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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Does it fulfill a need?

Does the thrill give the buzz you need?

Or do you actually want more of a connection?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is superficial sex?

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By *haz0101Man
over a year ago

london

Depends really, but have to admit it the best is when you’re both into it and have a bit of a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe a build up can be better. When you like someone so much that you just wait to rip their clothes off.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes it does fulfil a need.

Yes it does give a buzz.

I don't have time to establish any meaningful connection. That takes years or months at least.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Yes it does fulfil a need.

Yes it does give a buzz.

I don't have time to establish any meaningful connection. That takes years or months at least."

Really, not in my experience, a connection of values and needs can be almost instant.

Then again I’m not into superficial sex.

I like depth.

Everyone is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it does fulfil a need.

Yes it does give a buzz.

I don't have time to establish any meaningful connection. That takes years or months at least.

Really, not in my experience, a connection of values and needs can be almost instant.

Then again I’m not into superficial sex.

I like depth.

Everyone is different. "

But what do you class as superficial sex. Was my original question .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it does fulfil a need.

Yes it does give a buzz.

I don't have time to establish any meaningful connection. That takes years or months at least.

Really, not in my experience, a connection of values and needs can be almost instant.

Then again I’m not into superficial sex.

I like depth.

Everyone is different. "
this

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Yes it does fulfil a need.

Yes it does give a buzz.

I don't have time to establish any meaningful connection. That takes years or months at least.

Really, not in my experience, a connection of values and needs can be almost instant.

Then again I’m not into superficial sex.

I like depth.

Everyone is different.

But what do you class as superficial sex. Was my original question ."

That is a a personal opinion. To me, and I point out for me, it is a shag and does in matter, no holistic anticipation play.

L can play that way, me....no.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes it does fulfil a need.

Yes it does give a buzz.

I don't have time to establish any meaningful connection. That takes years or months at least.

Really, not in my experience, a connection of values and needs can be almost instant.

Then again I’m not into superficial sex.

I like depth.

Everyone is different. "

I like depth too and agree that everyone is different.

I think that in the swinging world any connection we make is going to be superficial by it's very nature but that doesn't preclude respect. But as you said, we're all different.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Yes it does fulfil a need.

Yes it does give a buzz.

I don't have time to establish any meaningful connection. That takes years or months at least.

Really, not in my experience, a connection of values and needs can be almost instant.

Then again I’m not into superficial sex.

I like depth.

Everyone is different.

I like depth too and agree that everyone is different.

I think that in the swinging world any connection we make is going to be superficial by it's very nature but that doesn't preclude respect. But as you said, we're all different."

True with different values.

I subscribe to Castaneda and the four enemies of a man of knowledge, second is interesting...

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"Yes it does fulfil a need.

Yes it does give a buzz.

I don't have time to establish any meaningful connection. That takes years or months at least."

Yes it fulfills a need and it’s fun so yes there’s a buzz about it. But to me the need it fulfills is as superficial as the sex. I used to think I was a sex addict but actually I’m not, I just didn’t have connection and I was reaching out for it in the wrong places. The lack of connection and satisfaction of deeper level needs created the hunger for more...and more...hence my mistaken belief it was an addiction.

I don’t agree connection takes months or years. I had an experience where a deep and long lasting connection and trust was built in an instant through a touch and a command. Since then things changed for me profoundly and nothing but deep connection makes me truly happy. When I don’t have that, and being single too, I sometimes fall into old habits because I still have sexual needs and the wand just isn’t enough.

When I have deep connection the need for anything superficial just falls away. And that’s the proof I’m not a sex addict, if I was the need would still be there. It’s been an interesting yet hard learning curve for me the last few years.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Does fulfil a need but not too keen on wham bam because usually, I'd have lost interest or the passion wouldn't be there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it fulfils a need. Yes it gives me what I want. No I don't want anything deeper than a sexual connection.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Yes it fulfils a need. Yes it gives me what I want. No I don't want anything deeper than a sexual connection. "

That is stunning, like L she plays that way,

Me thinks the binomial spectrum is quite wide... and I like my side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it fulfils a need. Yes it gives me what I want. No I don't want anything deeper than a sexual connection.

That is stunning, like L she plays that way,

Me thinks the binomial spectrum is quite wide... and I like my side."

And people say women are the complex ones with emotional needs....

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Yes it fulfils a need. Yes it gives me what I want. No I don't want anything deeper than a sexual connection.

That is stunning, like L she plays that way,

Me thinks the binomial spectrum is quite wide... and I like my side.

