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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it right for someone with a terminal illness to still have meets?

Yes/No and reasons why...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it is. Poorly people are allowed to have a sex life. If the person feels up for it and their partner is too, sex together is a very normal thing to indulge in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. In fact probably more so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do. Whats your problem? Its not putting anyone at risk.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Yes of course. So long as its not contagious, and is there any medical situations that could/would be noticed on the meet then it should be explained beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it's okay, why wouldn;t it be?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Being in that position its not as straightforward...should you tell someone and if so at what point do you tell someone...speaking personally I think its unfair not to tell someone but on the other hand as an nsa meeting is it fair to dump your problems onto someone you may only meet once and if its a social not even actually play. Its an area fraught with complications

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

If it was me and I felt well and fit enough still to do so,damn right I would still be playing. Life is for living and I'd make the most of it. Everyone is different though!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I don't really see it as unloading your problems, it's the same as telling somebody you have asthma and putting your inhaler by the bed.

If you have lost a limb, are a small person, or have any other significant situation I think you should tell someone before you meet them, it's no different to me.

Just a fact that needs to be taken into consideration.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"Of course it is. Poorly people are allowed to have a sex life. If the person feels up for it and their partner is too, sex together is a very normal thing to indulge in."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We're all going to die. Some of us sooner than others.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

As long as you’re not putting anyone’s health at risk then absolutely yes. And why would you need to tell the person you’re meeting if you're healthy enough to still have sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're all going to die. Some of us sooner than others."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see the problem as long as you’re not putting anyone’s health at risk. Why would you need to tell the person you’re meeting if you're healthy enough to still have sex? Unless you feel better for doing so?

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By *heshireguy69Man
over a year ago

saddleworth

I'd say it's wrong for them NOT to have meets.

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By *ammyharrogateWoman
over a year ago

Harrogate

My professional opinion is I think you should tell them just Incase the condition as any side effects or so you don’t do anything to cause them pain. They could scare you too with anything that may happen they may faint, fall asleep, cry out in pain or have fits depending on the illness. My none professional side says go for it have fun it’s the last few moments of your life x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Yes as long as they feel well enough ,why shouldn't they ?.

Miss

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By *.1079Man
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

If I was unfortunate to have a terminal illness it's all I'd be doing, if I was up to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For anyone with a terminal illness I have heartfelt empathy for, in answer to your question OP yes if someone is terminal yet still fit enough to enjoy a sexual meet then of course they can do so, as per what many others have already said, so long as it isn’t something that could cause someone else harm or illness.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"My professional opinion is I think you should tell them just Incase the condition as any side effects or so you don’t do anything to cause them pain. They could scare you too with anything that may happen they may faint, fall asleep, cry out in pain or have fits depending on the illness. My none professional side says go for it have fun it’s the last few moments of your life x"

Good answer!

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By *avid1234555Man
over a year ago

Dfs and Galloway/Ayrshire.


"My professional opinion is I think you should tell them just Incase the condition as any side effects or so you don’t do anything to cause them pain. They could scare you too with anything that may happen they may faint, fall asleep, cry out in pain or have fits depending on the illness. My none professional side says go for it have fun it’s the last few moments of your life x"

Well said...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'd just had sex with someone and they told me they had a terminal illness, they had better be prepared for tears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My professional opinion is I think you should tell them just Incase the condition as any side effects or so you don’t do anything to cause them pain. They could scare you too with anything that may happen they may faint, fall asleep, cry out in pain or have fits depending on the illness. My none professional side says go for it have fun it’s the last few moments of your life x"

I think let someone be the judge of their own illness. Obviously if there is something that might happen it's wise to pre warn the person you're with, however with an awful lot of terminal illnesses, nobody would know.

It's a pain in the arse having a terminal illness and it's never far from your mind. Sometimes you just want to be like everyone else and not have people treading on eggshells around you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're all going to die. Some of us sooner than others."

That was my first thought, but when people die too soon it hurts my heart.

