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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So in the past week I've had two couples (both from Worcester for some reason! ) Who seemed very genuine, had good verifications, wanted to meet, then let me get on the motorway and decided to text me saying it's been cancelled. The second actually being a bit kinder and messaging me just before I hit the M5. Now what's with this, do people get a kick off letting other people down? Maybe they're actually genuine and it was an honest cancellation, but why not give a reason or at least an apology rather than it's cancelled. It seems to me they wasn't actually genuine but if they wasn't how did they get their verifications!? Confusing stuff in the world of fabs! Is there anyway as a site we can get round this? From now on I'm not meeting couples unless I speak with both partners on the phone, unless they're real close to where I live. Another thing I thought may work is an 'ebay style' feedback system. So if someone does this to you, you can give them negative feedback which is visible on their profile, whether they like it or not Would like to hear everyones opinions x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick to meeting at socials or clubs, no time wasters there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So in the past week I've had two couples (both from Worcester for some reason! ) Who seemed very genuine, had good verifications, wanted to meet, then let me get on the motorway and decided to text me saying it's been cancelled. The second actually being a bit kinder and messaging me just before I hit the M5. Now what's with this, do people get a kick off letting other people down? Maybe they're actually genuine and it was an honest cancellation, but why not give a reason or at least an apology rather than it's cancelled. It seems to me they wasn't actually genuine but if they wasn't how did they get their verifications!? Confusing stuff in the world of fabs! Is there anyway as a site we can get round this? From now on I'm not meeting couples unless I speak with both partners on the phone, unless they're real close to where I live. Another thing I thought may work is an 'ebay style' feedback system. So if someone does this to you, you can give them negative feedback which is visible on their profile, whether they like it or not Would like to hear everyones opinions x"

maybe a one on one would be better for you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stick to meeting at socials or clubs, no time wasters there! "

+1

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

My opinion is this....(and you may not like it, but you did ask).

You need to get over it quick, put the dissapointments out of your mind and get on with trying to meet people....

Or give up on swinging....and leave the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP... we had to cancel a social meet this week because I was caught behind a bad smash on a motorway.

Does that make us 'not genuine'?

The single guy who we were due to meet was quite understanding and we are rearranging for another time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP... we had to cancel a social meet this week because I was caught behind a bad smash on a motorway.

Does that make us 'not genuine'?

The single guy who we were due to meet was quite understanding and we are rearranging for another time."

OMG hope u are ok xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP... we had to cancel a social meet this week because I was caught behind a bad smash on a motorway.

Does that make us 'not genuine'?

The single guy who we were due to meet was quite understanding and we are rearranging for another time.

OMG hope u are ok xxxx"

I'm ok, I was stuck in the traffic behind it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP... we had to cancel a social meet this week because I was caught behind a bad smash on a motorway.

Does that make us 'not genuine'?

The single guy who we were due to meet was quite understanding and we are rearranging for another time.

OMG hope u are ok xxxx

I'm ok, I was stuck in the traffic behind it."

good xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP... we had to cancel a social meet this week because I was caught behind a bad smash on a motorway.

Does that make us 'not genuine'?

The single guy who we were due to meet was quite understanding and we are rearranging for another time."

Not at all and I did completely understand when they cancelled, it's not like I came on here an wrote this topic straight away. I messaged them saying 'Gutted you had to cancel, No problems, hope everything is ok, let me know when your free' and I havn't heard anything. I'm not saying they're definately not genuine (well actually I did but maybe they are) It just seems strange we was messaging for a week back n forth then all of a sudden, nothing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

PS glad you're ok x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am definately over it. Got a meet tonight, just wondered if anyone had any similar experiences and how we could try and get rid, or at least cut down on these situations. Maybe we can't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're loss hun, hot hot body.xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stick to meeting at socials or clubs, no time wasters there! "
...... What they said we gave up on meeting outside of clubs & socials never looked back carnt go wrong, Stick with it.

* S¡Ts iN CrYp¡T * -|-

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I am definately over it. Got a meet tonight, just wondered if anyone had any similar experiences and how we could try and get rid, or at least cut down on these situations. Maybe we can't! "

let me tell you why negative feedback will never work...

I have never met you... but because I have taken some dislike to you I'll give you negative feedback anyway...

... or say with you have a meet and decided it wasn't for you... negative feedback can be used to be vendictive

I know that what I am about the say isn't going to be what you want to hear... but they let you know that it was cancelled before you got there! that isn't really the normal actions of the "timewaster".. and I think that people are very quick to throw the word around....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're loss hun, hot hot body.xxx"

They didn't think so, so not their loss is it?

Agree with the hot bod though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP... we had to cancel a social meet this week because I was caught behind a bad smash on a motorway.

Does that make us 'not genuine'?

The single guy who we were due to meet was quite understanding and we are rearranging for another time.

