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By *rated-Bacon OP   Man
over a year ago

medway

So I use this mainly for MM fun (as fabguys is abit.. erm.. well almost as useless as here)

I either get messages from guys older than my dad that frankly would scare me if I wasn't so not innocent

Or from bare profiles that have been here 7 months plus and can't string 3 words together

So my question is.. How hard do you find it?

Do you get so far and then it's a case of "oh look, another flaky faker"

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I find that it can be quite hard to find a suitable bi male for when my lady friend and myself want a bi mms session. Especially when messaged by quite a few guys who have straight as their profile but claim to be bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is interesting to read, would have thought that since there are so many men on here would be easy to find a few

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"This is interesting to read, would have thought that since there are so many men on here would be easy to find a few "

You would think so.... but it can be a struggle finding a guy that we both fancy the look of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find that it can be quite hard to find a suitable bi male for when my lady friend and myself want a bi mms session. Especially when messaged by quite a few guys who have straight as their profile but claim to be bi"

I would guess that most are the type who will put up with the odd hand on their cock in order to get to the woman?

In my experience, the main problem with finding meets, after you get past the 90% who can't read a profile, then the 5% who do but ignore it is this - There's an extremely strong correlation between men with straight on their profile, and men who don't turn up to meets with me.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

You have filters, so nobody over 42 should be able to message you.

As for the crap profiles, that's a self imposed filter.

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By *rated-Bacon OP   Man
over a year ago

medway


"This is interesting to read, would have thought that since there are so many men on here would be easy to find a few "

In a perfect world...

I'm fussy in the sense of I would like a little brain power, somewhere above 50% sanity and not much of a hint of probable murder

Apparently I may aswell look for an Albino Leprechaun riding a Dwarf Unicorn.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"I find that it can be quite hard to find a suitable bi male for when my lady friend and myself want a bi mms session. Especially when messaged by quite a few guys who have straight as their profile but claim to be bi

I would guess that most are the type who will put up with the odd hand on their cock in order to get to the woman?

In my experience, the main problem with finding meets, after you get past the 90% who can't read a profile, then the 5% who do but ignore it is this - There's an extremely strong correlation between men with straight on their profile, and men who don't turn up to meets with me."

If they are the type who will only put up with a hand on their cock to meet the lady then they don't get an invite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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If they are the type who will only put up with a hand on their cock to meet the lady then they don't get an invite"

Do most let that slip before a meet takes place? Genuine question, as most guys I've met have been all up for e everything in chats. But when it came to the actual meet they thought a free blowjob was what they deserved. I've ended several meets now, as I was injured by somebody pretending to try to give anal and frankly got annoyed at being scammed so often.

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By *inkycdxxxTV/TS
over a year ago

wrexham

True iv only met 6 men off here in over a year but plenty who want to swap cock pics on kik xx

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


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If they are the type who will only put up with a hand on their cock to meet the lady then they don't get an invite

Do most let that slip before a meet takes place? Genuine question, as most guys I've met have been all up for e everything in chats. But when it came to the actual meet they thought a free blowjob was what they deserved. I've ended several meets now, as I was injured by somebody pretending to try to give anal and frankly got annoyed at being scammed so often."

If they haven't any bi veris or they let that slip then they don't get an invite

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

MK

fabguys, find it easy, can get a meet in few messages, straight to the point what i want, what you want.

cut the crap like here endless chat

never meet guys from here, complete fakes always straight on profile, and want bi stuff, instant delete.

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By *lirty_dirtyCouple
over a year ago

Lingfield

I have a profile on fabguys and find meeting guys on there pretty easy... on here however is a total waste of time, we just use this for couple meets.

I've used other gay dating / cruising sites in the past and have found fabguys really good, some very genuine men on there

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I have a preference for meeting bi guys and tend to meet most of them through this site. Many have ‘straight’ on their profiles, but that’s up to them. I tend not to make the first move with the guys who describe themselves as straight

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By *arkstaffsMan
over a year ago

Rugeley

Ive had a fair few meets off fabguys but little luck on here. Totally different sites really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a profile on fabguys and find meeting guys on there pretty easy... on here however is a total waste of time, we just use this for couple meets.

I've used other gay dating / cruising sites in the past and have found fabguys really good, some very genuine men on there "

Me too...

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By *onnor999Man
over a year ago

Wrexham

I think often guys are bi and when we chat they are happy to share fantasies and say what they would like to do when they meet a man but when it comes down to a meet they bottle it.

I think there is still a general stigma of men being bi / gay and some bi guys, or gay guys who haven't come out yet have been conditioned to be ashamed about it.

Look at the ratio of women on here that put bi or bi curious and bi men on here. It's a big difference. I'm bi and state so on here but if people outside of fab knew the truth about my sexuality I would be worried about being mocked or even disowned.

