FabSwingers.com forum: feelings

By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

has anyone married or with someone developed feelings for someone they have met as a swinger..if so, how do u handle it?..

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

buy tissues as there will no doubt be tears before bedtime...

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"buy tissues as there will no doubt be tears before bedtime...

or ejaculate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never....and never would..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot of people would run a mile as swinging is just about sex and fun and friends and most are not looking for love if married .

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

[Removed by poster at 22/09/11 15:53:47]

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

nope, just pure filthy naughty fun !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends what5 u mean as feelings lol...maybe a few depends on the length of contact(shagwise mainly),or the prolonged internet friendship lol

one feeling i ignore is anything jealousy based

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have feelings for all the guys ive known for a long time, but they are feelings of friendship and fondness. Im very fond of them. As for falling for one of them then no chance. I would stop all contact if i thought i was falling in love with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a young chap a couple of times, i sort of missed him when he went cos i enjoyed his company, he was very likeable, but i soon forgot about him when i met a couple of others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its hard not to sometimes but I'm single so don't count as a couple but when you do swing with someone on a regular basis its sometimes hard not too. A while back I was swinging with a couple but then the hubby wanted extras away from his wife saying that he was falling for me and yes I was developing feelings for him. I pulled away totally. And it took a while to start meeting people again now I don't meet couples on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the couple no longer swing either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a problem with guys developing feelings.. one or two have tried to stir between Master and I.. they did not realise that Master and I tell each other every little detail.

I never ever lead anyone on... they always know where they stand..and sadly feelings means out the door..

cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first started I used to see one man every weekend. One weekend I saw someone else and he became possessive...that was the end of that.

I'm seeing someone now and thought I could do the monogamous thing. I gave it a shot but I wasn't happy so I'm back meeting.

He's "accepted" it for now. If it becomes a problem we'll have to part ways.

I'm 51 and was married at 20. Until the age of 44 I'd only been with my husband.

I can't honestly see myself being with one man forever and ever amen...but who knows!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did once, been doing this for about 10 years and out of all the guys i have met i have only even fallen for one guy

But id like to point out i was single at the time

When i realised i started having feelings for him i called him and told him i couldnt meet him any more

Altho my heart is human and sometimes i cant always control my emotions, my head is quite stable and i knew it was wrong so fall for someone i had met thro swinging so i just stopped seeing him

It was a bit awkward at the time as we got on really well and had met a few times so he asked why i had decided not to meet again, i didnt want to tell him the truth as i saw no point in stopping seeing him because of my feelings if i was just going to tell him i was falling for him

if that makes sence, so i just made up an excuse

He did keep calling me and texting me for a while after to see if i was ok and asking if he had upset me but i just ignored him as i found that easier than talking to him and after a while he stopped

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

similar to me, the guy has told me what he feels for me and he wants to move closer to me..he is a lovely guy and i feel really bad but i have told him it has to end..why do i feel so rotton?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other than when I met Wendy I have never developed feelings for another swinger and I've been in the game a Long time

I have however had a couple of situations over the years when people have developed feelings for me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone who went on to feel upset that I was still meeting was beyond him- I had to be harsh and say, sorry, not for me....... he met me here, he should've had some idea what I was like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"similar to me, the guy has told me what he feels for me and he wants to move closer to me..he is a lovely guy and i feel really bad but i have told him it has to end..why do i feel so rotton?"

you shouldnt feel bad, if you dont feel the same about him you cant help that, and you cant have a relationship with someone just to spare their feelings, it would never last so you may as well be honest from the start

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I've been doing this for 7 yrs and did get feeling for somebody once. We were getting on great, met a few times then he suddenly cut me off. It wasn't till a few month after he mailed me saying he was getting to close to me. We got back chatting regular altho I have cut contact this time.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

we dont keep to close with peeps we meet some do get clingy it's human nature so we avoid building bonds we're here for sex, me and my man met for sex was that way for long time both single but horny but other than a wee buzz we're all we need in that respect to easy to be human

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always have a good feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have and I won't again lol....It is normal to meet someone over and over and like them but i know know to not cross the line and just have fun

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

how do u not cross the line?...i had to tell him i cudnt see him any more, it hurt him and i feel rotton, he was a really nice guy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is sex but the better you know someone the better the sex is. So do you build some kind of relations or just stick to one offs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you can or cannot decide to have feelings. They are a part of you. If you have meetings with no feelings then that's fine. but one day you meet someone and there is a certain something that captures your thoughts and 'bang' you have feelings.

We're all human and so irrational even if we pretend otherwise

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

feelings..do you mean love, affection, friendship?

I feel all of them for various people, i love my Master, but not in a romantic sense, i care deeply about the good friends i have met swinging, tomorrow one of my best friends in the world arrives for the weekend.i would walk over hot coals for her, never assume feelings are a bad thing.The problem comes when people are not honest about their feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think you can or cannot decide to have feelings. They are a part of you. If you have meetings with no feelings then that's fine. but one day you meet someone and there is a certain something that captures your thoughts and 'bang' you have feelings.

We're all human and so irrational even if we pretend otherwise

I couldn't agree more.

I think we all go into this knowing the score, with clarity of mind and intention, but sometimes feelings appear despite that.

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

so how do u handle the feelings...do u walk away before it gets out of hand or do u really really try to keep the feelings out of it?..i have decided to walk away, but i feel rotton for upsetting him..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nope, just pure filthy naughty fun !!!!!"

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so how do u handle the feelings...do u walk away before it gets out of hand or do u really really try to keep the feelings out of it?..i have decided to walk away, but i feel rotton for upsetting him.."

Well the only time it happened to me I was pretty sure she felt the same

Luckily I was right cause I had ta tell her

Don't know ta this day why I had ta tell her that quickly I just did xx

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"has anyone married or with someone developed feelings for someone they have met as a swinger..if so, how do u handle it?.."

Romantic feelings....No!

But we have met one or two couples that we both have become fond of over a long period of time and consider real friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a fem I met off here develop feelings of love for me and she wanted more than I could give, but as I wasn't in love with her although I did like her alot, and it felt bad to end it, it was definatly the right decision as didnt want to string her along and hurt her!! I was with another at the time both parties did know of each other, her reaction wasnt great but we both went into it as swingers who didnt want a relationship. It may seem a bit harse at the time to end it and distance yourself but like any sexual relationship feelings can and will occasionally develop!!

As for couples have had 2 women want to meet me on own away from husbands after swinging as a threesome without husbands knowledge, on both occasions I refused, as didnt feel right!!

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