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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondered what you think? I'm now 51, I dress like a 30 yr old, act like a 20yr old and allways wondered what a 50 yr old looks like? As most of my age group, ex school friends loook like 60yr olds lol

So, I've had 20 yr olds, 40 yrs old and 65+ yr olds

Sex is sex I've enjoyed them all.

So why do people put age restrictions?

An older looking 40 yr old is the same as a young looking 50 yr old is it not?

So, Do you think you could be missing out on a good swing partner by restricting age??

My Missus Who is 50 has had a 20 yr old, a 35 yr old, a 50 yr old and wait for it , a 69 yr old

No complaints about any of them!!

Discuss

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Preference

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Yep preference, guess is a guy out of the age range i have specified sends a pic with the message, then i would lake a look and go on what i see. But don't really seek out guys or couples older than 50.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

and if age doesnt matter why are you called older4younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its all down to personnal preference

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By *IG_BLACK_ONEMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *IG_BLACK_ONEMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"and if age doesnt matter why are you called older4younger"

Checkmate!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

if age is not important why do you have an upper age limit on your profile???

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"and if age doesnt matter why are you called older4younger"

Well said, X

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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Discuss "

word to the wise... you can't complain about someone elses preferences when you have one yourself... so what would you say if they 66+ lady complained about yours???

the simple answer is this...

some people don't fancy playing with people old enough to be mum or dad...

some people don't fancy playing with people young enough to be son or daughter...

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

agreed with sage _abio, the master, hugz, xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont play with people who are in the same age bracket as our kids or parents, simply because thats our preference, i prefer older men, and hubby likes younger women ( phewwww)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and if age doesnt matter why are you called older4younger"

...and have an upper age limit of 65!

You can have a preference but the young women you want to bang who have an upper age limit you exceed cant?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've got age preferences but it really comes down to whether or not we get on with the people and if they turn us on enough for us to want to play with them.

That works both ways of course, but we have met and played with people outside our profile preferences.

At the end of the day, preferences are purely guidelines and doesn't mean you are guaranteed a shag just because you tick their boxes and they tick yours.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

keeping out of this as most peoples upper age limit seems to be 55 (except for those that go the whole hog 99) and yes we prefer younger but it has to be a mutual attraction all round.

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

hi julia, know what u mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whos knows, guess it's just prefference. Couples and ladies can be so much more picky too.

I'm 24, Polite, non pushy, honest, decent veri's, i attach pics, I read profiles fully before messaging and try to respect everyone, but still don't have any luck.

Most of the time if i do get an answer back it says too young, which is fair enough but still a shame as younger or older there are some gorgeous people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to meet men who were my age and older, then i met a couple of younger ones and prefered being with them, but since meeting them i have met a man my age and liked him. I cant always have a younger man who i am compatible with though.

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

All down to the person, there are some younger people who I would not be interested and others who have the maturity to string a few words together coherently...

Similarly there are some older people who I've met at clubs and have surprised me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty of younger women that want older men.. There are sites just for that too..

My Master loves younger women.. and I am happy for him to look... I have no wish to be with them though sexually.

BUt it all comes down to preferences.. I used to really not go for many men under 30.. now I rarely go over that..

Cali x

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

You're as old as my mother. I'm sorry if you don't like it, but i'm not prepared to fuck someone as old, or older than my own parents. That's why we have these preferences.

As others have said already, you're a hypocrite. YOU have an age preference on your profile too!

Sheesh, some people

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well when Sam and I first got together someone thought she was my daughter!!!!

My mates asked if I was shagging the baby sitter

age is just a number, means more to some than others and you must never forget that and remember .....you're only as old as the person you are feeling

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By *uriousc88Woman
over a year ago

Reading

In a serious relationship, with an emotional connection as well as a physical, sometimes, there are very fortunate people for whom the connection is sufficient to make null and void any differences that might have an impact, including age. If they're happy, that's absolutely fine.

I will quite happily socialise with people who are much older than I am, in the same way as I quite happily socialise with women, even though I have no sexual interest in women.

If I'm meeting someone for sex, however, then yes, it's perfectly fair for me to NOT want to engage in activity with older men. I'm not sexually attracted to significantly older men. It irritates me when people say "Age is just a number." or other such cliches. I do NOT want to fuck someone of an age with my parents! It might float other people's boats, but it doesn't float mine.

I don't force myself on men who only like slim women, or who want women over a certain age. They have their preferences, I leave them to it. Why not just stick to those with whom you share mutual interest?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

We all like what we like.... without really being given any choice in the matter.

Some people can overlook what they don't like, some can't or don't see why they should.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it's fair, people have a right to choose who they are attracted to and who they are not. I prefer my own age group and am not interested in anyone that I'm old enough to be the parent of. In fact what's more important is that I'm not even remotely attracted to them

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Lets just put this age thing in to perspective, do you really want to contemplate the alternaative to getting older?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"whos knows, guess it's just prefference. Couples and ladies can be so much more picky too.

I'm 24, Polite, non pushy, honest, decent veri's, i attach pics, I read profiles fully before messaging and try to respect everyone, but still don't have any luck.

Most of the time if i do get an answer back it says too young, which is fair enough but still a shame as younger or older there are some gorgeous people on here "

I admire gorgeous young men... but that's where it stops.

I've never felt sexually attracted to younger men for whatever reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In a serious relationship, with an emotional connection as well as a physical, sometimes, there are very fortunate people for whom the connection is sufficient to make null and void any differences that might have an impact, including age. If they're happy, that's absolutely fine.

I will quite happily socialise with people who are much older than I am, in the same way as I quite happily socialise with women, even though I have no sexual interest in women.

If I'm meeting someone for sex, however, then yes, it's perfectly fair for me to NOT want to engage in activity with older men. I'm not sexually attracted to significantly older men. It irritates me when people say "Age is just a number." or other such cliches. I do NOT want to fuck someone of an age with my parents! It might float other people's boats, but it doesn't float mine.

I don't force myself on men who only like slim women, or who want women over a certain age. They have their preferences, I leave them to it. Why not just stick to those with whom you share mutual interest?"

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

And now you know lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze"

you got what other people thought... and the general concensus is that they don't agree with you....

I don't see people goading at all, they were just pointing out the irony of someone complaining about age when a)you have the name older4younger ... and b)you have an age preference of your own

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Just wondered what you think? I'm now 51, I dress like a 30 yr old, act like a 20yr old and allways wondered what a 50 yr old looks like? As most of my age group, ex school friends loook like 60yr olds lol

So, I've had 20 yr olds, 40 yrs old and 65+ yr olds

but yours as young as u feel

Sex is sex I've enjoyed them all.

So why do people put age restrictions?

An older looking 40 yr old is the same as a young looking 50 yr old is it not?

So, Do you think you could be missing out on a good swing partner by restricting age??

My Missus Who is 50 has had a 20 yr old, a 35 yr old, a 50 yr old and wait for it , a 69 yr old

No complaints about any of them!!

Discuss "

i think it was victor hugo said;

40 is the old age of youth and 50 the youth of old age!!!

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

so your only as old as you feel, unless u give a damn woth other say we dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze"

You are not a hypocrite?

You have age preferences, why?

You have questioned our preferences and have questioned the reasoning.... so why not tell us why you have preferences?

