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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having luck what so ever am I really that bad lol

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

Try reading other posts on the same subject on the forums . . . .

You are not alone and the main piece of advice anyone can give you is : Have patience.

Jane x

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"Having luck what so ever am I really that bad lol"

Like anything worth having, this is a hobby you have to work at. Be patient - you're cute so it's just a matter of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your aftershave. Brut just doesn't cut it for the ladies anymore

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Change your aftershave. Brut just doesn't cut it for the ladies anymore "

Neither dose lynx the adverts are fulse advertisement lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having luck what so ever am I really that bad lol"

Probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here for over a year, not had that many meets, but I have had some, took me ages to get my first one though, you have to get to know people and they you.

I'm not the greatest looking bloke, but have met some lovely people on here, because I have taken the time to get to know them through the forums.

The impression you have given in this thred is that you are right every one else is wrong, great way to win friends and influence people, or get a shag.

Chill out go to couple of socials, you never know what will happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your profile is too negative thats a fact,

no place should you be moaning about people who use the website, get rid of your whole dislikes section and the two lines below it.

it might be how you feel but keep it to yourself as it will have people switching off from you.

i think you could probably find 2 better photos of yourself, maybe take new ones, that show off your best features and have you smiling alot on them, as smiling facepics work alot better than ones that dont, as its a psychological fact that women are more attracted to them, as if ur smiling your having fun, and photos showing your having fun are more attracted that photos of you looking bored or serious.

the first photo would be quite good if you were at front instead of behind two people, then people could see more of your figure, and would be better with big smile, the other photo looks like it off a webcam and not he best quality

so i think them adjustments would make your profile a better one,

your profile needs to make some women who view it think, mmmmmmmmm yess please when they read and check out your photos, but you cant really get that with a negative profile as it turns them off if they read it all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having luck what so ever am I really that bad lol

Whiney profile, below many peoples age limts and profile pic that makes u look constipated...dont know why you arent beating them off with a shitty stick

Very constructive

Sarcasm - the lowest form of wit.

It wasnt meant to be witty, just honest, but hey give the lad false hope if that makes u feel like a good person.

But his current attitude isnt working,so telling him it will all be ok is the least constructive thing i can imagine.

Oh and google sarcasm... "

Hmmm POT KETTLE BLACK.. You age is set to 21 like majority of the guys on here.. Your pictures are hardly going to be in a model magazine... The only reason u got so many meets on here is cause most guys arnt fussy on here they will nail anything.. But I have morals and standards.. I wouldn't let my dog near you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having luck what so ever am I really that bad lol

Whiney profile, below many peoples age limts and profile pic that makes u look constipated...dont know why you arent beating them off with a shitty stick "

I would ignore people making comments like this mate. They are uncalled for, nasty and spoil the site. Don't bite just make a complaint as its out of order.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My dislikes are unhygenic bad breath and bo sorry but can't help it if that turns me off might not some people but most preffer clean folk :D

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"My dislikes are unhygenic bad breath and bo sorry but can't help it if that turns me off might not some people but most preffer clean folk :D"

So when you were asking for advice, why didn't you just say you wouldn't listen to it and save us all some time and trouble?

I'd recommend spell checking your profile. It's one of those things that can put people off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having luck what so ever am I really that bad lol"
I would be happy to meet you if you lived nearer. Julie xxx

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Having luck what so ever am I really that bad lol

Whiney profile, below many peoples age limts and profile pic that makes u look constipated...dont know why you arent beating them off with a shitty stick

Very constructive

Sarcasm - the lowest form of wit.

It wasnt meant to be witty, just honest, but hey give the lad false hope if that makes u feel like a good person.

But his current attitude isnt working,so telling him it will all be ok is the least constructive thing i can imagine.

Oh and google sarcasm...

Hmmm POT KETTLE BLACK.. You age is set to 21 like majority of the guys on here.. Your pictures are hardly going to be in a model magazine... The only reason u got so many meets on here is cause most guys arnt fussy on here they will nail anything.. But I have morals and standards.. I wouldn't let my dog near you"

Keep going,you come across as so attractive, 'm sure this thread will help so much

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


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Hey why dont i send them all to yours, after all turning them down wud be nasty "

Infantile and laughable.

I find it reasonably easy to turn people down or critique their profiles without resorting to 'shitty stick' comments.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having luck what so ever am I really that bad lol

Whiney profile, below many peoples age limts and profile pic that makes u look constipated...dont know why you arent beating them off with a shitty stick

I would ignore people making comments like this mate. They are uncalled for, nasty and spoil the site. Don't bite just make a complaint as its out of order."

