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By *weet threesome wife OP   Couple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

i was wondering if antone else feels it's been a waste of time writing a profile when the majority of people obviously dont bother to read, or just ignore what it says??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People look at pictures and its a yes/no to them.

They then message as to read all profiles they would not be able to send as many messages. Some still think its quantity rather than quality of messages sent.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

Some of the messgaes we get I just either roll my eyes or laugh as you know they havnt read profile, but depending on my mood if I reply or not. It doesnt annoy me, I find it funny at times.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Tip- You receive a message saying the usual, love your profile kinda thing....hide your profile and message back....what is it you like exactly?

WORKS EVERYTIME

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tip- You receive a message saying the usual, love your profile kinda thing....hide your profile and message back....what is it you like exactly?

WORKS EVERYTIME "

ooooooooohhhhh thats sneaky...

Very good though well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tip- You receive a message saying the usual, love your profile kinda thing....hide your profile and message back....what is it you like exactly?

WORKS EVERYTIME "

that is good, i like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block those who clearly have not read my profile before messaging me.

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By *weet threesome wife OP   Couple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Some of the messgaes we get I just either roll my eyes or laugh as you know they havnt read profile, but depending on my mood if I reply or not. It doesnt annoy me, I find it funny at times. "

i know what ya mean depends on mood but i do try reply even just to say it's all on profile, it's the, hi how's u today, so wot u into, that can get tiring, but there have been times when i just replied should try readin profile it'd give u topic to go on, i know bit abrupt but some times wot i get back it total abuse but then were all human lol mayb i should learn to just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages from people that clearly haven't read my profile and I just delete now unless I'm feeling particularly playful and then they get told that they haven't read my profile as they wouldn't have messages me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm in a mischievous mood I do what Femme does

If I'm in a 'can't be arsed' mood I do what Pearl does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tip- You receive a message saying the usual, love your profile kinda thing....hide your profile and message back....what is it you like exactly?

WORKS EVERYTIME "

Brilliant!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get messages from people that clearly haven't read my profile and I just delete now unless I'm feeling particularly playful and then they get told that they haven't read my profile as they wouldn't have messages me "

Thats what I do

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

yes writing a profile for me does work . it makes it very easy to see whos not read it and therefore who i wont be interested in . if theyve not spent two minutes reading my profile why would i spend my time meeting them lol !

also for the ones who dont fit what i clearly state im looking for its a very easy conversation for me ..i just refer them back to my profile ..job done ! also closes down any argument from anyone chancing their arm by pointing out if i wanted someone outside what i state on profile then profile would be updated to reflect that .

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By *peedypeteMan
over a year ago

derby

some profiles are so contradictory though. They say in text no single males and then in info it says meet couples, males and females. So it works both ways and of course some only write two lines,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just looked at your profile and the 'caps' aren't helping, it is a lso a bit lengthy, so most ppl might just read the first 2 paragraphs which and might just do there one liners.

But having survived the 'shouting caps' it is a nice profile. and lovely pics.

so how are you enjoying the site so far?

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By *nnebellWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Well for me its gotten a lot worse since the postode search came into play. It's plain to see that the majority of guys fail to read my profile before sending a oneliner or cut and paste message. I just block and delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was wondering if antone else feels it's been a waste of time writing a profile when the majority of people obviously dont bother to read, or just ignore what it says?? "

Its not a total waste as some people do read. It would be nice to have some age filters for messages so out of age can't message if you don't want them to.

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By *weet threesome wife OP   Couple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"I just looked at your profile and the 'caps' aren't helping, it is a lso a bit lengthy, so most ppl might just read the first 2 paragraphs which and might just do there one liners.

But having survived the 'shouting caps' it is a nice profile. and lovely pics.

so how are you enjoying the site so far? "

wasnt always caps that was due to persistent messages 1 liners and questions that have already been answered in profile, had ask a couple long time ago they advised that caps tend to get attention and have to say less now but it still happens, but will keep that in mind never thought about the caps representing shoutind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasnt always caps that was due to persistent messages 1 liners and questions that have already been answered in profile."

Without having a pop at the OP, I've never understood this argument.

If people aren't reading the profile, surely it makes no difference whether the message is in capital letters or not? All it will do is put off the people that *do* read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that having no pics and a second line covering most of the negatives gets rid of a fair few 'chancers'

I still do get the odd message along the lines of 'i'm horny, wanna meet ?' but the majority of messages I get these days are from the type of people I do want to here off, be it friendly or flirtacious.

