FabSwingers.com forum: Who dislikes/hates the term "bbc"

By *andsome_Chef88 OP Man
over a year ago

London

Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory?

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory?

It always makes me uncomfortable when I see it.

It just seems to objectify people.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory?

It always makes me uncomfortable when I see it.

It just seems to objectify people."

Obviously, however, I'm not black!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike that term along with bbw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with both....but a lot of black guys seem to play on the term...thinking it will impress? Even if they don’t really qualify for the first b.

You don’t tend to see bwc being used as a term do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit when i see clubs advertising ‘BBC appreciation nights’ it makes me cringe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ITV

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We spoke to a guy on here who professed to hate the term bbc. He did, however, use it as part of his user name!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I think despise is a bit strong for how we feel. It’s not a term we use nor seek it specifically. It does make me wonder about the guys that do use it but that’s up to them.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I dislike that term along with bbw "

Yes well imagine my disdain when we got an invite to a bbc and bbw night

Cheeky fuckers

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

don't worry its a long running subject.... lol

some people i am sure will be along to say "haters gonna hate"...

the more the message gets out that it turns off as many people as it turns on, the more people will think about its usage.. or think twice about using it!

anyway.... its a double edged sword... it only stops being used if people themselves dont use it if they see it as having some sort of advantage....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't despise it. Some use it to advertise. Some use it to find what they want. It doesn't offend me anymore than bbw does. Just not something I'm into.

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By *ish you were here!Couple
over a year ago

Kidderminster ...ish

Me ...wife says mines. l w c

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

For me the problem is people assuming it’s okay to call black guys that. If it’s in someone’s profile, fine, but if not don’t use it.

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

It's not a black and white issue

More of a grey area, for some people clearly their main selling point they have is having what they describe as a 'BBC'. For others it's a stereotypical view.

Can't really criticise those who do advertise their BBC though due to the sheer number of profiles stating that as a preference and obviously they want to appeal to those desires in order to secure meets.

Not sure 'BBC' is any less offensive than the words 'big black cock' but I'm not in a position to tell people what to be offended by.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"Agree with both....but a lot of black guys seem to play on the term...thinking it will impress? Even if they don’t really qualify for the first b.

You don’t tend to see bwc being used as a term do you?"

Hmmm, just as you see some women use the term MILF, but you don't tend to see men use the term FILF , do you?

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By *RnMrsFreakCouple
over a year ago

Hull,England

"don't worry its a long running subject.... lol

some people i am sure will be along to say "haters gonna hate"...

the more the message gets out that it turns off as many people as it turns on, the more people will think about its usage.. or think twice about using it!

anyway.... its a double edged sword... it only stops being used if people themselves dont use it if they see it as having some sort of advantage...."

We agree, and find it a bit off-putting, like their cock is the only feature they have,

Personally we think that people who use it are letting themselves down a bit, and maybe even spoiling it for others.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"We spoke to a guy on here who professed to hate the term bbc. He did, however, use it as part of his user name!"

And that's the thing with Fabs you see.Some people say things on here, when in reality they mean the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like it, it comes across as thats all they can bring to the party whereas I'm sure that isn't the case. I wouldn't want to describe myself as Fat Average Ginger even if there was such a "fetish"

Ginger

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Total block, to me, and this is my perspective, people are people and not a marketed commodity.

Still what do I know, if people are happy with a label....

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By *otcheshiremaleMan
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I've only met one guy with BBC in his user name and profile description. I should of asked for a refund under the trade description/ false advertising act

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I've only met one guy with BBC in his user name and profile description. I should of asked for a refund under the trade description/ false advertising act

well it does beg the question how big. That’s gotta be subjective.

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By *otcheshiremaleMan
over a year ago

Manchester

darent refer to a girl TBP/TWP (Tight Black/White Pussy) so why is it acceptable for girls to refer to black men as BBC.

It's not the size that counts it's what you were born with, accept it.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory? "

You are among some who don't like it.

Some others like it, and some others are indifferent.

The thing to point out is: that it is not just black guys who use that label. There are 100s of women and couples profiles that state they are looking for BBC.

So.... the guys that use the BBC label have their admirers.

A guy using the BBC label is no different from women who use labels like: BBW, MILF, Cougar, Ebony etc

Like I said people who use these labels have their admirers.

Using these labels is how those people make themselves easily identifiable to those looking for them.

Kudos to them I say.

Labels will always be part and parcel of the swinging community. It will never go away.

Don't like it ? Well Tough!

Move on to the next "non-label" profile.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"I've only met one guy with BBC in his user name and profile description. I should of asked for a refund under the trade description/ false advertising act

well it does beg the question how big. That’s gotta be subjective.

It would of been big if I was a dwarf

. God knows what he measured it with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it cringe as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no issues with labels. For example I describe myself as a Hotwife because that’s what I am. I’m happy to be called a MILF, because it is indeed accurate to say I am a mum who likes to fuck. But I would not want to describe myself as a body part. So as a result I’m not partial to the term BBC. Black men are men not cocks. It’s not so bad if used to describe their cock if the cock happens to be big. But I’m not keen on describing a person as a big black cock. I don’t think I’d want to be described as a tight pink pussy.

Mrs

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By *andsome_Chef88 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"For me the problem is people assuming it’s okay to call black guys that. If it’s in someone’s profile, fine, but if not don’t use it. "

This right here.

I think people think by saying it to a black guy that all black guys see it as a compliment. I disagree, I just feel it's very cringe.

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

I absolutely hate it. It builds on years of stereotyping black men’s sexuality as extreme, uncontrollable and animalistic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me but I'm a waac(white above average cock)lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldnt care less what something is called anymore. Racism is dying, homosexuality is more neutral than ever before and there's about 10 genders. Who cares what someone calls a cock?

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

"I couldnt care less what something is called anymore. Racism is dying, homosexuality is more neutral than ever before and there's about 10 genders. Who cares what someone calls a cock?"

Racism is dying is it? You're either very naïve or very ignorant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldnt care less what something is called anymore. Racism is dying, homosexuality is more neutral than ever before and there's about 10 genders. Who cares what someone calls a cock?

Racism is dying is it? You're either very naïve or very ignorant."

Yes it is. Is it still there? Definitely. But it is definitely decreasing with each generation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory? "
doesn't bother me its an abbreviation not a statement and if the guys big and black and got a cock a pretty accurate one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are offended by everything these days, it seems you can't get it right whatever term or label you use to describe what you want.

I have seen countless profiles on many sites where a black guy describes himself as BBC.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory?

You are among some who don't like it.

Some others like it, and some others are indifferent.

The thing to point out is: that it is not just black guys who use that label. There are 100s of women and couples profiles that state they are looking for BBC.

So.... the guys that use the BBC label have their admirers.

A guy using the BBC label is no different from women who use labels like: BBW, MILF, Cougar, Ebony etc

Like I said people who use these labels have their admirers.

