FabSwingers.com forum: worked out formula for finding out who is a timewaster

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes usually pic hunters me thinks

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Well not necessarily but thinking about it... dont think we have met anyone like that so you could have a point. If we are away and trying to arrange a meet I would rather pick someone already verified than someone who isnt. We have met newbies though.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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Disagree a person can only be called a time waster if they have arranged to meet you then not turned up .

just because someone is on the site for over a year with no pix doesnt mean they are time wasters just means they dont meet maybe only here for chat .

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

sexy guy + huge cock + not interested in me = timewaster .....pmsl !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well not necessarily but thinking about it... dont think we have met anyone like that so you could have a point. If we are away and trying to arrange a meet I would rather pick someone already verified than someone who isnt. We have met newbies though. "

Yes agree thats how i see it pic hunters and guys pretending to be couples and single women for wanking material, newbies are fine have met them myself, luckily for me was never really one as met couple off another site and they told me about fab and verified me first day on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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Lol that or shy. To be honest i think you wouldn't waste time on a profile like that so no. The biggest time wasters are ones who seem genuine but constantly have to cancel or make up excuses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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12 months on site + no verifications + no pics could = some who is having time of life swinging everyday of week having sent fantastic messages with pics dont need or want verifications as they dont want everyone knowing their business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's getting to the point here in our neck of the woods that it's easier to go out, eye contact/start chatting and pick them up as all we get are lame excuses and that is not only from the "time wasters/pic hunters"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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Disagree a person can only be called a time waster if they have arranged to meet you then not turned up .

just because someone is on the site for over a year with no pix doesnt mean they are time wasters just means they dont meet maybe only here for chat ."

here for a chat!! why oh why do people on here say that, chatting is timewasting without meeting!! this is a swingers site for meets not for webcamming and chatting, how many "chatters" state we are just here to chat, they dont they state they are looking for meets etc and string people along looking for real meets!!!

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over a year ago

Just how has someone that has been on the site for over a year,has no pics or verifications wasting your time?

Surely you just look at a different profile?

Or use the filters so that people without pics or verifications can get in touch with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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Disagree a person can only be called a time waster if they have arranged to meet you then not turned up .

just because someone is on the site for over a year with no pix doesnt mean they are time wasters just means they dont meet maybe only here for chat .

Im just here to chat as it says on profile doesnt mean i dont swing just means i prefer going to club does that mean Im a timewaster then ?

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over a year ago

"Just how has someone that has been on the site for over a year,has no pics or verifications wasting your time?

Surely you just look at a different profile?

Or use the filters so that people without pics or verifications can get in touch with you"

I meant can't get in touch with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sexy guy + huge cock + not interested in me = timewaster .....pmsl !!!

Ditto!! Plus he must be gay! Ms

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just how has someone that has been on the site for over a year,has no pics or verifications wasting your time?

Surely you just look at a different profile?

Or use the filters so that people without pics or verifications can get in touch with you

I meant can't get in touch with you"

but that would mean newbies to the site who have just joined then cannot contact you or friends off other sites then are unable to get in contact or others who leave then come back for whatever reason cannot get back in touch!!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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Disagree a person can only be called a time waster if they have arranged to meet you then not turned up .

just because someone is on the site for over a year with no pix doesnt mean they are time wasters just means they dont meet maybe only here for chat .

so if someone decides that they aint meeting just now they need to delete their profile cause they aint allowed to stick around for chat ?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

girls or couples who dont reply to my message begging for a meet = timewaster !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just how has someone that has been on the site for over a year,has no pics or verifications wasting your time?

Surely you just look at a different profile?

Or use the filters so that people without pics or verifications can get in touch with you

I meant can't get in touch with you

Then stop moaning about it you wasted all that energy on a thread about timewasters when really all you needed to do was to ignore and move on honest its not hard

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Not sure 'timewaster' is the correct name but maybe not someone who is actually intending to meet. This is only a pain if they pretend they are and muck you around arrangementwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sexy guy + huge cock + not interested in me = timewaster .....pmsl !!!