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By *ork10Man
over a year ago

York

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My professional opinion is I think you should tell them just Incase the condition as any side effects or so you don’t do anything to cause them pain. They could scare you too with anything that may happen they may faint, fall asleep, cry out in pain or have fits depending on the illness. My none professional side says go for it have fun it’s the last few moments of your life x

I think let someone be the judge of their own illness. Obviously if there is something that might happen it's wise to pre warn the person you're with, however with an awful lot of terminal illnesses, nobody would know.

It's a pain in the arse having a terminal illness and it's never far from your mind. Sometimes you just want to be like everyone else and not have people treading on eggshells around you. "

100% this.

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By *ork10Man
over a year ago

York


"If I'd just had sex with someone and they told me they had a terminal illness, they had better be prepared for tears. "

Think of the smile you've just put on their face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if they want to, why not, they should enjoy their last days as they wish. X

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Is it right for someone with a terminal illness to still have meets?

Yes/No and reasons why..."

What kinda question is this?!?!?!

Just because a person has a terminal illness doesnt mean they dont have feelings or a desire to meet someone...being with someone will make said person think less about their illness and more about the company

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what about a disability. I have a urine bag which can't be seen with a special belt. By having it, it kept me alive but amazing how many people suddenly block you when you're honest...oh and can't do watersports

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I'd just had sex with someone and they told me they had a terminal illness, they had better be prepared for tears.

Think of the smile you've just put on their face "

I know but, if I had gone through the weeks of messaging and getting to know them, I would be devastated that they were dying.

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By *ammyharrogateWoman
over a year ago

Harrogate


"My professional opinion is I think you should tell them just Incase the condition as any side effects or so you don’t do anything to cause them pain. They could scare you too with anything that may happen they may faint, fall asleep, cry out in pain or have fits depending on the illness. My none professional side says go for it have fun it’s the last few moments of your life x

I think let someone be the judge of their own illness. Obviously if there is something that might happen it's wise to pre warn the person you're with, however with an awful lot of terminal illnesses, nobody would know.

It's a pain in the arse having a terminal illness and it's never far from your mind. Sometimes you just want to be like everyone else and not have people treading on eggshells around you. "

You do that’s true but wouldn’t you want someone kind of warning if something was to happen ?

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

A lot of people are attacking the OP for the question.

What if he is the one with the terminal illness and is just asking for a bit of advice?

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By *ork10Man
over a year ago

York


"If I'd just had sex with someone and they told me they had a terminal illness, they had better be prepared for tears.

Think of the smile you've just put on their face

I know but, if I had gone through the weeks of messaging and getting to know them, I would be devastated that they were dying. "

I see where your coming from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without a shadow of doubt they can. We can't possibly think of any reason that they shouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My professional opinion is I think you should tell them just Incase the condition as any side effects or so you don’t do anything to cause them pain. They could scare you too with anything that may happen they may faint, fall asleep, cry out in pain or have fits depending on the illness. My none professional side says go for it have fun it’s the last few moments of your life x

I think let someone be the judge of their own illness. Obviously if there is something that might happen it's wise to pre warn the person you're with, however with an awful lot of terminal illnesses, nobody would know.

It's a pain in the arse having a terminal illness and it's never far from your mind. Sometimes you just want to be like everyone else and not have people treading on eggshells around you.

You do that’s true but wouldn’t you want someone kind of warning if something was to happen ? "

But it's the person with the terminal condition who's going to know if something may happen. Only then do they maybe need to tell the person they're fucking. And even then they don't need to say their condition is life limiting.

I've never witnessed a health professional giving the advice you are.

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By *evensnipeMan
over a year ago

Dinbych

My late wife died of cancer after a five year struggle. It was obvious from the first diagnosis it was not a good prognosis. She used the times when she felt well enough to fulfill all the things on her bucket list including being 'Dommed' by a BB BBW woman, assorted spit roasting scenarios and MMF sessions. I was always there but it was her life her choice and desire.

