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Do you block or be polite??

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By *o1978 OP   Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

Hi sorry but I have a quick question for you all!!

The question is!! If you have been chatting to someone and arranging to meet them but then after seeing a picture you realise they are not for you, do you, "A" tell them politely thanks but you dont fancy them and wish them well or "B" just block them??

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Tell them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've always told them but have had to block sometimes when they didn't take the hint

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

We don't invest time chatting first. Of course we need the mental connection and to click -

definitely. But there's so many profiles on here we could chat to do we need to see face pics up front.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest and tell them simple

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By *wisted2000Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

I ask for face pictures early on to save getting invested, I’ve been guilted into disappointing meets before and didn’t feel good afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I'm just honest but some people just don't like it so they end up blocked

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

Tell them, then block them, before or after they reply is up to you though!

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

Always be polite and tactful but honest.. not a nice situation but honesty is always best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them and block

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By *asilForty77Man
over a year ago

a hundred and sixty of us living in a small shoebox in the middle of the road

honesty is the best policy if they. ant deal with it then block

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Politely say no thanks then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't block unless they become rude or abusive towards me.

Oh and the sickos they get a instant block x

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

As you have been talking to them the polite thing to do is to tell them that they are not for you and then if you feel it is necessary block them. Harsh but fair at least they know where they stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi sorry but I have a quick question for you all!!

The question is!! If you have been chatting to someone and arranging to meet them but then after seeing a picture you realise they are not for you, do you, "A" tell them politely thanks but you dont fancy them and wish them well or "B" just block them??"

I’d have thought before arranging a meet you’d have wanted to see them to avoid this happening no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't block unless they become rude or abusive towards me.

Oh and the sickos they get a instant block x "

agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always politely tell them that they aren't what we are looking for, and wish them happy swinging.

We hardly use the block button for anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just tell them. If they get pissy then I block

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

Only fair to let them know why, block button for me is a last resort or for when I get stalked which as a man happens daily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we used to be polite (on a previous profile) but wasted so much time telling people to "please read the profile" (and you will see why we are not interested thank you e.g beards) that we now just block pretty quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn’t get into that situation. We don’t chat unless we know what someone looks like and them us. That way no hopes up or disappointment.

Mrs

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Polite, then if they come back, depends.

If I’m in the mood, for competitive sport, had a bad sports injury so that ruled that out, and wanting to play, I engage till it doesn’t entertain me no more.

If they are, we’ll beyond cognitive reasoning, due to physical circumstances may I add, just block the fuckers...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was me id rather you just be straight up, cards on the table and tell the reason. If you blocked me then id be thinking was it someting i did or said.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere Only We Know

We would politely say we’re flattered but unfortunately there’s no spark. Honesty would be the best policy. If they become pissy about it, then block and pat yourself on the back for avoiding a nutcase. After all, this is an adult site for adults, children have no place here.

Ed

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Tell them. I have never blocked anyone in two and a half years.

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By *erkshire7274Couple
over a year ago

Bracknell

Wish them well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I never chat before seeing a face pic so it's a moot point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them. And block them. XOXO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I always ask for face pics up front...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d definitely be honest with him. And wish him all the best. It’s good manners.

Ghosting is just rude.

But, I do block afterwards. As sometimes men accidentally message again. Or sometimes they message trying to convince me or asking for a detailed explanation why... and I don’t want to go through that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't chat much unless I've seen the face pic. So not wasting any time there.

If someone is not for me I tell them and then block so they can't hassle me about it, or come back in 6 months

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Tell them, then if they won't take no for an answer or are arsey - block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Politely tell them. Though there have been a few occasions where I’ve had to block as I just felt too guilty when they keep persisting afterwards

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By *anTouchThisCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

We tell them, then make a note on their profile. That way if they get in touch a

few weeks/months later, we know its time to consider blocking else we end up stuck in a loop. We've had very few bad responses to telling them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate to do it but I prefer to be told. X

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By *otswapsCouple
over a year ago

Medway


"Hi sorry but I have a quick question for you all!!

The question is!! If you have been chatting to someone and arranging to meet them but then after seeing a picture you realise they are not for you, do you, "A" tell them politely thanks but you dont fancy them and wish them well or "B" just block them??"

"A" tell them politely thanks but you dont fancy them and wish them well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask for face photos before arranging to meet up. Though always honest, only block if anyone's rude.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I would tell them. I rarely block.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

A if it’s necessary, don’t think we’ve ever blocked anyone and don’t intend to unless they get arsey.

We use the notes feature to remind ourselves if we’ve politely declined!

TB

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby

I always tell them, even though it makes me feel bad. I haven't got anyone on my block list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Politely decline. I wouldn't block because of not wanting to meet up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Politely decline. I wouldn't block because of not wanting to meet up.

"

Testing that theory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Politely decline. I wouldn't block because of not wanting to meet up.

Testing that theory "

Not even funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I don’t really get the blocking just because we don’t want to meet them. We don’t want to meet 99.9% of Fab. I suppose we could routinely block every single person that looks at our profile, everybody on like local searches, everybody who Fabs our pictures, and everybody who messages or winks us, and just keep those on our friends list or hotlist unblocked. That would certainly save all these unwanted people popping up on searches. But surely there’s more to Fab than just shortlisting people to meet.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I don’t really get the blocking just because we don’t want to meet them. We don’t want to meet 99.9% of Fab. I suppose we could routinely block every single person that looks at our profile, everybody on like local searches, everybody who Fabs our pictures, and everybody who messages or winks us, and just keep those on our friends list or hotlist unblocked. That would certainly save all these unwanted people popping up on searches. But surely there’s more to Fab than just shortlisting people to meet.

Mrs"

Same.

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