She had her opinion and I had my there is no law in that she was rude first

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

up to a point I tend to agree with jemima in that going "there there there" isn't going to solve the issue... he asked.. some people are blunt, some sugarcoat it...

several people have said the profile is negative... so take that for what it is... if that goes in one ear and out the other then it really doesn't matter what people say....

I say to everyone.. time,patience,common sense...

so is being here 5 weeks before making the compaint (and whichever way you want to dress it up, this is what this thread is) really giving it time??? really showing that they have patience??? probably not on either of those...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My dislikes are unhygenic bad breath and bo sorry but can't help it if that turns me off might not some people but most preffer clean folk :D

So when you were asking for advice, why didn't you just say you wouldn't listen to it and save us all some time and trouble?

I'd recommend spell checking your profile. It's one of those things that can put people off."

It is spell checked maybe one can not read?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having luck what so ever am I really that bad lol

Whiney profile, below many peoples age limts and profile pic that makes u look constipated...dont know why you arent beating them off with a shitty stick

I would ignore people making comments like this mate. They are uncalled for, nasty and spoil the site. Don't bite just make a complaint as its out of order.

She had her opinion and I had my there is no law in that she was rude first"

You are right it was a blatant and uncalled for attack as its plain to see you are frustrated at lack of success. But you are being baited here so ignore and read any constructive advice that may help.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"Having luck what so ever am I really that bad lol

Whiney profile, below many peoples age limts and profile pic that makes u look constipated...dont know why you arent beating them off with a shitty stick

I would ignore people making comments like this mate. They are uncalled for, nasty and spoil the site. Don't bite just make a complaint as its out of order.

She had her opinion and I had my there is no law in that she was rude first

You are right it was a blatant and uncalled for attack as its plain to see you are frustrated at lack of success. But you are being baited here so ignore and read any constructive advice that may help. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please remember most of the forum contibutors are less judgmental and more 'subtle'

In the main they are friendly, educational and funny

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"My dislikes are unhygenic bad breath and bo sorry but can't help it if that turns me off might not some people but most preffer clean folk :D

So when you were asking for advice, why didn't you just say you wouldn't listen to it and save us all some time and trouble?

I'd recommend spell checking your profile. It's one of those things that can put people off.

It is spell checked maybe one can not read?"

Actually, you have a point there. The words are spelled correctly, you're just using the wrong ones. 'Manner', not 'manor', 'cost' not 'coast', 'hear' not 'here', etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"My dislikes are unhygenic bad breath and bo sorry but can't help it if that turns me off might not some people but most preffer clean folk :D

So when you were asking for advice, why didn't you just say you wouldn't listen to it and save us all some time and trouble?

I'd recommend spell checking your profile. It's one of those things that can put people off.

I asked for advice?? Yes I did. I did not ask to be insulted did it say that in my post?"

I was talking about the replies where you were given good advice which you then ridiculed and said you wouldn't follow it. Ignore the insults.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My dislikes are unhygenic bad breath and bo sorry but can't help it if that turns me off might not some people but most preffer clean folk :D

So when you were asking for advice, why didn't you just say you wouldn't listen to it and save us all some time and trouble?

I'd recommend spell checking your profile. It's one of those things that can put people off.

I asked for advice?? Yes I did. I did not ask to be insulted did it say that in my post?"

It's not an insult...she's right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My dislikes are unhygenic bad breath and bo sorry but can't help it if that turns me off might not some people but most preffer clean folk :D

So when you were asking for advice, why didn't you just say you wouldn't listen to it and save us all some time and trouble?

I'd recommend spell checking your profile. It's one of those things that can put people off.

I asked for advice?? Yes I did. I did not ask to be insulted did it say that in my post?"
this is one post i never ask s it get back fired on you - 2bh i don't have any meets or friends yet either - just takes time - its people choice to mail you back if they see fit - its all about being Patience - use the chat rooms an attend a social there is tons of other post about this - have a read threw them. good luck what you do, ps just don't whinged about it

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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I was talking about the replies where you were given good advice which you then ridiculed and said you wouldn't follow it. Ignore the insults."

bingo..... this,this this!!

if people have taken time out.. and it was ridiculed and it went in one ear and straight out the other, give people are reason why they should help you...

because to be honest I am stuggling right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok here is how i see it, the OP is frustrated, i am not sure why, as he is rather dishy and as i said before i would happily meet him.

The more regular posters then use a "gang mentality" when they see one of their own getting one bit of negativity against a condescending answer.

As far as i am aware, critiquing a profile isnt on, unless someone has asked for opinions on their profile, or am i totally wrong? No offence meant at all, i am a very sporadic poster but have witnessed some very unsavoury posting against newer posters by more established ones.

