FabSwingers.com forum: What you feel about house meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We never done that and double minded about going to some one house

Any advice

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We've been to quite a few people's houses and only once was it a mistake. Most people have been very welcoming and hospitable. We don't accommodate ourselves.

If I was a single man or woman I wouldn't dream of hosting or going to someone's house though. Although I realise the risks are probably not much greater.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

So my advice would be meet the person or people in a neutral location first and make sure you stay sober. If you think anything is at all odd walk away.

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think is dangerous . I do not accommodate or visit . I don't know who is behind that door . I stick with clubs , for safety. With a partner yes we may visit ,but only if we meet at clubs etc . I don't trust !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What about shower after finishing play is that acceptable norm when doing house meets

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What about shower after finishing play is that acceptable norm when doing house meets "

We've always been offered a shower.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"We've been to quite a few people's houses and only once was it a mistake. Most people have been very welcoming and hospitable. We don't accommodate ourselves.

If I was a single man or woman I wouldn't dream of hosting or going to someone's house though. Although I realise the risks are probably not much greater."

After a social meet I prefer it - after all I will have a record of their home address and can let a buddy know where I am, and I can be sure they are not attached.

But I usually meet one or two people regularly long term, so I rarely have to go to a strangers house anyway.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We've been to quite a few people's houses and only once was it a mistake. Most people have been very welcoming and hospitable. We don't accommodate ourselves.

If I was a single man or woman I wouldn't dream of hosting or going to someone's house though. Although I realise the risks are probably not much greater.

After a social meet I prefer it - after all I will have a record of their home address and can let a buddy know where I am, and I can be sure they are not attached.

But I usually meet one or two people regularly long term, so I rarely have to go to a strangers house anyway."

Yeah, I know I am probably very cautious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We've been to quite a few people's houses and only once was it a mistake. Most people have been very welcoming and hospitable. We don't accommodate ourselves.

If I was a single man or woman I wouldn't dream of hosting or going to someone's house though. Although I realise the risks are probably not much greater.

After a social meet I prefer it - after all I will have a record of their home address and can let a buddy know where I am, and I can be sure they are not attached.

But I usually meet one or two people regularly long term, so I rarely have to go to a strangers house anyway.

Yeah, I know I am probably very cautious. "

Does play always happens other wise it’s a lot of travelling for nothing

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We've been to quite a few people's houses and only once was it a mistake. Most people have been very welcoming and hospitable. We don't accommodate ourselves.

If I was a single man or woman I wouldn't dream of hosting or going to someone's house though. Although I realise the risks are probably not much greater.

After a social meet I prefer it - after all I will have a record of their home address and can let a buddy know where I am, and I can be sure they are not attached.

But I usually meet one or two people regularly long term, so I rarely have to go to a strangers house anyway.

Yeah, I know I am probably very cautious.

Does play always happens other wise it’s a lot of travelling for nothing

If we go to someone's home it's after we've met socially and agreed to play at a later date so, yes for us it does. I add the rider that nobody should ever think they're guaranteed sex though.

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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago

Worcestershire

I like to accommodate but I always meet socially at least once before I do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to lots of men's homes. A couple of them have left me alone to pop to the shop or to the laundry room,

I chat a while before agreeing to meet them and let them know that someone will be informed of where I am, and who I'm with.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've had some very bad experiences when I was new to fab and did accommodate. A stalker and two guys trying to get into my house at 2 am. Hence why I no longer accommodate. I would never go to anyone's house for a first meet either, always a couple of social meets in public first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never accomodate, due to it being my childs home and that just doesnt sit comfortably with me - but i would(/have) travel to someone.