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Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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Disagree a person can only be called a time waster if they have arranged to meet you then not turned up .

just because someone is on the site for over a year with no pix doesnt mean they are time wasters just means they dont meet maybe only here for chat .

Im just here to chat as it says on profile doesnt mean i dont swing just means i prefer going to club does that mean Im a timewaster then ?"

As i said most chatters dont state they are here to chat!! therefore no you are not timewasting as I wouldnt or you wouldnt get into a conversation with each other about meeting as i would read your profile and let you know If you contacted me that I wont contact you further etc as wouldnt want to waste my time speaking to you without a view to meeting in near future as have other friends to do that with etc, no offence meant or intended just wouldnt be bothered speaking to you as you state as some do they are here for chat only, just so you know on your profile it doesnt mention you swing at clubs so how would anyone know that???

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

why is chatting timewasting? If it states it clearly on profile with a reason then it's not our fault if you then proceed to try to get a meet when we have said it ain't gonna happen.

For the record, we are here purely to chat at the moment and have been that way for almost 3 years.

In that time we have got married, moved to a foreign country, had a baby, moved back to the UK and currently find ourselves in a position where 1 is in the UK and the other is working abroad. Are we timewasters? Are we hell!!

We are on here to chat to friends, to attend socials etc but we will not be deleting our profile because you or anyone else says that we must because you deem it essential.

Why not worry about your own profile and meets and leave others to worry about their own

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not sure 'timewaster' is the correct name but maybe not someone who is actually intending to meet. This is only a pain if they pretend they are and muck you around arrangementwise. "

I totally agree, but isnt that being mucked about what a timewaster is?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

People who arrange to meet and then dont turn up without letting me know = timwaster.

People who just want to chat, look at pics, dont have pics themselves, want to cam, are not verified etc are not wasting my time because I dont let them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"why is chatting timewasting? If it states it clearly on profile with a reason then it's not our fault if you then proceed to try to get a meet when we have said it ain't gonna happen.

For the record, we are here purely to chat at the moment and have been that way for almost 3 years.

We are on here to chat to friends, to attend socials etc but we will not be deleting our profile because you or anyone else says that we must because you deem it essential.

Why not worry about your own profile and meets and leave others to worry about their own

I never said that, can people on here not read??

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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Disagree a person can only be called a time waster if they have arranged to meet you then not turned up .

just because someone is on the site for over a year with no pix doesnt mean they are time wasters just means they dont meet maybe only here for chat .

isn't this what you said??? chatters are timewasters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people dont join the site to meet, some just like to chat, go on cam or watch cams, find online friends for adult conversations, not meeting people does not make you a time waster so long as you dont ask people to meet when you have no intentions of showing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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Disagree a person can only be called a time waster if they have arranged to meet you then not turned up .

just because someone is on the site for over a year with no pix doesnt mean they are time wasters just means they dont meet maybe only here for chat .

isn't this what you said??? chatters are timewasters!"

Thats not exactly what i said read it properly!! also as you have your profile hidden then thats fine for you to state what you are doing etc, others and ill call them "chatters/timewasters" dont they dont state like moodycow what they exactly want i.e only here to chat, thats fine, and as people can read that know where they stand, its the others who dont have in their profiles they are just here to chat not meeting presently and string you along that are the timewasters!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people dont join the site to meet, some just like to chat, go on cam or watch cams, find online friends for adult conversations, not meeting people does not make you a time waster so long as you dont ask people to meet when you have no intentions of showing"

and there are loads of those

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

I will unhide profile to show exactly what it says but I can assure you that even with my profile unhidden I have had people asking for meets from me and us. So who is timewasting there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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Disagree a person can only be called a time waster if they have arranged to meet you then not turned up .

just because someone is on the site for over a year with no pix doesnt mean they are time wasters just means they dont meet maybe only here for chat .

Im just here to chat as it says on profile doesnt mean i dont swing just means i prefer going to club does that mean Im a timewaster then ?

