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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

Discuss please.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I have been guilty of doing this - but it's usually if I have something specific to say to the person concerned that would not add anything to the thread and/or is not for public viewing and/or I'm coming to the thread late and want to say something in response to a specific post that was posted ages ago, so replying and quoting it would look odd.

I'd not do it as a matter of course though - although guess there are some that see it as a way of starting to message someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I have been guilty of doing this - but it's usually if I have something specific to say to the person concerned that would not add anything to the thread and/or is not for public viewing and/or I'm coming to the thread late and want to say something in response to a specific post that was posted ages ago, so replying and quoting it would look odd.

I'd not do it as a matter of course though - although guess there are some that see it as a way of starting to message someone.

I've heard all sorts so far don't want men messaging /viewing profile etc

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe they are shy and want to express thier deepest feeling for you personally rather than in the thread but I know where your coming from. I expect some would call the forum as an ice breaker to directly message someone. I know I’m more inclined to open a message if it contains the thread title in it over something like “wow” or “ I want to burst you open”

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By *omis.69Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

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PM’d you .....

Oh come on you were all dying to put that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its just a excuse to slide in your dm's and start convo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply on forums but this isn't just men i have received pm from couple n single females about my post on forum they didn't even discuss thye just insult me n block this happens to me multiple times this it's not only men who do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always reply on forums but this isn't just men i have received pm from couple n single females about my post on forum they didn't even discuss thye just insult me n block this happens to me multiple times this it's not only men who do that

Could not understand why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

Discuss please.

Ha ha has loads this morning!!

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

Discuss please.

Ha ha has loads this morning!!"
Yeh quite a few. Trouble is they can get past filters if you reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos they wanna get in your knickers.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

Discuss please.

What I have to say is for the person I am pming only.

I have pmed stuff like nice 1 you shut them down and similar. Posting that in the forum would not help matters. I get a lot of pms saying well done to me as well.

I have also seen where a poster is getting grief. One happened the other day and i posted in the thread itself backing the OP. The grief continued so i went to PM the OP and we had a chat off thread about the subject. No ulterior motive just to discuss without others butting in.

One pm I recieved recently was on a very strong subject matter. They did not want to post publicy there thoughts due to fear of a backlash. I had posted in the thread a view that was close enough to theirs to trust me. Quite upsetting to me that people can feel that scared of posting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cos they wanna get in your knickers. "

Best answer all morning

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"Cos they wanna get in your knickers. "

Normally respect your viewpoints but I don't think that reflects everbody at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had this both from men and women especially when they agree with me but don’t want to show they do in open fourum

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Doesn’t bother me. I see forums as an ice breaker too. I’m flattered if someone messages me privately. I don’t see the issue. Not everyone wants to carry on a conversation publicly so I’m the same sense, why force them too. Not everyone is as open as others and may be shy to chat publicly to one person in particular. If you don’t like it. Don’t reply. But be a bit more open and friendly. It goes a long way.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I've said this before,but I bet you wouldn’t have an issue if you fancied the pants of said person! It doesn't bother me in the slightest,I've done it myself. It's no big deal really it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn’t bother me. I see forums as an ice breaker too. I’m flattered if someone messages me privately. I don’t see the issue. Not everyone wants to carry on a conversation publicly so I’m the same sense, why force them too. Not everyone is as open as others and may be shy to chat publicly to one person in particular. If you don’t like it. Don’t reply. But be a bit more open and friendly. It goes a long way. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cos they wanna get in your knickers.

Normally respect your viewpoints but I don't think that reflects everbody at all."

I didn't suggest it was everyone. It's just one of many possible reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

Discuss please.

Ha ha has loads this morning!!Yeh quite a few. Trouble is they can get past filters if you reply. "

Privately replying to forum posts can't bypass filters

If they're blocked they're blocked. If it's such an issue block men from sending PMs and don't worry about it

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Cos they wanna get in your knickers. "

Most of them, maybe.

But some genuinely want to say something about the post to a specific person.

I've done that a few time, regarding religion and gender-label issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never understood this

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

Discuss please.

Ha ha has loads this morning!!Yeh quite a few. Trouble is they can get past filters if you reply.

Privately replying to forum posts can't bypass filters

If they're blocked they're blocked. If it's such an issue block men from sending PMs and don't worry about it"

So are forum private pm's different from normal ones then?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"Cos they wanna get in your knickers.

Most of them, maybe.

But some genuinely want to say something about the post to a specific person.

I've done that a few time, regarding religion and gender-label issues.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

Discuss please.

Ha ha has loads this morning!!Yeh quite a few. Trouble is they can get past filters if you reply.

Privately replying to forum posts can't bypass filters

If they're blocked they're blocked. If it's such an issue block men from sending PMs and don't worry about it

So are forum private pm's different from normal ones then? "

Nope. Just default the header to the thread title.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

Discuss please.