I don't like to 'pick' but double standards annoy the hell out of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze"

You will get a few nasty responses on here. Some think its their right to abuse new posters so don't take it to heart.

You could have 18-90 and someone would pull you up on your profile. If you feel you are being picked on or people critiquing your profile when not asked for report them as there is a big difference between discussion and personal attacks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze

You will get a few nasty responses on here. Some think its their right to abuse new posters so don't take it to heart.

You could have 18-90 and someone would pull you up on your profile. If you feel you are being picked on or people critiquing your profile when not asked for report them as there is a big difference between discussion and personal attacks. "

Where's the abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze

You will get a few nasty responses on here. Some think its their right to abuse new posters so don't take it to heart.

You could have 18-90 and someone would pull you up on your profile. If you feel you are being picked on or people critiquing your profile when not asked for report them as there is a big difference between discussion and personal attacks.

Where's the abuse "

You are having a laugh right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze

You will get a few nasty responses on here. Some think its their right to abuse new posters so don't take it to heart.

You could have 18-90 and someone would pull you up on your profile. If you feel you are being picked on or people critiquing your profile when not asked for report them as there is a big difference between discussion and personal attacks. "

I've read and re-read this thread looking for the abuse you claim to see... I'm lost!

If someone does not agree with opinions/share preferences it does not make them bullies or abusive.

If someone is going to question other users preferences (the OP has done so) whilst not expecting the fact that they have preferences of their own is in my books, naive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I suppose it's the way I ASKED THE QUESTION.

My point was.. regardless of my profile name or age preferences was

Why do we have them??

would it be better to remove the age preference 18-99 and take people on their pics/merrits/ attitude

after all. people can put whatever age they like in the box

therefore, if your limit is 45 and a young 50rs old put their age at 45..you would end up with someone who you were not interested

I think some peoplecan get away looking younger/older than they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze

You will get a few nasty responses on here. Some think its their right to abuse new posters so don't take it to heart.

You could have 18-90 and someone would pull you up on your profile. If you feel you are being picked on or people critiquing your profile when not asked for report them as there is a big difference between discussion and personal attacks.

I've read and re-read this thread looking for the abuse you claim to see... I'm lost!

If someone does not agree with opinions/share preferences it does not make them bullies or abusive.

If someone is going to question other users preferences (the OP has done so) whilst not expecting the fact that they have preferences of their own is in my books, naive."

I think you need to go away, learn what is polite behaviour and what isn't. You obviously feel you have crossed a line or you wouldn't have felt the need to respond in a defensive manner. There is a saying that goes "you protest too much". I think someone is being unpleasant another i have the right to give the original poster advice. I am not asking you to question my viewpoint thank you.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I didn't take part in the thread, but have looked through the posts and see no instances of 'abuse'....what I see is debate, considering these are forums for debate amongst other things then I can't see a problem with the responses the Op got to his original post....

But....no abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't take part in the thread, but have looked through the posts and see no instances of 'abuse'....what I see is debate, considering these are forums for debate amongst other things then I can't see a problem with the responses the Op got to his original post....

But....no abuse."

Time and time again the mods have asked people not to critique another persons profiles. It gets personal and unpleasant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze

You will get a few nasty responses on here. Some think its their right to abuse new posters so don't take it to heart.

You could have 18-90 and someone would pull you up on your profile. If you feel you are being picked on or people critiquing your profile when not asked for report them as there is a big difference between discussion and personal attacks.

I've read and re-read this thread looking for the abuse you claim to see... I'm lost!

If someone does not agree with opinions/share preferences it does not make them bullies or abusive.

If someone is going to question other users preferences (the OP has done so) whilst not expecting the fact that they have preferences of their own is in my books, naive.

I think you need to go away, learn what is polite behaviour and what isn't. You obviously feel you have crossed a line or you wouldn't have felt the need to respond in a defensive manner. There is a saying that goes "you protest too much". I think someone is being unpleasant another i have the right to give the original poster advice. I am not asking you to question my viewpoint thank you. "

Oooopppsssy! There I go again crossing a line minus cotton wool and saying "there, there, there....."

The OP wanted answers... the OP got them. I seriously don't have time to massage 'perfect egos'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze

You will get a few nasty responses on here. Some think its their right to abuse new posters so don't take it to heart.

You could have 18-90 and someone would pull you up on your profile. If you feel you are being picked on or people critiquing your profile when not asked for report them as there is a big difference between discussion and personal attacks.

Where's the abuse

You are having a laugh right? "

You are

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I didn't take part in the thread, but have looked through the posts and see no instances of 'abuse'....what I see is debate, considering these are forums for debate amongst other things then I can't see a problem with the responses the Op got to his original post....

But....no abuse.

Time and time again the mods have asked people not to critique another persons profiles. It gets personal and unpleasant. "

So that's critique and not abuse then?

I think if a strong point is made about a subject and then the Op's profile contradicts the point they made...then it is fairly open to discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze

You will get a few nasty responses on here. Some think its their right to abuse new posters so don't take it to heart.

You could have 18-90 and someone would pull you up on your profile. If you feel you are being picked on or people critiquing your profile when not asked for report them as there is a big difference between discussion and personal attacks.

I've read and re-read this thread looking for the abuse you claim to see... I'm lost!

If someone does not agree with opinions/share preferences it does not make them bullies or abusive.

If someone is going to question other users preferences (the OP has done so) whilst not expecting the fact that they have preferences of their own is in my books, naive.

I think you need to go away, learn what is polite behaviour and what isn't. You obviously feel you have crossed a line or you wouldn't have felt the need to respond in a defensive manner. There is a saying that goes "you protest too much". I think someone is being unpleasant another i have the right to give the original poster advice. I am not asking you to question my viewpoint thank you.

Oooopppsssy! There I go again crossing a line minus cotton wool and saying "there, there, there....."

The OP wanted answers... the OP got them. I seriously don't have time to massage 'perfect egos'"

Did he ask you to comment on his profile? NO. He was asking about peoples attitude to age not you picking up on his profile and calling him a hypocrite.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The OP used himself as an example in his post.... kind of makes his profile relevant in this instance.... especially as he's asking about what others put on theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze

You will get a few nasty responses on here. Some think its their right to abuse new posters so don't take it to heart.

You could have 18-90 and someone would pull you up on your profile. If you feel you are being picked on or people critiquing your profile when not asked for report them as there is a big difference between discussion and personal attacks.

Where's the abuse

You are having a laugh right?

You are "

Look if you want to defend your wife fine but i don't need both of you as she seems capable of putting her own point across. If you want to gang up then be open about it please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP used himself as an example in his post.... kind of makes his profile relevant in this instance.... especially as he's asking about what others put on theirs."

So that makes him fair game for personal comments? Strange as that wasn't what he was asking.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I prefer younger guys because they go like a barn door in the wind. Last guy I met over 60 at a GB had emphysema and could barely get up the stairs! Why would that be considered attractive?

Sorry you're not getting the attention you think you deserve on here but as so many people have stated, you have to be attractive to get people interested. This post probably hasnt helped.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"The OP used himself as an example in his post.... kind of makes his profile relevant in this instance.... especially as he's asking about what others put on theirs.

