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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have found that by and a large winks are a almost pointless function. Others thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I've had success from a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope so, I love a good wink

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"I have found that by and a large winks are a almost pointless function. Others thoughts?"

Winks are fantastic for ladies who dish them out.

Winks are good for couples who dish them out.

Winks are pretty much worthless for guys who dish them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I can't see a face then a wink is pretty much worthless, the same as a message really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only like winks if there's something decent to look at/read on a profile.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely look at winks but I have on occasion checked them, seen someone I liked winked them back, which resulted in them messaging me and us meeting.

Depends on the individual really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all have led to meetings in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

winks are just deleted every time we log in never looked at just deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We delete them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a wink. Not sure why people get all weird about them. It's just a way to show interest.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I love a good wink

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By *ockandrollaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I never look at winks "

Arhhh balls now you tell

Me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on who's winking lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always forget to look at mine and I never send them. so yeah, for me personally they're pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at winks.

If you can't be bothered to write s message then I can't be bothered to look at your wink.

Winks are for winkers x

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We have met some lovely people through a wink or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely look at winks but I have on occasion checked them, seen someone I liked winked them back, which resulted in them messaging me and us meeting.

Depends on the individual really "

This

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"I very rarely look at winks but I have on occasion checked them, seen someone I liked winked them back, which resulted in them messaging me and us meeting.

Depends on the individual really

This "
Us too, actually recently received one from somebody on our hotlist, that we were planning on contacting. Notice them on the phone, but not on the laptop, so its not a given a wink will be seen for days sometimes, if at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes they're all I have....oh, did you say "winks"?

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I very rarely look at winks but I have on occasion checked them, seen someone I liked winked them back, which resulted in them messaging me and us meeting.

Depends on the individual really "

Yep same here. I remember lookong at a profile and thinking how hot he was but thot he prob wdnt kook at me. Then he winked at me I winked back and the rest is history. Still meet 2 years later x

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By *merald foxWoman
over a year ago

Wigan

I generally scroll down them looking for any women who may have winked but that’s about it

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

It says on my profile I never look at them yet still I get them.

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

I just ignore them or delete them as id rather them send a message in the first place.

why be shy enough to send a wink and expect a message from the other person why not be the first to send a message.

ive never used a wink to show interest in a person either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone winks at us to show they're interested, we'll look at their profile, and if they look like someone we'd be interested in, we'll wink back...then it's up to them to get in touch. If there isn't much content on the profile, it's unlikely we'd respond.

So I'd say no, winks aren't necessarily pointless, but if you're really interested in someone, send them a well thought out message.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

No, I like the intent behind them, then again I like fun.

Oh hum that’s us blocked again....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first couples meet started from a wink. We are a pair of complete and total winkers now !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at winks

Arhhh balls now you tell

Me "

Ahh made me look.... you haven't winked me!

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By *oreverHorny69Man
over a year ago

Milnrow

Im a shy kind of man and send a wink to “ break the ice” and I always respond to winks. I’m a right winker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at winks I prefer a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've talked and arranged a meet through winking.

I've heard of others doing the same. It's not as pointless a feature as 'who's veiwed me'. Just my opinion, it means little.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"I've talked and arranged a meet through winking.

I've heard of others doing the same. It's not as pointless a feature as 'who's veiwed me'. Just my opinion, it means little. "

Agreed on the who's looked at me feature. The amount of times scrolling through the local update on the phone that opens a profile is vast. None of which were looked at

I'd guess many others do likewise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only check out people from winks every now and then, we usually have lots and lots of them by then, and eventually give up.

We'd much prefer a simple "hi" as a message to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We view them and they have led to success for us.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"If someone winks at us to show they're interested, we'll look at their profile, and if they look like someone we'd be interested in, we'll wink back...then it's up to them to get in touch. If there isn't much content on the profile, it's unlikely we'd respond.

So I'd say no, winks aren't necessarily pointless, but if you're really interested in someone, send them a well thought out message.

V x"

Well put & exactly as we view them. So many wink expecting a message back tho which we dont do, if we wink back ball is in their court Fi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a good wink all good harmless fun but I don't send many as I fear I might be block for doing so. Shame really, after all its just a wink ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found that by and a large winks are a almost pointless function. Others thoughts?"
yes no monitary value whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not off couples, off guys yes. We know it's double standards but

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I qunite like them. I'll send one to see if I get one back. If I do I'll message or they'll have messaged me.

