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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s said many times on here that single men looking for sex are not swingers...I think this is totally true and would never consider myself a swinger...HOWEVER.

what about couples who just seek women or worse still that pathetic term ‘unicorn’ that’s not entirely swinging, in the sense of ...

“Swinging, sometimes called wife swapping or partner swapping“

So be honest, guys who are in that situation, you see it as a safe option as no cock is entering your wife/partner. It’s just a way you can get your rocks off seeing two women have a fiddle. Not swinging.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If single men aren't swingers then single women aren't either lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think theres a lot of bullshitting goes off on here lol

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

There are single swingers, but most singles on here aren't swingers.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There are single swingers, but most singles on here aren't swingers. "
Possibly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We play in all kinds of ways but I do know couples one in particular where it’s the female who only wants a female to join them in fact the male would like guys and couples to join then, so I think your comment is a bit of a generalisation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really matter what we call ourselves? At the end of the day its not the sort of hobby you can put on your cv, is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you’re rather fond of labels, aren’t you...?(:

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think theres a lot of bullshitting goes off on here lol "

An awful lot

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Does it really matter what we call ourselves? At the end of the day its not the sort of hobby you can put on your cv, is it? "

Bang on the money. Labels ruin things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s said many times on here that single men looking for sex are not swingers...I think this is totally true and would never consider myself a swinger...HOWEVER.

what about couples who just seek women or worse still that pathetic term ‘unicorn’ that’s not entirely swinging, in the sense of ...

“Swinging, sometimes called wife swapping or partner swapping“

So be honest, guys who are in that situation, you see it as a safe option as no cock is entering your wife/partner. It’s just a way you can get your rocks off seeing two women have a fiddle. Not swinging."

you know, if they want to use the site for whatever they want leave them to it. as its not hurting or affecting me how i am using fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't it all fall under the "umbrella",of swinging?

Unless there's a site for "meeting for casual sex with whoever takes your fancy",a swinging site,like fab,fills that void.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I kind of see your point op

It got frustrating for us as a couple,looking to meet other couples,as so many are looking for an extra fem/bi fem.

We are both straight ,so finding another couple who want straight play is tough ,then then you have to factor in 4 way attraction and availability.

We now use our single profiles to meet and use this profile for forum/clubs and socials.

Its up to each person/couple how they meet and use the site,so i wouldnt be arrogant enough to suggest fab is just for couples to meet couples.

As long as people respect our way,we will do the same.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So basically if a couple isn't looking for a male to join them you aren't happy with it lol if all they want is a female so be it everyone comes on here for there own fantasies and to explore what there after not to please other people with what they want.

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"Does it really matter what we call ourselves? At the end of the day its not the sort of hobby you can put on your cv, is it?

Bang on the money. Labels ruin things."

My label fell off. No fecking idea what I’m meant to be looking for

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

Not sure it matters really what the general name is. Everybody on here for different reasons, everybody has a diff dynamic and wants. Too many different scenarios to be labelled one thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it really matter what we call ourselves? At the end of the day its not the sort of hobby you can put on your cv, is it?

Bang on the money. Labels ruin things.

My label fell off. No fecking idea what I’m meant to be looking for "

I think I'm meant to be looking for my morals. Or possibly marbles

Maybe both

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We're soft swing and meet more single men than couples, we're both straight and don't meet single women. Lord knows what that makes us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without singles, you can't have 3somes, in which ever dynamic. From my early days, couples have always looked for singles, luckily for me.

Swinging is a bit of a generic term these days, far from the car key parties and such. Any site is going to be overpopulated with single males, always have been. While they may be here for various reasons, there is still an argument to say they are swinger's, although not all get the dynamic or only want to meet 121. You could argue a single male meeting a single female or two females/guys aren't swinging, just meeting for nsa sex which possibly they could get from a dating site? At least with fab and sites like them you know what you have signed up for.

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By *cedHoneyWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Love the fact that he has assumed that the only reason couples is swing is because the man wants to! The MAN wants the couple to have a single woman due to the “one penis policy”. So what he says goes.

Absolute crap.

What about the wives that love swinging and look for single women because SHE wants to? Or the fact that a lot of single men’s bad attitudes are the reasons why couples don’t want them in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet,

Men, women and couples.

We have sex with men, women and couples.

Sarah prefers sex with women, however if a guy takes her fancy she's happy to have sex with him.

Sean prefers threesome type encounters with either males or females.

However we also enjoy a good old swap for a bit of fun.

