FabSwingers.com forum: body issues

By *g99 OP Couple
over a year ago

We have played abit but always when d*unk! Reason being I have a issue with my body after giving birth I have quite a few stretch marks on my tummy and the skin is a little saggy, no matter how much my OH tells me that my body is beutiful I just can't see it and this has stopped me from plating more than we would like to! Will this get better in time? Or is ther any tips you lovley people could give us?? Thanks xoxoxox

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Only you can learn to love the body you have, other people telling you it's nice will not make any difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is none of us get away intact after carrying babies but you could try putting on a little weight whilst working out. Get a machine at home if you can't get down to the gym. Rubbing olive oil in will help a lot too as it conditions your skin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just get over it. I know it's not easy. I'm in the same boat as you can see from one of my pics on here. I post it so anyone that has a problem with it won't message me.

Most guys are just pleased to have you naked, a few stretch marks are the last thing on their minds!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My master has worked very hard to boost my confidence.. I'd not meet anyone that needed a drink to play either...

The only thing I will say is it doesn't matter how many compliments you get if you won't accept them..... I know that my master love's me as I am... And I've had 6 kids and when master and I met was nearly 10stone over weight...

You have to find your sexy side... It's in there... And you have to accept that to the person that matters most in your life that your sexy and desired... Accept that and see how play improves as you ooze sexual confidence...

It's amazing..

Just love yourself

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relax. Your body may not be beautiful to you but sure as hell there will be lots of people that will enjoy it and like it as much as your partner does. Having had children and now with some middle age spread I know how you feel but, swinging and getting naked with new people has give me a body confidence that I have never had before. Enjoy your self

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By *g99 OP Couple
over a year ago

My partners suggestion was to jump straight in and when I'm naked and everyone else is youl just forget about the little imperfections, maybe he's right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

remember you are not obliged to take all off if you are not comfortable with it. buy a sexy basque and keep it on. Anne summers do nice zip front ones you can whip off quickly when you are ready.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I actually never ever am naked around others.. I always keep something on.. its not to do with lack of confidence its to do with keeping that total nakedness for my Master..

but in the early days it helped.. to wear a nice flowing top.. that would cover those little bits I thought would turn people off..

Now I love to bend and flash my panties while we are all still dressed.

Cali

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The little imperfections?

You're a blonde, size 8, shaven bisexual girl with 34D boobs.

There probably isn't a single profile on here who, given the opportunity, wouldn't pounce on you like the buffet at a wedding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP...

Have a read of this...

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/42848

You are not alone with the way you feel. I can only say that you must NOT do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have stretch marks, I have wobbles - I could worry about them, but they will still be there! So I dont worry about them.

All I can say is just try and not think about them. More women than you think will have the same, so you arent on your own babe.

Trust me, if your other half loves you with them, anyone elses opinion doesnt matter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used to care about the strech marks and things lik bruises i get occasionally thanks to learning the pole but people dont care x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

after having 5 kids i dont care no more .i over waite and have loads strach marks .but ive had fun on meets been on here help me see that i can have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too have stretch marks and a wobbly tummy from childbirth but I find wearing sexy basques

(which hide a multitude of sins) make me feel ubersexy and fills me with confidence, just wish they made basques for my chins! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I too have stretch marks and a wobbly tummy from childbirth but I find wearing sexy basques

(which hide a multitude of sins) make me feel ubersexy and fills me with confidence, just wish they made basques for my chins! lol

canu get me a basque for my arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yah ass look good to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yah ass look good to me

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+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only took me 4 shots to get it right x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think its up to you in the end - but you seem to have a good man about you - my ex used to moan at my mum tum - got rid of him and met my soul mate who told me he wished it was him who had given me the mumtum - i learnt to love it as its part of me - in fact im proud of it

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By *g99 OP Couple
over a year ago

Thanks guys, slowly but surley ill get there :D xoxoxox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"think its up to you in the end - but you seem to have a good man about you - my ex used to moan at my mum tum - got rid of him and met my soul mate who told me he wished it was him who had given me the mumtum - i learnt to love it as its part of me - in fact im proud of it

ahhhh thats so nice..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"only took me 4 shots to get it right x"

What did you shoot it with?

