FabSwingers.com forum: Is it just me?

By *Stud2017 OP Man
over a year ago

North West

So when I try to initiate first contact with any female on here they never respond at all. I always attach my face pic. Nobody wants to meet me

I'm coming to a conclusion that it's because I'm asian or is that not the case?

Anybody in the same situation as me or am I over thinking this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be a variety of things sweetie for me personally age range

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By *Stud2017 OP Man
over a year ago

North West

I never message anyone who doesn't meet anyone of my age. I always make sure that I am within their age range but still no luck at all

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By *ax1971Man
over a year ago

St helens

It's nothing to do race its just if your lucky enougth to connect with the lady and if it's something you both have in common or what your both looking for.

Personally i just love to chat i know I'm not a match for most but chat with some beautiful lady's loudmoaner being one.

And i can dream a rainbow. ..xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I'm coming to a conclusion that it's because I'm asian or is that not the case?"

Don't play the race card, it's not a good start.

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By *Stud2017 OP Man
over a year ago

North West

"It's nothing to do race its just if your lucky enougth to connect with the lady and if it's something you both have in common or what your both looking for.

Personally i just love to chat i know I'm not a match for most but chat with some beautiful lady's loudmoaner being one.

And i can dream a rainbow. ..xx

I agree with you mate i prefer chats myself but I rarely get a reply. Probably once or twice a week

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

""I'm coming to a conclusion that it's because I'm asian or is that not the case?"

Don't play the race card, it's not a good start. "

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I play with guys (and girls) of all ages and races, but in clubs where I can meet them face to face before committing to play. We don't arrange to meet guys on here simply because they send us an unsolicited message expecting a meet. Get out into the real world. Impress people with your charm, intelligence and personality and you might have more success....and as someone has already said don't play the race card. It's insulting to to the people on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So when I try to initiate first contact with any female on here they never respond at all. I always attach my face pic. Nobody wants to meet me

I'm coming to a conclusion that it's because I'm asian or is that not the case?

Anybody in the same situation as me or am I over thinking this?"
theirs someone for everyone here

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By *Stud2017 OP Man
over a year ago

North West

""I'm coming to a conclusion that it's because I'm asian or is that not the case?"

Don't play the race card, it's not a good start. "

Maybe not but a no thanks would be appreciated instead of left being hanging. Oh well..

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

Read the sites FAQ. No reply means no thanks

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"So when I try to initiate first contact with any female on here they never respond at all. I always attach my face pic. Nobody wants to meet me

I'm coming to a conclusion that it's because I'm asian or is that not the case?

Anybody in the same situation as me or am I over thinking this?"

Definitely overthinking it OP - as others have said playing the race card or having a negative outlook is not good. Often when people say no-one wants to meet them it comes down to a number of factors - sometimes it's simply a case of not having found someone they connect with, more often than not a poor profile and lack of decent pics is behind it though - if messaging is not working for you, try getting along to clubs or organised socials, or even getting more active in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read the sites FAQ. No reply means no thanks "
because its an FAQ doesn't make it ok

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By *andm_69Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage

"Read the sites FAQ. No reply means no thanks because its an FAQ doesn't make it ok "

Yes it does as the ladies get so many messages a day that they can't reply to all of them.

Then you get the ones that want to know why and try to change your mind.

Just put it like this would reply to all your junk mails or emails?

No you wouldn't

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By *Stud2017 OP Man
over a year ago

North West

"So when I try to initiate first contact with any female on here they never respond at all. I always attach my face pic. Nobody wants to meet me

I'm coming to a conclusion that it's because I'm asian or is that not the case?

Anybody in the same situation as me or am I over thinking this?

Yeah I am overthinking this. Sorry everyone and to those who may have been offended please accept my deepest apologies as I did not intend to offend anyone.

Would love to go clubs or organised socials but I'll have to build up the confidence as I've never been to any before. It would be nice to go with someone and not alone for my first

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Would love to go clubs or organised socials but I'll have to build up the confidence as I've never been to any before. It would be nice to go with someone and not alone for my first"

Can understand clubs seeming intimidating especially if going on your own but they're not as bad as you might think if you go with the right attitude and are prepared to make an effort.

Organised socials however are no different from going to a bar on a night out and are a great way of getting to know people - all the ones I've attended the organisers have gone out of their way to make the atmosphere relaxed and welcoming and to make introductions where needed

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By *ax1971Man
over a year ago

St helens

Ok op it's human nature to think there's a personal reason why there's no reply..

Be polite be flirty and don't take it personally. .

Have a fab time..

Love you all. .xx

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By *Stud2017 OP Man
over a year ago

North West

Can understand clubs seeming intimidating especially if going on your own but they're not as bad as you might think if you go with the right attitude and are prepared to make an effort.

Organised socials sound good. I'll have to check if there are any in the north west. I assume the socials are posted in the forums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read the sites FAQ. No reply means no thanks because its an FAQ doesn't make it ok

Yes it does as the ladies get so many messages a day that they can't reply to all of them.

