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"Hi all, New to all of this so just wanting to generally know when it is a good time to ask to meet a fabber? Im so bad at messaging because my sense of humour and personality doesn't seem to come through the message like id want it too, far better at a social or phone call but how can i say that without sounding pushy? Bombardment of questions lol. Sorry, hope somebody could help Max " Personally, I like to get to know someone a bit before meeting. I, the woman of the pair here, never suggest a meet myself, I wait for someone else to bring it up. I do, however, hint that I'm free for the evening, the upcoming weekend, whatever. Some people like to meet straightaway, little preamble; others prefer to take quite a bit a time before meeting. Just go with hints in the conversation to see if the other party might happen to be free, and suggest a drink? Good luck. | |||
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"I got a number and we was talking on WhatsApp then when i asked to phone the person they basically said no they wont veri me and basically blocked me but i would rather speak over the phone to get a feel for that person rather then message constantly without a voice to put to a face. Plus i have alot to say which takes alot longer to type haha Thank you " They can't verify you unless they've met you or seen you on cam. Chatting to a stranger on the phone isnt everyone's cup of tea. I suggest that you message introducing yourself then if you get a favourable reply suggest a coffee meet. | |||
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"They weren't who they say they were. Probably were going to ask for a load of picture and had no intention of ever meeting you. I wouldn't sweat it mate. Theor loss I say. " Funny you should say that because she actually asked if i had any more pictures lol. Im not too fussed as its all a learning curve for me but if you have my number, why would you still just want to message when we can have a phone call lol otherwise whats the point of asking for my number in the first place?... | |||
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"They weren't who they say they were. Probably were going to ask for a load of picture and had no intention of ever meeting you. I wouldn't sweat it mate. Theor loss I say. Funny you should say that because she actually asked if i had any more pictures lol. Im not too fussed as its all a learning curve for me but if you have my number, why would you still just want to message when we can have a phone call lol otherwise whats the point of asking for my number in the first place?... " Some don't like to talk on the phone. Though, I'm not sure why she mentioned she wouldn't veri you. It's like she tried to use an excuse to block you. Make it your fault for asking, so to speak. That would be suspect to me. I think it's common knowledge that verifying through a telephone call is no longer allowed anyway. I would try and get to know someone a little, before offering up a meet, unless they seem to be hinting at one, then I'd go for it and just ask, if I were you. I know that I personally, would be put off, having someone ask me to meet up, only a few messages in. People like to run at different paces on here. That's why interaction and getting a feel for that person, by what they say, is key to a successful meet. Good luck | |||
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"They weren't who they say they were. Probably were going to ask for a load of picture and had no intention of ever meeting you. I wouldn't sweat it mate. Theor loss I say. Funny you should say that because she actually asked if i had any more pictures lol. Im not too fussed as its all a learning curve for me but if you have my number, why would you still just want to message when we can have a phone call lol otherwise whats the point of asking for my number in the first place?... " I have lots of numbers but would much rather text than speak on the phone. I will do if i can't avoid it but phone chats about nothing in particular aren't my thing | |||
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"Think i shoot myself in the foot due to the fact I'm an eager beaver with when it comes to a meet. Not for sex, just for a social. Im pants at reading into messages and having a conversation without first seeing them eg social Because then i could see if i gel with that person. Through messages i don't talk or sound how i write if that makes sense ? " Why don't you try and go to local organised socials or clubs? It's a great way to introduce yourself to people without any pressure to play. You'll get to know the scene more and will play to your strengths if you feel more comfortable in person than via messages. Just a thought and good luck! Cat | |||
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