Yeah it cuts down the field of interested parties I guess, but I'm here for the long game so no rush to cram as many meets in a month as I can.

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By *weet threesome wife OP   Couple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Wasnt always caps that was due to persistent messages 1 liners and questions that have already been answered in profile.

Without having a pop at the OP, I've never understood this argument.

If people aren't reading the profile, surely it makes no difference whether the message is in capital letters or not? All it will do is put off the people that *do* read."

thank you i see where your cumin from so,i gues cap has points on both sides for me it was just to emphasize not shout, but if people see it as shoutin they wont read on the other hand they mite not any way, thanx everyone for your point all taken on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was wondering if antone else feels it's been a waste of time writing a profile when the majority of people obviously dont bother to read, or just ignore what it says??

Its not a total waste as some people do read. It would be nice to have some age filters for messages so out of age can't message if you don't want them to.

"

Still waiting for the age filters that were promised for the summer and I've told Admin off too as the didn't define WHICH summer

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I just looked at your profile and the 'caps' aren't helping, it is a lso a bit lengthy, so most ppl might just read the first 2 paragraphs which and might just do there one liners.

"

see this is where I am going to disagree with you a bit... I don't think it matters whether a profile is lengthy or not, what gets across in a profile not only what you are looking for, but also some of the personality of the person writing..

if people decide not to read it till the end I think that say more about the people doing the reading as opposed to the writer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always put off by profiles that have a list of Donts. Especially in the first few paragraphs. Its starting off a profile with a negative approach.

Every one of us on the site gets messages from people who are not suitable and from those that don't read the profile. Its easy to press the delete button than have a long profile which is 3/4 full of what you don't like. It doesn't stop anyone messaging you, but it may put off those who do like the look opf you

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Wasnt always caps that was due to persistent messages 1 liners and questions that have already been answered in profile.

Without having a pop at the OP, I've never understood this argument.

If people aren't reading the profile, surely it makes no difference whether the message is in capital letters or not? All it will do is put off the people that *do* read."

and this will teach me to wait till the end of a thread.. absolutely agree... sometime you get so annoyed it end up putting off the type of people you are trying to attract....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am always put off by profiles that have a list of Donts. Especially in the first few paragraphs. Its starting off a profile with a negative approach. "

+1

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"i was wondering if antone else feels it's been a waste of time writing a profile when the majority of people obviously dont bother to read, or just ignore what it says?? "

Whilst I, and most on here, would tend to agree, as it seems we've most of us had messages from people who don't seem to have read, or who have chosen to ignore what they've read - we don't know how bad it could have been if our profiles hadn't been so explicit/ detailed.

What if you'd had 10x the volume of messages to sort through, most of them asking/making the same inane comments or questions?

I tend to think that it does work to have a good profile, though today's been particularly bad for the 1 liners etc. (Must be the weather or something).

As pointed out here, it does reflect on the person, so can also be a help, sorting the wheat from the chaff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an avid profile reader - I find it enjoyable to glean something about a person.

Then you get to the stats. Thats the real nitty gritty for me. If Ive enjoyed a profile and they have attributes I'm not looking for, or Im not their cup of tea then thats that regards a meet.

Doesn't stop discovering online chatmates that suffice an instant need for communication though.

If there's a desire to communicate because of profile content then that can be just as interesting. It rarely goes beyond what I call the 10 day wonder stage though. Everyone, in my experience, has a large turnover of former email mates they no longer exchange mail with but still have the odd hello now and again. Theres nothing wrong with making friends - you can learn lots of stuff through chattering.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We read all profiles of people that interest us. We use ours as a great filter. If you haven't bothered to read our profile then your most probably not for us!

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By *weet threesome wife OP   Couple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

i have tried to ignore people but feel i'm bein rude neddles me a bit so i usually message, but if i get a friend request from a guy over under age bi with out message i do just block and delete other friend requests just lay ther ignored dont feel so bad about that as no effort went into sendin it

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By *orth West CoupleCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"I block those who clearly have not read my profile before messaging me. "
We do the same

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I just get fed up of being asked the same bloody questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have tried to ignore people but feel i'm bein rude neddles me a bit so i usually message, but if i get a friend request from a guy over under age bi with out message i do just block and delete other friend requests just lay ther ignored dont feel so bad about that as no effort went into sendin it "

Yes thats the problem isnt it. You try and be nice by messaging back, but then get swamped with constant to and fro messages from people who havent read the profile. It gets people so exasperated that they end up trying to say dont do this on the profile in order to cut down on the messages. It is annoying.