So that makes him fair game for personal comments? Strange as that wasn't what he was asking. "

Well you don't get much more personal that talking about yourself and what age fellas your missus has shagged.... but... just so I can reply more specifically to what you had in mind... which personal comments are you referring to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't take part in the thread, but have looked through the posts and see no instances of 'abuse'....what I see is debate, considering these are forums for debate amongst other things then I can't see a problem with the responses the Op got to his original post....

But....no abuse.

Time and time again the mods have asked people not to critique another persons profiles. It gets personal and unpleasant. "

But it's ok to question preferences that does not make the OP happy whilst the OP displays prefences that exclude others?

My sides need a rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An interesting thread and some interesting answers. Many not unexpected as he isn't a regular poster. I will watch with interest as i do like watching people try and justify their comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP used himself as an example in his post.... kind of makes his profile relevant in this instance.... especially as he's asking about what others put on theirs.

So that makes him fair game for personal comments? Strange as that wasn't what he was asking.

Well you don't get much more personal that talking about yourself and what age fellas your missus has shagged.... but... just so I can reply more specifically to what you had in mind... which personal comments are you referring to?"

So that justify personal comments and calling someone a hypocrite then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't take part in the thread, but have looked through the posts and see no instances of 'abuse'....what I see is debate, considering these are forums for debate amongst other things then I can't see a problem with the responses the Op got to his original post....

But....no abuse.

Time and time again the mods have asked people not to critique another persons profiles. It gets personal and unpleasant.

But it's ok to question preferences that does not make the OP happy whilst the OP displays prefences that exclude others?

My sides need a rest "

Come now you you could have ignored but you chose not to. You can hardly complain if it is not appreciated by everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP used himself as an example in his post.... kind of makes his profile relevant in this instance.... especially as he's asking about what others put on theirs.

So that makes him fair game for personal comments? Strange as that wasn't what he was asking.

Well you don't get much more personal that talking about yourself and what age fellas your missus has shagged.... but... just so I can reply more specifically to what you had in mind... which personal comments are you referring to?

So that justify personal comments and calling someone a hypocrite then?"

Telling someone that they are a hypocrite is not abusive.

Please look up 'hypocrite' so you get a better understanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP used himself as an example in his post.... kind of makes his profile relevant in this instance.... especially as he's asking about what others put on theirs.

So that makes him fair game for personal comments? Strange as that wasn't what he was asking.

Well you don't get much more personal that talking about yourself and what age fellas your missus has shagged.... but... just so I can reply more specifically to what you had in mind... which personal comments are you referring to?

So that justify personal comments and calling someone a hypocrite then?

Telling someone that they are a hypocrite is not abusive.

Please look up 'hypocrite' so you get a better understanding"

To call someone a hypocrite and in also say "but double standards annoy the hell out of me" says it all and the manner you meant it in. I think you really need to think before being personal about someone in the future.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


" ....would it be better to remove the age preference 18-99 and take people on their pics/merrits/ attitude

"

No it would not.

I don't choose who I fancy and who I don't... it just happens. When a common pattern emerges (some might call it a preference) isn't it better for everyone to express it?

I don't generally fancy guys my own age or older especially if they look it.

Guys would generally expect someone their own age to be a safe bet.... what a waste of time that would be for them to message me when I already know it is not what I want.

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"The OP used himself as an example in his post.... kind of makes his profile relevant in this instance.... especially as he's asking about what others put on theirs.

So that makes him fair game for personal comments? Strange as that wasn't what he was asking.

Well you don't get much more personal that talking about yourself and what age fellas your missus has shagged.... but... just so I can reply more specifically to what you had in mind... which personal comments are you referring to?

So that justify personal comments and calling someone a hypocrite then?

Telling someone that they are a hypocrite is not abusive.

Please look up 'hypocrite' so you get a better understanding"

You are trying so hard to justify yourself but as your post is clear for all to see above it is hard to deny. Keep going though its amusing to watch.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"The OP used himself as an example in his post.... kind of makes his profile relevant in this instance.... especially as he's asking about what others put on theirs.

So that makes him fair game for personal comments? Strange as that wasn't what he was asking.

Well you don't get much more personal that talking about yourself and what age fellas your missus has shagged.... but... just so I can reply more specifically to what you had in mind... which personal comments are you referring to?

So that justify personal comments and calling someone a hypocrite then?"

Hypocrite… a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.

Contradicting yourself is hypocrisy… and thus would make him a hypocrite whilst doing it.

Saying someone is a hypocrite on a given subject is not an insult, it's a perfectly good use of language to highlight they are contradicting their own comment.

So what other 'personal comments' do you refer to?

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"The OP used himself as an example in his post.... kind of makes his profile relevant in this instance.... especially as he's asking about what others put on theirs.

So that makes him fair game for personal comments? Strange as that wasn't what he was asking.

Well you don't get much more personal that talking about yourself and what age fellas your missus has shagged.... but... just so I can reply more specifically to what you had in mind... which personal comments are you referring to?

So that justify personal comments and calling someone a hypocrite then?

Hypocrite… a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.

Contradicting yourself is hypocrisy… and thus would make him a hypocrite whilst doing it.

Saying someone is a hypocrite on a given subject is not an insult, it's a perfectly good use of language to highlight they are contradicting their own comment.

So what other 'personal comments' do you refer to?

"

You can quote dictionary's as much as you like its the context a word is in has as much meaning as the word itself.

I can only assume think it is acceptable to become personal about another user by your comments.

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over a year ago


"The OP used himself as an example in his post.... kind of makes his profile relevant in this instance.... especially as he's asking about what others put on theirs.

So that makes him fair game for personal comments? Strange as that wasn't what he was asking.

Well you don't get much more personal that talking about yourself and what age fellas your missus has shagged.... but... just so I can reply more specifically to what you had in mind... which personal comments are you referring to?

So that justify personal comments and calling someone a hypocrite then?

Hypocrite… a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.

Contradicting yourself is hypocrisy… and thus would make him a hypocrite whilst doing it.

Saying someone is a hypocrite on a given subject is not an insult, it's a perfectly good use of language to highlight they are contradicting their own comment.

So what other 'personal comments' do you refer to?

"

The three questions the OP asked were.

So why do people put age restrictions?

An older looking 40 yr old is the same as a young looking 50 yr old is it not?

So, Do you think you could be missing out on a good swing partner by restricting age??

If you read my original post i was giving the OP advice in why 5 people had made personal comments about his user name, and age limits on his profile. I fail to see where that is an answer to the above 3 questions he asked. I would love to see how you justify some of the responses on this thread. I won’t name them as that is not allowed along with critiquing someone’s profile unless asked.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"

You can quote dictionary's as much as you like its the context a word is in has as much meaning as the word itself.

I can only assume think it is acceptable to become personal about another user by your comments. "

I keep asking you to give me actual examples of what has specifically been said and all you have so far come up with is the word hypocrite.... which isn't an insult in my book... or any dictionary I have read. If the posts had said "you are contradicting yourself" is that an insult?

I can't really say if I find the other things you refer to as acceptable or not as you seem reluctant to tell me what they are.

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over a year ago


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You can quote dictionary's as much as you like its the context a word is in has as much meaning as the word itself.

I can only assume think it is acceptable to become personal about another user by your comments.

I keep asking you to give me actual examples of what has specifically been said and all you have so far come up with is the word hypocrite.... which isn't an insult in my book... or any dictionary I have read. If the posts had said "you are contradicting yourself" is that an insult?