And people say women are the complex ones with emotional needs...."

NO!!!! Damn, I need to question my sexually.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes it does fulfil a need.

Yes it does give a buzz.

I don't have time to establish any meaningful connection. That takes years or months at least.

Really, not in my experience, a connection of values and needs can be almost instant.

Then again I’m not into superficial sex.

I like depth.

Everyone is different.

I like depth too and agree that everyone is different.

I think that in the swinging world any connection we make is going to be superficial by it's very nature but that doesn't preclude respect. But as you said, we're all different.

True with different values.

I subscribe to Castaneda and the four enemies of a man of knowledge, second is interesting..."

Clarity? Interesting in what way pertaining to your original post?

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Nothing, just a post, I liked nice couple...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that superficial sex does fill a need but it's like scratching an itch.... ok for the moment but no lasting affect.

Having a d/s relationship with someone you trust and share desires and values with takes the sex to a different level. I can be on a high for days after a meet. Works for me anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe a build up can be better. When you like someone so much that you just wait to rip their clothes off. "
this..although not had that feeling in a wee while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We enjoy sex so much more when there is a connection and you can feel the chemistry. The build up and anticipation is all part of it for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection all the way for me. Sadly very difficult to find on here

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"We enjoy sex so much more when there is a connection and you can feel the chemistry. The build up and anticipation is all part of it for us."

Agree sex is much better with people you enjoy spending time with. The two things go together for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find that superficial sex does fill a need but it's like scratching an itch.... ok for the moment but no lasting affect.

Having a d/s relationship with someone you trust and share desires and values with takes the sex to a different level. I can be on a high for days after a meet. Works for me anyway "

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Yes it does fulfil a need.

Yes it does give a buzz.

I don't have time to establish any meaningful connection. That takes years or months at least.

Really, not in my experience, a connection of values and needs can be almost instant.

Then again I’m not into superficial sex.

I like depth.

Everyone is different.

I like depth too and agree that everyone is different.

I think that in the swinging world any connection we make is going to be superficial by it's very nature but that doesn't preclude respect. But as you said, we're all different."

It’s not very often I’ll agree entirely with you guys , but on this one I do !

No matter how hot someone is , no matter how horny we feel , no matter how good the sex is , it’s all superficial .

And we certainly think superficial sex scratches the itch , every time .

It is what it is , and swinging is all about superficial sex . Anything else comes with strings and that’s not why we swing

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes it does fulfil a need.

Yes it does give a buzz.

I don't have time to establish any meaningful connection. That takes years or months at least.

Really, not in my experience, a connection of values and needs can be almost instant.

Then again I’m not into superficial sex.

I like depth.

Everyone is different.

I like depth too and agree that everyone is different.

I think that in the swinging world any connection we make is going to be superficial by it's very nature but that doesn't preclude respect. But as you said, we're all different.

It’s not very often I’ll agree entirely with you guys , but on this one I do !

No matter how hot someone is , no matter how horny we feel , no matter how good the sex is , it’s all superficial .

And we certainly think superficial sex scratches the itch , every time .

It is what it is , and swinging is all about superficial sex . Anything else comes with strings and that’s not why we swing "

There's a first time for everything!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Does it fulfill a need?

Does the thrill give the buzz you need?

Or do you actually want more of a connection?"

Is this aimed at those guys who suck each other off on the way home to their families after work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is superficial sex?"

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I need a connection ,I'd rather not bother and please myself than have a meet for the sake of it

Miss

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By *iftywaysMan
over a year ago

wigan


"Does it fulfill a need?

Does the thrill give the buzz you need?

Or do you actually want more of a connection?"

In the past I've used a phrase "wanking inside a pussy" and that can be less fulfilling that an actual wank!

So what about a superficial connection? I find it difficult just to be turned on by a situation, while it has happened, some rapport with the people involved is important to engage the mental and physical and this applies either 121 or in a group / 3way setting. Even in a club the same applies.

That connection doesn't have to be in person. A couple of times I have chatted online for quite a while (days/weeks) over email, WhatsApp, only to meet in the flesh and to be fucking in under 10 minutes, and to have VERY good sex.

They have usually gone on to be long term sexual lovers - or more! The key to that though is utter honestly and more than one word replies.

Sexual release can be achieved with just a wank, so unless there is a connection I don't go for superficial.

There is an interesting aspect to this, the thrill and buzz, of 'immediate sex', fucking for fucking's sake, which I suppose a gangbang / bukkake is, and that does appeal to me, but I'd interested to know how it leaves me feeling, should it happen.

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