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By *weet threesome wife OP   Couple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"i have tried to ignore people but feel i'm bein rude neddles me a bit so i usually message, but if i get a friend request from a guy over under age bi with out message i do just block and delete other friend requests just lay ther ignored dont feel so bad about that as no effort went into sendin it

Yes thats the problem isnt it. You try and be nice by messaging back, but then get swamped with constant to and fro messages from people who havent read the profile. It gets people so exasperated that they end up trying to say dont do this on the profile in order to cut down on the messages. It is annoying. "

thats it to a tee thank u xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think my preferences are very clear in mine, but it doesn't stop men messaging to ask if i'd like a small white cock instead.... And bizarrely they think with that kind offer it would be the colour putting me off? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think my preferences are very clear in mine, but it doesn't stop men messaging to ask if i'd like a small white cock instead.... And bizarrely they think with that kind offer it would be the colour putting me off? lol "

painted mine white...still want it? hehehe xxxx

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures


"i was wondering if antone else feels it's been a waste of time writing a profile when the majority of people obviously dont bother to read, or just ignore what it says?? "

Try looking at it another way.

If you get a message from someone who clearly hasn't made any effort to read your profile or highlight in any way why they feel they you and they would be a good match, they've just done you a massive favour by letting you know quickly and in no uncertain terms that they aren't worth expending any effort on, without you having to go through the effort of talking to them first.

Sorted!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


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Still waiting for the age filters that were promised for the summer and I've told Admin off too as the didn't define WHICH summer "

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/71462

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was wondering if antone else feels it's been a waste of time writing a profile when the majority of people obviously dont bother to read, or just ignore what it says??

Try looking at it another way.

If you get a message from someone who clearly hasn't made any effort to read your profile or highlight in any way why they feel they you and they would be a good match, they've just done you a massive favour by letting you know quickly and in no uncertain terms that they aren't worth expending any effort on, without you having to go through the effort of talking to them first.

Sorted!"

yes already deleted two requests today......thanks fellas

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By *im halpertMan
over a year ago

redditch

doesnt bother me at all big fuss over nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Still waiting for the age filters that were promised for the summer and I've told Admin off too as the didn't define WHICH summer

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/71462"
Age filters are now in place and working great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was wondering if antone else feels it's been a waste of time writing a profile when the majority of people obviously dont bother to read, or just ignore what it says??

Try looking at it another way.

If you get a message from someone who clearly hasn't made any effort to read your profile or highlight in any way why they feel they you and they would be a good match, they've just done you a massive favour by letting you know quickly and in no uncertain terms that they aren't worth expending any effort on, without you having to go through the effort of talking to them first.

Sorted!

yes already deleted two requests today......thanks fellas "

make that 3!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was wondering if antone else feels it's been a waste of time writing a profile when the majority of people obviously dont bother to read, or just ignore what it says?? "

Its why we dont have much of a profile.. because no one reads it.

Also why we dont have many pics available.

Probably why we dont meet anyone from fabs tbh, and all our meets come from another (paid) site..

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By *weet threesome wife OP   Couple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"doesnt bother me at all big fuss over nothing "

ur lucky it annoys the hell outta me as they usually ask wot is already on profile od come off with the stuff asked not to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had someone "wink" at us, and our profile clearly states soft and girl-girl only.

yet theirs clearly states

"Only prepared to meet couples that are ok with straight swap and no girl/girl stuff please so if girl/girl fun is a must with you on meets then were not for you "

see people dont bother to read profiles.. but we do

Yes very annoying when people dont read profiles..

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By *weet threesome wife OP   Couple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Had someone "wink" at us, and our profile clearly states soft and girl-girl only.

yet theirs clearly states

"Only prepared to meet couples that are ok with straight swap and no girl/girl stuff please so if girl/girl fun is a must with you on meets then were not for you "

see people dont bother to read profiles.. but we do

Yes very annoying when people dont read profiles.. "

+1

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