I like the forums as most are nice , but nastiness seems the norm at the moment, i am sure that someone will correct me shortly Julie xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some right arrogant people on sites like this. Dunno why cause the ones who be rude and shitty arnt exactually models. Maybe for pedigre chum that's about it :D

little boy,thnk about the fact calling a woman who tried to help a dog ,on a swinging site is not big or clever.

This is why we have an age rule "

Did I call u a dog?? No I said my dog not your a dog

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"I like the forums as most are nice , but nastiness seems the norm at the moment, i am sure that someone will correct me shortly Julie xxxx "

I've noticed a lot of grumpiness on the forums today. Its not a full moon is it?

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over a year ago

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"Ok here is how i see it, the OP is frustrated, i am not sure why, as he is rather dishy and as i said before i would happily meet him.

The more regular posters then use a "gang mentality" when they see one of their own getting one bit of negativity against a condescending answer.

As far as i am aware, critiquing a profile isnt on, unless someone has asked for opinions on their profile, or am i totally wrong? No offence meant at all, i am a very sporadic poster but have witnessed some very unsavoury posting against newer posters by more established ones.

I like the forums as most are nice , but nastiness seems the norm at the moment, i am sure that someone will correct me shortly Julie xxxx "

I agree with you - it's a very unsavoury aspect of the forums in my opinion.

As for the OP - please don't be baited. You've had some good advice from swingers who have had some success - take that advice and reject anything you see as negative or an insult. Don't resort to mud slinging. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some people do like to jump on the band wagon like being school some of these forums soon as they see a remark against there play ground friends they all jump in lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like the forums as most are nice , but nastiness seems the norm at the moment, i am sure that someone will correct me shortly Julie xxxx

I've noticed a lot of grumpiness on the forums today. Its not a full moon is it?"

Maybe there's a lot of PMT around

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Some people do like to jump on the band wagon like being school some of these forums soon as they see a remark against there play ground friends they all jump in lol "

You know, if you read this post and all the comments very carefully, no-one defended Jemima. They mainly defended you!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"I like the forums as most are nice , but nastiness seems the norm at the moment, i am sure that someone will correct me shortly Julie xxxx

I've noticed a lot of grumpiness on the forums today. Its not a full moon is it?

Maybe there's a lot of PMT around "

Oooof good to see that one coming from a woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people do like to jump on the band wagon like being school some of these forums soon as they see a remark against there play ground friends they all jump in lol

You know, if you read this post and all the comments very carefully, no-one defended Jemima. They mainly defended you!"

And some of us have minds of our own. I'd never be part of a clique who would have me as a member lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having luck what so ever am I really that bad lol"

Me neither I'd have had more luck if I'd shot a fucking Albatros

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pinch of salt mate, pinch of salt. Keep plugging away and you'll get there. Take the bitching on the chin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people do like to jump on the band wagon like being school some of these forums soon as they see a remark against there play ground friends they all jump in lol

You know, if you read this post and all the comments very carefully, no-one defended Jemima. They mainly defended you!"
Which is called omission in my opinion, full moon or not!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like the forums as most are nice , but nastiness seems the norm at the moment, i am sure that someone will correct me shortly Julie xxxx

I've noticed a lot of grumpiness on the forums today. Its not a full moon is it?

Maybe there's a lot of PMT around

Oooof good to see that one coming from a woman! "

Not every one you got funny for no reason but yea I'm glad a few of them put a word my way.. They prove to be genuine and decent people but I don't need people to deffend me its a forum not a plavce to argue to make friends to stick up for you.. Thought this site was 18+ not a play ground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow if I was a guy on here looking for advice I don't think i would use the forums.Maybe this forum should be renamed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP this swinging site is full of guys who are not experiencing the level of meets which they would like. You will probably find more success in the local clubs and pubs than here.

That said dont be too downheartened. In a way its like advertising oneself. Think of ways to make you stand out from the hords of single guys on this site. Maybe a witty profile or some exciting pics. Patience and time and beng polite all help. As do joining in on the forums and getting to know people and perhaps attending some socials.

Your success is down to you and how much time and effort you put in. A few messages now and then to women probably wont give you as much success as getting yourself known and attending socials, taking time to think about your profile and what good points you have, what makes your own unique selling point.