Because I didnt want to it was easier for me and as I see it my profile is for me to use however I want and it works well for me

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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"People who arrange to meet and then dont turn up without letting me know = timwaster.

People who just want to chat, look at pics, dont have pics themselves, want to cam, are not verified etc are not wasting my time because I dont let them."

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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true

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

Peeps can use this site how they like, however, I would like to think that if arranging meets and not turning up repeatedly to all those they've arranged to meet that the peeps being let down are reporting as the site allows and that this shows a trend which the MODS recognise and sanction or do what ever it is they do in this situation!PHEW!!lol

I suggest you don't choose peeps who fit the criteria as you see it and then you wont have an issue.

simples!

**MODS** what exactly do you do in this situation? for those not turning up..

or is it a pointless exercise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Peeps can use this site how they like, however, I would like to think that if arranging meets and not turning up repeatedly to all those they've arranged to meet that the peeps being let down are reporting as the site allows and that this shows a trend which the MODS recognise and sanction or do what ever it is they do in this situation!PHEW!!lol

I suggest you don't choose peeps who fit the criteria as you see it and then you wont have an issue.

simples!

**MODS** what exactly do you do in this situation? for those not turning up..

or is it a pointless exercise?"

I had to laugh cos you wrote that how I do without breathing didnt you and silly me even read it like that

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

I suggest you don't choose peeps who fit the criteria as you see it and then you wont have an issue.

simples!

**MODS** what exactly do you do in this situation? for those not turning up..

or is it a pointless exercise?"

Mods can't do anything, the reports go to Admin. What they do, I have no idea.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Not sure 'timewaster' is the correct name but maybe not someone who is actually intending to meet. This is only a pain if they pretend they are and muck you around arrangementwise.

I totally agree, but isnt that being mucked about what a timewaster is?"

Indeed, someone who wastes time is someone who arranges to meet with no intention of going through with it. These can be a pain admittedly but try to filter these out and not tar all with the same brush. There are some great people on here too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does it really matter anyway?

The obvious players are obvious the others ya avoid simples really ain't it? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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Completely disagree, particularly on 'no verifications' as I've had several meets with non-verified members which have turned out great. Unfortunately as we're all non-verified we can't verify each other.

It's not something I particularly look at as a filter. I'll make my own mind up as and when they fail to show

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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possible of course, but then so is the possibility of Richie McCaw..(all blacks captain) being a Fab member, and insisting on meeting me....sadly, reality is much closer to OP's timewaster equation

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Just because someone has no pictures and validations it doesn't mean they are a timewaster. As on another thread, they could be taking their time or even be meeting every night!

Just because someone is only on here to chat and/or cam or even just email stories back and forth, it doesn't make them a timewaster either! But it does mean they are NOT swingers so I do wonder what they are doing on a swingers site!

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

Just because we aren't swinging at this particular time but have done so in the past and intend to do in the future doesn't make us any less a swinger than the next couple

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Just because we aren't swinging at this particular time but have done so in the past and intend to do in the future doesn't make us any less a swinger than the next couple"

I don't want to get into this on this thread, but I was talking (typing) about those that ONLY come on here to chat/cam/mail. We have taken breaks as well, but are still swingers cos we have and will again meet people for sexy times. Those who never meet but just like the titilation are not IMO swingers!

Sorry for any confusion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be honest with your own profile

be upfront in your own profile about what goes and what doesn't

stick to your guns

read their profile - what is said, but more importantly what isn't

ask for clarification of areas that are ambiguous

note any verifications - physical or picture

ask for pics - and more than 1 - anyone can nick a solo pic off the net

read between the lines of any correspondence - it's often what they don't say that is the give away

if something doesn't add up, walk away

not fool proof, but has served me well

a timewaster can only exist if they are afforded enough of your time in the first place.

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By *im halpertMan
over a year ago

redditch

"Just because someone has no pictures and validations it doesn't mean they are a timewaster. As on another thread, they could be taking their time or even be meeting every night!

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I agree being on a swingers site just to chat seems weird to me ..but its a free site so people do what they want.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I just love the way that some people try to determine how other people should use the site....

