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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone on here find it can be very one sided (couples or singles), it irritates me as the female half of a couple to find so many people are only interested in women for example there's quite a few that want the whole 'bi' experience it the elusive ffm (now I don't class myself as bi or bi curious as I'm passed being curious but I'm not attracted to women I enjoy playing with them occasionally)...

I'd love to watch my hubby with a woman but that very very rarely happens tbh as they are only on here looking for a woman to play with the amount of times we've spoken to couples to be told "I'll play with you but not your husband , although you can play with mine while your husband watches " as for constant can I play with your wife alone?

One of the things I'd love to happen personally is for my hubby to go off and meet alone but everyone then thinks it's him on a single profile (even with our verifications clearly talking about us both )

I feel sorry for the god knows how many men on here obviously meets do happen but i find its very 'Female orientated/based' if that makes sense and as much as I enjoy it I can't help feel that it's one sided no matter what we try its not just about the women it's about experiencing things as a couple not just women being a plaything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole power play dynamic and split of male/female/couples interest in Fabs would make an amazing case study for a psychology dissertation!! There’s such a rift between what people seek, what others offer and the varying degrees of trust and assumptions made about each other. It fascinates and frustrates me in equal measure.

I did hear a rumour that someone at Sydney University may we’ll have already begun such a paper... I’m sure they can be contacted easily enough

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Does anyone on here find it can be very one sided (couples or singles), it irritates me as the female half of a couple to find so many people are only interested in women for example there's quite a few that want the whole 'bi' experience it the elusive ffm (now I don't class myself as bi or bi curious as I'm passed being curious but I'm not attracted to women I enjoy playing with them occasionally)...

I'd love to watch my hubby with a woman but that very very rarely happens tbh as they are only on here looking for a woman to play with the amount of times we've spoken to couples to be told "I'll play with you but not your husband , although you can play with mine while your husband watches " as for constant can I play with your wife alone?

One of the things I'd love to happen personally is for my hubby to go off and meet alone but everyone then thinks it's him on a single profile (even with our verifications clearly talking about us both )

I feel sorry for the god knows how many men on here obviously meets do happen but i find its very 'Female orientated/based' if that makes sense and as much as I enjoy it I can't help feel that it's one sided no matter what we try its not just about the women it's about experiencing things as a couple not just women being a plaything "

Being a single guy in the swinging scene is not the Best Hardly any women want guys and those that do are swamped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps put clearly on your profile what you are looking for, and how u wish to play? I imagine it would strike gold eventually.

The other alternative is going to local clubs and making new friends. You may find fems more willing to play that way?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I get this op,

As a straight female,its frustrating that most of our updates seem to seek bi fem couples or fems only.

This is why we have decided to meet seperately too on our old profiles,as it seems much easier .

We are just using this profile for clubs/forum and socials really.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree - I love seeing G play with another woman & while I’m happy to do that in a full couple swap, I’d love to see him play while I just watch! We both play separately as well as together & when he chats to ladies on here, they always seem pretty aloof, although they carry on chatting with him - I think it’s the assumption that it’s just him hiding behind a profile, which is a real shame. He does get plenty of play at Townhouse though, so it’s not all bad - but for guys who don’t have a club nearby & rely on Fab, it must be difficult!!

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