I can't really say if I find the other things you refer to as acceptable or not as you seem reluctant to tell me what they are."

Read above naming individuals is not allowed. There are only 62 posts including the original so its not hard to pick out the ones that do not address the questions asked and make remarks about his user name and profile.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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Have people critiqued his whole profile or just the bits relevant to his observations of what others choose to request … ie, the things relevant to age preferences?


" I would love to see how you justify some of the responses on this thread. I won’t name them as that is not allowed "

Errrmmm... isn't that what the quote button is for?

I don't need to know who said it... just what was said so I know what you are referring to, otherwise how can I answer.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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Read above naming individuals is not allowed. "

Kenny Powers Kenny Powers Kenny Powers.

It's not naming and shaming to quote something someone has typed in the forum.

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over a year ago


"Have people critiqued his whole profile or just the bits relevant to his observations of what others choose to request … ie, the things relevant to age preferences?

I would love to see how you justify some of the responses on this thread. I won’t name them as that is not allowed

Errrmmm... isn't that what the quote button is for?

I don't need to know who said it... just what was said so I know what you are referring to, otherwise how can I answer."

Well expected avoidance on your part as its not about people saying things more about pushing a point. I am not about to cut and paste or quote 5 individuals above and know well you have already read comments but are playing ignorant to try and point score. However that still dose justify profile critiquing and personal comments when not asked for.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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Well expected avoidance on your part as its not about people saying things more about pushing a point. I am not about to cut and paste or quote 5 individuals above and know well you have already read comments but are playing ignorant to try and point score. However that still dose justify profile critiquing and personal comments when not asked for. "

Yes I am pushing a point... the point that YOU are avoiding giving me an example. You don;'t have to quote 5 people... just one would be a start.

You talk about personal comments... yet you now seem to believe you have the right to state as fact something you think I must have done... so come on... how do you 'KNOW' what I have and haven't read? Are you getting a bit personal saying I am 'playing ignorant'... should I use the 'H' word on you?

You are making a claim, I have been patiently asking you to back it up with an actual example so I can see what it is you are talking about, rather than reading sweeping generalised statements.

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over a year ago


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Well expected avoidance on your part as its not about people saying things more about pushing a point. I am not about to cut and paste or quote 5 individuals above and know well you have already read comments but are playing ignorant to try and point score. However that still dose justify profile critiquing and personal comments when not asked for.

Yes I am pushing a point... the point that YOU are avoiding giving me an example. You don;'t have to quote 5 people... just one would be a start.

You talk about personal comments... yet you now seem to believe you have the right to state as fact something you think I must have done... so come on... how do you 'KNOW' what I have and haven't read? Are you getting a bit personal saying I am 'playing ignorant'... should I use the 'H' word on you?

You are making a claim, I have been patiently asking you to back it up with an actual example so I can see what it is you are talking about, rather than reading sweeping generalised statements."

You can read above! You have read what i have types so you clearly have the ability to read. You also have avoided answering questions asked of you.

I will make this very simple for you. Answer the following.

Is it acceptable to critique someone's profile unless asked to?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes.

Next !

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

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"Yes.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"

I will make this very simple for you. Answer the following.

Is it acceptable to critique someone's profile unless asked to?

"

OK - if you must go down the 'generalising' route... generally if it is not relevant to the thread subject then no it isn't.

However, let's say someone posted how pointless cock shots were and how they were a waste of photo space and a simple body shot would be a much better photo to use.

Fair comment, everyone can have an opinion.... but if the posters name was LookAtMyNob, their avatar was a close up cock shot and it was the only photo on their profile... then yeah I would think it appropriate for people to point out the contradictions.

There, no avoidance on my part... now can you answer a few of my questions please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

Next !"

Trust you lol xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes he can.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

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"Yes.

Next !

Trust you lol xx "

It was getting too long to read and i'm ready for bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

Next !

Trust you lol xx

It was getting too long to read and i'm ready for bed. "

Bed socks long nighty hat and candle??? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I will make this very simple for you. Answer the following.

Is it acceptable to critique someone's profile unless asked to?

OK - if you must go down the 'generalising' route... generally if it is not relevant to the thread subject then no it isn't.

However, let's say someone posted how pointless cock shots were and how they were a waste of photo space and a simple body shot would be a much better photo to use.

Fair comment, everyone can have an opinion.... but if the posters name was LookAtMyNob, their avatar was a close up cock shot and it was the only photo on their profile... then yeah I would think it appropriate for people to point out the contradictions.

There, no avoidance on my part... now can you answer a few of my questions please. "

“if age doesn’t matter why are you called older4younger” No reference to the questions asked.

“if age is not important why do you have an upper age limit on your profile???”

“word to the wise... you can't complain about someone elses preferences when you have one yourself”

No reference to the questions asked.

“...and have an upper age limit of 65!”

“You have questioned our preferences and have questioned the reasoning.... so why not tell us why you have preferences?

No reference to the questions asked.

I don't like to 'pick' but double standards annoy the hell out of me”

No reference to the questions asked.

Non of which address the OP's questions and all critique details on his profile.

So guess what another new poster gets frustrated at people making things personal. Now if this is correct and acceptable then the forums are in a sorry state.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

kenny ,if you feel any posts are against any of the forum rules or abusive to the op, then please just report them! the ops will be happy to remove anything that shouldnt be posted on this thread .

that would be more constructive way of dealing with any issue you have with posts would it not ?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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Kenny Powers.... before I reply I just need to clarify one thing....throughout your post quoting what you feel are the inappropriate questions and comments, you frequently state the comments are nothing to do with the original questions posted by the OP. I just want to check you are saying this to demonstrate they are not appropriate... is that correct?

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over a year ago


"kenny ,if you feel any posts are against any of the forum rules or abusive to the op, then please just report them! the ops will be happy to remove anything that shouldnt be posted on this thread .

that would be more constructive way of dealing with any issue you have with posts would it not ?"

You are correct but as i have already done so and no mods are about then little will be done. I have seen many many many times as most people who regularly use the forums the mods ask people not to critique peoples profiles unless asked. Also if you do not like what the thread is about then not post on it but people do. My original post if you look back was to point out to the op people can get personal on threads and it is not an acceptable practice. Is it so wrong to point out thine things?

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"Kenny Powers.... before I reply I just need to clarify one thing....throughout your post quoting what you feel are the inappropriate questions and comments, you frequently state the comments are nothing to do with the original questions posted by the OP. I just want to check you are saying this to demonstrate they are not appropriate... is that correct?"

Obviously your intent is to try and make a point. You would be far better reading comments made by people in context and with reference to the OP's original post. You did ask for examples and that is what you have.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"Kenny Powers.... before I reply I just need to clarify one thing....throughout your post quoting what you feel are the inappropriate questions and comments, you frequently state the comments are nothing to do with the original questions posted by the OP. I just want to check you are saying this to demonstrate they are not appropriate... is that correct?

Obviously your intent is to try and make a point. You would be far better reading comments made by people in context and with reference to the OP's original post. You did ask for examples and that is what you have.

"

A yes or no answer would do just fine Kenny....

Of course I want to make a point... what's the point of posting if there is no point... haven't you been trying to make a point?

Isn't debate about making points for and against?

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"Kenny Powers.... before I reply I just need to clarify one thing....throughout your post quoting what you feel are the inappropriate questions and comments, you frequently state the comments are nothing to do with the original questions posted by the OP. I just want to check you are saying this to demonstrate they are not appropriate... is that correct?"