I look at my winks and see what they are like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are ignored then yes, but we never ignore a wink, always look at the the very least x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m careful how I use them, sometimes I’ll wink if I’ve sent a lady a message which she hasn’t opened and sometimes it grabs their attention but on the whole they’re useless for guys.

If a lady winks me then there’s a rush of blood to head and I go bright red!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they are ignored then yes, but we never ignore a wink, always look at the the very least x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To us, winks are acceptable and we always respond to them from couples (we're not really looking for singles).

There seems to be a strange expectation for people to jump through hoops on Fab. The whole 'if you're interested in me/us you'll write a really good, individual, message' is such bollocks. It smacks of some needy person wanting others to massage their ego.

You're meeting for a sex not for a job interview.

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

I wink to show my interest, sometimes it I get a response sometimes I don't,

Part and parcel of communication I think,

Xx

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"I never look at winks "

Oh Holly, I would love to wink you and a whole lot more xx

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids

We use winks to show interest and because We only message together

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

Yes

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

No.

It's a good ice breaker.

Had many a meet proceeded by a wink.

What is the big deal? Ignore if you think they are worthless..

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

It's obviously to show interest, I probably get 2 replies every 10-15 msgs I send so i can't be bothered to send everyone that catches my eye a msg- that would take all day. So I'll do me, and those that think they're too good for a wink that's fine, you do you.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I wink to save time.

To me a wink is just a way of saying I like your profile, it saved me writing a message and saves you reading it and deleting it.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

I Ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look.

On the rare times I have and winked back it’s been ignored, so a waste of time imo

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No, they are valuable

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think they are worthless, I think if you wink someone & they wink back then that is a green light to send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is nice to get a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just picking up on this thread......

A wink is a sign of appreciation of what you see/read on a persons profile - and if your fortunate to get one back, then at least you know there is something they like .......

Fabbing a picture however is different, that's pure simple perving at its best lol

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By *uttyandbeeCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We think winks are a good icebreaker. It shows people are taking notice of your profile

we have had some nice conversations from a wink. You can ignore them of course or take them as a compliment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get as much response from winks as I do from messages zero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We think winks are a good icebreaker. It shows people are taking notice of your profile

we have had some nice conversations from a wink. You can ignore them of course or take them as a compliment."

Done lol .... but being serious, your spot on its a recognition you like what you see etc

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky


"We use winks to show interest and because We only message together "
interesting viewpoint

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Am I pissing in the wind winking? Surly it's a way of the receiver to check out X

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Never check to be honest

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

So I am then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at my winks and don't use them either

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

Occasionally I look at winks ... if I remember

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Obviously jo coz I winked u hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send and receive them and it usually leads to chats so they are working well for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously jo coz I winked u hahaha "

Lol and I just found out by you saying that and me looking on your profile that you winked at me 20 odd mins ago

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it should be smile not wink after all out in everyday life you would smile at someone rather than wink.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

I just get my baps out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at ours and reply with one if we like what we see. We also send the initial one too

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I have found that by and a large winks are a almost pointless function. Others thoughts?"

If it's pointless don't do it, I've had thank you's for winking and why not spread a little happiness

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I can't remember the last time I checked my winks!

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By *RnMrsFreakCouple
over a year ago

Hull,England

They're a good tool, not everyone likes them, to us they are a polite hello. Either you like the person saying hello or you don't. Around 20% of the winks we've sent have had a reply, out of those we've had a couple of meets. We will always respond to couples or fems sending us a wink, but not single blokes as we're not looking for them. We almost always look at the winkers profile though, how much worth do you put on that? It all depends on the users.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found that by and a large winks are a almost pointless function. Others thoughts?

Winks are fantastic for ladies who dish them out.

Winks are good for couples who dish them out.

Winks are pretty much worthless for guys who dish them out."

That is exactly what I was thinking and most of the replies above would seem to validate it.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Nothing is worthless IMHO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have winked by accident, and immediately messaged to apologise for the stray wink..I don't use them. If you are interested enough to wink, send a message..

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By *tripper9Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"I love a wink. Not sure why people get all weird about them. It's just a way to show interest. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found that by and a large winks are a almost pointless function. Others thoughts?"