I have to admit im a little too gulliable for my own good sometimes and think im a bit of a hard nut/could save myself/would never happen. Not that i would ever do this off the cuff without some sense of weighing them up first. Now I try to keep a lid on myself and do club play only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve had a few house meets with guys but only after we have met them socially and then a play meet at a hotel . We are very cautious about meeting guys due to some of the guys that we have met for socials being a little different from their profiles .... age .. looks etc .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I've had some very bad experiences when I was new to fab and did accommodate. A stalker and two guys trying to get into my house at 2 am. Hence why I no longer accommodate. I would never go to anyone's house for a first meet either, always a couple of social meets in public first. "

We had one very bad experience at a couples house. It made us change the way we do things and put both of us off for quite some time. It's part of the reason I advise caution.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

I dont mind house meets and do do them. Gut instints go for alot in a meet and so far never had any issues, but I guess it may be different for a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel any less safe going to a home than a hotel, although as a rule I wouldn't just turn up without a social meeting somewhere public first. Seeing someone's home at least reassures that they are who they say they are, for those that matters to. A hotel can have a nice frisson about it especially for a role play.

Hypocritically, I wouldn't have anyone round mine unless I'd already got to know them pretty well.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

We had one very bad experience at a couples house. It made us change the way we do things and put both of us off for quite some time. It's part of the reason I advise caution."

There a a few people that I do accommodate but I've known them for a couple of years and trust them.

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By *ssex Playfull CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Grays

House meets are our least favourite when it comes to swinging, we prefer mutual grounds like clubs and hotels

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Looking at the responses above I think. We will stick to the clubs it simpler and easier lol

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I think for a single fem it's far safer to meet in a neutral and/or public place first time as it's safer and less ...intimidating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to go to homes and occasionally here but with my hubby...doing it alone scares me tbh, I can look after myself but you never know do you when it comes to people you don't know I prefer to have the security of my hubby being there (even if it's in another room)

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By *inecrestMan
over a year ago

West Yorks

Does play always happens other wise it’s a lot of travelling for nothing

If one person or couple travels a far distance for a meet I think it should be always be made clear that there is still no guarantee of playing. I have travelled long distances for meets in my time, and I would hate to think I was putting anyone under pressure. I wouldn't ever regard the travelling as being "for nothing", it's all experience, and who knows, they may stay in touch with you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does play always happens other wise it’s a lot of travelling for nothing

No pressure to any one at all but we prefer to use our extremely limited time for fun not socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are the only preference for us unless it's for a social

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I've had lot's of house meets in the past,never had a problem with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have accommodated and been accommodated but always a social first. That way no pressure for anyone and able to feel at ease with each other.

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By *illowzWoman
over a year ago

Exeter

"I've been to lots of men's homes. A couple of them have left me alone to pop to the shop or to the laundry room,

I chat a while before agreeing to meet them and let them know that someone will be informed of where I am, and who I'm with."

I've do this too. But have also had people in my house. I'm probably a bit naive. But I have a best friend who always knows where I am and who I can call/text in emergency. I always chat to people online first, for a few days. If anything seems off or dodgy I don't meet

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I have invited people to my house.

V x

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Ooops. Don’t know how I managed to delete half of my post.

I was going on to say. ....

I prefer it to a hotel or going to someone’s house I don’t know. I feel more comfortable in my own home. I do have someone I tell what I am doing and I let them know I’m safe.

V x

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Don't see the problem.

Presumably by the time you've agreed to do this, and be that a couple of messages or weeks of chatting on the phone you feel that all parties have reached the point where they feel fine with the whole thing..

Really there's very little in the way of due dilligence you can really do, it's about trusting one another, understanding the (albeit minuscule) real risk and not stopping that getting in the way of the excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have had sevreral home meets as a cple and have had no issues, mildred feels quite confident that any guy/cple we meet I George can handle any weird or aggresive people.

I guess for single ladys it could be a bit daunting going to a strangers house.

mostly tho we do prefer meeting at clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never had a meet at someone elses house, ive had some good meets at my place, but we did chat for a while before arranging a meet, its not a case of not wanting to, its just never happened yet, id deffo travel for a meet if i got on with someone on Fab.