... that would be as opposed to actually concentrating on the things they can control rather than moaning about the things they cant....

so someone has no pictures... guess what, the site gives you the facility to block those people... if you feel that strongly about it then use it!!!

so someone has no verifications... guess what, the site gives you the facility to block those people... if you feel that strongly about it then use it!!!

the tools are there.....

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Never be too quick to judge other people, jumping to conclusions might mean you missing something quite special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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What if they are just ugly, they can't get a meet arranged in a year if being on here and don't like advertising the fact they are ugly through.

Before you say, I do have face pics in pvt, to confirm how ugly I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i look fairly new to site but not! Was on here under a different username but someone got into my account. i had to change it, lost all friends and veris. so not everyone without veris is a timewaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do use the above criteria to filter out people. Although some of u on here dont agree I have found chatting to peeps who have been on here a long time, with no meets under their belt tend to just chat andmake promises to meet, but never do.

so although I may have missed out on a small number of great people, I have also saved myself time and energy pursuing dreamers who string u along!!

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By *peedypeteMan
over a year ago

derby

I agree too that being on a swingers site and never meeting is odd. It's swinger by proxy.

Even if u just meet on social side, u don't have to be having sex with everyone. I got loads of friends, who are on, just fiends, I may not fancy them and vice versa.

But to not meet anyone, thats odd!

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

But to not meet anyone, thats odd!"

Maybe they haven't found anyone who wants to meet them yet.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"I just love the way that some people try to determine how other people should use the site....

... that would be as opposed to actually concentrating on the things they can control rather than moaning about the things they cant....

You know what? I don't agree with you, Fabio. (A rare occasion!)

You are one of those who has said that people should be able to use the site as they wish. And I agree with you, but that also means that they can try to determine how others use the site! No one has to listen, but they can do it! If you had your way, it would mean that no one should be able to criticise anyone for what they put on here. How boring would that be?

And that is the trouble with the politically correct attitude that people seem to fiercely defend on here. Funny thing is, if it was extended to our ordinary lives, the whole country would collapse! There has to be rules and guidelines for people to follow. There has to be those who are able to question and poke around, otherwise we will never grow!

The rest of the post was good though…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been accused of been a time waster I don't have pics in public cos am married. I chat and have cam fun and have made some great pals here.

I never have met as been a bloke it's so hard here as people judge too much. There are also a lot of fecking nutters on here so if protecting my privacy and doing my own thing is time wasting then guilty

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

I suggest you don't choose peeps who fit the criteria as you see it and then you wont have an issue.

simples!

**MODS** what exactly do you do in this situation? for those not turning up..

or is it a pointless exercise?

I had to laugh cos you wrote that how I do without breathing didnt you and silly me even read it like that

lol yes I did! not a single breath! hence the PHEW! here's a few though ;;;;;; lol

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

I suggest you don't choose peeps who fit the criteria as you see it and then you wont have an issue.

simples!

**MODS** what exactly do you do in this situation? for those not turning up..

or is it a pointless exercise?

Mods can't do anything, the reports go to Admin. What they do, I have no idea."

hmmmmm so what do admin do?

we need to know lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A timewaster is someone who doesn't do exactly what you want them to, when you want them to.

Damn them for having the cheek to run their lives the way they want to!

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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Disagree a person can only be called a time waster if they have arranged to meet you then not turned up .

just because someone is on the site for over a year with no pix doesnt mean they are time wasters just means they dont meet maybe only here for chat ."

Aint that what face book is for chatting lol

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"A timewaster is someone who doesn't do exactly what you want them to, when you want them to.

Damn them for having the cheek to run their lives the way they want to!

I know, the bastards.

Anyone who doesn't leap at the chance of fucking me is a timewaster.

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By *im halpertMan
over a year ago

redditch

"I agree too that being on a swingers site and never meeting is odd. It's swinger by proxy.

Even if u just meet on social side, u don't have to be having sex with everyone. I got loads of friends, who are on, just fiends, I may not fancy them and vice versa.