Using these labels is how those people make themselves easily identifiable to those looking for them.

Kudos to them I say.

Labels will always be part and parcel of the swinging community. It will never go away.

Don't like it ? Well Tough!

Move on to the next "non-label" profile."

And with that perfectly balanced rational post, there's really no point reading any subsequent posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory?

You are among some who don't like it.

Some others like it, and some others are indifferent.

The thing to point out is: that it is not just black guys who use that label. There are 100s of women and couples profiles that state they are looking for BBC.

So.... the guys that use the BBC label have their admirers.

A guy using the BBC label is no different from women who use labels like: BBW, MILF, Cougar, Ebony etc

Like I said people who use these labels have their admirers.

Using these labels is how those people make themselves easily identifiable to those looking for them.

Kudos to them I say.

Labels will always be part and parcel of the swinging community. It will never go away.

Don't like it ? Well Tough!

Move on to the next "non-label" profile."

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are offended by everything these days, it seems you can't get it right whatever term or label you use to describe what you want.

I have seen countless profiles on many sites where a black guy describes himself as BBC. "

I agree, just can't win. Someone will be offended no matter what.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends brother that is black hates that label yet he thinks it's ok to call his white gf bmt black man's trash.

She seems to like that label but to me both labels are idiotic and people only seem to like labels that are a advantage to them.

There's a lot of words that are acceptable when people call it themselves but when others call it them it becomes unacceptable.

I think a lot of hurt can be caused by the context in how a word is said and the motives behind how the word is used.The intent can cause more hurt than the word itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Statements like "... Everyone seems to be offended by something theses days." Are inaccurate. We are talking about a group of individuals, with a wide set of different values and standards. So, of course you will cause offense at some point using such labels. To avoid it, the best thing to do would be to simply address people by their name - like a human being.

If we were to objectively talk about labels as good or bad, separate from subjective choice, then I would fall into them being generally a bad thing. As they mislead people, fetishize others and generally help keep people separate from one another.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

I really hate the term (as I do 'queen of spades' too). A quick Google search will turn up some excellent articles on why BBC can be considered so objectifying, and how it reinforces very negative stereotypes about black men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory? doesn't bother me its an abbreviation not a statement and if the guys big and black and got a cock a pretty accurate one

But it’s not accurate to describe a person as a cock.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many terms which objectify people, all, of course, from the world of porn, so what do you expect? However BBC and similar terms are now common abbreviations and have become a convenient shorthand. It's how people treat each other in person that counts

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Agree with both....but a lot of black guys seem to play on the term...thinking it will impress? Even if they don’t really qualify for the first b.

You don’t tend to see bwc being used as a term do you?"

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

"I really hate the term (as I do 'queen of spades' too). A quick Google search will turn up some excellent articles on why BBC can be considered so objectifying, and how it reinforces very negative stereotypes about black men."

Absolutely agree but I doubt many care about it’s implications of how these terms are used and this includes black men.

In its simplistic form, BBC is fine for description only but it’s often used to describe a person, which I’ve experienced.

Dating as a whole can be very difficult in general and if the only way to find easier dates is to accept being labelled a Spade, a BBC or for someone to have a fetish for black women then we’ll do without. -M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the licence fee I don't like. Deny all rights of access and don't let them in.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory?

You are among some who don't like it.

Some others like it, and some others are indifferent.

The thing to point out is: that it is not just black guys who use that label. There are 100s of women and couples profiles that state they are looking for BBC.

So.... the guys that use the BBC label have their admirers.

A guy using the BBC label is no different from women who use labels like: BBW, MILF, Cougar, Ebony etc

Like I said people who use these labels have their admirers.

Using these labels is how those people make themselves easily identifiable to those looking for them.

Kudos to them I say.

Labels will always be part and parcel of the swinging community. It will never go away.

Don't like it ? Well Tough!

Move on to the next "non-label" profile."

Personally I'm not keen on the term, but others have every right to describe themselves as such.

When I was actively playing I did get fed up of the same, monosyllabic messages along the lines of 'wife want BBC, interested?', which usually received the reply 'no thanks, bore off!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never see channel 4 or itv getting touted about, it's all about the BBC. Prefer comedy central myself.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I dislike that term along with bbw "

You know I’m kinda seeing where you and the OP are coming from ...

A question I’ve always thought is at what point do they class themselves as BBC or BBW ??

What if you are a black man with an average cock ? Do you still put the extra ‘b’ in ?

Is there a certain weight for BBW ?

I guess for club night advertising there is a purpose but not a fan of labels myself it’s nice to be unique

It’s very interesting reading peoples views

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

A question I’ve always thought is at what point do they class themselves as BBC or BBW ??

I wonder if these labels become a part of the swinging community common vocabulary that people adopt without really thinking about what they actually signify.

eg someone notices that some black men on the site refer to themselves as 'BBC' and so does it too, regardless of actual dick size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory? "

Same here, not as extreme but MILF and cougar too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a straight guy I don’t search men’s profiles so don’t know how much the term is used but loads of white wormen use it in their profile “BBC only” etc. So it’s not just black guys using it for their own marketing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But it’s not accurate to describe a person as a cock.

Mrs "
BBC big black cock depends how you read it doesn't it ,its an abbreviation just like OHOC or SWF its not an insult its just a description that some black guys use to describe themselves in this lifestyle don't see the problem its only demeaning if you say it in a demeaning way,it doesn't define the person as a whole

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By *andsome_Chef88 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Statements like "... Everyone seems to be offended by something theses days." Are inaccurate. We are talking about a group of individuals, with a wide set of different values and standards. So, of course you will cause offense at some point using such labels. To avoid it, the best thing to do would be to simply address people by their name - like a human being.

well done sir. this is a good statement

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

"As a straight guy I don’t search men’s profiles so don’t know how much the term is used but loads of white wormen use it in their profile “BBC only” etc. So it’s not just black guys using it for their own marketing. "

Presumably the black men using the term are doing so in response to the language used by their target audience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory? "

I hate people who have to say how big or what colour their cock is. I never feel the need to state that I have a barely average little white cock, it seems to explain itself actually. Maybe some people need it in writing so they can complain to customer services if it is not as advertised. Also I have seen many white guys who are just as big so shut up about it!

Most guys have little confidence about their cock size anyway, so stop emphasizing it. People's personality matters more than a little flappy bit of skin.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

"My friends brother that is black hates that label yet he thinks it's ok to call his white gf bmt black man's trash.

She seems to like that label but to me both labels are idiotic and people only seem to like labels that are a advantage to them.

That sounds like a dysfunctional relationship to me!

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

"I dislike that term along with bbw

You know I’m kinda seeing where you and the OP are coming from ...

A question I’ve always thought is at what point do they class themselves as BBC or BBW ??

