FabSwingers.com forum: Being black

By *olliPine OP Couple
over a year ago

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Doesn't bother us.

Race doesn't bother us.

But if that's all you can bring to the table, we won't be meeting.

We've met and played with plenty of black people over the years,and happily consider some as friends.

However, when we get a message from an empty profile, with the the only content being

'do you like black'

That's not really enough for us to go on.

We've just been called racist by a guy who's entire profile is about him being black and having a black cock.

When the reason we gave him for not being interested is the fact he isn't looking for mf couples - he played the race card.

We actually replied that it's not that he isn't for us, but that we're not for him.

Apparently it's because we're racist. He's the one bringing skin colour into it.

It doesn't bother us, but just being black won't get you a meet

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Couldn't agree more OP. Skin colour is NEVER a factor to either of us. People are people and some are attractive to us others aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think people play on whatever they've got that might separate them from the crowd. Lots of women state that the only want black men so he's prob used to a positive reaction.

You don't sound racist so I wouldn't worry about it

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"You don't sound racist so I wouldn't worry about it"

I'll second that.

In my profile, I say I like Ross Kemp, Lawence Delglio and Jason Statham. I had an Asian guy whose opening message to me was that he fancied me but shame I was racist and only into white guys... Huh? So we had a few pointless exchange of messages...

I do get some of my approaches rejected but I assume he prefers blonde or tall women. In a fairly informal and tangental meet environment like Fab, playing the Race Card is unnecessary and when they do, it says more about them than you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take no notice a lot of people tend to look at me and think racists thug etc then they get to know me and there like oh...

Racism is a 2 way Street something all races need educating on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so sad to hear that but he could be one of the people who pretend to be some one else with fake acount just messing around with people who doesn't have better things to do n he could black n knobhead either way just ignore them kind of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about positive discrimination?

Given the choice of meeting a tall, hung, handsome, muscular man.... I tend to choose the black guy over the white. I can’t explain why. I just do.

I’m keener on dark haired guys than blonde or red.

I prefer strawberry blonde women.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Swinging for some ( including us ) , is a fantasy world .

Perhaps he felt his alter ego ( the whole black thing ) , was his kink .

You weren’t for him , he wasn’t for you , it wouldn’t have worked . Plenty more on here for you and for him

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"Swinging for some ( including us ) , is a fantasy world .

Perhaps he felt his alter ego ( the whole black thing ) , was his kink .

You weren’t for him , he wasn’t for you , it wouldn’t have worked . Plenty more on here for you and for him

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By *andSfitCouple
over a year ago

London

Being are darker half of an interracial couple I've had it that people say no coz they're not onto blacks. But I don't take it any other way than that. Sometimes it's just not what people are into just like people aren't into blonds or tall people or what ever. People have the right to have a preference without being called racist I really hate when people play the race card at any given chance. This guy sounds like a dick as he wouldn't even listen to your reason which had nothing to do with colour

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By *eadonistCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

For us it depends on the person. Not skin colour, not religion, not gender, not anything.

Attitude and the feel of the messages can go along way. Also showing that you have read a profile is a real advantage..

But if your not out type.... then very little can be done to change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet black or mixed race men. That doesn't make me a racist to white guys although I've been told before it is. To me it's my preference and my choice. White men do nothing for me but I don't think that's rude or racist it's just my choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't bother us.

Race doesn't bother us.

But if that's all you can bring to the table, we won't be meeting.

We've met and played with plenty of black people over the years,and happily consider some as friends.

However, when we get a message from an empty profile, with the the only content being

'do you like black'

That's not really enough for us to go on.

We've just been called racist by a guy who's entire profile is about him being black and having a black cock.

When the reason we gave him for not being interested is the fact he isn't looking for mf couples - he played the race card.

We actually replied that it's not that he isn't for us, but that we're not for him.

Apparently it's because we're racist. He's the one bringing skin colour into it.

It doesn't bother us, but just being black won't get you a meet"

I get this and im the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on earth do you care what he thinks? Who really cares if you turned him down for being black or being too tall or not being able to spell or having a big cock?

Just pick something non-personal as a reason for turning people down and they can't get pissed off.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I don't see any reason for the conversation to be honest, when people tell you no, thank them for not wasting your time and move on, you don't need to go into all that talk with them, there are more beautiful ladies waiting to tell you yes than them if you think like me, my experience has showed me it is their loss not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because of the fetish for some for BBC some men assume women will want to meet them purely because of their skin tone. I personally delete and block any messages which ask if I like BBC etc. I am attracted to people not skin colour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dnt worry about it.... can’t see the attraction to be fare .... some have to many hang ups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kind of think this thread highlights the issues with Fab.

To explain, I did a kink scene with a friend and she put a picture on her profile which suitably anonymised showed us.