You only have to look at how the OP felt under attack and felt the need to defend himself. He only posted 3 times so i am sure i do not have to quote them. Is it acceptable a fresh user should have to defend his profile when he was only asking some questions on age? I dont think it is do you?

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"kenny ,if you feel any posts are against any of the forum rules or abusive to the op, then please just report them! the ops will be happy to remove anything that shouldnt be posted on this thread .

that would be more constructive way of dealing with any issue you have with posts would it not ?

You are correct but as i have already done so and no mods are about then little will be done. I have seen many many many times as most people who regularly use the forums the mods ask people not to critique peoples profiles unless asked. Also if you do not like what the thread is about then not post on it but people do. My original post if you look back was to point out to the op people can get personal on threads and it is not an acceptable practice. Is it so wrong to point out thine things? "

i am not commenting on content of your posts .i am mearly pointing out that if you find issue with thread content for what ever reason then reporting said posts will be more effective.

its great you have done that and mods im sure will review as soon as they can, and take what ever action they deem required .after all thats what they are there for

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"Kenny Powers.... before I reply I just need to clarify one thing....throughout your post quoting what you feel are the inappropriate questions and comments, you frequently state the comments are nothing to do with the original questions posted by the OP. I just want to check you are saying this to demonstrate they are not appropriate... is that correct?

Obviously your intent is to try and make a point. You would be far better reading comments made by people in context and with reference to the OP's original post. You did ask for examples and that is what you have.

A yes or no answer would do just fine Kenny....

Of course I want to make a point... what's the point of posting if there is no point... haven't you been trying to make a point?

Isn't debate about making points for and against?

"

No its about treating people in the appropriate manner especially so if they are new users by people who have been here long enough to know better.

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over a year ago


"kenny ,if you feel any posts are against any of the forum rules or abusive to the op, then please just report them! the ops will be happy to remove anything that shouldnt be posted on this thread .

that would be more constructive way of dealing with any issue you have with posts would it not ?

You are correct but as i have already done so and no mods are about then little will be done. I have seen many many many times as most people who regularly use the forums the mods ask people not to critique peoples profiles unless asked. Also if you do not like what the thread is about then not post on it but people do. My original post if you look back was to point out to the op people can get personal on threads and it is not an acceptable practice. Is it so wrong to point out thine things?

i am not commenting on content of your posts .i am mearly pointing out that if you find issue with thread content for what ever reason then reporting said posts will be more effective.

its great you have done that and mods im sure will review as soon as they can, and take what ever action they deem required .after all thats what they are there for "

I would agree with you but sometimes people need to reflect on how they treat people. If there was more courtesy then there would be less frustration and hopefully less intimidation.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

if theres any intimidation then the mods will deal with it .as i say thats what they are there for .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Discuss

word to the wise... you can't complain about someone elses preferences when you have one yourself... so what would you say if they 66+ lady complained about yours???

the simple answer is this..

some people don't fancy playing with people old enough to be mum or dad...

some people don't fancy playing with people young enough to be son or daughter..."
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over a year ago

I honestly think some people read too much into what others say

I would say that thats the biggest problem on the forums xx

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"I honestly think some people read too much into what others say

I would say that thats the biggest problem on the forums xx "

and what exactly are you meaning by that !!?? pmsl xx

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Kenny Powers.... before I reply I just need to clarify one thing....throughout your post quoting what you feel are the inappropriate questions and comments, you frequently state the comments are nothing to do with the original questions posted by the OP. I just want to check you are saying this to demonstrate they are not appropriate... is that correct?

You only have to look at how the OP felt under attack and felt the need to defend himself. He only posted 3 times so i am sure i do not have to quote them. Is it acceptable a fresh user should have to defend his profile when he was only asking some questions on age? I dont think it is do you? "

I answered that one already kenny.

The thing is... what has much of what you have been typing got to do with the original questions? Whether I can read or not, whether I want to make a point or not, what I have or haven't read and so on. It's what happens in threads regardless of how long a person have been around the forums for.

As I said, generally I don't agree with irrelevant profile picking if it has nothing to do with the subject.

My personal opinion in this instance is... they are relevant to what the OP was asking.... as per my cock photo example.

I also believe you have in this thread tip toed along the personal comments line in some of your comments to me. You have at times been a hypocrite in making a point that I was avoiding questions, when just how long did it take you to finally give some examples... and you still have left a number of questions unanswered.

But it's just not worth getting wound up about.

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over a year ago


"if theres any intimidation then the mods will deal with it .as i say thats what they are there for . "

Well that's not totally correct. The mods will deal with abuse, rule breaking etc but people are intelligent and will work within the rules. You can intimidate someone either singularly or within a group to make someone feel unwelcome. Subtlety is well within peoples capability and not obvious and very hard to pin point. The litmus test is to see how people respond. If you look at the way the OP responded in this thread he was taken aback by the responses and i would say didn't see them as friendly. Are you saying i shouldn't pass comment on thins on this thread then?

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

again kenny im not commenting on your posts lol .just sayng the ops are more than capable of dealing with things in the forums that need delt with . youve made a complaint to them ,they will view that and take any action required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've come ALL the way down here thinking it had stopped.

Wow!

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over a year ago


"Kenny Powers.... before I reply I just need to clarify one thing....throughout your post quoting what you feel are the inappropriate questions and comments, you frequently state the comments are nothing to do with the original questions posted by the OP. I just want to check you are saying this to demonstrate they are not appropriate... is that correct?

You only have to look at how the OP felt under attack and felt the need to defend himself. He only posted 3 times so i am sure i do not have to quote them. Is it acceptable a fresh user should have to defend his profile when he was only asking some questions on age? I dont think it is do you?

I answered that one already kenny.

The thing is... what has much of what you have been typing got to do with the original questions? Whether I can read or not, whether I want to make a point or not, what I have or haven't read and so on. It's what happens in threads regardless of how long a person have been around the forums for.

As I said, generally I don't agree with irrelevant profile picking if it has nothing to do with the subject.

My personal opinion in this instance is... they are relevant to what the OP was asking.... as per my cock photo example.

I also believe you have in this thread tip toed along the personal comments line in some of your comments to me. You have at times been a hypocrite in making a point that I was avoiding questions, when just how long did it take you to finally give some examples... and you still have left a number of questions unanswered.

But it's just not worth getting wound up about."

Well don't get wound up then! You asked for examples, you got them yet you really didn't need them as you had already read the thread i am well aware you are looking to try and prove a point to the extent you avoid answering certain questions.

And on you didn't actuality answer the question "s it acceptable a fresh user should have to defend his profile when he was only asking some questions on age?" A yes or no will suffice.

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over a year ago


"I honestly think some people read too much into what others say

I would say that thats the biggest problem on the forums xx

and what exactly are you meaning by that !!?? pmsl xx "

i let myself inta that one didnt i xx

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over a year ago


"again kenny im not commenting on your posts lol .just sayng the ops are more than capable of dealing with things in the forums that need delt with . youve made a complaint to them ,they will view that and take any action required.

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So you are saying what? I should not comment on this thread? Be clear please.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Ooo her, it's only a question! Why is it some of you seem to want to goed every one who puts up a general discussion. ? I'm not a hypocrite

I jus wondered what other people thought! Geeeeeze"

No you wanted agreement, you got peoples thoughts, why ask if u were not open to a variety of opinions?