Needless to say I think anyone with a terminal illness has the right to a good sex life! She played up until three months (when she became bedridden )before her death. We last enjoyed sexual relations about three weeks before she died.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My professional opinion is I think you should tell them just Incase the condition as any side effects or so you don’t do anything to cause them pain. They could scare you too with anything that may happen they may faint, fall asleep, cry out in pain or have fits depending on the illness. My none professional side says go for it have fun it’s the last few moments of your life x

I think let someone be the judge of their own illness. Obviously if there is something that might happen it's wise to pre warn the person you're with, however with an awful lot of terminal illnesses, nobody would know.

It's a pain in the arse having a terminal illness and it's never far from your mind. Sometimes you just want to be like everyone else and not have people treading on eggshells around you.

You do that’s true but wouldn’t you want someone kind of warning if something was to happen ? "

In my case there is nothing that is likely to happen suddenly. If there was, I would say or indeed as we play as a couple, the good lady would take care of everything.

You have to remember, even though we have been diagnosed with a terminal illness, we haven't lost our minds and are able to make rational decisions the same as everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank-you to all those who have answered. In response to those who seem to think its an insensitive question or that I shouldnt be asking it my reply is that I was (as kindly commented upon by _riskynrisky) simply asking for advice never having been in this position before...after all should one or how does one say....oh thanks for the meet but you should know ive been diagnosed as terminally ill with less than a year to go. The other thing people seem to ask or comment on is that is it catching...the answer is no its not neither is it hereditary it is simply an unfortunate lung condition called IPF.

Thanks again for the advice

Tony xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank-you to all those who have answered. In response to those who seem to think its an insensitive question or that I shouldnt be asking it my reply is that I was (as kindly commented upon by _riskynrisky) simply asking for advice never having been in this position before...after all should one or how does one say....oh thanks for the meet but you should know ive been diagnosed as terminally ill with less than a year to go. The other thing people seem to ask or comment on is that is it catching...the answer is no its not neither is it hereditary it is simply an unfortunate lung condition called IPF.

Thanks again for the advice

Tony xx"

I apologise for snapping earlier on in the thread. Actually, death is something we should talk about more. It comes to us all, but nobody ever talks about it.

We wish you all the best Tony.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it right for someone with a terminal illness to still have meets?

Yes/No and reasons why..."

I had a d/s relationship with a woman who had 6 months to live... 5 month's ago

WhatsApp account closed now actually

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"Thank-you to all those who have answered. In response to those who seem to think its an insensitive question or that I shouldnt be asking it my reply is that I was (as kindly commented upon by _riskynrisky) simply asking for advice never having been in this position before...after all should one or how does one say....oh thanks for the meet but you should know ive been diagnosed as terminally ill with less than a year to go. The other thing people seem to ask or comment on is that is it catching...the answer is no its not neither is it hereditary it is simply an unfortunate lung condition called IPF.

Thanks again for the advice

Tony xx

I apologise for snapping earlier on in the thread. Actually, death is something we should talk about more. It comes to us all, but nobody ever talks about it.

We wish you all the best Tony. "

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By *llie_worcMan
over a year ago

bristol

Of course it is, we are all on a terminal journey, some are just on a clearer route than others.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

of course yes, as long as they feel well enough for it

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By *RnMrsFreakCouple
over a year ago

Hull,England


"Is it right for someone with a terminal illness to still have meets?

Yes/No and reasons why..."

Yes, It's what the bucket list is all about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone in this forum is saying yes just because they don't want to be judged, but if we truthfully asked ourselves then there would definitely be about 80% no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I'd just had sex with someone and they told me they had a terminal illness, they had better be prepared for tears.

Think of the smile you've just put on their face

I know but, if I had gone through the weeks of messaging and getting to know them, I would be devastated that they were dying. "

I would be the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone in this forum is saying yes just because they don't want to be judged, but if we truthfully asked ourselves then there would definitely be about 80% no.