What if you are a black man with an average cock ? Do you still put the extra ‘b’ in ?

Is there a certain weight for BBW ?

I guess for club night advertising there is a purpose but not a fan of labels myself it’s nice to be unique

It’s very interesting reading peoples views

At least the w in bbw refers to woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BBC is for males description.

And for females???

BDP?(big deep pussy)?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Presumably the black men using the term are doing so in response to the language used by their target audience?"
and what is the language predominantly used on a sex site and what is the thing of the moment for middle aged white swinging couples at the moment ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But it’s not accurate to describe a person as a cock.

Mrs BBC big black cock depends how you read it doesn't it ,its an abbreviation just like OHOC or SWF its not an insult its just a description that some black guys use to describe themselves in this lifestyle don't see the problem its only demeaning if you say it in a demeaning way,it doesn't define the person as a whole

Indeed. It’s not entirely clear if the term BBC refers to the person on the body part. If a man says ‘I have a BBC’ I would enterpret that to mean he has a big black cock. But if he says ‘I am a BBC’ then he is saying that he is a big black cock, and I’m sure why any man would want to describe himself as a cock. I guess the reality is that this has now become a term to describe black men whatever the size of their cock.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are always referring to themselves by their physical features. I don't understand why it becomes a problem for black people to do the same without causing offence or being judged as vapid. I've seen profiles with descriptors such as (and I'm not referring to any particular profiles. If there's anyone with these exact descriptors as their usernames it is purely coincidental);

'Blue Eyed'

'Blonde'

'Double D's'

'Perky Tits'

'Big Nipples'

'Big ol booty'

'Tanned'

'Porcelain'

'Bearded'

'Muscular'

'Tight pussy'

'Tall'

'Hung'

'Big'

'Ginger'

Etc. We could go on all day!

No one assumes these physical descriptors make you shallow or that you have less to offer or that your identity is limited to those descriptors. I'm interested in why only the descriptors containing 'black' are a problem. Is it the 'big' in 'big black cock' that causes offence or is it the 'black'? Are all descriptors of a big cock problematic or only a big black cock? I suggest all of us take a sincere look at our usernames and then tell yourself with a straight face that your username conveys all of your complexity and sophistry as a well rounded person. It doesn't! So why must a black man's username/title have the superpower of conveying that he's not shallow and self-absorbed? And I'm going to say "so what" if a person only has to offer that or is only looking for that. There are plenty of people looking for specific things and have specific fetishes.

It's so funny that with all the profile pics of cocks, asses, tits and fannies flashing about the site and forum, those same profiles are feigning concern about sexual objectification, hah. It's understandable that it causes insecurities to rise either for black men who fear they have nothing to offer if they aren't/don't have a BBC or for white men who feel that 'big' has become associated only with 'black' leaving them feeling redundant too. Neither of those fears are valid excuses to project onto women and men who use the term willingly and to zero in on what they are looking for. I don't use it for myself but I'm not going to get offended if you call me BBC. If we can be adults and communicate our sexual preferences and boundaries clearly, then I can certainly just tell you what I prefer to be called if you get it wrong. No big deal.

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By *RnMrsFreakCouple
over a year ago

Hull,England

Do people look for BBC because some men describe themselves as BBC, or do men call or describe themselves as BBC because some people search for BBC.

Logic would dictate the former as you don't search terms that aren't already in use.

Just stop using the term and it will soon disappear, just like the N word has declined in use. With the exception of film and rap music we're happy to say it's been years since we've heard the N word used. It might be different in other parts of the country but here in Yorkshire we know better.

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

"People are always referring to themselves by their physical features. I don't understand why it becomes a problem for black people to do the same without causing offence or being judged as vapid. I've seen profiles with descriptors such as (and I'm not referring to any particular profiles. If there's anyone with these exact descriptors as their usernames it is purely coincidental);

'Blue Eyed'

'Blonde'

'Double D's'

'Perky Tits'

'Big Nipples'

'Big ol booty'

'Tanned'

'Porcelain'

'Bearded'

'Muscular'

'Tight pussy'

'Tall'

'Hung'

'Big'

'Ginger'

Etc. We could go on all day!

Come on lads where’s all the Big White Cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I never feel the need to state that I have a barely average little white cock... "

But you just did??

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By *abmummy27Woman
over a year ago

up north

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory?

You are among some who don't like it.

Some others like it, and some others are indifferent.

The thing to point out is: that it is not just black guys who use that label. There are 100s of women and couples profiles that state they are looking for BBC.

So.... the guys that use the BBC label have their admirers.

A guy using the BBC label is no different from women who use labels like: BBW, MILF, Cougar, Ebony etc

Like I said people who use these labels have their admirers.

Using these labels is how those people make themselves easily identifiable to those looking for them.

Kudos to them I say.

Labels will always be part and parcel of the swinging community. It will never go away.

Don't like it ? Well Tough!

Move on to the next "non-label" profile."

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Its up there with bbw. I dislike both terms. A person is far more than their body.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

I think if you're referring to an entire black man as just a BBC then that is offensive, of you're describing his cock it's not. The same way it wouldn't be offensive to describe a big white cock as a BWC. If you shrink someone down to just one component of their body then yes I think that's offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I feel the term BBC robs me of my individuality and unfairly puts me into a general stereotyped category.

Formost an entire race of men should not be categorised by the size of their dicks as if they have no other attributes worthy of mention.

Ultimately I think a lot of black men will agree that we have much more going for us than what's in our pants and I would rather be considered based on my intellect, and personality .... What's in my pants should simply be the icing on the cake.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

If you don’t like the term don’t use it

If my inbox is currently anything to go by very few black men take issue with calling them selves it, the majority are using it as a “unique” selling point

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I dislike that term along with bbw "

This and unicorn.

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

The black guys I’ve met have had a great sense of humour (well they’ve met me lol), respectful, easy going, laid back, passionate and a lot of fun. If they’ve had a big cock then that’s fine but I’ve enjoyed their company and the fun whatever the size of their cock.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

" and what is the thing of the moment for middle aged white swinging couples at the moment ?

I rather hope it's an elegant cream tea followed by Countryfile

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By *eneral_NoStringsMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I'm pretty indifferent to it. I personally don't use the term myself. But I don't take offence to it either. To me it's the same as using MILF, BBW, Bull, Hot Wife etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I feel the term BBC robs me of my individuality and unfairly puts me into a general stereotyped category.

Formost an entire race of men should not be categorised by the size of their dicks as if they have no other attributes worthy of mention.

I agree with you but also have this to say;

I just love how the very people who claim to be against objectification are the same ones fragmenting and reducing black men down to whatever feature they wish to accentuate in their selling pitch.