It depends what mood we're in.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

seems to be a few things about this lifestyle that you don't get OP

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

A single guy not bringing along a partner might still be considered a swinger if he involved in daisy chain,or double pleasuring,triple pleasuring & or gang banging a very lucky lady bringing her and keeping her in total orgasmic ecstasy for a very long period of time because when the last guy has finished the first guy has totally recovered and gone in for some more starting another round

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are single swingers, but most singles on here aren't swingers. "

Well said.

Personally, swinging for me is about monogamy vs. non-monogamy. If all swinging is is "wife swapping" than fuck that! No one "swaps" me.

OP, if you're looking for logical consistency and continuity, then yes - those people who view single men as not swingers would generally have to extend that logic to single women. But I don't think that argument is going to change anyone's behavior or their outlook (it's also probably not the dominant perspective). Not to mention that fab (and the internet in general) is not really the place to argue for logical continuity

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Love the fact that he has assumed that the only reason couples is swing is because the man wants to! The MAN wants the couple to have a single woman due to the “one penis policy”. So what he says goes.

Absolute crap.

What about the wives that love swinging and look for single women because SHE wants to? Or the fact that a lot of single men’s bad attitudes are the reasons why couples don’t want them in the first place.

"

Love you didn't understand my point at all??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are single swingers, but most singles on here aren't swingers.

Well said.

Personally, swinging for me is about monogamy vs. non-monogamy. If all swinging is is "wife swapping" than fuck that! No one "swaps" me.

OP, if you're looking for logical consistency and continuity, then yes - those people who view single men as not swingers would generally have to extend that logic to single women. But I don't think that argument is going to change anyone's behavior or their outlook (it's also probably not the dominant perspective). Not to mention that fab (and the internet in general) is not really the place to argue for logical continuity "

I'm not for one minute asking anyone to change their behaviour, not am I seeking to label anyone, nor am I looking for people to play the old sexist card....I am highlighting the inconsistent bollocks that floats on this site. I'm not here to approve or be approved, human behaviour fascinates me as does sex.

I love the hypocrisy of the hardcore forum crusaders.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"seems to be a few things about this lifestyle that you don't get OP "

This is true. I openly admit that. I'm honest however,I don't pretend to be a swinger, I have no interest in playing with couples at all. But the site has allowed me to meet some amazing single women.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"We're soft swing and meet more single men than couples, we're both straight and don't meet single women. Lord knows what that makes us! "

Just plain weird

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There are single swingers, but most singles on here aren't swingers.

Well said.

Personally, swinging for me is about monogamy vs. non-monogamy. If all swinging is is "wife swapping" than fuck that! No one "swaps" me.

OP, if you're looking for logical consistency and continuity, then yes - those people who view single men as not swingers would generally have to extend that logic to single women. But I don't think that argument is going to change anyone's behavior or their outlook (it's also probably not the dominant perspective). Not to mention that fab (and the internet in general) is not really the place to argue for logical continuity

I'm not for one minute asking anyone to change their behaviour, not am I seeking to label anyone, nor am I looking for people to play the old sexist card....I am highlighting the inconsistent bollocks that floats on this site. I'm not here to approve or be approved, human behaviour fascinates me as does sex.

I love the hypocrisy of the hardcore forum crusaders."

So we are all hypocrites now?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are single swingers, but most singles on here aren't swingers.

Well said.

Personally, swinging for me is about monogamy vs. non-monogamy. If all swinging is is "wife swapping" than fuck that! No one "swaps" me.

OP, if you're looking for logical consistency and continuity, then yes - those people who view single men as not swingers would generally have to extend that logic to single women. But I don't think that argument is going to change anyone's behavior or their outlook (it's also probably not the dominant perspective). Not to mention that fab (and the internet in general) is not really the place to argue for logical continuity

I'm not for one minute asking anyone to change their behaviour, not am I seeking to label anyone, nor am I looking for people to play the old sexist card....I am highlighting the inconsistent bollocks that floats on this site. I'm not here to approve or be approved, human behaviour fascinates me as does sex.

I love the hypocrisy of the hardcore forum crusaders.

So we are all hypocrites now?! "

I said hardcore forum crusaders...sorry no idea who you are and I can't say I'm aware of your work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are single swingers, but most singles on here aren't swingers.

Well said.

Personally, swinging for me is about monogamy vs. non-monogamy. If all swinging is is "wife swapping" than fuck that! No one "swaps" me.