Ha ha has loads this morning!!Yeh quite a few. Trouble is they can get past filters if you reply.

Privately replying to forum posts can't bypass filters

If they're blocked they're blocked. If it's such an issue block men from sending PMs and don't worry about it

So are forum private pm's different from normal ones then?

Nope. Just default the header to the thread title."

OK that confused me a bit then

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Cos they wanna get in your knickers.

Normally respect your viewpoints but I don't think that reflects everbody at all.

I didn't suggest it was everyone. It's just one of many possible reasons."

Yes it is one of many.

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I’d be flattered you get messages. Than none at all like a lot of guys here who do t get a break and possibly being passed over when they could be genuine gents.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Just to clarify, the OP isn't a rant just wishing to clarify reasons as to why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently you can't reply on a thread unless you're verified.. maybe that's the case... or maybe they just love yo finnnnnne ass

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I have just heard from a guy that is unable to post ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only reply privately when involved in the little forum games.

Even tho normally I'm out of peoples age range

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I only reply privately when involved in the little forum games.

Even tho normally I'm out of peoples age range

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that's the idea of the games

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Just to clarify, the OP isn't a rant just wishing to clarify reasons as to why. "
well I’m sure there are lots of reasons. Want your attention. Get to know you better. Get in your knickers lol. Agree to a post. Disagree to a post. To shy to focus one on person in public. Others maybe.

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

It can be a great way to break the ice.... so many people are caused of copy and paste messages so do not get given a fair run.

By making contact on a common theme it might just get you recognised as being a genuinely nice guy.....

(Disclaimer.. it might not either)

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"It can be a great way to break the ice.... so many people are caused of copy and paste messages so do not get given a fair run.

By making contact on a common theme it might just get you recognised as being a genuinely nice guy.....

(Disclaimer.. it might not either)"

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"It can be a great way to break the ice.... so many people are caused of copy and paste messages so do not get given a fair run.

By making contact on a common theme it might just get you recognised as being a genuinely nice guy.....

(Disclaimer.. it might not either)"

My forum interaction has got me meets. It's also got me abuse lol. Them's the breaks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

possible that the personal touch may help.

I would do this if it was to the person and would passably like to meet that person to know more and hopefully well you know the rest lol

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

"It can be a great way to break the ice.... so many people are caused of copy and paste messages so do not get given a fair run.

By making contact on a common theme it might just get you recognised as being a genuinely nice guy.....

(Disclaimer.. it might not either)

My forum interaction has got me meets. It's also got me abuse lol. Them's the breaks

Likewise... but it's good to be different sometimes.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Some great posts here thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

Discuss please.

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why PM you I imagine that's fairly obvious they want you to themselves ,a personal touch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well although I have not done it to you .......yet , I do it as there is something in the thread which interests me and on other occasions it asks an important question and the answer is more private and..................... yes just outside chance I get in their knickers lol hehehehehhehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But equally in the same way when my profile is repeatedly viewed by females or couples, I will out of curiosity contact them .........nothing ventured nothing gained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I surmise it's usually down to, depending on thread / message.

Not wanting to be seen to piss up lamppost.

Don't want to show favortisim as it can result other women 'friends' getting angsty.

They like opinion given but as it's not in the majority don't want to be seen in public agreeing.

Wanting a way in to chat.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I surmise it's usually down to, depending on thread / message.

Not wanting to be seen to piss up lamppost.

Don't want to show favortisim as it can result other women 'friends' getting angsty.

They like opinion given but as it's not in the majority don't want to be seen in public agreeing.

Wanting a way in to chat."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pssst cos their idiots

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

Discuss please.

Nothing to discuss, they should stop

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"To the guys who pm me instead of posting a reply and quote on the forum threads, why do this?

Discuss please.

Nothing to discuss, they should stop

Yeah, agree to an extent , always take forum for general laugh and banter ,nothing more , it would depend if the guy was trying to use a thread here as an opening or if he saw you're profile and was genuinely interested in you , best judge of that is you from his message etc , if he's just being a knob el block solves it

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By *unguy0069Man
over a year ago

Reigate

I promise I won't look at your profile. Not a problem.

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By *ustafasinghMan
over a year ago

leicester

Because I'm too ashamed of my terrible jokes aha better to make one person to cringe than the whole world ahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men are shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I think your wonderful and I am special??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cos they wanna get in your knickers. "

No way?

On a site like this?

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

Haha, true , when they don't want to, it's time to worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might have made a particular point they want to expand on, and the thread is going to shit as most do. Oh, and the knickers thing too.....

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"You might have made a particular point they want to expand on, and the thread is going to shit as most do. Oh, and the knickers thing too....."

What knickers

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

They might wanna fuck, or they genuinely want your opinion on the said subject. I've gotten msgs like that before, and I've sent a few too. It's sometimes nice when a convo starts like that, it starts all calm and could stay there or could lead to other places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a stupid question.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men are shy

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I'm not x

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