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I would be in the 20% then. Pray tell why someone who has a terminal illness, doesn't deserve to have some fun, and enjoy the last chapter of their lives, the way the want to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, yes a thousand times yes..

Why on earth not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone in this forum is saying yes just because they don't want to be judged, but if we truthfully asked ourselves then there would definitely be about 80% no.

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Why do you think that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are being very nice about it..and yes they should be...but I would want to know the prognosise and medical condition...for everybodies sake...seems fair or am I being non politically correct ??

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By *llie_worcMan
over a year ago

bristol


"Everyone in this forum is saying yes just because they don't want to be judged, but if we truthfully asked ourselves then there would definitely be about 80% no.

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Why?, what on earth difference would it make to this aspect of their life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life can be shit, doesnt mean you have to have a shit life. Live every day like its your last, no surrender and no regrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are being very nice about it..and yes they should be...but I would want to know the prognosise and medical condition...for everybodies sake...seems fair or am I being non politically correct ??"

Why? What would that tell you? Unless you are a specialist in auto immune illnesses, you won't even have heard of my illness.

Do you ask others for their medical history?

It seems when you have a terminal illness, every fucker has an opinion on it and seems to think they have a right to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are being very nice about it..and yes they should be...but I would want to know the prognosise and medical condition...for everybodies sake...seems fair or am I being non politically correct ??"

If it was contagious, of course. But if it's not. Isn't it up to the terminal person whether they wish to divulge it or not? It's not going to impact you personally if it's just sex and no more. It's the individual's business in my opinion.... again, unless it's contagious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone with terminal illness wants some fun brilliant !!...but in my book honesty counts too...if I asked for details and was blanked with no information I'd wonder why...thats my take on it...if you know the details its better for ALL parties involved..call me what you like..they are my thoughts !!..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone with terminal illness wants some fun brilliant !!...but in my book honesty counts too...if I asked for details and was blanked with no information I'd wonder why...thats my take on it...if you know the details its better for ALL parties involved..call me what you like..they are my thoughts !!.."

And that's why I never tell anybody I'm ill.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Terminally ill people are still people. ..

So yes, they should still continue to swing / have nsa sex or anything else they want and can do.

I also don't see why you should mention it to sex partners, perfectly fit and healthy people die too.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are being very nice about it..and yes they should be...but I would want to know the prognosise and medical condition...for everybodies sake...seems fair or am I being non politically correct ??

Why? What would that tell you? Unless you are a specialist in auto immune illnesses, you won't even have heard of my illness.

Do you ask others for their medical history?

It seems when you have a terminal illness, every fucker has an opinion on it and seems to think they have a right to know. "
..If you had a heart problem a person you have told may be much more considerate etc etc...for your sake...thats my point...in terms of knowing the medical condition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are being very nice about it..and yes they should be...but I would want to know the prognosise and medical condition...for everybodies sake...seems fair or am I being non politically correct ??

Why? What would that tell you? Unless you are a specialist in auto immune illnesses, you won't even have heard of my illness.

Do you ask others for their medical history?

It seems when you have a terminal illness, every fucker has an opinion on it and seems to think they have a right to know. ..If you had a heart problem a person you have told may be much more considerate etc etc...for your sake...thats my point...in terms of knowing the medical condition"

I can see what you're saying, however someone with a serious illness tends to know the limitations of that condition.

I'm not digging you out, but personally I get very tired of people thinking they know more than me about it. People tell me frequently that if I was vegetarian or vegan, or went gluten or dairy free, I'd be fine. Take up Yoga. Rest more, exercise more. Take vitamins. All will be miracle cures apparently. It all comes from the right place so I tend to just smile and indulge these people.

Sometimes you just want to get away from all that crap and having someone's foof on your face whilst another is sucking your cock is a great distraction. Why would I want to bring all the bullshit that goes with illness into sex as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are being very nice about it..and yes they should be...but I would want to know the prognosise and medical condition...for everybodies sake...seems fair or am I being non politically correct ??

