FabSwingers.com forum: How to tell new gf your bi ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?

Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.

Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say sooner rather than later

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?

Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.

Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?"

I'm confused. Your profile states you are straight

I would tell her as soon as you can.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I have been in your gfs shoes and my partner decided to lie to me instead.

Wind forward two years and it was a terrible shock finding out.

Just be truthful

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?

Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.

Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?

I'm confused. Your profile states you are straight

I would tell her as soon as you can. "

Didn’t see that. But love the status

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By *uriousCouple999Couple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Ours isn't probably much help but me & M had a chat when we were d*unk & both said we had been on swingers site before we meet & M told me he was bisexual

I'm totally fine with it, I'm really open minded & I am just happy he can be himself around me

you have to be honest as hard as it is, I would be really hurt if M had kept it from me, id feel he couldn't trust/talk to me x Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should probably also mention to her that you're on a swinging site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

guessing you're (fab) straight.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions. "

I wonder if many men would have a problem with that though. I'm thinking it may be harder for a man to say it.

I would love it if a boyfriend had said it to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her the truth but explain everything to her. As I love bi men. But when my friend found out she was disgusted with me. Yet she is bi herself. I explained all an she is still disgusted. There’s still a lot of people who are closed minds an set in ways. I guess all I’m saying is, she also sounds closed. An her worry would be you cheating on her with a man.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?

Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.

Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?"

How important is it to you? Have you discussed swinging with your girlfriend? The reason i ask is that if you are planning on living maonogamously ever after then what difference does it make.

Yes I've have many experiences of this, mostly negative. They don't have to like it, but it does piss you off when they want experiment with another girl but tell you it's disgusting for a guy to do the same! Usually this kind of attitude is masking a deeper character flaw and it's best to ditch her. For example, I've had more than one ex say "but how could i trust you not to cheat on me when you are out with your male friends?". In other words, because I'm bi that means that everyone is a sexual target so i can't be trusted to go out and not bum everyone. For me, a relationship with such a stupid and or irrational person was never going to last.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it kinda taken out of my hands

I got pissed and sucked a lad off she worked with

He told her

Thankfully, she was cool with it

Much to his disappointment

It was within weeks of starting to see her though

Had it been later on, I dare say I would have been wearing my bollocks as a necklace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say I'm Bi . if she accepts it yet sorted

if she kicks off . say you meant Bi lingual

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I had it kinda taken out of my hands

I got pissed and sucked a lad off she worked with

He told her

Thankfully, she was cool with it

Much to his disappointment

It was within weeks of starting to see her though

Had it been later on, I dare say I would have been wearing my bollocks as a necklace"

That's why it's always best to fuck a guy in the ass after you suck his dick. People don't boast about that so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had it kinda taken out of my hands

I got pissed and sucked a lad off she worked with

He told her

Thankfully, she was cool with it

Much to his disappointment

It was within weeks of starting to see her though

Had it been later on, I dare say I would have been wearing my bollocks as a necklace

That's why it's always best to fuck a guy in the ass after you suck his dick. People don't boast about that so much."

Noted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Healthy relationships depend on trust and honest communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?

Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.

Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?"
leave your phone on side with a pic of you obviously with your face in it being sucked by a guy no words needed ha she either leaves you or she doesn't

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Just say I'm Bi . if she accepts it yet sorted

if she kicks off . say you meant Bi lingual

and stay Fab straight ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just say I'm Bi . if she accepts it yet sorted

if she kicks off . say you meant Bi lingual

and stay Fab straight ?"
Exacly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that you're on a swinging site and cheating may be a bigger pill to swallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fact that you're on a swinging site and cheating may be a bigger pill to swallow "
damn trust you to notice that shhhhhh

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By *azkinsWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I would think it would be best to tell her BEFORE she was your girlfriend # just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had it kinda taken out of my hands

I got pissed and sucked a lad off she worked with

He told her

Thankfully, she was cool with it

Much to his disappointment

It was within weeks of starting to see her though

Had it been later on, I dare say I would have been wearing my bollocks as a necklace

That's why it's always best to fuck a guy in the ass after you suck his dick. People don't boast about that so much."