To the women who have a particular or exclusive interest in black men, black men are ALREADY known to them for having a certain swagger and interesting personalities, not to mention bed performance. When those women who particularly like black men say 'BBC', they are referring to ALL of that in a package. The haters want to limit that to only the physical dick so that they can convey that black men have no personality if they have have a big cock and dare to take any ownership of it. It's a defensive psychological strategy to monopolise all other positive qualities men can have so you're only left with the big cock and appear to have less to offer.

If you have a big black cock and a smoking hot woman messaged you right now saying she wants your big black cock today, are you going to say "time out, I have my intellect and personality to offer and I'd rather be chosen for that too"? If you don't have a BBC then fine, but c'mon. Intellect and personality will show and women ask for men to have that all the time. Why can't they also ask for a big cock if that's what they're looking for, and why not a black one?

Men are being disingenuous here because we all like to talk about getting 'pussy' or getting a hot 'piece of ass', 'head', etc. What's with this assumption that men with big black cocks can't be intellectuals or have great personality? I'll tell you what, because it's a strategy to strip your public image of anything wholesome and complex to reduce you to being the sum total of whatever feature you accentuate in your self - description. It's competition. Don't fall for it.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"Personally I feel the term BBC robs me of my individuality and unfairly puts me into a general stereotyped category.

Formost an entire race of men should not be categorised by the size of their dicks as if they have no other attributes worthy of mention.

I agree with you but also have this to say;

I just love how the very people who claim to be against objectification are the same ones fragmenting and reducing black men down to whatever feature they wish to accentuate in their selling pitch.

Thanks you Sir

Some ( not all) people seem to have "less" issues with women using labels such as: BBW, MILF, Couger, Ebony, Queen of spades etc.

But as long as it is an issue to do with single men ( especially black men), some people get the Hump!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory?

It always makes me uncomfortable when I see it.

It just seems to objectify people."
does BBW make u uncomfortable as well ?

I don't have any problems with any it like a text message instead of big black cock (bbc)big white cock (bwc)big beautiful woman (bbw)it makes it easier

does the British broad cast (BBC)put u off ? of course not so why bother lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a difference between describing a person as a big black cock versus a big beautiful women. The former is describing a human being as a body part, the latter is not. I personally am not prepared to describe a man as a cock, any more so than I would be happy being described as a pussy. But each to their own - if someone doesn’t mind being described as a body part that’s fine.

Mrs

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"There is a difference between describing a person as a big black cock versus a big beautiful women. The former is describing a human being as a body part, the latter is not. I personally am not prepared to describe a man as a cock, any more so than I would be happy being described as a pussy. But each to their own - if someone doesn’t mind being described as a body part that’s fine.

Mrs"

The problem is that you and some others seem to interpret these labels " as it says on the tin"; when in fact that's not how they are necessarily used or interpreted by those who hold these labels or their admirers.

For Eg the term BBW = Big Beautiful women.

Are all BBWs beautiful? to everyone?

Certainly not.

When some women use this label the are just saying that they are "big" and not necessary claiming that they are beautiful as the label suggests.

Sometimes the emphasis is on the size of the woman rather than her beauty.

In the same way when the term BBC is used, it sometimes just indicates that it is a black guy being refereed to. The emphasis is on the colour of the guy rather than his cock.

There are times when some people advertise a BBC party.

The advertisers don't always check whether all the guys have a big cock.

They are simply asking "Black guys" to attend, irrespective of cock size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs"

Well i learnt something new i thought a BBW was a big built woman lol

Mr Badcherry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

For Eg the term BBW = Big Beautiful women.

Are all BBWs beautiful? to everyone?

Certainly not.

When some women use this label the are just saying that they are "big" and not necessary claiming that they are beautiful as the label suggests.

Sometimes the emphasis is on the size of the woman rather than her beauty.

In the same way when the term BBC is used, it sometimes just indicates that it is a black guy being refereed to. The emphasis is on the colour of the guy rather than his cock.

There are times when some people advertise a BBC party.

The advertisers don't always check whether all the guys have a big cock.

They are simply asking "Black guys" to attend, irrespective of cock size.

Sure, I’m aware the the term BBC has probably changed its meaning and just means a ‘black man’ on the swing scene.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

Well i learnt something new i thought a BBW was a big built woman lol

Mr Badcherry"

The term I’d heard was big bouncy women. But I suspect beautiful is the preferred word than bouncy

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

Well i learnt something new i thought a BBW was a big built woman lol

Mr Badcherry

The term I’d heard was big bouncy women. But I suspect beautiful is the preferred word than bouncy

Mrs"

I suspect you are right

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

In all honesty I’d rather see the introduction of adverts before a name change but the licence free is like a stealth tax for propaganda news tv!

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory?

It always makes me uncomfortable when I see it.

It just seems to objectify people.does BBW make u uncomfortable as well ?

I don't have any problems with any it like a text message instead of big black cock (bbc)big white cock (bwc)big beautiful woman (bbw)it makes it easier

does the British broad cast (BBC)put u off ? of course not so why bother lol

To a degree yes, BBW is a term I'm not keen on.

Again it does seem to reduce a person to a one dimensional caricature.

The BBC is an acronym, entirely different.

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By *anejohnkent6263Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

oh another pc thread....if u don't like the term on here show some balls and leave the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel it's unfair to discriminate against one particular tv channel. Nothing wrong with ITV. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory? "

I hate the term, because it automatically rules me out! ???? neither big, nor black haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory?

I hate the term, because it automatically rules me out! ???? neither big, nor black haha"

Be your self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory? "

I dont like paying for it...the license that it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory?

It always makes me uncomfortable when I see it.

It just seems to objectify people.does BBW make u uncomfortable as well ?

I don't have any problems with any it like a text message instead of big black cock (bbc)big white cock (bwc)big beautiful woman (bbw)it makes it easier

does the British broad cast (BBC)put u off ? of course not so why bother lol

To a degree yes, BBW is a term I'm not keen on.

Again it does seem to reduce a person to a one dimensional caricature.

The BBC is an acronym, entirely different."
VWE strikes horror into Justin when he sees it

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Mrs

For Eg the term BBW = Big Beautiful women.

Are all BBWs beautiful? to everyone?

Certainly not.

When some women use this label the are just saying that they are "big" and not necessary claiming that they are beautiful as the label suggests.

Sometimes the emphasis is on the size of the woman rather than her beauty.

In the same way when the term BBC is used, it sometimes just indicates that it is a black guy being refereed to. The emphasis is on the colour of the guy rather than his cock.

There are times when some people advertise a BBC party.

The advertisers don't always check whether all the guys have a big cock.

They are simply asking "Black guys" to attend, irrespective of cock size.

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now a BBC party that is insulting not for black guys that's a compliment to you even if you haven't got a big dick which of course is the aspiration but its an insult to those that are excluded in that invitation ,which it seems is quite a common exclusion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,m not a fan of people saying BBC but what I really hate is when females refer to themselves as Queen of spades, that's so fking rude. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I,m not a fan of people saying BBC but what I really hate is when females refer to themselves as Queen of spades, that's so fking rude. XXX"
never heard that expression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well done sir. this is a good statement "

Thanks.

