FabSwingers.com forum: is My inbox broken or am I actually that bad?

By *dventurous fella OP Man
over a year ago

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Struggling a bit on here! I know it’s not instashag(I fucking love that terminology) but wondering what the script is here ! Is it sheer volume of men v women! Or is it something I’m doing not doing ?

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP without knowing what you are doing it is difficult to advise whether or not you are doing something wrong.

Most women don't send the first message so that would explain the empty inbox.

There is a massive difference in the numbers of men and women on fab. I've seen it said on the forums it is anywhere from 5-1000 men for every woman.

A while back I did a few searches to see what the differences were in my area. The search parameters were age 42, looking to meet opposite gender, live within 5 miles of my postcode, looking to meet people my age. The search yielded results of 25 women and almost 300 men.

I think the biggest problem for single men really is the fact there are just so many of you!

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By *dventurous fella OP Man
over a year ago

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"OP without knowing what you are doing it is difficult to advise whether or not you are doing something wrong.

Most women don't send the first message so that would explain the empty inbox.

There is a massive difference in the numbers of men and women on fab. I've seen it said on the forums it is anywhere from 5-1000 men for every woman.

I think the biggest problem for single men really is the fact there are just so many of you!"

Good point! I read profiles and I do message first! I try to make it obvious I’ve read profile by including something in the message! Also I try a range of approaches from something funny to something more direct ( really depends on what I’ve read in the profile)

I know women have the power here and the numbers to back it maybe I’ve just been a bit unlucky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if ur pasting a copied message to every girl u find, its very obvious and probably wont get a reply..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most will look at your profile and photos first often before opening your message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women when they get a message from someone will look at their profile before even reading the message.

They also look at your pics too.

Lots of dick pics don’t tend to be very popular on here, neither do pics which show more of a woman than yourself.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Lose some of the cock pics and those with other women in op

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really depends what you’re looking for and how you wish others to see you.

If you like your cock and feel that represents you then that would explain why many of your pics are of it.

I like my pics, if they lead to meets then great if not then I’ll xhange them... but always to what I want them to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most women when they get a message from someone will look at their profile before even reading the message.

They also look at your pics too.

Lots of dick pics don’t tend to be very popular on here, neither do pics which show more of a woman than yourself."

Spot on.

I get over 500 messages a day abd i cant possibly reply to all.So I will only reply to the ones where the profile looks appealing to me and there's nothing appealing about a profile full of d*ck pics x

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By *un4meanduMan
over a year ago

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"Struggling a bit on here! I know it’s not instashag(I fucking love that terminology) but wondering what the script is here ! Is it sheer volume of men v women! Or is it something I’m doing not doing ? "

Take a look at some of the other forum posts of people in the same situation it may help you re think your approach but like most men you wont get loads of messages ,have fun

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

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OP you've not asked for profile advice so I shan't give any specific advice on your profile - however as others have said it's often the first thing people look at before sending a message, so ask yourself if your profile is appealing and lays out clearly who you are and what you're looking for, and importantly what you think you can offer. Does it have a good set of pics that show off your body but not your cock?

Take a look at the messages you send and be honest with yourself as to whether they are truly appealing.

Getting along to clubs or organised socials is always a good way of meeting, or simply getting more involved in the forums is a great way to get known and get to know people.

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By *dventurous fella OP Man
over a year ago

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"if ur pasting a copied message to every girl u find, its very obvious and probably wont get a reply.."

I never do that! Each persons diffferent so I message based on what I see or read etc

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By *dventurous fella OP Man
over a year ago

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Thanks for the general advice people will make amendments and see how we go!

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

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OP I get around 300 views a day and maybe 5-10 messages mainly in connection with the socials i host. It is incredibly rare anyone messages me to engage in conversation or meet and yes I'm one of these rare single fem unicorns and I don't get messages so don't fret.

Get yourself involved on the social scene and you'll make far more connections.

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By *dventurous fella OP Man
over a year ago

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I am planning a club visit soon as I get chance! Find it hard with my job commitments

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

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"I am planning a club visit soon as I get chance! Find it hard with my job commitments "

A lot of clubs are open a good 4/5 days a week so I'm sure you will find one that suits. Socials and clubs are different btw.

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By *dventurous fella OP Man
over a year ago

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"I am planning a club visit soon as I get chance! Find it hard with my job commitments

A lot of clubs are open a good 4/5 days a week so I'm sure you will find one that suits. Socials and clubs are different btw. "

Will keep my

Eye out for the socials and see what happens then! Thanks for advice it’s much appreciated! Surprised your not getting 100s per day mind!

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I am planning a club visit soon as I get chance! Find it hard with my job commitments

A lot of clubs are open a good 4/5 days a week so I'm sure you will find one that suits. Socials and clubs are different btw.

Will keep my

Eye out for the socials and see what happens then! Thanks for advice it’s much appreciated! Surprised your not getting 100s per day mind! "

There is a different forum where details of organised socials are.

You are fortunate to have several very good clubs in your area of the UK. Have a look on the club reviews page, they all have links to their websites. Check the entry criteria for single men (some clubs have a waiting list for single men) and arrange to go

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By *dventurous fella OP Man
over a year ago

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"I am planning a club visit soon as I get chance! Find it hard with my job commitments

A lot of clubs are open a good 4/5 days a week so I'm sure you will find one that suits. Socials and clubs are different btw.

Will keep my

Eye out for the socials and see what happens then! Thanks for advice it’s much appreciated! Surprised your not getting 100s per day mind!

There is a different forum where details of organised socials are.

Thank you too! I will have a good look and check one out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take the advice from the man with his cock in a chicken

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