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Discrete players what's the problem?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondered what seems to be the problem with us wanting to be discrete? We are midlands swingers, we have a few regular guys we invite to play with us. We runna single/attached profile, because we get swamped when we run a cpls profile. Face pics are a no no for us because of our jobs! We don't do clubs, we prefer pre-arranged meets, and we don't always show our feedback. So why do people assume we are not worthy, just because we want to remain anonymous and discrete yet still enjoy awesome 3somes? Discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondered what seems to be the problem with us wanting to be discrete? We are midlands swingers, we have a few regular guys we invite to play with us. We runna single/attached profile, because we get swamped when we run a cpls profile. Face pics are a no no for us because of our jobs! We don't do clubs, we prefer pre-arranged meets, and we don't always show our feedback. So why do people assume we are not worthy, just because we want to remain anonymous and discrete yet still enjoy awesome 3somes? Discuss "

nothing wrong with it at all...we dont all want or need to visit clubs or socials...just carry on as you are...it will all come good i promise..

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

We?......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We. . . . . Us. . . . ?????

I'm confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

carry on being confused

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We run a "single / attached " profile!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We run a "single / attached " profile!?"

if it works for you it does x

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

To get an answer of any value, you really need to ask the people who assume you are worthy, assuming you are not assuming this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To get an answer of any value, you really need to ask the people who assume you are worthy, assuming you are not assuming this."
lol

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

I was confused by him being discrete rather than discreet, let alone the rest of the post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's discreet.

(Sorry, pet peeve!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was confused by him being discrete rather than discreet, let alone the rest of the post "

Guess I lost that race!

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

It's a pet peeve of mine too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a pet peeve of mine too "

Will that get me a date?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Google it! Discrete / discreet . Lol

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Google it! Discrete / discreet . Lol "

So do you want to keep things under wraps/hidden i.e. discreet

or

Do you want to keep things separate/apart i.e. discrete

?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TO the OP I take it that you offer to send photos or show your face before meeting people...

If so.. not sure why you have problems..

cali x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Google it! Discrete / discreet . Lol

So do you want to keep things under wraps/hidden i.e. discreet

or

Do you want to keep things separate/apart i.e. discrete

Both!

? "

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

[Removed by poster at 26/09/11 08:33:17]

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley


"Just wondered what seems to be the problem with us wanting to be discrete? We are midlands swingers, we have a few regular guys we invite to play with us. We runna single/attached profile, because we get swamped when we run a cpls profile. Face pics are a no no for us because of our jobs! We don't do clubs, we prefer pre-arranged meets, and we don't always show our feedback. So why do people assume we are not worthy, just because we want to remain anonymous and discrete yet still enjoy awesome 3somes? Discuss "

No problem with being discrete but a single guy profile says just that to others.You may be seen as "not worthy" by others because it has been known that guys say they are part of a couple on their single profile and when a meet is arranged they have said that the fem cant make it/is ill/other excuse but now that I am here then lets have a MMF.

Trust and honesty are important aspects of swinging and no one likes to feel used or mislead.

Maybe a couples profile but state (exactly if necessary)the types of people/couples/singles etc that you are hoping to meet and you are free to use the various filters for messages that the site provides.

Hope this helps and not being critical...just trying to be helpful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with _roovytwo. If you're a couple then have a couples profile and set your filters so you're not swamped. Your profile reads like you're a single male so I suspect people will be confused and possibly a bit doubtful when you say you're a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooo I'm sure that of all the really important things in relation to swinging, the spelling of the words discrete/discreet is very very important indeed. Why can't people just answer the question asked?

Does it state on your profile that you are a group of men who have joined up for the sole quest of giving women pleasure. Assuming that you will show face pics to the women wanting to meet you before the meet, then it sounds great.

I wouldn't agree to meet a group of men if I didn't know anything about them though, or what any of the others looked like, so I can see in that regard why you may not get many offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it a single male who has a group of other guys he can call on, or have I got it wrong, I probably haven't read it properly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo I'm sure that of all the really important things in relation to swinging, the spelling of the words discrete/discreet is very very important indeed. Why can't people just answer the question asked? "

If you intend to go through every forum post and berate everyone who doesn't directly answer the OP's question, then make yourself a huge flask of coffee because you're going to be here for some time.

Additionally, nobody ever claimed it was an important matter. The term 'pet peeve' suggests quite the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its just a spelling mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what i dont understand about jobs and face pic's is you carnt put a face pic on here because of your job so there for you dont want anyone to know what you look like does this also meen if some one did agree to meet you for a social or play meet you would turn up with a bag over your head so they still dont know what you look like????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondered what seems to be the problem with us wanting to be discrete? We are midlands swingers, we have a few regular guys we invite to play with us. We runna single/attached profile, because we get swamped when we run a cpls profile. Face pics are a no no for us because of our jobs! We don't do clubs, we prefer pre-arranged meets, and we don't always show our feedback. So why do people assume we are not worthy, just because we want to remain anonymous and discrete yet still enjoy awesome 3somes? Discuss "

We have much the same requirements for discretion as yourselves but don't really have any problems getting meets...it's all relative I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

soap box now sorry

right you have no mention of a partner in your profile so as we and most fab users/search will look at you as a single. like as been said before if you are a cpl have a cpls profile if not be honest. as for your job we havea job theat means we really have to be careful but we still manage to have about 60 pics on our profile and get meets. we really dont get what your trying to say if you have to many replies as a cpl so pretened to be a single male then complain you dont get any ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what i dont understand about jobs and face pic's is you carnt put a face pic on here because of your job so there for you dont want anyone to know what you look like does this also meen if some one did agree to meet you for a social or play meet you would turn up with a bag over your head so they still dont know what you look like????"

I suppose the difference is (if you were so inclined) you can't put a memory of someones face all over the t'interweb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops the OP has left the building!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

och!-I'll never know now

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

bugger - worse than a cliffhanger on eastenders....

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another one bites the dust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have the right to be as loud or as quiet as they want to be.

Surely there's nothing wrong enjoy the aspects of the site that you want to enjoy, right?

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