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

sorry kenny ill be clearer . i have no comment on your posts ,and you can of course post what ever you wish on forums (within site rules of course,and no im not saying you havent been ,just to be very clear ). as i said in origional post its more effective reporting posts ,which youve done. then anything that needs to be removed can be .

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


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Well don't get wound up then! You asked for examples, you got them yet you really didn't need them as you had already read the thread i am well aware you are looking to try and prove a point to the extent you avoid answering certain questions.

And on you didn't actuality answer the question "s it acceptable a fresh user should have to defend his profile when he was only asking some questions on age?" A yes or no will suffice."

Kenny... I did answer the question... at least twice. I don't need to answer yes or no I gave a full answer more than once.

I really don't see what the problem is with trying to make a point in a debate Aren't you trying to make a point now... you bad man.

As for you knowing exactly what I have or haven't read... that's some special gift you seem to think you have there.... but I wouldn't give up the day job just yet.

If your best approach to debate is to make things up, pluck things out of thin air or whatever it is you are now doing... it really is time to stop.

Good night.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Kenny Powers.... before I reply I just need to clarify one thing....throughout your post quoting what you feel are the inappropriate questions and comments, you frequently state the comments are nothing to do with the original questions posted by the OP. I just want to check you are saying this to demonstrate they are not appropriate... is that correct?

Obviously your intent is to try and make a point. You would be far better reading comments made by people in context and with reference to the OP's original post. You did ask for examples and that is what you have.

A yes or no answer would do just fine Kenny....

Of course I want to make a point... what's the point of posting if there is no point... haven't you been trying to make a point?

Isn't debate about making points for and against?

No its about treating people in the appropriate manner especially so if they are new users by people who have been here long enough to know better.

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Have u ever used another forum...i suggest u do ,then come back, debate is the lifeblood of a good forum ppl like you who think no one shud have an opinion, the death of them.

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over a year ago


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Well don't get wound up then! You asked for examples, you got them yet you really didn't need them as you had already read the thread i am well aware you are looking to try and prove a point to the extent you avoid answering certain questions.

And on you didn't actuality answer the question "s it acceptable a fresh user should have to defend his profile when he was only asking some questions on age?" A yes or no will suffice.

Kenny... I did answer the question... at least twice. I don't need to answer yes or no I gave a full answer more than once.

I really don't see what the problem is with trying to make a point in a debate Aren't you trying to make a point now... you bad man.

As for you knowing exactly what I have or haven't read... that's some special gift you seem to think you have there.... but I wouldn't give up the day job just yet.

If your best approach to debate is to make things up, pluck things out of thin air or whatever it is you are now doing... it really is time to stop.

Good night."

Well i am not surprised you didn't answer as you can't really say its acceptable and to say not would be contradictory to what you have been trying to say. It would have been far easier to put 2 or 3 letters rather than the 119 you used.

My point is and always has been is not acceptable to use critiquing someone's profile as a way of browbeating someone into a defensive stance and to condone that sort of behaviour isn't really acceptable no matter what arguments or technicalities you use to try and justify it.

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over a year ago


"sorry kenny ill be clearer . i have no comment on your posts ,and you can of course post what ever you wish on forums (within site rules of course,and no im not saying you havent been ,just to be very clear ). as i said in origional post its more effective reporting posts ,which youve done. then anything that needs to be removed can be . "

Now you may say that but i will differ with you on this as previously said the mods are not present and things can be taken off or left. However pointing things out people reading may take on-board and may change their attitude. Are you saying it is better to treat an incident afterwards at a later date or address issues so others can contemplate and change their habits?

As an example i will use the following.

At school i was taught road safety. I was taught to be careful on the road and look both ways. Now the alternative would have been for the emergency services to close the road, arrest the driver who ran me over and scraped my remains off the road. I am posting that example slightly tongue in cheek but maybe it is a little over the top but explains things a little

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

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Well don't get wound up then! You asked for examples, you got them yet you really didn't need them as you had already read the thread i am well aware you are looking to try and prove a point to the extent you avoid answering certain questions.

And on you didn't actuality answer the question "s it acceptable a fresh user should have to defend his profile when he was only asking some questions on age?" A yes or no will suffice.

Kenny... I did answer the question... at least twice. I don't need to answer yes or no I gave a full answer more than once.

I really don't see what the problem is with trying to make a point in a debate Aren't you trying to make a point now... you bad man.

As for you knowing exactly what I have or haven't read... that's some special gift you seem to think you have there.... but I wouldn't give up the day job just yet.

If your best approach to debate is to make things up, pluck things out of thin air or whatever it is you are now doing... it really is time to stop.

Good night.

Well i am not surprised you didn't answer as you can't really say its acceptable and to say not would be contradictory to what you have been trying to say. It would have been far easier to put 2 or 3 letters rather than the 119 you used.

My point is and always has been is not acceptable to use critiquing someone's profile as a way of browbeating someone into a defensive stance and to condone that sort of behaviour isn't really acceptable no matter what arguments or technicalities you use to try and justify it.

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So you think it is acceptable to express one view on the forum, and in order to get a fuck another in your profile?

Some of us disagree and cling vainly to the idea swinging is about sexual honesty.

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over a year ago


"and if age doesnt matter why are you called older4younger"

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over a year ago


"I prefer younger guys because they go like a barn door in the wind. Last guy I met over 60 at a GB had emphysema and could barely get up the stairs! Why would that be considered attractive?

Sorry you're not getting the attention you think you deserve on here but as so many people have stated, you have to be attractive to get people interested. This post probably hasnt helped."

barn door in the wind, love it! very graphic

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i do like reading a bit of forum vigilanty (sp?) moevement in the morning!!

I think the OP's profile was relevant as he mentioned age limits so its only natural to look at what he put - it wasnt a 'critique' of his profile as no one mentioned anythig other than his age limits

yes perhaps some of the comments, mine included, could have been expanded to include why they have their own preferences but personally i was waiting for an answer as to why the OP has the opinion that age doesnt matter when is does to him as he has age preferences on his profile.

I think its funny how people question and make accusations of other posters being abusive etc and then when they reply, as is anyones natural desire, they get told that by replying they are being too defensive and so proving their 'guilt'!! cant fecking win as if they had let it lie then they would have been avoiding the issue

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By *itianmandyWoman
over a year ago

london


"It irritates me when people say "Age is just a number." or other such cliches. I do NOT want to fuck someone of an age with my parents! It might float other people's boats, but it doesn't float mine."

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Totally agree with this I find such comments patronising and trivialising of my interest in this lifestyle.

When a young straight guy makes such a statement I usually ask why he doesn't meet gay men, after all 'a hole is just a hole'

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over a year ago

I don't see the op as under attack. He has asked if we feel we are missing out on something because some of us have age restrictions. But when somebody poses that question when they themselves have their own age restriction then surely he has answered his own question and it is relevant to the debate. It would be different if he had said why he has his own age restriction before asking people to comment on theirs.

But you live and learn quickly on the forums. I was banned in my first few weeks for something I posted and have taken it on board and it hasn't put me off. So there it is, you are stuck with me

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"sorry kenny ill be clearer . i have no comment on your posts ,and you can of course post what ever you wish on forums (within site rules of course,and no im not saying you havent been ,just to be very clear ). as i said in origional post its more effective reporting posts ,which youve done. then anything that needs to be removed can be .