Not at all and I did completely understand when they cancelled, it's not like I came on here an wrote this topic straight away. I messaged them saying 'Gutted you had to cancel, No problems, hope everything is ok, let me know when your free' and I havn't heard anything. I'm not saying they're definately not genuine (well actually I did but maybe they are) It just seems strange we was messaging for a week back n forth then all of a sudden, nothing?"

It happens... We've had the same happen to us.

We met a guy for a drink months and months ago under a different profile (we had to shut it thanks to weird stalker-like behaviour!) and we all got on well and agreed to meet for fun... he cancelled for whatever reason... we decided to leave it there.

He recently contacted us on our new profile not knowing who we were... we replied by telling him we had met before including our old username..... guess what, we have agreed to meet for fun.

He might change his mind again, who knows? We won't get hung up on it if he does.

What I'm trying to say is that people will change their minds, they have every right to.

Try and enjoy this as much as you can... and you are right about chatting on the phone first, it will help you out any potential fakers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a genuine couple but recently had to cancel twice at very short notice due to having a family and these things happening..

also it happen to us where then guys suddenly get cold feet... I only get a little put out when they dont let us know at all..

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am definately over it. Got a meet tonight, just wondered if anyone had any similar experiences and how we could try and get rid, or at least cut down on these situations. Maybe we can't!

let me tell you why negative feedback will never work...

I have never met you... but because I have taken some dislike to you I'll give you negative feedback anyway...

... or say with you have a meet and decided it wasn't for you... negative feedback can be used to be vendictive

I know that what I am about the say isn't going to be what you want to hear... but they let you know that it was cancelled before you got there! that isn't really the normal actions of the "timewaster".. and I think that people are very quick to throw the word around...."

I suppose you're right Fabio, Im still new to swinging so still learning and I suppose from now on I should make sure I speak on the phone before-hand or introduce myself to the clubs!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They're loss hun, hot hot body.xxx

They didn't think so, so not their loss is it?

Agree with the hot bod though. "

They did the day before LOL! Thanks aswell! I work hard enough for it so it's nice to get some comments

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are a genuine couple but recently had to cancel twice at very short notice due to having a family and these things happening..

also it happen to us where then guys suddenly get cold feet... I only get a little put out when they dont let us know at all..

Cali x"

Derby isn't too far . . . . .. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sam had FOUR no shows in a week but as already said about "getting over it" and move on we did.........shit happens.

We'll try to arrange meets at ours in the future and then at least we haven't travelled and lost half a day!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't cancel you thats for sure!! Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So in the past week I've had two couples (both from Worcester for some reason! ) Who seemed very genuine, had good verifications, wanted to meet, then let me get on the motorway and decided to text me saying it's been cancelled. The second actually being a bit kinder and messaging me just before I hit the M5. Now what's with this, do people get a kick off letting other people down? Maybe they're actually genuine and it was an honest cancellation, but why not give a reason or at least an apology rather than it's cancelled. It seems to me they wasn't actually genuine but if they wasn't how did they get their verifications!? Confusing stuff in the world of fabs! Is there anyway as a site we can get round this? From now on I'm not meeting couples unless I speak with both partners on the phone, unless they're real close to where I live. Another thing I thought may work is an 'ebay style' feedback system. So if someone does this to you, you can give them negative feedback which is visible on their profile, whether they like it or not Would like to hear everyones opinions x"

You can report people for doing this so i would suggest doing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So in the past week I've had two couples (both from Worcester for some reason! ) Who seemed very genuine, had good verifications, wanted to meet, then let me get on the motorway and decided to text me saying it's been cancelled. The second actually being a bit kinder and messaging me just before I hit the M5. Now what's with this, do people get a kick off letting other people down? Maybe they're actually genuine and it was an honest cancellation, but why not give a reason or at least an apology rather than it's cancelled. It seems to me they wasn't actually genuine but if they wasn't how did they get their verifications!? Confusing stuff in the world of fabs! Is there anyway as a site we can get round this? From now on I'm not meeting couples unless I speak with both partners on the phone, unless they're real close to where I live. Another thing I thought may work is an 'ebay style' feedback system. So if someone does this to you, you can give them negative feedback which is visible on their profile, whether they like it or not Would like to hear everyones opinions x"

well if they are verified by meeting in person id say their reasons to cancel was probably genuine, maybe their reason for cancelling was personal, would you give out personal delails to a stranger off the net? i wouldnt

Its hard to say really

I have only had to cancel once in 10 years of doing this and that was because my child cut her leg open about 10 mins before i was due to leave, so i had to cancel to take her to the hospital, i did explain this to him as i didnt feel it was something to personal i had to lie, but he didnt believe me and insisted i told him what hospital i was going to so he could come and make sure i was there so even if you are genuine and tell the truth people still class you as a time waster

Had they had a bad feedback section id have been given it by him, is it fair i get branded a time waster by a guy who think im a liar because i put my child before his cock?

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