ashamed to admit that I can't and I don't

Twat too...but he still has fingers and a tongue...and a sense of humour. Just enjoy it, whatever the state of your manhood.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Genuinely yes. However this couple we know can last.. However when he went to a club he struggled..

Just a general question x"

Maybe he got performance anxiety? It can happen if you’re not comfortable with or used to being watched (or so I’m told!)

It’s never affected any of the guys I’ve played with in clubs, although a couple have expressed a preference for playing in a private room rather than an open play area

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've not seen guys struggling at clubs - they perhaps may slink away.

If they know themselves, they can pace things, warming back up to stay prepared etc. It's a bit like using a slow cooker, having things simmered to perfection, for single or multiple servings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For all the generous people on here saying 'oh it doesn't matter, he's still got a tongue and fingers'! I do think guys who know they regularly can't get it up, should tell the fem or couple they are about to play with! Because from my point of view it is pretty shit when my husband is balls deep enjoying your missus and I'm sat there bored to fuck because you can't!!

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

"For all the generous people on here saying 'oh it doesn't matter, he's still got a tongue and fingers'! I do think guys who know they regularly can't get it up, should tell the fem or couple they are about to play with! Because from my point of view it is pretty shit when my husband is balls deep enjoying your missus and I'm sat there bored to fuck because you can't!!"

Budge up so I can sit next to you. Yep same here. My fella can get hard, stay hard, or go up and down all night in command. With out any little help and can cum almost on demand. He's quite aften shot a second load not long after the first. I did get a tripple a little while back. And yes, that's his real age. But he hit 50 and not many wanna know. I too get board when the condom comes out and they go soft. Finger fucking makes me sore after a while and licking gets boaring if they are not on the spot.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"We were talking to a couple on here, no names mentioned... And they said they new of chaps that struggled to last and get hard again in a club.

We have never been and want to.. Do gents that go to a club take something? Or just gifted and go hour after hour and up all the time.. Lol

Let us know x. Intrigued

Do you honestly believe that ALL men can get an erection every single time they want to, cum, and then be ready to go again?they dont?

No, they don't at that myth needs quashing, despite how funny people think it is."

I can honestly say I’ve never had an erection in a club (and I’ve been to four now)

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

It's not predictable!

Some men do have recurring problems and yep, if they know that it's an issue for them then I agree with you, they should at least mention it, but so many factors can prevent an erection in a situation, not least of which is the expectation that all men should be able to perform all the time and then repeat it all over again in 30 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were talking to a couple on here, no names mentioned... And they said they new of chaps that struggled to last and get hard again in a club.

We have never been and want to.. Do gents that go to a club take something? Or just gifted and go hour after hour and up all the time.. Lol

Let us know x. Intrigued

Do you honestly believe that ALL men can get an erection every single time they want to, cum, and then be ready to go again?"

Thank you for having some common sense.

Like most men, I have no control over my cock.

If it wants to get hard, It will.

If it doesn't, it wont.

Granted, if I'm in a club and having fun, I'll get hard. But I can't turn it off and on like a tap.

Are there women who can get wet and orgasm on demand? I think I would be annihilated on here if I demanded that.

But I'm a bloke. It isn't about me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive only ever been to about 4 clubs before and i have to say that ive never been fortunate enough to play before.

I have however had 3 party experiences. I only know of a couple of guys that can cum and keep it up as most guys struggle once they have ejaculated.

You do pace yourself, take more time giving oral and the actual sex itself has to be controlled to ensure that you remain aroused enough to last at least 3 or 4 hours. Its never constant sex as there is plenty of socializing that goes on in between.

Going by my personal experience in clubs, ive seen more people socializing and networking over those having sex. A hell of a lot of people just watch too. A place can be busy yet the sex rooms and play areas can be very quiet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what you want from a club. If you are planning on having a constant sext fest from 8pm until 1am then I think any man would struggle.