Now you may say that but i will differ with you on this as previously said the mods are not present and things can be taken off or left. However pointing things out people reading may take on-board and may change their attitude. Are you saying it is better to treat an incident afterwards at a later date or address issues so others can contemplate and change their habits?

As an example i will use the following.

At school i was taught road safety. I was taught to be careful on the road and look both ways. Now the alternative would have been for the emergency services to close the road, arrest the driver who ran me over and scraped my remains off the road. I am posting that example slightly tongue in cheek but maybe it is a little over the top but explains things a little"

no mods arent always available straight away . they also can only remove people posts after the event not before ,as handy as that trick would be.they will review the posts you have reported and if they required removed they will do so as you will know from other threads .

you have made your view point crystal clear and i doubt there will be one person on thread who isnt awear where you stand .so if there is anyone who wished to reconsider their view point im sure theyve had ample opertunities by now to do so

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


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Well i am not surprised you didn't answer .... "

Oh Kenny Kenny Kenny.... and you have the scampish cheek to say I am 'playing ignorant' and make comments about my ability to read.

I did answer the question.

Answer 1:


"

OK - if you must go down the 'generalising' route... generally if it is not relevant to the thread subject then no it isn't.

However, let's say someone posted how pointless cock shots were and how they were a waste of photo space and a simple body shot would be a much better photo to use.

Fair comment, everyone can have an opinion.... but if the posters name was LookAtMyNob, their avatar was a close up cock shot and it was the only photo on their profile... then yeah I would think it appropriate for people to point out the contradictions. "

Answer 2:


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As I said, generally I don't agree with irrelevant profile picking if it has nothing to do with the subject.

My personal opinion in this instance is... they are relevant to what the OP was asking.... as per my cock photo example.

"

And prior to those two...


" The OP used himself as an example in his post.... kind of makes his profile relevant in this instance.... especially as he's asking about what others put on theirs. "

Tut tut for being so misleading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my answer to this is easy, my dad is 51, hence why i'm not fucking anyone near his age group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondered what you think? I'm now 51, I dress like a 30 yr old, act like a 20yr old and allways wondered what a 50 yr old looks like? As most of my age group, ex school friends loook like 60yr olds lol

So, I've had 20 yr olds, 40 yrs old and 65+ yr olds

Sex is sex I've enjoyed them all.

So why do people put age restrictions?

An older looking 40 yr old is the same as a young looking 50 yr old is it not?

So, Do you think you could be missing out on a good swing partner by restricting age??

My Missus Who is 50 has had a 20 yr old, a 35 yr old, a 50 yr old and wait for it , a 69 yr old

No complaints about any of them!!

Discuss "

if age is just a number, as your trying to get over on your post, why have the user name older4younger? that suggest that yourself prefure people not your own age?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kenny Powers.... before I reply I just need to clarify one thing....throughout your post quoting what you feel are the inappropriate questions and comments, you frequently state the comments are nothing to do with the original questions posted by the OP. I just want to check you are saying this to demonstrate they are not appropriate... is that correct?

You only have to look at how the OP felt under attack and felt the need to defend himself. He only posted 3 times so i am sure i do not have to quote them. Is it acceptable a fresh user should have to defend his profile when he was only asking some questions on age? I dont think it is do you?

I answered that one already kenny.

The thing is... what has much of what you have been typing got to do with the original questions? Whether I can read or not, whether I want to make a point or not, what I have or haven't read and so on. It's what happens in threads regardless of how long a person have been around the forums for.

As I said, generally I don't agree with irrelevant profile picking if it has nothing to do with the subject.

My personal opinion in this instance is... they are relevant to what the OP was asking.... as per my cock photo example.

I also believe you have in this thread tip toed along the personal comments line in some of your comments to me. You have at times been a hypocrite in making a point that I was avoiding questions, when just how long did it take you to finally give some examples... and you still have left a number of questions unanswered.

But it's just not worth getting wound up about.

Well don't get wound up then! You asked for examples, you got them yet you really didn't need them as you had already read the thread i am well aware you are looking to try and prove a point to the extent you avoid answering certain questions.

And on you didn't actuality answer the question "s it acceptable a fresh user should have to defend his profile when he was only asking some questions on age?" A yes or no will suffice."

No its not acceptable Kenny but You re not going to get someone to say so if they are being defensive. It happens lots on the forums as people read things they don't like and react.

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over a year ago

Wow, how a simple thread can get so totally taken of track by some people.

People have general age limits because of one reason, that's what they want to do. Now wether they end up meeting people outside of their own preference is up to them also.

Though, when someone ask questions as to WHY other people have age preferences on their profiles, making it sound as if they think it's wrong to do so, then they end up having preferences themselves, it smacks of "what's the point" in my book.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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No its not acceptable Kenny but You re not going to get someone to say so if they are being defensive. It happens lots on the forums as people read things they don't like and react. "

You also won't get someone to agree if they don't actually agree with Kenny's point.

I certainly have no need to be defensive, as I am not one of the people who made the comments Kenny refers to.

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over a year ago


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No its not acceptable Kenny but You re not going to get someone to say so if they are being defensive. It happens lots on the forums as people read things they don't like and react.

You also won't get someone to agree if they don't actually agree with Kenny's point.

I certainly have no need to be defensive, as I am not one of the people who made the comments Kenny refers to.

"

Look i don't want to argue with you but it would have been simpler just to answer his question or ignore it. To be honest it just looks like you are trying to defend others and then we get to the clique thing and i am not going there.

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over a year ago


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No its not acceptable Kenny but You re not going to get someone to say so if they are being defensive. It happens lots on the forums as people read things they don't like and react.

You also won't get someone to agree if they don't actually agree with Kenny's point.

I certainly have no need to be defensive, as I am not one of the people who made the comments Kenny refers to.

Look i don't want to argue with you but it would have been simpler just to answer his question or ignore it. To be honest it just looks like you are trying to defend others and then we get to the clique thing and i am not going there.

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You are in trouble now you have mentioned the "C" word!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Phew.

To critique a profile when it isn't relevant to the thread isn't allowed, but the man was asking about age preference, so that part of his profile would be relevant to the question.

I didn't see any other part of his profile critiqued.

I don't think the man was attacked in any way, but some took his post and rolly eyed emoticon as attacking their preferences and got defensive ( or thats how it came across)

So 6 of one and half a dozen of another.

Just a little bit about mods though, if the forum mods are not online, still report any post / thread you think is getting out of hand, as the REPORTS go straight to Admin anyway and they can deal with it if needed.

( off to re read incase I missed something first time round, if I have, mail us )

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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No its not acceptable Kenny but You re not going to get someone to say so if they are being defensive. It happens lots on the forums as people read things they don't like and react. "

its not sometimes a case of whether something is likes, it is sometimes a case of whether something is agreed with.. if I disagree with an opinion stated then I will try and back that up with some sort of reasoning...

back to the thread (wouldn't want to be accused of anything by anyone now)

since one of my comments was one that Kenny dragged up and claimed to be abusive I feel like I have to reply

since I was one of the people accused of "profile critique-ing" for mentioning the double standard of complaining of someone elses preference whilst having one of your own is a very fair and valid comment....

is the answer to remove said age prefer.. no... thats not being true to yourself, but maybe the answer is to be more understanding and tolerant of the reasons why people may well have them...

so Kenny you took my answer out of context.. since you never decided to put down the rest of my post did you???

