FabSwingers.com forum: Reading feed-back do it put you off?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do it put you of meeting. If you read there feed-back and from people you would never wish to meet yourself. Friend said she is not meeting a man as go with lots who go Bearback but say nothing on his profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!

I can't see how stating you are 'discreet' then listing your liasons go hand in hand.

Thats just my opinion though.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Do it put you of meeting. If you read there feed-back and from people you would never wish to meet yourself. Friend said she is not meeting a man as go with lots who go Bearback but say nothing on his profile."

No it wouldn't.....can't say it bothers us who people have met, if we like the look and sound of them, thats all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we always read feedback on profiles, gives us an idea if someone is genuine or not. If someone has no feedback we will hardly ever arrange a meet. On the rare occasion we usually find we are let down last minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to admit that we always have a look at the verifications to see who've they've played with. A tad shallow, perhaps, but we find it irresistible !

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

You only see the verifications which are made public.

So you may form an opinion that someone isn't for you because they have lot's of verifications, or verifications from people who aren't your 'cup of tea'.

But someone who has a few verifications from people you regard as similar to you could also be shagging all and sundry, but just not showing the verifications.

Verifications can be used as a guide, but making your own mind up is a far better way of doing it.

I've met people who had great verifications but turned out to be, well, average shall we say.

I've also met people who I would have regarded as being perhaps a bit 'out there' and had a great time with them.

And vice-versa.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Yes!

I can't see how stating you are 'discreet' then listing your liasons go hand in hand.

Thats just my opinion though."

who says all the liasons listed are play activities..

a lot of peoples may well be at socials for example...

all the verification has to do is show they are who they say they are and they turned up... nothing more

I won't show any that are too graphic.. I won't write a graphic one.. but heck that is me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have to admit that we always have a look at the verifications to see who've they've played with. A tad shallow, perhaps, but we find it irresistible !

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I read them too . Thats why thay are there to help us here on fab .. Hard when you dont know people that well and plan a meet you just find out what you can . I get worried now when i dont see one or two .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was meeting I never took any notice of verifications apart from once .

I had arrange a meet saw he had met someone and got the collywobbles as the someone is stunning and everything I am not .Was told not to be so daft met said guy had great time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always read veries gives you an idea what sort of person they are. its a gd way of finding out who is genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally the opinions of total strangers about another total stranger always strikes me as amusing...as if I'm going to take that into account when deciding who to take to my bed.

I'm able to draw my own conclusion, and in four years not encountered a timewaster yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are usefull when we are interested in a particular couple as we can see what type of people they have been attracted to in the past and if we meet that criteria or not, whatever the case may be.

However we are generally put off by unnessecary descriptive graphic descriptions of what happened between them.

So all in all, yes we do find them quite usefull as a guide to the nature and expectations of prospective playmates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i see a verification from someone i think is a hater then i wouldn't be rushing to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are a good! Sometimes they put me off, but thats very seldom

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

A note of caution re verifications - You ever seen a bad one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A note of caution re verifications - You ever seen a bad one?"

Wanna see mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them but don't use them to judge anything more about the person than that they turn up...

As one persons omg he was great doesn't mean that I Will think the same... Although I'd rather not leave a verification if the person wasn't any good.

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally feedback is one thing just shows they are genuine and turn up but I would rather make my own mind up about someone. My idea of heaven is anothers hell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes!

I can't see how stating you are 'discreet' then listing your liasons go hand in hand.

Thats just my opinion though.

who says all the liasons listed are play activities..

a lot of peoples may well be at socials for example...

all the verification has to do is show they are who they say they are and they turned up... nothing more

I won't show any that are too graphic.. I won't write a graphic one.. but heck that is me"

Hi Fabio

Thats just MY opinion on matters.

I should say though that I am adult enough to know that what doesn't work for me may work for others.

Hell, I'll even 'walk a mile in their shoes' and end up seeing their point of _iew- even if its what wouldn't work for me.

I was in no way being critical or looking down on how others live their lives- not my style at all.

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By *o Peep n WoodyCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

Have to admit that we always have a look at the verifications to see who've they've played with. A tad shallow, perhaps, but we find it irresistible !

Glad I'm not the only one

Verifications a bit more of an indication that a person is real but doesnt necessarily reflect the person, cos who's going to show a BAD verification on their profile

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I wasn't knocking you at all... just giving a different side to it, a cautionary tale of not all verifications are in effect the same.... and this was what i was trying to get across...

some people give so much weight to them I kinda think "oooh whatever happen to exploring for yourselves"...

for example... we were all new once, and someone had to take a chance on us and I think that people tend to forget that..

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

I agree with _abio, we never show or give grapfic details of meets. The only veri's we show are of social meets. Its more to prove we are a genuine couple. As for reading others veri's again we use it to see if they are genuine. Whats one person's heaven is anothers hell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verifications are usefull when we are interested in a particular couple as we can see what type of people they have been attracted to in the past and if we meet that criteria or not, whatever the case may be.

However we are generally put off by unnessecary descriptive graphic descriptions of what happened between them.

So all in all, yes we do find them quite usefull as a guide to the nature and expectations of prospective playmates."

This pretty much sums up our position, too. Also, the reference to 'graphic descriptions' is an interesting one. We have quite a few verifications we wouldn't dream of showing because they're far too lurid.

( Disclaimer : if anyone reading this left us a lurid verification, thank you!

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Same here, less is more when it comes to verifications. The system is to verify folk are genuine but it's often used as a star rating system, and all verifications are positive (unless you read between the lines). Never understand why people have more than one verification from the same person, it's more like a running commentary on their meets lol.

"I agree with _abio, we never show or give grapfic details of meets. The only veri's we show are of social meets. Its more to prove we are a genuine couple. As for reading others veri's again we use it to see if they are genuine. Whats one person's heaven is anothers hell.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I dont read it

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I dont read it

You bitch.

I spent AGES on the one I did for you.

It had a narrative, a theme, a sub-plot, characters, drama, costumes and a twist at the end which nobody was expecting.

And what did I get in return from you?

"Turned up on time"

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I don't pay much attention to them. No one in their right mind would post one that read: 'they turned up late, d*unk, having walked through several cowpats, trailed it all over my carpet and then collapsed in a heap on the sofa. A great time had by all.'

I only post a few of my verifications, because a lot of people I meet aren't officially bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't pay much attention to them. No one in their right mind would post one that read: 'they turned up late, d*unk, having walked through several cowpats, trailed it all over my carpet and then collapsed in a heap on the sofa. A great time had by all.'

I only post a few of my verifications, because a lot of people I meet aren't officially bi."

I like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes!

I can't see how stating you are 'discreet' then listing your liasons go hand in hand.

Thats just my opinion though."

listing liasons, or "verifications" as they are know, is an agreed thing and they are posted at the participants discretion. Therefore this does not reflect on any participant's ability to be "discreet" when required.

Use yer loaf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest ive never been so arrogant as to decide whos good enough to meet me based on who else they have met

If im looking at someones profile its because im interested in them not who else they have met

And if they meets say they do bareback so what? so does half the people on here who claim they dont have un protected sex, if you believe all you read on here god help you!

So long as i like that person and they are happy to comply with my wishes on a meet thats all i care about

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