Just to pick up on a couple of different points raised since myself last post.

Sure there are men, women and everything in-between that don't seem to have a problem with a label like BBC. However, I would say, that they are playing on expected behaviour (and so are those who look for them). In porn and even on the swinger scene there are nights and clubs that play off of this term and what it implies. Stepping a bit further back, it is also an expected social bias/norm to think of men of African/Carribbean decent as that. You don't see many images or examples contradicting it or challenging it in any meaningful way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well done sir. this is a good statement

Thanks.

Just to pick up on a couple of different points raised since myself last post.

As to not having an issue with someone saying it (or any label) in the heat of the moment. I would say you are missing the fact that the context changes, which is distinct from one as a label and one as a statement. Subtle, yes, but important when talking about labels."
labels mean nothing they are unimportant and imposed by others ,abbreviations mean nothing they are short cuts to generalisations

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Mrs

For Eg the term BBW = Big Beautiful women.

Are all BBWs beautiful? to everyone?

Certainly not.

When some women use this label the are just saying that they are "big" and not necessary claiming that they are beautiful as the label suggests.

Sometimes the emphasis is on the size of the woman rather than her beauty.

In the same way when the term BBC is used, it sometimes just indicates that it is a black guy being refereed to. The emphasis is on the colour of the guy rather than his cock.

There are times when some people advertise a BBC party.

The advertisers don't always check whether all the guys have a big cock.

They are simply asking "Black guys" to attend, irrespective of cock size.

And in nearly every thread like this you’ll find a woman comment ( yes see above somewhere) that she met a BBC and how he should be done for trades description. I.e. he was a black guy just didn’t have a big cock.

So you expect average endowed black guys to offer themselves up for ridicule potentially by assuming people think bbc means any black guy

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"oh another pc thread....if u don't like the term on here show some balls and leave the site"

Isn’t it amazing how tolerant people are when something doesn’t affect them directly.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

I'm wondering where all the "big black cock" porn is that features small cocks. Because I searched for some and I couldn't find it.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I'm wondering where all the "big black cock" porn is that features small cocks. Because I searched for some and I couldn't find it."

all in the interest of research of course?!!

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"I'm wondering where all the "big black cock" porn is that features small cocks. Because I searched for some and I couldn't find it.

all in the interest of research of course?!!"

I'm ill in bed. Thought I'd do some rigorous academic research.

Can conclusively say that "big black cock" doesn't include small black cocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory? "

It's very reductive, there's more to a person than the colour of their skin and the size of their manhood.

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By *ustin500Man
over a year ago

woodbridge

its nice to know what the wife may get

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I'm wondering where all the "big black cock" porn is that features small cocks. Because I searched for some and I couldn't find it.

all in the interest of research of course?!!

I'm ill in bed. Thought I'd do some rigorous academic research.

Can conclusively say that "big black cock" doesn't include small black cocks."

I did some research too many years now. Invited to a house party and when I got there all the single guys were black. I’d never had sex with a black man before that night so I took it upon myself to research the myth.

Out of 9 guys, 8 were of normal girth and length ( normal - same as you’d expect average Caucasian guys) and one guy was around 12”

True story

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Forgive me but I'm late to the forums this morning.

Tell me there's been at least one gag about the actual BBC, licence fee and gender pay gap?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I'm wondering where all the "big black cock" porn is that features small cocks. Because I searched for some and I couldn't find it.

all in the interest of research of course?!!

I'm ill in bed. Thought I'd do some rigorous academic research.

Can conclusively say that "big black cock" doesn't include small black cocks."

Oh and sorry to hear you’re not well. I’m sure the forums will keep you buoyant

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Forgive me but I'm late to the forums this morning.

Tell me there's been at least one gag about the actual BBC, licence fee and gender pay gap? "

There is

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By *aterjetWoman
over a year ago

South West

All about chemistry for me. I dislike the term but it wouldn't put me off.

I get messages referring to their size for all types of guys. I am neither a bucket or a hole that needs filling

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

"Forgive me but I'm late to the forums this morning.

Tell me there's been at least one gag about the actual BBC, licence fee and gender pay gap?

There is

Ah good. I can put my little book of comedy down.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We don’t dislike the term , it’s as often used by well endowed black guys as anyone else .

If that’s how they wish to be described then that’s cool , but we would never describe a black guy as a bbc if he didn’t do it himself .

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"its nice to know what the wife may get"

Except the people above say that it doesn't infer penis size at all.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

It's one of those difficult subjective marmite things from what I see. On one had it's a populalist term to specify a particular aesthetic preference. We all have physical attributes we desire over others. So one could argue its simple a technical specification.

On the other hand it's no surprise that some find it offensive in terms of both objectification and/or race. I suppose to a certain extent a bit of objectification, fetishism and dehumanisation comes with the terriotry on here as we aim to meet our sexual desire. Same with terms such as BBW.

I think it's a case of personal preference and live and let live. Personally it's not a term I am comfortable with but I would be a massive hypnotic to slate other people freedom of desire on here. I just hope people are respectful of each other and what they are comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we missing something here many black guys use this abbreviation to describe themselves its only felt as a derogatory term by it would seem a few individuals here its not the overall concensus of the site is it .......or do we have a moray poll?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

We don’t use the term and we don’t appreciate people assuming it’s okay to call Sir that.

We would meet a guy who described himself as bbc. That’s his prerogative.

We have no objections for those seeking out BBC, but they needn’t come knocking on our door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don’t use the term and we don’t appreciate people assuming it’s okay to call Sir that.

We would meet a guy who described himself as bbc. That’s his prerogative.

We have no objections for those seeking out BBC, but they needn’t come knocking on our door.

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but its not even a discriptive term if your other half is black and big and definitely has a cock which obviously you love along with the rest of him ,I think its really quite sad that its another abbreviation / word/ description that is being seen as a deliberately racist manner when quite obviously its not

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"We don’t use the term and we don’t appreciate people assuming it’s okay to call Sir that.

We would meet a guy who described himself as bbc. That’s his prerogative.

We have no objections for those seeking out BBC, but they needn’t come knocking on our door.

but its not even a discriptive term if your other half is black and big and definitely has a cock which obviously you love along with the rest of him ,I think its really quite sad that its another abbreviation / word/ description that is being seen as a deliberately racist manner when quite obviously its not

I'm not sure if it is being seen as deliberately racist per se? I think some people are comfortable with it, some not. We all see the world from different angles so it perfectly legitimate to find it personally offensive even if the general consensus is ok with it. I think some people want to be seen as more than just a big black cock. An others use it to request or sell a physical attribute (and maybe some other stereotypical connotations). It's more an issuse of both freedom to express a desire and freedom to object to things you don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don’t use the term and we don’t appreciate people assuming it’s okay to call Sir that.