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By *ion78Man
over a year ago

Erith

Best to meet social first then if you all click then you will enjoy the meet more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,'ve gone to lots of men's houses and not had a problem. It can be unsafe though and you need to chat and check them out first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve hosted and visited without a social but it’s always been after quite a while chatting, weeks in some cases, I think common sense prevails......never go to someone’s house who has no veries, make sure that their veries mention that they were good hosts, chat on the phone. I think you get a good gut instinct sometimes. Obviously if in doubt then don’t do it. You could try a social close to their home with a view that if all goes well you can play on the same visit or just walk away if it’s not for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they have verification's and are genuine it can be a lot more easier to relax I always meet at my place and ask people to be honest in there verification's my place is smart very modern and very clean and always do drinks and nibbles with no charges or fees I'm just a genuine swinger who enjoys meeting women and couples with no pressures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After socials I have only ever met at her house, and it was her idea. I suppose her own home made her feel more comfortable..

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I prefer to meet at someone's house but not before I've run a police check on them, found them on fb, and met for coffee.

I always note where the knife rack is to.

Just joking (not about having a social). Tbh it's as scary as fuck going to a new guys house but if I get even the eeniest flutter of the red flag I'm out!!

I've cancelled before after over thinking a convo I had with a guy. He was cross about that, which kind of proved me right. Safety first....always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never accommodate, and we prefer hotels, usually after we've had a social meet to see how we all get along.

Done one house meet with a stranger, but doubt we'd ever go that far again, pleasant though it was

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By *voryforebonyMan
over a year ago

boogie town

House meets are fine as are house wines but if you want to impress go a la carte

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe

rather house than clubs me and john more fun and people good to chat and the fun is all night

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

Accommodating does make you vulnerable - no one wants to meet a bunny boiler or someone who might feel they can come round whenever they wish. This is the advantage that clubs, saunas and hotels have: once you leave you don’t have to have any further contact - and that works both ways of course!

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By *mmacdheelsTV/TS
over a year ago

France, Not in

I've had lots of house meets both as visiting or as host and never thought of having any problems. Each time I arrive at a front door I'm really nervous but thats more about meeting someone for the first time. Don't think I'll stop doing house meets but now this thread may make me more cautious. Will need to practice running faster in high heels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been to a number of guys houses. One was right in the middle of no where and no one knew where I was, I never told anyone where I was going and I’m hindsight it was very risky. I couldn’t accommodate at the time so going to theirs was all I could do, I’ve also met a few guys in cars too before I met Ads, again so very risky, I wouldn’t do it now though.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well you could park up , text the meet and say would you mind popping out to meet me/us,

or in the least get a wave out of the window or by the front door so you know its there house and not a fake(i did hear of a couple knocking a door once and the resident knew nothing of the said meet ).

usually google map the house / rd on a street view to get an idea .

Go with your gut feeling after that , also if theyve got veris ive known people to message the veris and ask a couple of questions but not ideal.

i guess speaking to the female of the meet is also a good idea .

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

The majority of my meets are at my home and they have been great fun! Even if it turns out there's no sexual spark or we are both just too nervous then we have a cup of tea and a natter

I've also been to other guys homes and enjoyed myself.

To be honest clubs scare the hell out of me! At least meeting through here and then at home a guy knows exactly what he is meeting, I don't have to go through the anxiety of talking to new people and risking rejection in a public place and neither of us have had to payout to get into a club in the first place, plus if things don't go quite right, for example the fella struggles to stay hard, it's only me he is with so we can just chill and relax with no pressure to "perform".

But that's just me and what makes me comfortable

I'm an introvert so the thought of going out, going to somewhere strange and new, paying to be around strangers, to try and get their attention, spark their interest and hope they don't run a mile, make horrible small talk, work out the "club rules" etc. or even arranging to meet someone there, trying to find them and recognise them on top of everything else...

I feel sick just thinking about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't see the problem.

And, having a social doesn't mean they aren't going to switch when they get to the bedroom.

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

"The majority of my meets are at my home and they have been great fun! Even if it turns out there's no sexual spark or we are both just too nervous then we have a cup of tea and a natter

I've also been to other guys homes and enjoyed myself.

But that's just me and what makes me comfortable

I feel sick just thinking about it!