Haha. Love it

You can get such wonderful advice from Fab

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Just tell her. Simples. her reaction depends on her sexual awareness Or if she’s the one , and you don’t want to ruin it. Go back to straight university and cleanse

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"Hey, I jus thought I should let you know that I'm bisexual. I know that often we assume that people are straight, but I wanted you to know that I'm not."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s very early days between us it’s not like this is a 3yr relasionshop and I’m thinking of dropping it for the record

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"It’s very early days between us it’s not like this is a 3yr relasionshop and I’m thinking of dropping it for the record

No but it could be if you keep putting it off.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Everything on your profile contradicts what you're saying here. You sure about this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Babe...I'm bisexual"

You're welcome

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?

Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.

Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?"

Telling her you are bi and have played with guys in the past probably won’t be as bad as telling her you are ‘still’ actively on a swinging site looking for extra fun

What you did in your past is exactly that - your past

She might not be so accomodating knowing that you may want to meet others whether it’s female or male whilst in a relationship with her either with or without her involvement

Remember swinging isn’t for everyone

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It’s very early days between us it’s not like this is a 3yr relasionshop and I’m thinking of dropping it for the record

What are you thinking of dropping? Your relationship, being on Fab or the straight status on your profile ?

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.

I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.

She returned the favour and told me about her past.

It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Easy, show her your profile and how you have been sleeping with other people whilst you been with her. That way she would just dump you anyway for being a cheat and you can live your life being bi.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.

I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.

She returned the favour and told me about her past.

It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends. "

Why, what was in her past

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.

I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.

She returned the favour and told me about her past.

It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends. "

I think that's the best way to be. There's nothing to trip you up then

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.

I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.

She returned the favour and told me about her past.

It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends.

Why, what was in her past

Kink, fetish and bi.

She introduced me to the bizarre bazaar, amongst other things.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.

I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.

She returned the favour and told me about her past.

It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends.

Why, what was in her past

Kink, fetish and bi.

She introduced me to the bizarre bazaar, amongst other things.

Well she sounds like a keeper, why didn't it last!?

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

You need to think about how this will impact on your relationship. Will you be seeing other men or are you just saying you are bi but in a committed relationship with her? Just because you are bi doesnt mean you necessarily need to indulge your bi side. If that was the case nobody would be faithful, bi and straight people.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.

I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.

She returned the favour and told me about her past.

It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends.

Why, what was in her past

Kink, fetish and bi.

She introduced me to the bizarre bazaar, amongst other things.

Well she sounds like a keeper, why didn't it last!?"

Our kinks didn't align. I won't go into details in the forum. But we are still friends, without benefits, and go to cinema, munches etc. Together.

It's good to have a kinky friend to talk to

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.

I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.

She returned the favour and told me about her past.

It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends.

Why, what was in her past

Kink, fetish and bi.

She introduced me to the bizarre bazaar, amongst other things.

Well she sounds like a keeper, why didn't it last!?

Our kinks didn't align. I won't go into details in the forum. But we are still friends, without benefits, and go to cinema, munches etc. Together.

It's good to have a kinky friend to talk to "

This is true, sex is not a good foundation for a relationship, no matter how tempting the prospect may seem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The sooner the better.

Some people can’t handle that their partner wants same sex shenanigans.

My ex didn’t like it as she said she could compete with a woman but not a man.

But I’ve had girlfriends and boyfriends who said ‘bring it on’ and lots of sexy escapades followed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL! Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?

Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.

Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?

I'm confused. Your profile states you are straight

I would tell her as soon as you can. "

Don't tell her... if you can't tell a bunch of strangers on here you have no chance one to one in real life...

Actually if she is expecting a monogamous relationship, she may never need to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everything on your profile contradicts what you're saying here. You sure about this?

You smell a rat too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?

Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.

Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?"

