FabSwingers.com forum: Looking for love???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It never ceases to amaze me the amount of people on here that say they are looking for long term relationship love etc?? Surely this is a swinging site.

Maybe advertise on the approriate website? Just an idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People find all sorts on sites like this .. even love .. no telling .. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they're looking for a similarly minded person to 'love', maybe they would like to swing as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they're looking for a similarly minded person to 'love', maybe they would like to swing as a couple.

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your right as some are looking for a diffrent way of dating more open .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not sure myself i think some geniunely think they can find love on here yes some do but wouldnt start to look on this site

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Never know where you will find love, me and my OH met on the net on a cybersex site where i was a mod. Had no intention of looking for a relationship, now 5 and a half years on we both couldnt be happyer. Fate, who knows where it takes you and why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It never ceases to amaze me the amount of people on here that say they are looking for long term relationship love etc?? Surely this is a swinging site.

Maybe advertise on the approriate website? Just an idea!

They may have more luck on a dating site but you could use the same argument for single men or any other group of people on fabswingers. I haven't seen any profiles searching for this myself but if i did i would just skim over them but would admire their honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't think there is anything wrong with it. I met my ex on a different swinging site and we were together for 2 years. There was no worry about either of us not wanting to swing.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

whilst i have not advertised on my profile that i am looking for something more i wouldnt be averse to it happening (dont panic OP i am also on dating sites - i realise this is a swinging site

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there are plenty of couples that have met either through this site or other similar ones so why cant it work for others (me

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BUT i have to stress that i know that this site is for swinging and by no means do i go into any meet thinking 'oh my....this could be the one' lol

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

I wasn't looking for it...but I sure found it

Then again I never was one for going looking for a partner. "I never went out on the pull", even as a teenager.

I've got friends who have set out to find a life partner on dating sites - and their biggest complaint was the number of people who contact them who were just looking for a few laughs and sex. Here on Fab, people question what singles looking for a life partner are doing on a swingers site.

I think if a singleton really enjoys recreational sex with people, it's probably more likely that they will eventually meet someone who will share this sort of relationship with them, and in the meantime they get to meet and play with like-minded adults.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If ta fancy meeting a long te relationship with a swinger surely these sites are better than dating ones? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can't say I ever really nitice it. Infact in both of our eperience the opposite is true as there are plenty looking for love who claim otherwise.

We found love on here, we weren't looking for it and it took several months to evolve from occassional swing partners, to close friends to couple. I don't believe that you ever find love if you are looking for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither of us were looking for it, and both very happily single on here, but hey, it happened completely out of the blue, scared us both at first but decided to go with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Neither of us were looking for it, and both very happily single on here, but hey, it happened completely out of the blue, scared us both at first but decided to go with it. "

Yep same here good init xx

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

...and the same for me n Rain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep same here good init xx

Totally, we pretty damn crazy about each other and loving swinging together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It never ceases to amaze me the amount of people on here that say they are looking for long term relationship love etc?? Surely this is a swinging site.

Maybe advertise on the approriate website? Just an idea!

maybe they want to find love with someone whos already into swinging so they can swing as a couple?

If thats the case id say this is the idea place for them

Thats not to say they will fall in love with everyone they meet, im sure they will be happy to just meet for a fuck till the right person comes along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be more than happy to 'fall in love' with a guy from this site and to be honest the samll handfull of guys i have met have all been total gentlemen. shame that 'normal' dating sites are not the same and guys feel the need to try force when you refuse advances. thus spoiling things and now i dont trust enough to meet anyone.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

And as well as here, there is also FabFlirts as well! Surely that is the best of both... Dating site with loads of swingers on it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think its asking for trouble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It never ceases to amaze me the amount of people on here that say they are looking for long term relationship love etc?? Surely this is a swinging site.

Maybe advertise on the approriate website? Just an idea!

And what is the appropriate website?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think its asking for trouble"

Lol but like you have said in the past you would find it impossible to share

Swinging relationships can be very fullfiling and very trusting

I've had three now and the last two finished because of reasons totally unconnected to swinging and that can happen in any swinging relationship swinging or vanilla xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sayin it couldnt work but dont think u should be advertising that ur onhere looking for love

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"And what is the appropriate website?"

Erm... As I said just up there a bit..

FabFlirts. Sister site to this one but actually designed for dating, but with the advantage of having swingers on it!

Of course, only any good for those actively looking for love. Chance meetings can happen anywhere and as such, we have no control over...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yip i think its a dangerous road to go down.

its a sex site iv said this before its a sex site but whats worse is that the cpls that hook up still stay on here??? surley in the start of any relationship you want to be exclusive? and worse than that the single guy now bleat on about how they dont want single guys messaging them???? WTF???

short memories or what???

rant over auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not sayin it couldnt work but dont think u should be advertising that ur onhere looking for love

But if ya wants love wi a swinger is a swinging site not the best place ta find it?? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not sayin it couldnt work but dont think u should be advertising that ur onhere looking for love

But if ya wants love wi a swinger is a swinging site not the best place ta find it?? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yip i think its a dangerous road to go down.

short memories or what???

rant over auds xx

Not everyone feels the need for exclusivity

In fact the opposite amazes me

Why do some coupled leave the site when they get together?