I would like an apology.. I doubt whether I will get one, and I am not holding my breath...

Do I think you will come back to this thread no... probably not..people will read into the entire thread and make up there own minds on the subject... but I don't any of the answers giving before you stormed in and made the thread a lot longer than it would of been...

in fact I could almost say that you have done the same thing you accused everyone else of doing.. being personal! now... thats that double standard "H" word again???

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


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No its not acceptable Kenny but You re not going to get someone to say so if they are being defensive. It happens lots on the forums as people read things they don't like and react.

You also won't get someone to agree if they don't actually agree with Kenny's point.

I certainly have no need to be defensive, as I am not one of the people who made the comments Kenny refers to.

Look i don't want to argue with you but it would have been simpler just to answer his question or ignore it. To be honest it just looks like you are trying to defend others and then we get to the clique thing and i am not going there.

"

I don't want to argue either... I want to discuss.

I did answer his question... twice... even though he kept trying to say I hadn't.

I am not 'defending' anyone... unless of course Kenny is 'attacking' them.... and even then am I not allowed an opinion?

I have stated my thoughts as an observer, just as Kenny has. I believe I have just as much right to do that as he has? Or am I missing something here?

You say you don't want to go there on the 'clique' route, yet you throw in the word like a cheap shot. Kenny gave his opinion and made some bold (though often generalised) statements about his perspective... which he has every right to do. Am I not allowed to do the same?

Is this what debate and forums have come to... if you actually have an indipendant though which happens to support other people's comments the word 'clique' is going to be thrown in as a deflection tactic?

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over a year ago


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No its not acceptable Kenny but You re not going to get someone to say so if they are being defensive. It happens lots on the forums as people read things they don't like and react.

its not sometimes a case of whether something is likes, it is sometimes a case of whether something is agreed with.. if I disagree with an opinion stated then I will try and back that up with some sort of reasoning...

back to the thread (wouldn't want to be accused of anything by anyone now)

since one of my comments was one that Kenny dragged up and claimed to be abusive I feel like I have to reply

since I was one of the people accused of "profile critique-ing" for mentioning the double standard of complaining of someone elses preference whilst having one of your own is a very fair and valid comment....

is the answer to remove said age prefer.. no... thats not being true to yourself, but maybe the answer is to be more understanding and tolerant of the reasons why people may well have them...

so Kenny you took my answer out of context.. since you never decided to put down the rest of my post did you???

I would like an apology.. I doubt whether I will get one, and I am not holding my breath...

Do I think you will come back to this thread no... probably not..people will read into the entire thread and make up there own minds on the subject... but I don't any of the answers giving before you stormed in and made the thread a lot longer than it would of been...

in fact I could almost say that you have done the same thing you accused everyone else of doing.. being personal! now... thats that double standard "H" word again??? "

Lol the balls of some people lol! Read the thread Fabio he declined to do it a couple of times until Polo kept pushing.

Its looking very "C" again.

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over a year ago


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No its not acceptable Kenny but You re not going to get someone to say so if they are being defensive. It happens lots on the forums as people read things they don't like and react.

You also won't get someone to agree if they don't actually agree with Kenny's point.

I certainly have no need to be defensive, as I am not one of the people who made the comments Kenny refers to.

Look i don't want to argue with you but it would have been simpler just to answer his question or ignore it. To be honest it just looks like you are trying to defend others and then we get to the clique thing and i am not going there.

I don't want to argue either... I want to discuss.

I did answer his question... twice... even though he kept trying to say I hadn't.

I am not 'defending' anyone... unless of course Kenny is 'attacking' them.... and even then am I not allowed an opinion?

I have stated my thoughts as an observer, just as Kenny has. I believe I have just as much right to do that as he has? Or am I missing something here?

You say you don't want to go there on the 'clique' route, yet you throw in the word like a cheap shot. Kenny gave his opinion and made some bold (though often generalised) statements about his perspective... which he has every right to do. Am I not allowed to do the same?

Is this what debate and forums have come to... if you actually have an indipendant though which happens to support other people's comments the word 'clique' is going to be thrown in as a deflection tactic?

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Ever thought of becoming a politician?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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Lol the balls of some people lol! Read the thread Fabio he declined to do it a couple of times until Polo kept pushing.

Its looking very "C" again.

"

If someone states there are abusive (or whatever else) statements in a thread, is it wrong to ask them to point the comments out before giving an opinion as to whether they are indeed what the person claims they are?

If someone wants to label people as being abusive then I think it is only fair they have the balls to state which comments they refer to.

I didn't push him to label the comments and the people who made them, he'd already done that... I asked him to give examples to back up his accusation.

How that has anything to do with the 'C' word is beyond me.

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over a year ago


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Lol the balls of some people lol! Read the thread Fabio he declined to do it a couple of times until Polo kept pushing.

Its looking very "C" again.

If someone states there are abusive (or whatever else) statements in a thread, is it wrong to ask them to point the comments out before giving an opinion as to whether they are indeed what the person claims they are?

If someone wants to label people as being abusive then I think it is only fair they have the balls to state which comments they refer to.

I didn't push him to label the comments and the people who made them, he'd already done that... I asked him to give examples to back up his accusation.

How that has anything to do with the 'C' word is beyond me."

I love the way you pull things out of context. Funny as fuck! The liberals will need a new leader soon apply

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


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Lol the balls of some people lol! Read the thread Fabio he declined to do it a couple of times until Polo kept pushing.

Its looking very "C" again.

If someone states there are abusive (or whatever else) statements in a thread, is it wrong to ask them to point the comments out before giving an opinion as to whether they are indeed what the person claims they are?

If someone wants to label people as being abusive then I think it is only fair they have the balls to state which comments they refer to.

I didn't push him to label the comments and the people who made them, he'd already done that... I asked him to give examples to back up his accusation.

How that has anything to do with the 'C' word is beyond me.

I love the way you pull things out of context. Funny as fuck! The liberals will need a new leader soon apply "

Please do explain how it is out of context? But hurry the thread is getting to it's limit.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Ok this is just going round in circles now and nothing to do with the OP.

Thread closed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Lol the balls of some people lol! Read the thread Fabio he declined to do it a couple of times until Polo kept pushing.

Its looking very "C" again.

If someone states there are abusive (or whatever else) statements in a thread, is it wrong to ask them to point the comments out before giving an opinion as to whether they are indeed what the person claims they are?

If someone wants to label people as being abusive then I think it is only fair they have the balls to state which comments they refer to.

I didn't push him to label the comments and the people who made them, he'd already done that... I asked him to give examples to back up his accusation.

How that has anything to do with the 'C' word is beyond me.

I love the way you pull things out of context. Funny as fuck! The liberals will need a new leader soon apply

Please do explain how it is out of context? But hurry the thread is getting to it's limit."

Look i have read this thread and laugh at some of it and cringed at others. You were pushing Kenny in the hope he made a mistake to jump on. Now you have subtlety substituted his points on critiquing and put the abuse word there to get a better point across.

Lets face it some of the regulars jumped in on a new poster but that always seems to happen. I do love the way you have to argue a point its made my day. Polo for Prime Minister i say

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