But to not meet anyone, thats odd!"
they are known as armchair swingers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

attractive professional/s?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I prefer the ugly professionals.

"You've got the money, I've got the looks, let's fuck"

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

A tiemwaster is something that wastes my time. Therefore this site is the number 1 offender!!

Seriously though, time is never wasted making friends and meeting people. Only if I get stood up will I consider that a waste of time, and I then block and report. It might not achieve much but it makes me feel better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on the site for a while have met some people but not everyone leaves a verification. I think that If you arrange to meet...MEET. there are of course times when a meet fails because either party has something come up that's unavoidable. It has happened to me but I do not consider them timewasters. The real shame is that when messages are deleted without a reply.. but that's another story lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

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The alternative is don't message them, don't answer their messages, don't accept a friend request from them, don't talk to them and don't arrange to meet them...

why do you care? if you're not looking to meet them, why does the way other people use the site bother you? What difference does it make to your swinging life? Are they hammering down your door and begging you to meet them then messing you around? if they are then that's clearly a problem but if not, then leave them to get on with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = "

= just that no veris and no pics. Who's time are they wasting? unless someone has changed the rules and you have to be verified or have pics or meet people...or interact with anyone at all..you don't

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I have worked out my own simple formula for a timewaster.....it's someone who doesn't turn up for a pre arranged meet and offers no reasonable excuse for not doing so....

Simple formula that....and it works for me.

Anything else, lack of verifications, lack of photos etc....ain't wasting my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just wasted time reading all this bollocks !! I have seen it all here before.

Therefore the OP has wasted my time !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have just wasted time reading all this bollocks !! I have seen it all here before.

Therefore the OP has wasted my time !!

what made you wanna see it all again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought they were called wankers, in the literal sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because we aren't swinging at this particular time but have done so in the past and intend to do in the future doesn't make us any less a swinger than the next couple

ahem....or the next single male

Sorry for any confusion!

not confused, just dont know what an IMO swinger is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh no - the subject of timewasting again lol

better put my tenpenith in lol

depends who is genuinely interested isnt ?

if everyone is genuine and have nothing to hide !!

they could give their mobile number - no problem

no pics on profiles - in some cases you cant really - especially if you work in a professional capacity -ie solicitor,dentist,legal secretary,etc,etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say real timewasters are the ones who make a date and don't turn up.

If people declare on their profile that they're just here for chat then how can that be timewasting?

People who have been on for a while and have no verifications may well be concealing them for their own reasons but we don't pursue meets with them because the likelihood is that they're still slithering whether to take their first steps or not.

Sometimes people use the label because they've wasted their own time barking up the wrong tree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes people use the label because they've wasted their own time barking up the wrong tree."

And there we have it (almost!).

I would have said:

Most of the time people use the label because they've wasted their own time barking up the wrong tree.

Perfect!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People taking part in a morally questionable activity (no point giving me the argument about consent blah blah) on a free to access website making judgements on other people who use the site, deary me.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i wonder where the urban myth of pic collectors comes from

Sir has me displayed on a couple of sites where you can download straight from the pic. Then there are sites where you can display pics in the chat room, flikr has harder pics then fab, millions of them!

As for the rule... never assume everyone goes at the same pace, they might be having a fab time exploring the fantasy of meeting.

One persons timewaster might be another persons ideal meet!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The Timewastrer Formula = 10 hydrogens and 4 carbons (C4H10)... or that might be the molecular formula for butane.... I should have listened more in class.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"People taking part in a morally questionable activity (no point giving me the argument about consent blah blah) on a free to access website making judgements on other people who use the site, deary me."

Who's morality are we talking here? Not ours, that's for sure. Morality of the church? Maybe! Of society in general, perhaps, but not ours!

And would this be the same morality as those who shunned and critisised us when we were outed and some at least (we know) were going off to their lovers behind their partners backs?

We may not have your morals (although you ARE on a swingers web site) but we are true to each other and to us, that's what counts!

Oh and your post is a judgement on us all! We all judge everyday of our lives and to deny that would indicate an Ostrich mentality!