You meet on a swinging site as swingers and then decide to go vanilla? That makes absolutely no scence to me

But at the end of the day we are all different and wanting different things and who am I to judge xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not sayin it couldnt work but dont think u should be advertising that ur onhere looking for love

But if ya wants love wi a swinger is a swinging site not the best place ta find it?? Xx

Ok I'm now genuinely interested as to how you think two people who want to swing find love with another swinger if a swinging site is not a good place in your opinion ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not sayin it couldnt work but dont think u should be advertising that ur onhere looking for love

But if ya wants love wi a swinger is a swinging site not the best place ta find it?? Xx

I was just thinking the same thing!!

Ok I'm now genuinely interested as to how you think two people who want to swing find love with another swinger if a swinging site is not a good place in your opinion ??"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well aint that a fuck buddie your after???

love is love we have been together 20yrs,,,would have i have done this at the start of our relationship,,,NO not a chance,,,love is a total diffrent thing and new relationships need to build trust how can you trust a partner you have met on a swingers site then start a relationship,,,yes before anyone pipes up i do know folk have met married and have now babies on here but im talking about not taking a break to find out about the new relationship then thinking,,yip this is for keeps,,,then come back on?

if that makes sense?? lol

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of the people onhere arent looking for love amigo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well aint that a fuck buddie your after???

if that makes sense?? lol

auds xx

it makes perfect sense. im not discounting individual cases but i feel more often than not it just wouldnt be the ideal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"99% of the people onhere arent looking for love amigo "

Nope and nither were we lol last thing on both our minds

Nither had ever fell fa meets before but life happens

There are a lot of profiles that state looking fa long term and that's one of the reasons admin created fab flirts

I personally wouldn't have even considered finding love on a site it never crossed my mind

My two other relationships I was a swinger when I met them and told them and introduced them to it

However if two swingers are looking for love I for one can't think of a better place to meet other swingers looking for love than in the swinging world its self lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im going to the dragons den...

swingerslookingforlove.com

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well aint that a fuck buddie your after???

the new relationship then thinking,,yip this is for keeps,,,then come back on?

if that makes sense?? lol

auds xx

Having been on the scene through my bi side since I was 17 I really wouldn't know about vanilla relationships so I take your word for that

I do however love my partner very much and feel that swinging does not come into that side of our relationship at all

I don't intend to marry a fuck buddy I intend to marry someone I love xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

to be fair IF i met someone either on here or any other site of heaven forbd in real life i would spend sometime getting to know them etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....and you think Fab Flirts is different from Fab Swingers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well im married so no point in me joining lol

i actually think its a good idea im not having a go about finding love on here i just find it difficult to understand why cpls that do dont take time out to get to know each other and have the honeymoon period of a brand new relationship thats all.? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well im married so no point in me joining lol

Yeah I can see ya point and when we are together we are pretty much exclusive and have a lot of time to ourselves

Our relationship is hampered at the moment by the distance factor

And that has to be taken into consideration

However like I've said bothe the other relationships were built alongside and including swinging from the start and it can work that way I find anyway

All I ask of any partner is an emotional connection that is unique to us if ya get me and of course trust

Do anything behind my back and it's the same as any normal relationship there's the door

Trust and love are paramount ta me xx

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

have never seen it on anyones profile as yet though have seen the opposite"not looking relationship" but hay wot ever floats their boat mite just be perfect who can say, we met it was just sex for a long time i went back for more lol and now we're married 4years6months later lol

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

"well im married so no point in me joining lol

I can't say why others don't feel it necessary to take time out to get to know each other. For us, we met at a swingers party and the attraction was immediate. We arranged to meet one to one, and just continued meeting, spending more and more time together. We didn't even discuss what was happening between us for quite a while...we just went with the flow and enjoyed it. Actually it was Soapy who first made reference to us being a couple, lol. To me it would seem strange to want to stop doing something we both enjoy. Swinging is fun, friendly, passionate, lustful and being physical with people we find attractive, but it's something that we spend a few hours a week doing. The rest of the time is ours and our relationship is above and beyond swinging.

You say you wouldn't have been happy to swing at the start of your relationship twenty years ago, but that's a whole different ball game - we were already doing it, and our relationship grew from swinging. Maybe it's because we are both comfortable about recreational sex being just that - it doesn't take anything away from the emotions we feel for each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to meet someone who I could have a relationship with and continue swinging together. I don't advertise this as I suppose I am not actively looking but if it were to happen I'd be a happy lady.

Nearly happened once with someone I met but think we were nothing scared over how it would work.

Whilst this is not a dating site, what are the chances of finding a swinging relationship anywhere else? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly happened once with someone I met but think we were nothing scared over how it would work.

Whilst this is not a dating site, what are the chances of finding a swinging relationship anywhere else? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning all,

Im on that new site and have to say i think its a pile of pants to be honest.

Half the fellas on there are the married ones on here which defeats the purpose of that site.

I persoanly think its wrong meeting married guys when they clearly havent been truthful to the partner they have but thats just me and i know everyone if diff.

I clearly say on my profile i wont knowingly meet a married man yet they still try, i would be happy if the partner knew, but maybe im odd but when i took my vows i took them seriously.

And also none of the guys on there are interestead in dating only nsa meets I too thought it was for dating and sex but im thinking now its not. Or maybe my dizzy blonde head got it all wrong.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think it's pretty clear that this is not a dating site.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I didnt meet Jay on a swingers site. I went one better and met him at an adult cinema. My first sighting of him was a cock in his mouth and me covered in spunk. Had to be a match made in heaven. Although it took a year for us to get together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even on normal dating sites they all want sex

so why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im on that new site and have to say i think its a pile of pants to be honest.

Agree 100%!

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