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Dating in reverse.

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By *rontier Psychiatrist OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Normal online dating = lots of effort getting to know each other with with little knowlage if their as kinky, perverted or sexually comparable to further down the line. Bit of a let down when you realise that your on different planes sexually.

How about reserving paradigm? Searching for shared kinks/comparability first? The first step being discovering how you play as plat mates. Then seeing if anymore more grows out of it. Does this work? Any couples on here who this has worked for or who met on the scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be nice if that happened! I’m sure it does for some!! Not expecting or looking for that but if it happened it would be brilliant!

Good luck to you if that’s what you’re looking for

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Quite a few couples met on here.

I always say that if I had to date again (God forbid) I would say straight off the bat what I want out of life, a relationship and the future and encourage whoever video was dating to do the same. Life is too short to spend it discovering that you've been seeing someone for six months who won't entertain something that's very important to you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Video?

Whoever I was dating that should say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few couples met on here.

I always say that if I had to date again (God forbid) I would say straight off the bat what I want out of life, a relationship and the future and encourage whoever video was dating to do the same. Life is too short to spend it discovering that you've been seeing someone for six months who won't entertain something that's very important to you."

Life can be unfair. Sometimes we have to choose between being socially compatible or sexually compatible. Most choose the social.

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By *rontier Psychiatrist OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry

I sometime find it bizarre that in a normal dating scenario to discuss sexual appetite and levels of deviance is soo not the done thing. I see sexual compatibility as an equally key factor in a relationship to other factors. It seems such a shame to get soo emotionally involved then to find you want totally different things sexually. Maybe if people were less inhibited about sexuality in the first place that would make the world a better place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sometime find it bizarre that in a normal dating scenario to discuss sexual appetite and levels of deviance is soo not the done thing. I see sexual compatibility as an equally key factor in a relationship to other factors. It seems such a shame to get soo emotionally involved then to find you want totally different things sexually. Maybe if people were less inhibited about sexuality in the first place that would make the world a better place?"

Perhaps. Depends on whether people think sexual compatibility is important I guess. If they don't discuss sex maybe they're not bothered about it.

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

I have been with someone five years who was socially compatible but not sexually. Very happy apart from the lack of sex/good sex. But traded, as loved the person. Coped by having at least three lovers on and off (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sometime find it bizarre that in a normal dating scenario to discuss sexual appetite and levels of deviance is soo not the done thing. I see sexual compatibility as an equally key factor in a relationship to other factors. It seems such a shame to get soo emotionally involved then to find you want totally different things sexually. Maybe if people were less inhibited about sexuality in the first place that would make the world a better place?"

Talking about sex is SOOOO important! It's high on my list next to mental connection.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I first saw Lee at a swinger's party and we had sex. I saw him at another party a few weeks later and we had sex again and he punished me with a riding crop. Then he asked me out on a date. We are still together after two and a half years.

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By *rontier Psychiatrist OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Secret I think so. Imo it's my most imaginative and (in a relationship context) emotional outlet. It's having the bond to both express the darkest most intimate corners of my mind and sharing those desires physically. To not only be free and open with each other but also to revel in each others disires and kinks. For me it is the very essence of togetherness.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Quite a few couples met on here.

I always say that if I had to date again (God forbid) I would say straight off the bat what I want out of life, a relationship and the future and encourage whoever video was dating to do the same. Life is too short to spend it discovering that you've been seeing someone for six months who won't entertain something that's very important to you.

Life can be unfair. Sometimes we have to choose between being socially compatible or sexually compatible. Most choose the social."

Yeah, I'd probably opt for social over sexual but at least I would know from day one that that was where one compromise would lay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will never be with someone I wasn't sexually compatible again

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Yeah I spoke to an ex the other day and quickly realised why they were an ex..... Far too selfish for me and not what I'm about and the one person I was interested in isn't even on the same book never mind page.

So going forward if I met someone I'd lay it on the line and not settle for mediocre sex and unfulfilled experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sole purpose on this site is to socialise and network with local people with the goal of hopefully finding someone who is sexually compatible first and then socially too. If I had to give a percentage score to the importance of the two aspects, it would be 51% sexual compatibility and 49% social. In order for me to consider them as life partners, there will never be a perfect 100% match but someone who scores highly is obviously going to be on my radar.

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