She was surprised by two things. Firstly how many white male friends wrote to her to say, you are mixing blacks we don't want to know you. Secondly she received a whole lot of messages from black guys. She asked me about the latter. I said the black guys on Fab find a lot of people are not interested in black guys. Despite the very vocal lovers of black the numbers are small. So unless a profile clearly shows that the couple or woman will play with black guys most reaaonable black guys won't randomly contact you. The fact you have a picture with a black guy shows at least you will consider black guys.

Therefore I see the message to OP not as' I am black fuck me' but as a civil request to find out whether OP plays with black men. There is nothing on the profile to show that OP doesn't mind black men. So I on the information provided I see it as no more than a civil enquiry.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"I kind of think this thread highlights the issues with Fab.

To explain, I did a kink scene with a friend and she put a picture on her profile which suitably anonymised showed us.

Totally agree with all this, however, if as the op said he played the race card and accused them of being racist when being turned down, surely that's crossing the line.

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By *oreverHorny69Man
over a year ago

Milnrow

Black or white doesn’t matter to me. Would happily meet anyone

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Because of the fetish for some for BBC some men assume women will want to meet them purely because of their skin tone. I personally delete and block any messages which ask if I like BBC etc. I am attracted to people not skin colour."

Skin tone as you call it and BBC are two different things

Only experienced this once on the scene, many years ago out dogging. Yeah I got called out for being racist by a Rasta guy because I didn’t want to play. Clearly nothing to do with the way he was following us and shouting that put me off

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By *olliPine OP Couple
over a year ago

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"I kind of think this thread highlights the issues with Fab.

To explain, I did a kink scene with a friend and she put a picture on her profile which suitably anonymised showed us.

Thing is he's not looking for MF couples so whilst there may not currently be any pics or veri's showing that we couldn't care less if you're black, white, purple or sky blue pink - it's irrelevant as he's not looking to meet us.

To counter a few other points: we don't care what he thinks other than that he's accusing us of being racist which is pretty serious; there was no conversation - he messaged solely to ask if we were into black or however he worded it and we replied to say that we aren't for him since we're an MF couple which he's not looking for, which is when he made his accusation; we never turned him down. For any reason. We pointed out he's not looking for our profile type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't bother us.

Race doesn't bother us.

But if that's all you can bring to the table, we won't be meeting.

We've met and played with plenty of black people over the years,and happily consider some as friends.

However, when we get a message from an empty profile, with the the only content being

'do you like black'

That's not really enough for us to go on.

We've just been called racist by a guy who's entire profile is about him being black and having a black cock.

When the reason we gave him for not being interested is the fact he isn't looking for mf couples - he played the race card.

We actually replied that it's not that he isn't for us, but that we're not for him.

Apparently it's because we're racist. He's the one bringing skin colour into it.

It doesn't bother us, but just being black won't get you a meet"

Because you're supposed to prove youre not racist but having sex with him. Reverse psychology.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Black and Asian people are so heavily fetishized that he obviously thought it was an 'in'

His reaction was very silly though I can agree that much

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By *oiretblancCouple
over a year ago

London

Being black isn't just skin colour guys!!

We black women kiss differently, suck cocks differently, lick pussy differently and fuck differently. We all know that and a lot of people on Fabs know it too!

After a year on Fabswingers I have a mountain of evidence that a huge number of white men and white bisexual women are lusting after our sweet black flesh! LOVE IT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being black isn't just skin colour guys!!

We black women kiss differently, suck cocks differently, lick pussy differently and fuck differently. "

Applies to every single woman individually. And every man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sexual perfrance isn't black as I'm just not sexually attracted to black people it's that simple.

In the same context there's idiots in all races including white and black so don't be shocked when a idiot messages you as race doesn't make you a good or bad person.its yourself that makes you good or bad or a idiot or a nice person.

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish

Does any of this matter?If so why?

God it's so depressing that it's even being discussed.

Sorry but I'm on a rant.

Happy new year.xc

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I agree with you OP....

I find it a bit cringe when someone uses their skin colour as their USP.....or their uniform.....or their accent.....or their financial status.

If I like someone it's because I'm attracted to them. Simple really!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Being black isn't just skin colour guys!!

We black women kiss differently, suck cocks differently, lick pussy differently and fuck differently. We all know that and a lot of people on Fabs know it too!

After a year on Fabswingers I have a mountain of evidence that a huge number of white men and white bisexual women are lusting after our sweet black flesh! LOVE IT

A very erm .... confident woman indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being black isn't just skin colour guys!!

We black women kiss differently, suck cocks differently, lick pussy differently and fuck differently. We all know that and a lot of people on Fabs know it too!

After a year on Fabswingers I have a mountain of evidence that a huge number of white men and white bisexual women are lusting after our sweet black flesh! LOVE IT

Haha damn, got me tempted now girl

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