Sorry to go on lol, but thats how I see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find that it can be quite hard to find a suitable bi male for when my lady friend and myself want a bi mms session. Especially when messaged by quite a few guys who have straight as their profile but claim to be bi

I would guess that most are the type who will put up with the odd hand on their cock in order to get to the woman?

In my experience, the main problem with finding meets, after you get past the 90% who can't read a profile, then the 5% who do but ignore it is this - There's an extremely strong correlation between men with straight on their profile, and men who don't turn up to meets with me."

I find the same problem, hence I try to stay away from straight guys. But the amount of them that say they are bi but don't want to put off women by putting their true sexuality on here seems to be increasing. Does it make it hard to meet men on here?! Bloody sure does!

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

I probably tend to be fairly picky on who I meet and therefore getting the right people either here of on Fabguys can be a bit of a challenge. I also get quiet a higher percentage of people who want extended email chat and then either drop offline never to be heard from again or arrange meets only to then no show from the Fabguys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a similar problem, I (Mrs) normally do the checking of emails and the looking for a suitable play mate, once I've shortlisted a few profiles I'll show Roxy and if we both then like we will message a guy and go from there.

Our profile is quite plain in what we want (it's hidden as of last night as we are taking a break) but we still get guys message us that have not read it.

We got a lot of messages from straight guys ( and I appreciate you have to start somewhere) and when we first started we gave them the benefit of the doubt but it became very apparent and quite quickly that there interest was in me. I get my kick and turn on by watching 2-3 guys playing and I don't have to have any involvement in the session, Roxy and I have our fun when they have gone.

It's now easy for us to spot the wanna be's as it normally takes 3-4 messages for the question of......

What will be your involvement with me

What will you be wearing

Will you play with me

Can I play with you

Can I have more pics of the female

Or endless messages of sexual stuff as there chatting to me.

I know at times it seems harsh but we are inviting you into our life and want the right type of guy for a meet, our time together is precious as we work shifts so getting the right guys as paramount.

Hope that all makes sense........

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site can be a mine field when it comes to finding that elusive play mate, have been messaged by so many straight guys it’s unreal, so many excuses as to why they have straight rather than bi, but I see it as an excuse, if you can’t be honest with your self, what makes you think I’ll believe your being honest with me, another given I find, the quicker they get on to the subject of sex, the more chance that they’re likely to be time wasters, but saying that once you’ve negotiated this mine field and get to the other side they’re are some genuine play mates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have tried finding a suitable bi guy or fully bi couple, and I think they are more elusive than 'unicorns'.

I (Ben) admit that I have specific criteria, ie shaved genitals, non hairy torso and slim/average bodies... but trying to find someone who fits that and is genuinely bi, and not just sniffing to get to Jen, is needle in a haystack.

The amount of guys who say they are bi as they 'dont mind a bloke sucking me' is astounding.

Ben

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I get more messages off straight guys than anyone else, not that I'm drowning in messages you understand. I tend to politely turn these down or just plain ignore the ones who just send a freinds request through.

This site is great for meeting tvs whilst fabguys is more reliable for men. Perhaps fabswingers attracts more fantasists or just encourages the curious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have tried finding a suitable bi guy or fully bi couple, and I think they are more elusive than 'unicorns'.

I (Ben) admit that I have specific criteria, ie shaved genitals, non hairy torso and slim/average bodies... but trying to find someone who fits that and is genuinely bi, and not just sniffing to get to Jen, is needle in a haystack.

The amount of guys who say they are bi as they 'dont mind a bloke sucking me' is astounding.

Ben "

Ben, we'd 100% agree with you. M&L

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As a bi male, open to meeting guys one on one, who, regardless of a potential play partner's gender, looks for a connection and chemistry that can only come from swapping messages initially and potentially a social, I find I get a tiny flavour of what it's like to be a single woman on here to be honest.

Almost all unsolicited messages I get from guys are of the "wanna meet for a BJ now?" variety from equally uninspiring profiles.

Even when the profile is of interest, and the message has a modicum of effort, I generally find within two or three one line messages the "sex chat" comes out, along with "so when do you want to meet?" type questions - neither of which are of interest.

Would love to receive intelligent, well thought out messages from like minded guys and see where things go, but in over a year with this profile have yet to receive one

Not on Fab Guys, nor will I be, so can't comment on the experience there, but can't imagine it would be any different sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys like guys old enough to be their Dad

I have had more attention from younger guys since I have been in my 40's than I ever did in my 20's

All I would say us if you don't want contact from older guys, either say so in your profile or put a restriction on the ages of guys who can mail you.

As regards here, meeting guys is easy peasy even for an old fat fart like me.