For us the first part of the night is about socialising/ enjoying the atmosphere. Then we play the second part of the night and break inbetween. Mr has a lot of stamina and can take a while to cum sometimes although he gave me a couple of doses at xtasia last night. But generally it’s a matter of holding off having breaks and lots of foreplay

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A warm club not freezing lol more ways then one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say I’ve never had an erection in a club (and I’ve been to four now)

So I assume you just go for the social and voyeurism only?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Clubs aren't a non-stop porno in action. People there are just regular people, not sex machines. Part of the pleasure is accepting you have imperfections, but can still have an amazing time.

The women don't all have tits up to their chin and rock hard buts, the guys aren't all 9" and six packs ( except me, obvs)

Men will need to recover or might play once. Lots of guys sometimes wilt a bit under self-induced pressure.

Just relax and dnjoy it as an extension of normal home sex life, not a sex olympics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Childish thread really

Imagine the uproar if someone posted

“we’ve heard some ladies can’t manage to keep fucking & sucking loads of men in a club”

What happens, happens, it’s part of the rich mix of experiences whilst swinging

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I can honestly say I’ve never had an erection in a club (and I’ve been to four now)

So I assume you just go for the social and voyeurism only?"

I’ve gone for the experience, to satisfy my curiosity about the club scene, but have not done well with being a single guy in a club I’m afraid

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

I can be rock hard at home,but in a club one night super hot girl said I could have it with her in a group room.girl next to me screaming her head off,and I couldn't keep the concentration to stay hard,I was gutted.it happens to us all I guess.she was nice though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crowds

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I’d never want any guy to pop pills for me. It is a surprising thread. Encounters are two way (or more) affairs it’s not just about what you can take OP. Guys aren’t robots there for your entertainment.

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West

"We were talking to a couple on here, no names mentioned... And they said they new of chaps that struggled to last and get hard again in a club.

We have never been and want to.. Do gents that go to a club take something? Or just gifted and go hour after hour and up all the time.. Lol

Let us know x. Intrigued "

Guys are human. Shock eh....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe it or not men are not light switchers, when meeting the opposite sex let's be real..

A lot of guys also have to be wwwhoooed topped! !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not been to a club but i find i last longer and have better sex with new people as opposed to a long term partner

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Not jus guys I think. I have gone dry when playing with several guys.. Have to get Del's head between my legs again

.its something I wonder about if many women suffer dryness when playing.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Not jus guys I think. I have gone dry when playing with several guys.. Have to get Del's head between my legs again

.its something I wonder about if many women suffer dryness when playing."

Yes sometimes if I’m playing with several guys as with our frequency of meets I’m not used to condoms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not been to a club but i find i last longer and have better sex with new people as opposed to a long term partner"

Same here... but I’ve been invited to a couple of club nights since coming back to Fab and having never been I’m very nervous about how I look, how I perform, will I be able to perform!!!

Never normally been a problem, but It’s the whole new surroundings thing.

I’m 43, and need to get a grip and get over my club fear xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not jus guys I think. I have gone dry when playing with several guys.. Have to get Del's head between my legs again

.its something I wonder about if many women suffer dryness when playing."

It got to a point on Saturday night when I had to say no to Mr as I was too sensitive from too many orgasms. He went to lick me again and I went no more! Haha he was surprised as it’s not often I find it too much!

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

"Not jus guys I think. I have gone dry when playing with several guys.. Have to get Del's head between my legs again

.its something I wonder about if many women suffer dryness when playing.

Yes sometimes if I’m playing with several guys as with our frequency of meets I’m not used to condoms. "
glad its not just me then

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Can I just say sometime it just doesn’t want to either get hard or stay hard. There is no rhyme or reason why.

I have played when sober and not tired and mr floppy came to visit, but then I have had a long week in office gone to club, been drinking most of the day (as at football), Saturday night and been at it like a rabbit.

Sometimes it can be nerves and there is not a lot you can do. For me whilst I didn’t play week before last I was rock hard for days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me if ive gone to a club... im horny and am lucky enough not to have had a problem. Everyone is different but for me its being in the right mindset...your cock will then do as its told lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether it's a club or not, my fuck frequency is like an early artillery cannon, loooong reload time. An hour minimum.

Luckily I've tended to find (with a few exceptions) that few women are ready to go again any faster than that. Especially since with the exception of certain positions with certain partners I can't cum involuntarily.

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