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The lure of this lifestyle...

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By *anmjmoses OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

So.... Been out of the scene for about a year now... Found myself in a vanilla relationship.... And whilst I'm not one to fool around... I find myself always peeking back on this site. Lusting for clubs and reminiscing some of the times I've had.... My partner definitely not a woman of this world we all come to... I'm sure there are plenty of people out there in similar situations... Some cheat, some don't.... Just wandering what go through your minds also... And for others,(men and women) how do you feel about people in relationships engaging with you in this site either just for flirtatious talk or even to have relations... Has it happened a lot... Do you find it a common thing that you come across...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yeah, lots of men in your position contact us. We don't meet them and most of them respect that.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP I don't knowingly meet those who are in a relationship and playing solo without their partners knowledge and consent.

I try not to judge people who do, I don't know their circumstances and it is really none of my business. I just choose not to meet them because I am here for uncomplicated fun and i don't want to get caught in a shit storm if a partner finds out.

I do wonder though if people like you are with the right partner. If the swinging lifestyle is a bigger draw than the person you are with then maybe you are with the wrong person and would be happier being with someone else who loves the lifestyle just as much as you do.

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By *rincess Fiona 76Woman
over a year ago

clitheroe

I've often wondered what I'll do when I'm ready for a 'proper' relationship (although that's a long way off).

After now basically being addicted to this site and all the fun I'm having, not sure I could ever give it up -would have to be with someone else who was also into it or else I'm guessing I'd be taking sneaky looks too 'just to see' and then would probably be drawn back in again....

I sometimes meet guys who are in a relationship as long as they're upfront with me initially. I have none of the guilt, just all of the fun and attention. If that makes me a bitch then hey whatever (I've actually been on the receiving end of this so not sure how f**ked up this makes me).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am like Princes Fiona in the meaning that I am, most likely, addicted to all the fun this site has to offer. Thanks to people on here, I'm discovering a lot about myself. I was in a relationship with a guy I met through a friend from here- the guy was our 3rd for a threesome, and became my bf. He is (was?) on here as well, but when we were together, I came off this site. Not sure if he did. I did have his permission to see other women (I'm bi), but not men. I never set any rules for him. When we broke up, it didn't take me long to be back on here lol. I think I'm truly addicted, and I too think that if I ever wanted a 'normal' or 'socially acceptable' relationship, it would have to be with someone who is very open-minded and willing to try things. At the moment, I'm steering clear from anyone who is trying to treat a swinging site as a dating site

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By *anmjmoses OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"I've often wondered what I'll do when I'm ready for a 'proper' relationship (although that's a long way off).

After now basically being addicted to this site and all the fun I'm having, not sure I could ever give it up -would have to be with someone else who was also into it or else I'm guessing I'd be taking sneaky looks too 'just to see' and then would probably be drawn back in again....

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I understand exactly what you mean. Although, even in the past when I was single I've periodically popped back on here from time to time.

Whilst I like the vanilla relationship, the fun of unadulterated sexual freedom of being single and free in a swingers club is addictive. Carnal desires lived without the obligation of monogamy because all parties involved have that mutual understanding.

I've had fuck buddies who I've attended parties with but I guess without the emotional feelings there, I've been open to sharing and sharing alike.

Its like having cravings for chocolate when you're on a diet...

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By *anmjmoses OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

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