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

not confused, just dont know what an IMO swinger is?

Read in your best "Allo Allo" French voice (

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"You Stupid Person!"

Hmmm.. no mention of the "Fallen Madonna with the Big Boobies!... Get that one in next time

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By *ondafirestormMan
over a year ago

heckington

Dont think may are pic hunters on here,more just get off on the thrill or thought of arranging a meet.Pics you can get anywhere nowadays lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's morality are we talking here? Not ours, that's for sure. Morality of the church? Maybe! Of society in general, perhaps, but not ours!

And would this be the same morality as those who shunned and critisised us when we were outed and some at least (we know) were going off to their lovers behind their partners backs?

We may not have your morals (although you ARE on a swingers web site) but we are true to each other and to us, that's what counts!

Oh and your post is a judgement on us all! We all judge everyday of our lives and to deny that would indicate an Ostrich mentality!

It's exactly the opposite or don't you get the irony that I'm posting on here too.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Who's morality are we talking here? Not ours, that's for sure. Morality of the church? Maybe! Of society in general, perhaps, but not ours!

And would this be the same morality as those who shunned and critisised us when we were outed and some at least (we know) were going off to their lovers behind their partners backs?

We may not have your morals (although you ARE on a swingers web site) but we are true to each other and to us, that's what counts!

Oh and your post is a judgement on us all! We all judge everyday of our lives and to deny that would indicate an Ostrich mentality!

It's exactly the opposite or don't you get the irony that I'm posting on here too."

Clever save, but I see no irony in the first part of you post about morality! We don't see it as morally questionable and if you do, then this is definately the wrong place for you!

As for the "judgement" part, I see no irony intended when coupled to the morality issues you seem to have...

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Who's morality are we talking here? Not ours, that's for sure. Morality of the church? Maybe! Of society in general, perhaps, but not ours!

And would this be the same morality as those who shunned and critisised us when we were outed and some at least (we know) were going off to their lovers behind their partners backs?

We may not have your morals (although you ARE on a swingers web site) but we are true to each other and to us, that's what counts!

Oh and your post is a judgement on us all! We all judge everyday of our lives and to deny that would indicate an Ostrich mentality!

It's exactly the opposite or don't you get the irony that I'm posting on here too.

Clever save, but I see no irony in the first part of you post about morality! We don't see it as morally questionable and if you do, then this is definately the wrong place for you!

As for the "judgement" part, I see no irony intended when coupled to the morality issues you seem to have...

Not often we agree but you are spot on here

For me lying ,cheating, hurting others,are wrong. i find it morally unacceptable that children in Africa are starving and peadophiles in ths country get a few months in prison.

Shagging other consenting adults is so not wrong

xxxxxxx

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By *itianmandyWoman
over a year ago

london

Don't know if this point has been made already, but the biggest group of people I encounter who I'd describe as timewasters are those who haven't read my profile to see what I'm looking for and waste my time asking to meet me even though they don't have the qualities I'm looking for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"12 months on site + no verifications + no pics = Timewaster

discuss or offer alternatives

Disagree a person can only be called a time waster if they have arranged to meet you then not turned up .

just because someone is on the site for over a year with no pix doesnt mean they are time wasters just means they dont meet maybe only here for chat ."

I know a couple who though have pics, don't have verifications, but have met on another site so know they are real, just haven't met for the last year as had a baby

so there are circumstances for certain ones.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Not often we agree but you are spot on here

Bless you xxxx

Shagging other consenting adults is so not wrong

xxxxxxx

Actually, I thought it was pre-requesit!

xxxx

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

"Don't know if this point has been made already, but the biggest group of people I encounter who I'd describe as timewasters are those who haven't read my profile to see what I'm looking for and waste my time asking to meet me even though they don't have the qualities I'm looking for!

have to agree as to people not taking time to read therefore wastin their time writing a message and worse ours reading it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's morality are we talking here? Not ours, that's for sure. Morality of the church? Maybe! Of society in general, perhaps, but not ours!