OP, if you're looking for logical consistency and continuity, then yes - those people who view single men as not swingers would generally have to extend that logic to single women. But I don't think that argument is going to change anyone's behavior or their outlook (it's also probably not the dominant perspective). Not to mention that fab (and the internet in general) is not really the place to argue for logical continuity

I'm not for one minute asking anyone to change their behaviour, not am I seeking to label anyone, nor am I looking for people to play the old sexist card....I am highlighting the inconsistent bollocks that floats on this site. I'm not here to approve or be approved, human behaviour fascinates me as does sex.

I love the hypocrisy of the hardcore forum crusaders."

Hardcore forum crusaders? Was that directed at me, or am I misreading?

I didn't say anything about labels, so I'm not sure where that came from? I generally don't have a problem with labels. As for the sexist card, you kinda encouraged that with your own wording. It might not have been meant that way, but there it is nevertheless.

I believe I agreed generally with your point, that there is a hypocrisy in that particular way of thinking. I merely posited that pointing out such hypocrisy doesn't change anything...I doubt the people that are being hypocritical will notice it as such. Plus, people are generally hypocritical on here (I've noticed). Though I'll admit I'm not quite sure where hardcore forum crusaders fit into it all.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There are single swingers, but most singles on here aren't swingers.

Well said.

Personally, swinging for me is about monogamy vs. non-monogamy. If all swinging is is "wife swapping" than fuck that! No one "swaps" me.

OP, if you're looking for logical consistency and continuity, then yes - those people who view single men as not swingers would generally have to extend that logic to single women. But I don't think that argument is going to change anyone's behavior or their outlook (it's also probably not the dominant perspective). Not to mention that fab (and the internet in general) is not really the place to argue for logical continuity

I'm not for one minute asking anyone to change their behaviour, not am I seeking to label anyone, nor am I looking for people to play the old sexist card....I am highlighting the inconsistent bollocks that floats on this site. I'm not here to approve or be approved, human behaviour fascinates me as does sex.

I love the hypocrisy of the hardcore forum crusaders.

Hardcore forum crusaders? Was that directed at me, or am I misreading?

I didn't say anything about labels, so I'm not sure where that came from? I generally don't have a problem with labels. As for the sexist card, you kinda encouraged that with your own wording. It might not have been meant that way, but there it is nevertheless.

I believe I agreed generally with your point, that there is a hypocrisy in that particular way of thinking. I merely posited that pointing out such hypocrisy doesn't change anything...I doubt the people that are being hypocritical will notice it as such. Plus, people are generally hypocritical on here (I've noticed). Though I'll admit I'm not quite sure where hardcore forum crusaders fit into it all. "

Neither am I quite frankly

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There are single swingers, but most singles on here aren't swingers.

Well said.

Personally, swinging for me is about monogamy vs. non-monogamy. If all swinging is is "wife swapping" than fuck that! No one "swaps" me.

OP, if you're looking for logical consistency and continuity, then yes - those people who view single men as not swingers would generally have to extend that logic to single women. But I don't think that argument is going to change anyone's behavior or their outlook (it's also probably not the dominant perspective). Not to mention that fab (and the internet in general) is not really the place to argue for logical continuity

I'm not for one minute asking anyone to change their behaviour, not am I seeking to label anyone, nor am I looking for people to play the old sexist card....I am highlighting the inconsistent bollocks that floats on this site. I'm not here to approve or be approved, human behaviour fascinates me as does sex.

I love the hypocrisy of the hardcore forum crusaders.

So we are all hypocrites now?!

I said hardcore forum crusaders...sorry no idea who you are and I can't say I'm aware of your work?"

Not sure I get your point maybe you should elaborate?

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"It’s said many times on here that single men looking for sex are not swingers...I think this is totally true and would never consider myself a swinger...HOWEVER.

what about couples who just seek women or worse still that pathetic term ‘unicorn’ that’s not entirely swinging, in the sense of ...

“Swinging, sometimes called wife swapping or partner swapping“

So be honest, guys who are in that situation, you see it as a safe option as no cock is entering your wife/partner. It’s just a way you can get your rocks off seeing two women have a fiddle. Not swinging."

Personally I feel swinging has changed over the years

With the use of tinder and the like people are much more pen to non monganous relationships and single people are looking for uncomplicated sex with busy lives

I think if you want to class yourselves as a swinger that’s fine and if you don’t you don’t

I’m sure even though we are here on fabswingers the name doesn’t necessarily mean the same to all

Just enjoy what you want and no one should worry whether they are a swinger or not

I myself could be classed as a ‘shit swinger’ Because I rarely swing whereas my friends do all the time - do I care ? Hell no .. whatever I do it’s for my own reasons

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