If it is early days in the relationship, just drop it in.

If it is serious and she is the one, will you intend to continue swinging?

If you intend to remain monogamous and faithfull to her, your bisexuality will become irrelevant, unless of course you will continue to have sex outside of your relationship.

Depends where you see yourself in 5 years time. Only you know the answer.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?

Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.

Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?

I'm confused. Your profile states you are straight

I would tell her as soon as you can.

Don't tell her... if you can't tell a bunch of strangers on here you have no chance one to one in real life...

Actually if she is expecting a monogamous relationship, she may never need to know."

Really...worst bit of advice given. She'll find out sometime and..... Shit hits the fan because of distrust....cheating...lying...the list goes on... End of!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Could you try some wacky, oddball idea, a bit of blue-sky, out-of-the-box thinking?

Maybe try, 'I've got something to tell you, that you need to know. I'm bi-sexual'.

Crazy, I know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps get your boyfriend to ring her and let her know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions.

I wonder if many men would have a problem with that though. I'm thinking it may be harder for a man to say it.

I would love it if a boyfriend had said it to me."

Ok I am bi............polar does that count

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Unfortunately with your bags packed as the most likely outcome from my experience is your going to get the boot.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions.

I wonder if many men would have a problem with that though. I'm thinking it may be harder for a man to say it.

I would love it if a boyfriend had said it to me.

Ok I am bi............polar does that count"

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Unfortunately with your bags packed as the most likely outcome from my experience is your going to get the boot."

Sorry to hear that, but maybe you should have mentioned it before moving in together.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

"Unfortunately with your bags packed as the most likely outcome from my experience is your going to get the boot.

Sorry to hear that, but maybe you should have mentioned it before moving in together. "

My experience was a bit more complicated in the relationship where I was living with my ex but I can't be bothered explaining it all. My advice was intentionally more generic based one my subsequent experiences of the dating scene.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Love some of these responses some wise comments and at the same time some serious ballshit spoken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually if she is expecting a monogamous relationship, she may never need to know.

Really...worst bit of advice given. She'll find out sometime and..... Shit hits the fan because of distrust....cheating...lying...the list goes on... End of!"

I am not bi, so that makes a difference I suppose, but I have not kept a list of hair colour, body type and sexual skills of all previous girlfriends to present to any future girlfriends for approval.

If the OP is getting into a swinging relationship, yes the topic is relevant. If it's to be monogamous and he will not be having sex with others outside the relationship, does it really matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions.

I wonder if many men would have a problem with that though. I'm thinking it may be harder for a man to say it.

I would love it if a boyfriend had said it to me.

Ok I am bi............polar does that count

The path of true love never run straight but in this case I am straight that is !

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By *mooth4uMan
over a year ago

Kings kynn

Told mine on third date , she was relived as she thought I was going to say I was gay , we weren’t swinging then but she was fine with it , now we get to share cock so it works for us

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By *ifes2short!!Man
over a year ago

newtownabbey

"I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions.

I wonder if many men would have a problem with that though. I'm thinking it may be harder for a man to say it.

I would love it if a boyfriend had said it to me."

Where have you been all my life lol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?

Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.

Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?

How important is it to you? Have you discussed swinging with your girlfriend? The reason i ask is that if you are planning on living maonogamously ever after then what difference does it make.

That sums it up for me too. I told an ex and he threw it back at me every chance he could. Me being bi wasn't the issue. His attitude was.

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

For starters how honest have you been so far?

Does she know you’re on a swingers site?

You state you’re bi but would you be faithful to her if she wanted and not sleep with other males or females?

Be honest. If you can’t be honest with her she deserves better.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Now that’s the sort of news I could handle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my god its easy on Xmas day at dinner table just say " I'm bi pass the salt"

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Now that’s the sort of news I could handle

One woman’s tat is another woman’s treasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?

Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.

Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?"
Tell her from the start. Why lie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fact that you're on a swinging site and cheating may be a bigger pill to swallow "

This !

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