We would meet a guy who described himself as bbc. That’s his prerogative.

We have no objections for those seeking out BBC, but they needn’t come knocking on our door.

Quite obviously not everyone agrees with you on that. "
not many disagree though and as a white man brought up in Brixton where all my mates were black I think I speak with a fairly experienced view on it ,most don't see it as derogatory ,some just like to kick back which I understand but a bit fed up with the racist card most of it not all is pointless

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"We don’t use the term and we don’t appreciate people assuming it’s okay to call Sir that.

We would meet a guy who described himself as bbc. That’s his prerogative.

We have no objections for those seeking out BBC, but they needn’t come knocking on our door.

Quite obviously not everyone agrees with that.

And your response just blows apart the notion that all black guys should accept the term bbc.

You say if my guy is big - yes check. Black - yes check. Has a cock - yes check.

So what about small statutered guys with normal size cocks....

BBC - big black cock not big black and has a cock

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"We don’t use the term and we don’t appreciate people assuming it’s okay to call Sir that.

We would meet a guy who described himself as bbc. That’s his prerogative.

We have no objections for those seeking out BBC, but they needn’t come knocking on our door.

Quite obviously not everyone agrees with you on that. not many disagree though and as a white man brought up in Brixton where all my mates were black I think I speak with a fairly experienced view on it ,most don't see it as derogatory ,some just like to kick back which I understand but a bit fed up with the racist card most of it not all is pointless

Back up there buddy. Read my answers and tell me where I called racism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don’t use the term and we don’t appreciate people assuming it’s okay to call Sir that.

We would meet a guy who described himself as bbc. That’s his prerogative.

We have no objections for those seeking out BBC, but they needn’t come knocking on our door.

Quite obviously not everyone agrees with that.

And your response just blows apart the notion that all black guys should accept the term bbc.

You say if my guy is big - yes check. Black - yes check. Has a cock - yes check.

So what about small statutered guys with normal size cocks....

BBC - big black cock not big black and has a cock

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but are they the ones complaining?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don’t use the term and we don’t appreciate people assuming it’s okay to call Sir that.

We would meet a guy who described himself as bbc. That’s his prerogative.

We have no objections for those seeking out BBC, but they needn’t come knocking on our door.

Back up there buddy. Read my answers and tell me where I called racism.

"
you're a white woman complaining on behalf of your partner about a term that many black guys on here use to describe themselves ,its a sex site cock gets mentioned a lot ,big gets mentioned a lot so what is your point if its not about the black ?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory? "

Don't like it or bbw but (1) how people wish to portray themselves is none of my business as long as people use it individually and not assume every black/fat person likes it. (2) It's a "ready reckoner" so easy to avoid.

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

I am sorry but I agree with OP. all these dehumanising depersonalising terms denigrate both parties. we may be swingers but we are also individuals and people. One trait or aspect of who we are is still only one aspect.

these terms are like shopping list items objectifying us all. I would detest someone discribing me as HWC!

Good sex needs so much more than one item and swingers of all people should know that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am sorry but I agree with OP. all these dehumanising depersonalising terms denigrate both parties. we may be swingers but we are also individuals and people. One trait or aspect of who we are is still only one aspect.

these terms are like shopping list items objectifying us all. I would detest someone discribing me as HWC!

Good sex needs so much more than one item and swingers of all people should know that.

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its an abbreviation as is VWE or SWF or OHOC how do they dehumanise

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

these terms are like shopping list items objectifying us all. I would detest someone discribing me as HWC!

Good sex needs so much more than one item and swingers of all people should know that.

its an abbreviation as is VWE or SWF or OHOC how do they dehumanise

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I couldnt care less what something is called anymore. Racism is dying, homosexuality is more neutral than ever before and there's about 10 genders. Who cares what someone calls a cock?"

Racism is dying?!!

I'm first generation from the Windrush. My partner is white, one of my son in law's is white and three of my brother in law's. I state this to show I have no racial axe to grind, but I'll tell you, as a black woman born and bred in London, in my 57 years I've never encountered the level of racism as I have over the last couple of years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

these terms are like shopping list items objectifying us all. I would detest someone discribing me as HWC!

Good sex needs so much more than one item and swingers of all people should know that.

its an abbreviation as is VWE or SWF or OHOC how do they dehumanise

it focuses on one body part and on race as the defining feature of a person. while people are the sum total of all that makes them who they are. for BBC you just as easily could say big black dildo or WC for white cunt. it seporates the body part from the person. you cant denie the race element either as white guys never use the addreviation HWC."
its a sex site so everyone who mentions a cock their cock in conversation is dehumanising themselves im sorry theirs much that's wrong with swinging and sex and morals but if you're going to find an abbreviation that many guys themselves use as dehumanising then you're in the wrong place ,now an argument I am in favour of and support is not mentioning race at all but due to the personal nature of what is looked for here ,we have to be open minded about certain things don't you think ?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

these terms are like shopping list items objectifying us all. I would detest someone discribing me as HWC!

Good sex needs so much more than one item and swingers of all people should know that.

I agree that the objectification, dehumanising and fetishism is part and parcel of the site. I personally agree that it's human and personal attributes of a person that is far more intresting, exciting and hotter to me. But everyone is on here for different reasons. For examples there maybe couples not in the slight interest of forming personal realtionships with others, just into filling fantasies based on criteria. Although one could argue its problematic to purely see someone as an object who are we to judge what goes one between consenting adults? I do think however it is poor to assume people are ok with the use of terms like BBC, BBW etc without knowing they use the term them self. I wouldn't set out to judge or police the product of people's desires in this adult space. This our playground to (with in reason granted) explore our desires even if they are offensive to some. After all that offence is subjective and we have to use context too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldnt care less what something is called anymore. Racism is dying, homosexuality is more neutral than ever before and there's about 10 genders. Who cares what someone calls a cock?

Racism is dying?!!

This is very sad!

I assume due to terrorism?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldnt care less what something is called anymore. Racism is dying, homosexuality is more neutral than ever before and there's about 10 genders. Who cares what someone calls a cock?

Racism is dying?!!

This is very sad!

I assume due to terrorism?"
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

these terms are like shopping list items objectifying us all. I would detest someone discribing me as HWC!

Good sex needs so much more than one item and swingers of all people should know that.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Personally I feel the term BBC robs me of my individuality and unfairly puts me into a general stereotyped category.

Formost an entire race of men should not be categorised by the size of their dicks as if they have no other attributes worthy of mention.

I agree with you but also have this to say;

I just love how the very people who claim to be against objectification are the same ones fragmenting and reducing black men down to whatever feature they wish to accentuate in their selling pitch.

Marry me!

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

"I couldnt care less what something is called anymore. Racism is dying, homosexuality is more neutral than ever before and there's about 10 genders. Who cares what someone calls a cock?