And would this be the same morality as those who shunned and critisised us when we were outed and some at least (we know) were going off to their lovers behind their partners backs?

We may not have your morals (although you ARE on a swingers web site) but we are true to each other and to us, that's what counts!

Oh and your post is a judgement on us all! We all judge everyday of our lives and to deny that would indicate an Ostrich mentality!

It's exactly the opposite or don't you get the irony that I'm posting on here too.

Clever save, but I see no irony in the first part of you post about morality! We don't see it as morally questionable and if you do, then this is definately the wrong place for you!

As for the "judgement" part, I see no irony intended when coupled to the morality issues you seem to have...

You see no irony because of the blinkered nature all people have when they have a particular interest, I rather think you know exactly what I mean but are being a bit cute.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"You see no irony because of the blinkered nature all people have when they have a particular interest, I rather think you know exactly what I mean but are being a bit cute.

You may add a smiley to your reply."

So I am blinkered? I have a particular interest? Well I suppose that part is true. I have an interest when someone accuses me/us of being morally corrupt! But blinkered? Never!

But you are right, I did know what you meant, that is why I answered like I did and that still stands. As to being "cute"? I leave that to her!

Now go park up the JCB, I think the hole is deep enough now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You see no irony because of the blinkered nature all people have when they have a particular interest, I rather think you know exactly what I mean but are being a bit cute.

You may add a smiley to your reply.

So I am blinkered? I have a particular interest? Well I suppose that part is true. I have an interest when someone accuses me/us of being morally corrupt! But blinkered? Never!

But you are right, I did know what you meant, that is why I answered like I did and that still stands. As to being "cute"? I leave that to her!

Now go park up the JCB, I think the hole is deep enough now...

Yes, you, I and everyone else in here may say we have morality but that's only from our viewpoint, does that make us right? As I said when a group of people share a particular interest they get blinkered, doesn't mean we are wrong or right, however it's a pretty simple concept and one that you should be able to understand, btw is it your JCB?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we have mentioned before in our opinion 30% of profiles on any one site at a time are fake.

If we get messages from couples that have joined over a year ago and still have not meet anyone then we will not meet them.

(so after a year of joining they deciede that we are the couple they want to meet, does not ring true to us)

No meets in over a year, not even for a chat over a drink, does not ring true.

The clues in the title of the website as to what it is..fabSWINGERS.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Yes, you, I and everyone else in here may say we have morality but that's only from our viewpoint, does that make us right? As I said when a group of people share a particular interest they get blinkered, doesn't mean we are wrong or right, however it's a pretty simple concept and one that you should be able to understand, btw is it your JCB?"

What on earth are you on about? If our morality is neither right nor wrong then why bring it up? And if, as I suspect, you are having a subtle dig at people for being married but swinging then a) its none of your business, and b) I am single, and therefore don't offend any moralistic mores in the real world.

Oh, and c) not everyone on here is a christian. So next time you want to insult the majority of Fabswingers, think of something more original than attacking their 'morality' then pretending you didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the chatting aspect may not be a true marker that they are time wasters..you meet so many people on this website each with different ways they want to be approached..some like to be social (chat 1st) leading to fun and some like to go straight for the fun and some people just don't know what they want so suggesting to chat sometime is just general a way to introduce yourself and develop an understanding leading to fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what pisses us off is people agreeing to meet in principle but when it comes to asking them to 1, send a photo or two (as dont have on profile photos with faces etc ) wont send them and have loads of excuses why, 2, ask them to speak on phone and always a hundred reasons why not, or just never call, waste of time totally. what is the problem put BLOODY PIC IN YOUR PRIVATE SECTION OF EACH OF YOU, AND PIC UP THE BLOODY PHONE WHATS THE PROBLEM???.. isent evertyone on here to meet and have sex ??? .

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

2 hours on the site, arranging a meet, unable to send a phone number, can't video call because at work.

If if it's a woman who wants to meet and she's obsessed with her husbands penis and what I'll do with it.

If it's a bloke who want to meet and he's obsessed with his penis and what he wants to do to me with it.

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