Fabguys doesn't offer the numbers that this site does, though it is amusing to see guys that are straight here having a pretty comprehensive veri list on there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I use this mainly for MM fun (as fabguys is abit.. erm.. well almost as useless as here)

I either get messages from guys older than my dad that frankly would scare me if I wasn't so not innocent

Or from bare profiles that have been here 7 months plus and can't string 3 words together

So my question is.. How hard do you find it?

Do you get so far and then it's a case of "oh look, another flaky faker""

Too bloody hard frankly (Yes I am a guy under all this) the only people who contact me are married guys wanting a quicky which is totally not my thing. Tgurls are usually nervous about travelling and I do not drive. As for meeting women (as a guy) I have not doen that since I was married (10 years ago) and it was hard then. A free site will never have the quality that we used to get on pay-only sites. If you are serious about meeting why would you object to paying less than the cost of a night out per month. I do not need it badly enough and I am on other sites too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys like guys old enough to be their Dad

I have had more attention from younger guys since I have been in my 40's than I ever did in my 20's

All I would say us if you don't want contact from older guys, either say so in your profile or put a restriction on the ages of guys who can mail you.

As regards here, meeting guys is easy peasy even for an old fat fart like me.

Fabguys doesn't offer the numbers that this site does, though it is amusing to see guys that are straight here having a pretty comprehensive veri list on there."

Oh we wouldn't have a problem meeting guys and let's be honest a lot of guys like meeting old fat farts but we echo what Ben & Jen say in that we have a standard, slim toned or athletic build, smooth or the very minimum trimmed. We look after ourselves buy going to gym and working out at home and for a third to join us we would like the same.

Mrs

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate


"Some guys like guys old enough to be their Dad

I have had more attention from younger guys since I have been in my 40's than I ever did in my 20's

All I would say us if you don't want contact from older guys, either say so in your profile or put a restriction on the ages of guys who can mail you.

As regards here, meeting guys is easy peasy even for an old fat fart like me.

Fabguys doesn't offer the numbers that this site does, though it is amusing to see guys that are straight here having a pretty comprehensive veri list on there."

I would agree - I’m much more popular now with guys that I was in the past - I don’t like the whole ‘Dad’ thing but I’m happy to be called ‘Mister’ as one of the guys I meet calls me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys like guys old enough to be their Dad

I have had more attention from younger guys since I have been in my 40's than I ever did in my 20's

All I would say us if you don't want contact from older guys, either say so in your profile or put a restriction on the ages of guys who can mail you.

As regards here, meeting guys is easy peasy even for an old fat fart like me.

Fabguys doesn't offer the numbers that this site does, though it is amusing to see guys that are straight here having a pretty comprehensive veri list on there.

Oh we wouldn't have a problem meeting guys and let's be honest a lot of guys like meeting old fat farts but we echo what Ben & Jen say in that we have a standard, slim toned or athletic build, smooth or the very minimum trimmed. We look after ourselves buy going to gym and working out at home and for a third to join us we would like the same.

Mrs"

That's bang on if that's your preference

I hadn't actually read any responses to the OP

I was really responding to the fact that the guy who started the thread seemed put out that older guys were contacting him.

I think I just started going on with myself then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a similar problem, I (Mrs) normally do the checking of emails and the looking for a suitable play mate, once I've shortlisted a few profiles I'll show Roxy and if we both then like we will message a guy and go from there.

Our profile is quite plain in what we want (it's hidden as of last night as we are taking a break) but we still get guys message us that have not read it.

We got a lot of messages from straight guys ( and I appreciate you have to start somewhere) and when we first started we gave them the benefit of the doubt but it became very apparent and quite quickly that there interest was in me. I get my kick and turn on by watching 2-3 guys playing and I don't have to have any involvement in the session, Roxy and I have our fun when they have gone.

It's now easy for us to spot the wanna be's as it normally takes 3-4 messages for the question of......

What will be your involvement with me

What will you be wearing

Will you play with me

Can I play with you

Can I have more pics of the female

Or endless messages of sexual stuff as there chatting to me.

I know at times it seems harsh but we are inviting you into our life and want the right type of guy for a meet, our time together is precious as we work shifts so getting the right guys as paramount.

Hope that all makes sense........

Mrs"

It makes sense to me. I used to find the same when I was on here as a couple.

I like the crappy men though, they make the decent ones glare like a bright light.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I use this mainly for MM fun (as fabguys is abit.. erm.. well almost as useless as here)

I either get messages from guys older than my dad that frankly would scare me if I wasn't so not innocent

Or from bare profiles that have been here 7 months plus and can't string 3 words together

So my question is.. How hard do you find it?

Do you get so far and then it's a case of "oh look, another flaky faker""

We have found it surprisingly easy in fact but I suspect the key is to have a profile with photos of the female as after all the bi guys are keen to ensure that they are going to get sex with a women as well as a man and many have told us they they often get tricked

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