Bet I could hit it with my catapult

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By *ne-just4funMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I fully understand where you're coming from. My wife has given up swinging, because of how she feels about herself. She has always had the mumtum (love that word

) but always had a Que of people wanting to meet her, and was always in demand at any party. While she was ill she put on a bit of weight, went up a dress size and has now lost all her confidence. She still looks good, and has always liked to wear basques, but in her eyes she does not look sexy any more. We are obviously still in contact with people we have met before, and everyone tells her she looks good, but she won't except that.

It's a difficult one!

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By *olly Gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes

to be honest, thinks like stretch marks are natural and a sign of your womanhood - they are not a curse although i can imagine how you feel, not that i've given birth but working on reducing that belly myself. so now its wobbly and has the stretch marks too. took me ages to overcome but i'm getting there.

i guess we are none of us happy with our bodies 100% of the time but then we are only human.

whenever you think about the marks and they get you nice, think of something really nice - fav food, fantasy, celebrity - anything/anyone and enjoy the good thoughts rather than dwelling on the bad ones.

take care

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By *lderguy4funMan
over a year ago

ROTHERHAM

DG99 you look great everybody has a few down sides us guys look past that wen its comes to sex we dont expect to see a pefect body i def can put up with a few MARKS please dont pull your self down men and women we all the same with good bits and bad bits so please down let it bother you xxx you look fantastic very hot and sexy

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

You look great to us from what we can see!

Loads and loads of people have body issues of one sort or another. Those that care obviously aren't worth your time. Most won't care.

Mrs P has the exact same issue as you and she is finally learning that if she doesn't care and just focuses on having fun then all those we would choose play with respond in exactly the same way.....

Ignore it and focus on the fun! Worked for us!

Try going to a club and looking at the body types around you.... There's alsodid of different shapes and sizes and all the happy, chilled out couples are focused on the fun.. Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 99% of us have got strech marks after 3 children and yrs of yoyo dieting i've got loads.

Do i care ? Noooope.

Used to though.

Get out there and enjoy yourself xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have played abit but always when d*unk! Reason being I have a issue with my body after giving birth I have quite a few stretch marks on my tummy and the skin is a little saggy, no matter how much my OH tells me that my body is beutiful I just can't see it and this has stopped me from plating more than we would like to! Will this get better in time? Or is ther any tips you lovley people could give us?? Thanks xoxoxox"

The more you swing the more confidence you will get hopefully.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

The more you swing the more confidence you will get hopefully. "

That's very true that!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Lots of people have body issues, men & women. There will be very few that are 100% happy with themselves.

I have stretch marks & wobbly bits...Do I like them? No, but it doesn't stop me from playing.

To be honest the fact that you needed to be d*unk to play would put me off. Stretch marks on your tummy wouldn't. xx

Perhaps if you were to wear a basque / corset for meets, that might help you to feel more comfortable as the area you are unhappy with is covered.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

People can tell you you are gorgeous to the cows come home but you have to believe it yourself.

Wear some flattering underwear and show of the bits that you percieve to be your best points and work from there.

Seriously most women especially those that have children do not have perfect bodies. Noone has a perfect body, can you imagine what film stars would look like if they hadnt been airbrushed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most people have body issues

I have loads, and like you it does restrict what i do, even what possitions i will have sex in, i dont like doggy because i dont like my stomach hanging down, i dont like my legs over a guys shoulder because i dont like my belly to bulge, i dont like sitting upright when on top because i have saggy tits and a baggy belly and dont like being looked at so tend to keep lent forwards when on top so the person cant see me front on, ive been doing this 10 years and i still feel same, but my sex drive takes over my insecirities and i just put up with it, tho if i am honest i would sooner have sex in the dark, not because im boring but i can just relax more and let go knowing my saggy and baggy bits cant be seen

I also find it hard to meet people off here as im always scared they wont like me because of my size so i tend to use clubs more where i dont feel like im being judged as noones there to meet me, if that makes sence

so your not on your own x

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