Then you get the ones that want to know why and try to change your mind.

Just put it like this would reply to all your junk mails or emails?

No you wouldn't"
yes I agree but even women get different amounts of mail the FAQ is a stock answer to a varying problem ,the fact is if you're sent a polite message that's been carefully worded based on reading your profile and you don't say thanks but no thanks its kinda rude we mostly all understand why and why the FAQ exists but if guys don't read your profile why would they read the FAQs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are too many men to go round on Fab. Not enough women and couples for all men to get a meet.

Mrs

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Before answering a message I read the profile.

Your age would be a factor, but that aside there's no information or public photos. There are thousands, and I mean thousands fit as fuck men on this site with detailed profiles and photos. People have busy lives and with the smorgasbord of delights on offer no one is going to pull teeth extracting information from you.

It would be disingenuous to pretend your ethnicity won't be a problem for some but don't lead with that and play the race card. Remember what's on offer isn't a public service. People have every right to "discriminate" when it comes to who they invite into their homes/bodies so no whining or sense of entitlement.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Read the sites FAQ. No reply means no thanks because its an FAQ doesn't make it ok

Yes it does as the ladies get so many messages a day that they can't reply to all of them.

Then you get the ones that want to know why and try to change your mind.

Just put it like this would reply to all your junk mails or emails?

No you wouldn'tyes I agree but even women get different amounts of mail the FAQ is a stock answer to a varying problem ,the fact is if you're sent a polite message that's been carefully worded based on reading your profile and you don't say thanks but no thanks its kinda rude we mostly all understand why and why the FAQ exists but if guys don't read your profile why would they read the FAQs

It's not rude at all - it's an accepted way of saying "no thanks" for the site - as someone said do you reply to all the unsolicited junk mail you get no matter how polite it is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before answering a message I read the profile.

Very well said.

Poppy

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Some women may be put off because you are "not interested in one night hook ups". A lot of swingers enjoy that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has there preferences and women get so many messages here compared to most men that it would be a bit much to expect them to answer everyone. Remember women have a lot to choose from so bear in mind you have a lot of competition. I think if you have the mindset that it's ur race holding you back then it certainly will.

Take the advice you see in these forums to increase ur visibility and appeal! That is by mainly Networking and your profile

Good luck

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

""I'm coming to a conclusion that it's because I'm asian or is that not the case?"

Don't play the race card, it's not a good start.

Maybe not but a no thanks would be appreciated instead of left being hanging. Oh well.."

FAQ states no reply no interest.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

""I'm coming to a conclusion that it's because I'm asian or is that not the case?"

Don't play the race card, it's not a good start.

Maybe not but a no thanks would be appreciated instead of left being hanging. Oh well..

FAQ states no reply no interest. "

Now, OP, have you replied to every post on here? No? Well maybe we should consider that's rude then.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP it is highly unlikely to be your ethnicity that's holding you back. There is no mention of it on your profile and it is virtually impossible to tell what your ethnic origin is from the tiny profile avatar you have. How would we know what your ethnic origin is?

Some people choose to only meet those of certain colour/ethnicity but there are far more who don't have these preferences.

Concentrate your efforts of those who's preferences you do match and forget about the others.

If your methods aren't working for you then try something different.

Get involved in the forums and chatrooms to get to know people. If your profile isn't working for you, change it.

Try an organised social or a club visit. Clubs can be daunting for people who haven't been before but we were all in the same situation once and you will be made welcome. Some clubs hold special newbie events just for people who haven't been before.

Don't give up OP. Fab can be very hard work for single men but is worth it.

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By *oreverHorny69Man
over a year ago

Milnrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So when I try to initiate first contact with any female on here they never respond at all. I always attach my face pic. Nobody wants to meet me

I'm coming to a conclusion that it's because I'm asian or is that not the case?

Anybody in the same situation as me or am I over thinking this?"

What brought you to the conclusion that it’s because you’re Asian?

If no one responded to any of your messages then drawing that conclusion says a lot about you rather than the people you messaged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read the sites FAQ. No reply means no thanks because its an FAQ doesn't make it ok

Yes it does as the ladies get so many messages a day that they can't reply to all of them.

Then you get the ones that want to know why and try to change your mind.

Just put it like this would reply to all your junk mails or emails?

But often when we send a “thanks, but no thanks” message we then get a further reply asking “why?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to do with being Asian it just that your not for them I think.

Yes some on here don't wish to meet Asian guys but read profiles first and chose who you message.

Good luck!

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By *Stud2017 OP Man
over a year ago

North West

""Now, OP, have you replied to every post on here? No? Well maybe we should consider that's rude then.

After my last post regarding going to organised socials I went offline so how would I reply?

Maybe if you considered checking if I was online or not before posting your comment you'd know why I never replied to any further comments.

Anyways to all those and yourself I very much thank you all for your responses. Everything said has been taken as feedback and my apologies if anybody has been offended as this was not intended at all. Happy fabbing and happy Christmas to you all and to myself

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