Why? What would that tell you? Unless you are a specialist in auto immune illnesses, you won't even have heard of my illness.

Do you ask others for their medical history?

It seems when you have a terminal illness, every fucker has an opinion on it and seems to think they have a right to know. ..If you had a heart problem a person you have told may be much more considerate etc etc...for your sake...thats my point...in terms of knowing the medical condition

I can see what you're saying, however someone with a serious illness tends to know the limitations of that condition.

I'm not digging you out, but personally I get very tired of people thinking they know more than me about it. People tell me frequently that if I was vegetarian or vegan, or went gluten or dairy free, I'd be fine. Take up Yoga. Rest more, exercise more. Take vitamins. All will be miracle cures apparently. It all comes from the right place so I tend to just smile and indulge these people.

Sometimes you just want to get away from all that crap and having someone's foof on your face whilst another is sucking your cock is a great distraction. Why would I want to bring all the bullshit that goes with illness into sex as well?"

Would like to reply privately but you have blanked single men..Happy Christmas x

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

This is a complex subject with so many grey areas and so many different illnesses. I’m actually unsure what medics determine as a terminal illness.

I will speak specifically of the main experience I had with my late husband.

Brain tumour diagnosed 2 weeks after hospitalisation from fit man previous. diagnosed condition average life expectancy 14.6 months. Known survivors up to ten years. His actual life expectancy 9 months 25 days.

He physically could have met with people in the first 3 months. The risks wouldn’t have been nice. From infrequent slurred and stuttering speech to seizure and loss of mobility: any could have happened and did from month 2. So in his situation a liability to himself and others without proper care.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"As long as you’re not putting anyone’s health at risk then absolutely yes. And why would you need to tell the person you’re meeting if you're healthy enough to still have sex? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People are being very nice about it..and yes they should be...but I would want to know the prognosise and medical condition...for everybodies sake...seems fair or am I being non politically correct ??

Why? What would that tell you? Unless you are a specialist in auto immune illnesses, you won't even have heard of my illness.

Do you ask others for their medical history?

It seems when you have a terminal illness, every fucker has an opinion on it and seems to think they have a right to know. ..If you had a heart problem a person you have told may be much more considerate etc etc...for your sake...thats my point...in terms of knowing the medical condition

I can see what you're saying, however someone with a serious illness tends to know the limitations of that condition.

I'm not digging you out, but personally I get very tired of people thinking they know more than me about it. People tell me frequently that if I was vegetarian or vegan, or went gluten or dairy free, I'd be fine. Take up Yoga. Rest more, exercise more. Take vitamins. All will be miracle cures apparently. It all comes from the right place so I tend to just smile and indulge these people.

Sometimes you just want to get away from all that crap and having someone's foof on your face whilst another is sucking your cock is a great distraction. Why would I want to bring all the bullshit that goes with illness into sex as well?"

Oh gods yes...had all that bull as well...no such thing as a miracle cure thats why its called terminal ... in my experience vegans are the worst ...remember being told once... Q. How do you tell a vegan? A. You dont have to they will tell you!

Oh, and apparently... On being told someone is vegan...I'm sorry to hear that is not an appropriate response lol.

Apologies to those vegans,vegetarians yogi's and others who dont preach but bugger off to those who do...

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By *exyback12345Man
over a year ago

manchester

I'm sorry to hear of your situation Tony and I hope you are coping in yourself and getting help to cope too my friend?

Practically, I would say that just being yourself would be my advice. As with different meets, there is no formula with people. If you click on a personal level and feel you want to trust them with your situation, then you should. If you don't then compartmentalise what's happening outside and enjoy your swinging fun as exactly that. That's what many people within our swinging community do without the complexities you must be dealing with at the moment?

If you then find meeting that person/couple might become a regular or repeat thing, you seem articulate enough to know how and when to broach that subject if it's necessary.

That's only my opinion but I think it comes back to your original question too?