You're a good looking young man, so chin up and be proactive

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Wow if I was a guy on here looking for advice I don't think i would use the forums.Maybe this forum should be renamed "

well there is a section under "my accounts" called 'tips and getting started' so maybe that is the best advice anyone can give.. look there!!!

because any other advice is really only from someones point of view.. and that leads to the "generic profiles and bizz words" people seem to hate...

the best advice i have given at times is that this doesn't for the best part tend to be "insta-shag"... hence time and patience...

the problem is every focused on one person, while the rest of the good advice that was giving was ignored.. or ridiculed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow if I was a guy on here looking for advice I don't think i would use the forums.Maybe this forum should be renamed

well there is a section under "my accounts" called 'tips and getting started' so maybe that is the best advice anyone can give.. look there!!!

because any other advice is really only from someones point of view.. and that leads to the "generic profiles and bizz words" people seem to hate...

the best advice i have given at times is that this doesn't for the best part tend to be "insta-shag"... hence time and patience...

the problem is every focused on one person, while the rest of the good advice that was giving was ignored.. or ridiculed..."
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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

My last word here, i didnt say the OP was unattractive, i said he had a weird profile pic,he is bending at an angle, my first thought was he looked like he was constipated.

i did say he was negative and that was going to put people off

i did say he was younger than many meet.

The shitty stick comment....flippant, nothing more, but hey, analyse what i said rather than the fact we have another man slut shaming and saying women who are sexually active are dogs with no morals.

Is this still a swinging site cos frankly when its accepted to talk about women like that, i have severe doubts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow if I was a guy on here looking for advice I don't think i would use the forums.Maybe this forum should be renamed

well there is a section under "my accounts" called 'tips and getting started' so maybe that is the best advice anyone can give.. look there!!!

because any other advice is really only from someones point of view.. and that leads to the "generic profiles and bizz words" people seem to hate...

the best advice i have given at times is that this doesn't for the best part tend to be "insta-shag"... hence time and patience...

the problem is every focused on one person, while the rest of the good advice that was giving was ignored.. or ridiculed..."

Sorry but you can't really can't say that single guys or anyone struggling for meets shouldn't ask for advice on the forums. I get the opinion you are a little bias after looking at your verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My last word here, i didnt say the OP was unattractive, i said he had a weird profile pic,he is bending at an angle, my first thought was he looked like he was constipated.

i did say he was negative and that was going to put people off

i did say he was younger than many meet.

The shitty stick comment....flippant, nothing more, but hey, analyse what i said rather than the fact we have another man slut shaming and saying women who are sexually active are dogs with no morals.

Is this still a swinging site cos frankly when its accepted to talk about women like that, i have severe doubts.

"

No you blatantly attacked a guy looking for advice. To post "pic that makes u look constipated" was totally out of order. It is VERY unpleasant to read and spoils the forums. I hope admin look at this thread and sort things out as there is really no need to attack a guy looking for help.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"My last word here, i didnt say the OP was unattractive, i said he had a weird profile pic,he is bending at an angle, my first thought was he looked like he was constipated.

i did say he was negative and that was going to put people off

i did say he was younger than many meet.

The shitty stick comment....flippant, nothing more, but hey, analyse what i said rather than the fact we have another man slut shaming and saying women who are sexually active are dogs with no morals.

Is this still a swinging site cos frankly when its accepted to talk about women like that, i have severe doubts.

No you blatantly attacked a guy looking for advice. To post "pic that makes u look constipated" was totally out of order. It is VERY unpleasant to read and spoils the forums. I hope admin look at this thread and sort things out as there is really no need to attack a guy looking for help."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Where did I call all women a dog or even one women a dog?? I said I wouldn't let my dog bang you lol. U got no right to comment on no ones pictures befor looking at your own

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

When you decide to post with advice, do it without the really nasty comments to go with it. There really is no need for the post that set all this off....surely giving advice can include being civil and not insulting the person.

To the OP, check out other threads with advice on and the tips section, and don't be put off posting.

Think this has run it's course now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My dislikes are unhygenic bad breath and bo sorry but can't help it if that turns me off might not some people but most preffer clean folk :D"

my point is its a dislike for everybody, its like putting down you dislike STDs for example,

everyone assumes this, its pointless having it on your profile and gives the impression your standards are low that you have been with people like that, even if you have and want to avoid this then you still shouldnt mention it on your profile, and just take care with your selection process so it dont happen again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My last word here, i didnt say the OP was unattractive, i said he had a weird profile pic,he is bending at an angle, my first thought was he looked like he was constipated.

i did say he was negative and that was going to put people off

i did say he was younger than many meet.

The shitty stick comment....flippant, nothing more, but hey, analyse what i said rather than the fact we have another man slut shaming and saying women who are sexually active are dogs with no morals.

Is this still a swinging site cos frankly when its accepted to talk about women like that, i have severe doubts.

No you blatantly attacked a guy looking for advice. To post "pic that makes u look constipated" was totally out of order. It is VERY unpleasant to read and spoils the forums. I hope admin look at this thread and sort things out as there is really no need to attack a guy looking for help."
Here here. Everything she said lately is negative and nasty. How about she gets banned

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