That’s all very fine - but it doesn’t negate the fact that you put yourself into a very vulnerable position when you invite an unknown person into your home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend of mine told me a horror story. He met someone, and they followed him back to his house (he didn’t know). He shares his house with his wife and kids.

This person then set up tons of fake profiles using his photos on various dating sites and sent people to his address to meet up.

He said people were turning up all day every day and he had to call the police.

Sounds like an absolute nightmare ! Made me cautious about meeting people at my address

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

"A friend of mine told me a horror story. He met someone, and they followed him back to his house (he didn’t know). He shares his house with his wife and kids.

This person then set up tons of fake profiles using his photos on various dating sites and sent people to his address to meet up.

He said people were turning up all day every day and he had to call the police.

Sounds like an absolute nightmare ! Made me cautious about meeting people at my address"

Omg - that’s a cautionary tale - it just takes one meet with one weirdo and your life could be a misery

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

"The majority of my meets are at my home and they have been great fun! Even if it turns out there's no sexual spark or we are both just too nervous then we have a cup of tea and a natter

I've also been to other guys homes and enjoyed myself.

But that's just me and what makes me comfortable

I feel sick just thinking about it!

That’s all very fine - but it doesn’t negate the fact that you put yourself into a very vulnerable position when you invite an unknown person into your home."

True, I could also be vulnerable however I met someone, or if some weirdo saw my profile and then recognised me out and about. So do I just come offline and never meet anyone again? I'd rather carry on meeting lovely people and having fun, and *live*, than run away, hide and just exist because of a tiny risk which I have anyway just being out in public.

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

"The majority of my meets are at my home and they have been great fun! Even if it turns out there's no sexual spark or we are both just too nervous then we have a cup of tea and a natter

I've also been to other guys homes and enjoyed myself.

But that's just me and what makes me comfortable

I feel sick just thinking about it!

That’s all very fine - but it doesn’t negate the fact that you put yourself into a very vulnerable position when you invite an unknown person into your home.

It’s entirely up to you - I wouldn’t say the risk was ‘tiny’ though

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By *mmacdheelsTV/TS
over a year ago

France, Not in

Oddly as it may seem I've been much more scared on doing outdoor meets at night. I have always disliked those but for some reason doing a house meet, even late at night, just feels safer.

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

"Oddly as it may seem I've been much more scared on doing outdoor meets at night. I have always disliked those but for some reason doing a house meet, even late at night, just feels safer."

Well you are less vulnerable inside than out and one-to-one I think. Everyone has to assess their own situation and circumstances. Wherever I meet, I tend to meet those I already know and trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only enjoy private meets inour flat and has always been amazing for all...

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

"It’s entirely up to you - I wouldn’t say the risk was ‘tiny’ though "

I'm don't want to tempt fate, it has been very good to me so far in my life, but I'm going to disagree with you and I refuse to hide away from life just because of a tiny minority. It's not like I go screaming my address from the rooftops for every Tom, Dick and weirdo to hear.

I'm still alive and so I will carry on living and enjoying myself, just existing is a waste and not an option for me, been down that route and almost didn't come back - now that is *definitely* more than a tiny risk.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"The majority of my meets are at my home and they have been great fun! Even if it turns out there's no sexual spark or we are both just too nervous then we have a cup of tea and a natter

I've also been to other guys homes and enjoyed myself.

But that's just me and what makes me comfortable

I feel sick just thinking about it!

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

I made that mistake too on another site, turning up when they felt like it. Only when I moved it stopped never again. It's not nice, so now I meet people miles from we're I actually live.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

That's shocking cheeky horrible fuckers

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

We prefer to host at Twat’s country retreat as it’s very quiet and we don’t have to drive afterwards. We don’t have a problem with other people’s houses either, but clubs mean plastic sheets...and pornstar noises next door, which just make us both giggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Uncomfortable. I did once, and it worked out fine. I'm not sure it's the best idea for the first meet, that's just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a problem with visiting or accommodating, I stick to verified though, too many let downs.

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