No we don’t think winks are worthless, because sending a wink has got us meets. Will we respond to a wink? Yes we might do if the profile was sufficiently informative. Advantage of winks is that single guys don’t seem to expect a response to a wink the way some expect a response to a message, therefore it’s easier for us to process.

Mrs

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By *carletcoupleCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We like to receive and give a few winks, where it goes from there varies depending on the chemistry..

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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Ive never had 1..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found that by and a large winks are a almost pointless function. Others thoughts?"

Yes i never look at them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But they can lead to something special

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

Winks serve a purpose. Like a shoot across the bow, like the first monkey shot in to space, like Ant with Dec lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they are worthwhile they are a bit of an icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have winked by accident, and immediately messaged to apologise for the stray wink..I don't use them. If you are interested enough to wink, send a message..

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I have too. It can be a little awkward when that happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always wink first as I lost interest in writing out messages only to get no response. So I just use the wink and take it from there.

I completely understand why I’d not get a response btw, it must be a nightmare to read though hundreds of messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do like to wink, just means we like someone. Doesnt mean we want to meet them all

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I have had over 10 meets bcz of Mr wink. Obviously it won't work for all. But we're all different so makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey there wink wink x

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over a year ago

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By *cceptedKinkMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Winks are a resource that some take advantage of and others don't. Those who don't seem just a little up themselves, the sort that require a full written application and passport photos because cocks are "all the same", well that's up to you but don't complain of missed opportunities and don't blame the sort of people you're looking for. maybe that single guy has been as long as you have and written so many applications for the post, he's feeling just a bit despondent.

If you ignore our winks, it's your lost opportunity

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

i agree and wish we could disable them..i often send one back without even looking at the persons profile ..just to be polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found that by and a large winks are a almost pointless function. Others thoughts?"
I think down to preference but you need to see face pics before you meet so down to the person receiving them I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a load of winks that have led to some hot meets

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

We get winks and we wink back and that's the end of that so no I don't think they work x storm x

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

I bulk delete winks along with random friend requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not that we’re lazy but we wink to test the water, if we get a wink back we then compose a message along with pictures.

No disrespect but why compose a message to someone to have no reply...some say don’t bother winking If you can’t be bother to message, why message if you can’t be bother to respond.

At least if your wink isn’t reciprocated then there’s no loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely get one but they are a treat...

Like a chocolate bar

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

Mild expression of interest, can't understand why some people get so worked up about them

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Another option no harm to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are a great idea just a shame no one uses them. You can use them to keep away guys who don't read your profiles. Pretty much most have a "put 'celery' in the title so I know you've read my profile" why not just change that to wink. Check winks and wink back if you like them and that's the green light to message. Anyone who gets their initial message deleted has just wasted their time because they didn't read your profile properly.

I'm starting to use winks personally as no matter how I word messages they all pretty much get ignored and I really can't be bothered waiting my time for nothing. If they don't like winks then fine but means I've not list anything. Pushed a button and been ignored rather then wasting a few minutes writing a message to be ignored.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

i Never look at mine, no intention too either, but some people use them so see them as a good feature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bulk delete winks along with random friend requests "
yes friebds requests are annoying well just delete delete as the norm now

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

No they're not. I scroll through the winks on occasion and if a profile stands out I will get in touch. Without a profile pic, not likely I'll check out the actual profile though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the person concerned looks at the wink yes can be a quick way to get their attention ,you never know here

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By *oreverHorny69Man
over a year ago

Milnrow


"I have found that by and a large winks are a almost pointless function. Others thoughts?

Winks are fantastic for ladies who dish them out.

Winks are good for couples who dish them out.

Winks are pretty much worthless for guys who dish them out."

I have found this all the time. I’m very shy before chatting and get tongue tied on here when messaging as I cannot be naughty until I know a person. So my messages are rubbish. I wish people would appreciate that not all people have the gift of the gab and find it hard to message. A wink may be the only way of expressing an interest in someone

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

A wink will make us look at the profile regardless who it's from, unless it's a single guy.

Those we just delete because it's not what we're looking for.

It's not personal, just preferential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're serial winkers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found that by and a large winks are a almost pointless function. Others thoughts?"
They've worked out well for me I've met some decent people just from sending/receiving a wink, when you receive them follow them up you never know where it will lead.

They have their place here

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I find them confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shows they are interested in you, I usually reply with a thank you if I am interested otherwise I delete it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they have no monetary value

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