Racism is dying?!!

i am so sad to hear this but I recognise the truth in it. national issues have driven us back towards the 50s!

I cant say we were ever perfect but we were better than this and we all have to stand up to it when we see it. I literally had to call out a guy in the street on saturday night talking about "internationals" stealing our jobs!

As swingers we all know what we like and thats fine. its the failure to find out about other people and the making of these "Preferences" based on ignorance that infuriates me.

I hope the new year gives you less hassle and more fun in 2018. happy Swinging to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I feel the term BBC robs me of my individuality and unfairly puts me into a general stereotyped category.

Formost an entire race of men should not be categorised by the size of their dicks as if they have no other attributes worthy of mention.

I agree with you but also have this to say;

I just love how the very people who claim to be against objectification are the same ones fragmenting and reducing black men down to whatever feature they wish to accentuate in their selling pitch.

Marry me!

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thought you were already married ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe it's Cose u are more brown than black

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I couldnt care less what something is called anymore. Racism is dying, homosexuality is more neutral than ever before and there's about 10 genders. Who cares what someone calls a cock?

Racism is dying?!!

This is very sad!

I assume due to terrorism?"

Funnily no...Brexit!

It has emboldened some people.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I couldnt care less what something is called anymore. Racism is dying, homosexuality is more neutral than ever before and there's about 10 genders. Who cares what someone calls a cock?

Racism is dying?!!

i am so sad to hear this but I recognise the truth in it. national issues have driven us back towards the 50s!

As swingers we all know what we like and thats fine. its the failure to find out about other people and the making of these "Preferences" based on ignorance that infuriates me.

I hope the new year gives you less hassle and more fun in 2018. happy Swinging to you."

I've been tempered in the fires of the 60s...I really don't take it to heart. I'm a happy bunny. That said I do worry for my grandchildren. I'd hate for them to grow up in the hatred I did.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Personally I feel the term BBC robs me of my individuality and unfairly puts me into a general stereotyped category.

Formost an entire race of men should not be categorised by the size of their dicks as if they have no other attributes worthy of mention.

I agree with you but also have this to say;

I just love how the very people who claim to be against objectification are the same ones fragmenting and reducing black men down to whatever feature they wish to accentuate in their selling pitch.

Marry me!

thought you were already married ?

I'm Fab single!

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

"I couldnt care less what something is called anymore. Racism is dying, homosexuality is more neutral than ever before and there's about 10 genders. Who cares what someone calls a cock?

Racism is dying?!!

i am so sad to hear this but I recognise the truth in it. national issues have driven us back towards the 50s!

As swingers we all know what we like and thats fine. its the failure to find out about other people and the making of these "Preferences" based on ignorance that infuriates me.

I hope the new year gives you less hassle and more fun in 2018. happy Swinging to you.

I've been tempered in the fires of the 60s...I really don't take it to heart. I'm a happy bunny. That said I do worry for my grandchildren. I'd hate for them to grow up in the hatred I did."

NO PASARAN!

Tempered in the fires of the early 70s me.

for evil to Triumph only takes good people to do nothing.

peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I feel the term BBC robs me of my individuality and unfairly puts me into a general stereotyped category.

Formost an entire race of men should not be categorised by the size of their dicks as if they have no other attributes worthy of mention.

I agree with you but also have this to say;

I just love how the very people who claim to be against objectification are the same ones fragmenting and reducing black men down to whatever feature they wish to accentuate in their selling pitch.

Marry me!

thought you were already married ?

I'm Fab single!

"
ooooooo that could mean anything here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I dislike BBC.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"its nice to know what the wife may get

Except the people above say that it doesn't infer penis size at all. "

In some contexts it doesn't infer penis size at all, as much as BBW does't always infer beauty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe it's Cose u are more brown than black "

There's different shades of black now?

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By *zzy173Man
over a year ago

Hackney

Everyone has their prefrences but ppl dont have to mention like that. Its nearly racist man

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By *andaelvoCouple
over a year ago

Derby Thulston Village

Surely it’s NBD (no big deal)! In fact, if you are on fab and seeking a dick that is both black in colour - and large, then it’s a pretty useful acronym! I mean is racism even really a thing anymore (amongst most normal people?)..! I know that if we wanted the aforementioned LBD (large black dick), then we’d search for BBC! If a black guy is using the phrase to promote himself then he clearly doesn’t mind - and if we were in a club for example and a black guy didn’t like the phrase then we would respect that? It’s in very wide use so you can only assume most people are cool with it as a sexual term and that it’s not intended to be derogatory? Just our view!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely it’s NBD (no big deal)! In fact, if you are on fab and seeking a dick that is both black in colour - and large, then it’s a pretty useful acronym! I mean is racism even really a thing anymore (amongst most normal people?)..! I know that if we wanted the aforementioned LBD (large black dick), then we’d search for BBC! If a black guy is using the phrase to promote himself then he clearly doesn’t mind - and if we were in a club for example and a black guy didn’t like the phrase then we would respect that? It’s in very wide use so you can only assume most people are cool with it as a sexual term and that it’s not intended to be derogatory? Just our view! "

Look at previous posts in this thread and all your questions will be answered

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By *exymatcplMan
over a year ago

doncaster

Being a LWC I'm jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only black guy on here that despise the term BBC. Whoelse feels the term is derogatory? "

I am part of an interracial couple and I detest BBC. It labels every black guy as a BIG BLACK COCK. Everyone is different and no matter how big a brain is very helpful. So please no BBC lol

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I am neutral about the term BBC, I am not looking for acceptance from anyone, I know who I am and I love who I am.

I guess in a club setting when I start chatting with people I can actually determine their psychological orientation and this will determine if I continue speaking to them or not.

I do this with black men and women too because I want to determine if there is any psychological damage and quantify the extent of the damage. If I discover any negative psychological orientation , I simply walk away from the person. If there is no pyscological damage then we are cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am neutral about the term BBC, I am not looking for acceptance from anyone, I know who I am and I love who I am.

I guess in a club setting when I start chatting with people I can actually determine their psychological orientation and this will determine if I continue speaking to them or not.

You can determine 'psychological damage' from chatting to people in clubs?

You sir, are a very wise man indeed

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Of course you can determine psychological damage towards any subject matter once you are in a conversation with any body if you are a good listener.