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

If soneone has a terminal illness, it doesn't mean they are frail and could die at any minute. I don't get people to fill in a questionnaire just in case they are diabetic, epileptic, asthmatic or have heart problems. If they want to tell me , that they don't have much energy and prefer to do x y and z then that's fine. I would like to know about illnesses if it was contagious or if we had met on a few occasions and it was likely to be a regular thing. But for a one off meet, there is no reason for people to declare their health status.

As has been said, people know their own limitations if they have a health condition.

To anyone with a life limiting illness, go and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all born with a terminal illness. Its called death...it just catches up with some earlier than others. Enjoy life while you can. Laugh , sing , dance in the rain. Live life love life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are all born with a terminal illness. Its called death...it just catches up with some earlier than others. Enjoy life while you can. Laugh , sing , dance in the rain. Live life love life."

Yes, we are....but its a bit different when you are sat in front of a Doctor and he says to you I'm sorry but you have less than a year.

Try laughing that one off!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt laugh but i would enjoy the time left.... and ask tesco not to delivery any green bananas.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"We are all born with a terminal illness. Its called death...it just catches up with some earlier than others. Enjoy life while you can. Laugh , sing , dance in the rain. Live life love life.

Yes, we are....but its a bit different when you are sat in front of a Doctor and he says to you I'm sorry but you have less than a year.

Try laughing that one off!!!"

If you haven’t been told already look up DS1500 form. You must be in terrible shock x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all born with a terminal illness. Its called death...it just catches up with some earlier than others. Enjoy life while you can. Laugh , sing , dance in the rain. Live life love life."

Its so, so easy to be flippant when it isn't you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldnt laugh but i would enjoy the time left.... and ask tesco not to delivery any green bananas."

Alternatively you'll do what most people do. Go into shock, and then try to just get by the best you can from day to day.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"We are all born with a terminal illness. "

The medical definition of a terminal illness means you will die within three years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all born with a terminal illness. Its called death...it just catches up with some earlier than others. Enjoy life while you can. Laugh , sing , dance in the rain. Live life love life.

Yes, we are....but its a bit different when you are sat in front of a Doctor and he says to you I'm sorry but you have less than a year.

Try laughing that one off!!!

Quite.

The utter lass of class some people have is astonishing. "

I couldnt agree more.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"

Yes, we are....but its a bit different when you are sat in front of a Doctor and he says to you I'm sorry but you have less than a year.

Try laughing that one off!!!"

Seriously OP I would be glad because then I can plan to make the most of the remaining time (and savings) that I have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all born with a terminal illness. Its called death...it just catches up with some earlier than others. Enjoy life while you can. Laugh , sing , dance in the rain. Live life love life.

Its so, so easy to be flippant when it isn't you. "

Not flippant at all. Thr thread is about is it ok to meet if one has a terminal illness and why. Surely enjoying life and the time left is a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have an old friend of his coming to stay next week. She is terminally ill and finds that when she chats to anyone and they find out they run a mile. She just wants some normality for a few days. So that is what she will get: MF and MFF with us and hopefully some others involved too. All looking forward to it very much

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Anything can happen at any time, ill or not. You never know what's around the corner. If it's someone you regularly meet, yeah, it's probably a good thing to talk about it because it'll be about more than sex between the 2 people.

Wouldn't bother with one night - or 2 night stands. Most people do change how they speak to, or act around someone who is terminally ill, so it's probably a very welcome change to just be able to be yourself without someone knowing.

And terminally ill doesn't mean you'll kick the bucket within the next week or so. Someone could have another decade before things get bad x

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"Anything can happen at any time, ill or not. You never know what's around the corner. If it's someone you regularly meet, yeah, it's probably a good thing to talk about it because it'll be about more than sex between the 2 people.

Wouldn't bother with one night - or 2 night stands. Most people do change how they speak to, or act around someone who is terminally ill, so it's probably a very welcome change to just be able to be yourself without someone knowing.

And terminally ill doesn't mean you'll kick the bucket within the next week or so. Someone could have another decade before things get bad x"

And definitely have sex if you're up for it!!!

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate


"We have an old friend of his coming to stay next week. She is terminally ill and finds that when she chats to anyone and they find out they run a mile. She just wants some normality for a few days. So that is what she will get: MF and MFF with us and hopefully some others involved too. All looking forward to it very much"

That’s sad - if a person is up to it then I’d say go for it - we don’t know what sex might be like in Heaven (if you believe) but I don’t think you have to wait to find out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely they should still meet and I can’t see any reason to tell the other person (unless they have a terminal illness that needs to be spoken about) and I imagine if they were at the stage they had to tell the other person (eg not long left) then maybe they shouldn’t be meeting? I don’t know what the right and wrong answer is but I don’t see why they should miss out on something that they enjoy when (with all the love in the world when I say this) they haven’t got long left, if it’s something they enjoy why not keep doing it?

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fail to understand why, unless it is likely to effect or infect me, it is none of my business for a nsa meet

If said condition comes with a high risk and likeliness of side effects as a direct result of play, fair enough.

But ultimately, if you feel able - grab the chance with both hands and enjoy!

I wish you well x

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley


"My professional opinion is I think you should tell them just Incase the condition as any side effects or so you don’t do anything to cause them pain. They could scare you too with anything that may happen they may faint, fall asleep, cry out in pain or have fits depending on the illness. My none professional side says go for it have fun it’s the last few moments of your life x"

Not much I can add to this, other than to say, I wouldn't feel burdened by someone sharing this with me. If I found them sexy enough in the first instance, a diagnosis such as this would not make a fellow Fabber seem any less desirable.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"My professional opinion is I think you should tell them just Incase the condition as any side effects or so you don’t do anything to cause them pain. They could scare you too with anything that may happen they may faint, fall asleep, cry out in pain or have fits depending on the illness. My none professional side says go for it have fun it’s the last few moments of your life x

I think let someone be the judge of their own illness. Obviously if there is something that might happen it's wise to pre warn the person you're with, however with an awful lot of terminal illnesses, nobody would know.

It's a pain in the arse having a terminal illness and it's never far from your mind. Sometimes you just want to be like everyone else and not have people treading on eggshells around you. "

This. If they’re well enough, why shouldn’t they have something that isn’t just about them & the sex & the fun without the illness affecting that too - it affects just about everything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it right for someone with a terminal illness to still have meets?

Yes/No and reasons why..."
I meet a lady once who advised me during the meet that she had a terminal illness and about a year left to live . I treated her just like anyone else and did not enquire about her illness as I did not consider it an appropriate topic to talk about during the meet . It is difficult to know how to handle these situations . She did not go into detail and I did not delve further . We just enjoyed ourselves physically which was the purpose of the meet in any event .

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Anything can happen at any time, ill or not. You never know what's around the corner. If it's someone you regularly meet, yeah, it's probably a good thing to talk about it because it'll be about more than sex between the 2 people.

Wouldn't bother with one night - or 2 night stands. Most people do change how they speak to, or act around someone who is terminally ill, so it's probably a very welcome change to just be able to be yourself without someone knowing.

And terminally ill doesn't mean you'll kick the bucket within the next week or so. Someone could have another decade before things get bad x"

An illness usually classed as ‘terminal’ in the last 6-12 months. Before that it’s classed as ‘incurable’

The things you pick up when you spend long enough in a hospice!

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By *stonMTMan
over a year ago

cleveland

Having lost my other half I would say live for the moment would have done anything for her I say go for it anyone in my area message if want to chat or meet feel free x

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By *rSlim92Man
over a year ago

Stoke on trent

Yes they should do what they pleease, regardless of illness you should do what makes you happy, as long as you are not causing anyone else hurt.

My deepest sympathy to anyone in that position, but make the most of whatever time you have left...

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