I listen to every word people say when am in a conversation with them even though I might be talking to them, they will always let you know where they are coming from in a matter of minutes , it does not take long. I listen very attentively to ladies to determine if I want to play with them or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s said that a picture speaks a thousand words. I wonder how many words a label speaks? As a self labelled Hotwife, I feel the word ‘Hotwife’ substitutes a number of sentences to describe what I do. This is why i don’t agree with people who are against labels. Example, so much easier to ask for a drink of orange juice than have to use a whole heap of words to describe what drink I want. In my opinion a label is a noun that removes the need for numerous adjectives and verbs to say the same thing. However if the label of BBC in the context of swinging simply means a black man (another noun) I personally don’t find it substantially easier to say ‘I fucked a black man’ versus ‘I fucked a BBC’: I think it’s correct to say that it’s concluded on this thread that a BBC doesn’t necessarily have a bigger than average cock, and that certainly cock size is not checked prior to a man earning the title of BBC. He just has to be black does he not? However the England language is a rich language, and it is perfectly allowed to have more than one word meaning the same thing. And nothing wrong with have specialist swing words. So I’m willing to accept that in the context of swinging, ‘BBC’ means ‘black man’. I will carry caution though in referring to a man as a cock though, I unless I’m sure he doesn’t mind.

Mrs

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

Political correctness gone mad.if a woman need someone black with big cock. why the out cry?

Or you prefer her say I need well endowed black male? Same same in my eyes.

To me I don't see debasement with BBC abbreviation. Grow up folks. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I’d throw into the mix, although it’s orobably irrelevant and coincidence, that the biggest and smallest cocks I have ever fucked both belonged to black men. 2 extremes within one race. At this end of the day it’s a big long big finger that will make me gush. Now which race has the last longest fingers?......

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am neutral about the term BBC, I am not looking for acceptance from anyone, I know who I am and I love who I am.

I guess in a club setting when I start chatting with people I can actually determine their psychological orientation and this will determine if I continue speaking to them or not.

You can determine 'psychological damage' from chatting to people in clubs?

You sir, are a very wise man indeed"
I think everyone on this thread is wise beyond their years and if the OP and those who disagreed with the abbreviation BBC are offended by the use of said abbreviation I for one will never use it knowing they are in my company,I rarely use it anyway unless its part of a thread

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I am always looking for an opportunity to learn, I noticed that whenever people don't like a label they truly are unhappy about what the label stands for not the label itself but find themselves compelled to be identified by that label. They would love to be in a position where the label does not describe them.

The beautiful lady has said she does not mind being called a hotwife, I am neutral about BBC ,if BBC is used in an abusive and disrespectful manner then I will take offence on the behaviour displayed by the person using the word but not the word BBC itself, so for the guys who find the word BBC offensive, what exactly is it about the word you find offensive,please kindly educate us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am always looking for an opportunity to learn, I noticed that whenever people don't like a label they truly are unhappy about what the label stands for not the label itself but find themselves compelled to be identified by that label. They would love to be in a position where the label does not describe them.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Political correctness gone mad.if a woman need someone black with big cock. why the out cry?

Or you prefer her say I need well endowed black male? Same same in my eyes.

To me I don't see debasement with BBC abbreviation. Grow up folks. Lol"

No. It's not political correctness gone mad. I don't think anyone here is calling for the term to be banned.

Everyone here is free to make a choice-women, men, TVs, blacks, whites, straights, gays and bis. How they choose to exercise that choice is down to them and personally folks who refer to black males as BBC are not usually the people Ive had the best experiences with.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

If you do a bit of a google you'll find quite a few articles about it, and then nobody will have to waste their time explaining...

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

I despise having to pay £140 for the licence.... I hardly watch BBC!

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

"I dislike that term along with bbw

You know I’m kinda seeing where you and the OP are coming from ...

A question I’ve always thought is at what point do they class themselves as BBC or BBW ??

What if you are a black man with an average cock ? Do you still put the extra ‘b’ in ?

Is there a certain weight for BBW ?

I guess for club night advertising there is a purpose but not a fan of labels myself it’s nice to be unique

It’s very interesting reading peoples views

I'm one of those black guys with a standard sized cock. Did try to change the meaning to Beautiful Black Cock but it never really caught on lol

Humour aside I used to really dislike the term for reasons already given in this thread, now I am a bit more relaxed. Language is both a delicate and powerful tool and its oh so easy to misinterpret meaning and intent unless one is face to face with a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dislike that term along with bbw

You know I’m kinda seeing where you and the OP are coming from ...

A question I’ve always thought is at what point do they class themselves as BBC or BBW ??

What if you are a black man with an average cock ? Do you still put the extra ‘b’ in ?

Is there a certain weight for BBW ?

I guess for club night advertising there is a purpose but not a fan of labels myself it’s nice to be unique

It’s very interesting reading peoples views

I'm one of those black guys with a standard sized cock. Did try to change the meaning to Beautiful Black Cock but it never really caught on lol

My general rule is that its fine for people to like what they like. So long as there is mutual respect all around,. So if no one is overly fetishised and objectified I'm going to be fine with letting things flow."
now this is how it should be ,all messages can be read in a negative way but the flip side is I read everything as much as possible with a positive slant

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

Some people find it offensive partly due to the fact that they don't fully understand its meaning or use.

When the term BBW is used; in many cases it just means "Big Woman". It doesn't always infer beauty as the label suggests.

In the same way BBC in certain contexts means "Black Man" and doesn't always infer cock size.

1) When you see "BBC Party" advertised, in many cases the hosts are not organising a party for big cocks. All it means is a party where black men are in attendance.

2) Some women/ couples have this on their profile : "BBC Only"

I have chatted with some of them and they say they are not fussy about cock size, they are more concerned about how it is used.

So when they say "BBC only" what it means is that they only meet Black Men.

3) Sometimes BBC is just a shorthand or abbreviation for Black man.

For EG a lady wants to meet:

Instead of saying "BBW looking for a black man" she finds it is easier to just say: "bbw4bbc"

She's not saying she's looking for a big cock; she's just looking for a black man.

Sometimes too much political correctness can cloud one's view of reality.

Other times people do "word-for-word" interpretation of these labels instead of understanding their meaning and use in a wider context.

If you want to do word-for-word interpretation, then you need to ask why "Queen of Spades" doesn't wear a crown and live in a palace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I like the term “BBC” and I’ll use it to my advantage.

But then other it feels weird and I don’t like it at all.

It depends on the situation and person/persons I’m speaking with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel comfortable referring to people as black never mind using the term to describe there genitalia...

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

while i fully accept and respect the context we are having this debate in, Swinging, and that this culture has its own norms and rules. I cant escape the further fact that we sit inside a wider culture of the UK and we impact that culture and world just as anyone else does.

the advantage we should have is the experience of swinging should enrich our respect for difference and widen our experience of that difference with intamate understandings.

isolating the debate to our own community alone denies our place in the wider world.

What we say here and think here has impact on the wider world. The wider world Impacts us as Swingers as well.

using terms that comodify a person smacks of property (Sub Dom play aside for now different discussion) that type of view point has Big Historical problems. In a subtle way commodifying terms to discribe people are simply less obvious terms than Slave or Chatle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"while i fully accept and respect the context we are having this debate in, Swinging, and that this culture has its own norms and rules. I cant escape the further fact that we sit inside a wider culture of the UK and we impact that culture and world just as anyone else does.