FabSwingers.com forum: throwing myself on floor and sobbing in frustration

By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

So... at last. A sexy lovely bifem. She winks me. Seems genuine. She sees my pic and OH. Still all good. She sends hers.... very nice indeed. We chat further. Hit it off. Sexually we def are interested in the same things. She doesnt live too far... she can accommodate! She would love to meet up for some very horny fun with us... her offers were very attractive. Then...she says the word bareback... I ask holding my breathe... yes she does. Damn damn and all the bloody damns. Thats it, game set and match. Agh!!!!! the disappointment. Ah thanks... that feels better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

gutting....but at least honest!!

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"gutting....but at least honest!!

yes, each to their own but she didnt know that we dont meet people who bareback so prob thought it was ok with us.

Thats life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so sensible, i'm the same fair play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"gutting....but at least honest!!

yes, each to their own but she didnt know that we dont meet people who bareback so prob thought it was ok with us.

Thats life! "

Good way to catch out the liars, let them drop themselves in it when asked?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for you lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met people on here before and got put off by the same thing!

We really DO NOT believe that people still do bareback!

Unfortunately we can't always spot them but if we do - it's a NO FROM US!

The most annoying thing is that some men (we are looking for guys only at the mo) say they want safe sex but then you see them without a C in their pics - clearly NOT with their partner...

I think a lot of guys (I KNOW THAT NOT ALL OF THEM ARE LIKE THAT) prefer bare if they can

best way to stay safe is stop swinging

unfortunately that's the only way ...

Paul and Sandra

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

how do you know its clearly not their partner??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, Good on you both for saying NO to bareback but we have noticed on your likes list you only state threesomes

Please press the safe sex button too as a lot of people on here will think you do bb.

How can anyone play without a condom??

Why risk meeting anyone who will happily play bareback & risk your health, who knows what they have got.

We have personally put a forum on this in the past & been slated from members saying its their choice to go bareback.

Good luck & have fun xxxx

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Hey, Good on you both for saying NO to bareback but we have noticed on your likes list you only state threesomes

Please press the safe sex button too as a lot of people on here will think you do bb.

How can anyone play without a condom??

Why risk meeting anyone who will happily play bareback & risk your health, who knows what they have got.

We have personally put a forum on this in the past & been slated from members saying its their choice to go bareback.

Good luck & have fun xxxx"

We did have it but deleted it as we found people just lied. We prefer to chat and just ask... with no indication on our profile of our view. Human nature. Just get a more honest answer. Sad but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safe sex always.

Bareback is just a big no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey, Good on you both for saying NO to bareback but we have noticed on your likes list you only state threesomes

Please press the safe sex button too as a lot of people on here will think you do bb.

How can anyone play without a condom??

Why risk meeting anyone who will happily play bareback & risk your health, who knows what they have got.

We have personally put a forum on this in the past & been slated from members saying its their choice to go bareback.

Good luck & have fun xxxx

We did have it but deleted it as we found people just lied. We prefer to chat and just ask... with no indication on our profile of our view. Human nature. Just get a more honest answer. Sad but true. "

I also find it helps with the conversation...more to talk about than a profile stating every like and dislike etc etc!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw bless, look at it as better now than at the meet stage- finding out on the night would have been more awkward to walk away from x

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Aw bless, look at it as better now than at the meet stage- finding out on the night would have been more awkward to walk away from x"

Aw Gawd yes... that would have been awful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i gone bare back a few time but as is getting cold i now were a t shirt........ messing aside glove with love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been to clubs meet nice couples then in private room he wants to do without... that's a big "No"...happened now twice, how do people like that tick?

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"been to clubs meet nice couples then in private room he wants to do without... that's a big "No"...happened now twice, how do people like that tick?

Well to be honest Ive given up trying to understand it and just try and concerntrate efforts in finding people who are likeminded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"been to clubs meet nice couples then in private room he wants to do without... that's a big "No"...happened now twice, how do people like that tick?

well no being funny its not work the risk plus after seeing ur profile ur wife is pretty hot. i would want her filled with n ones spunk if she ws mine....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey, Good on you both for saying NO to bareback but we have noticed on your likes list you only state threesomes

Please press the safe sex button too as a lot of people on here will think you do bb.

How can anyone play without a condom??

Why risk meeting anyone who will happily play bareback & risk your health, who knows what they have got.

We have personally put a forum on this in the past & been slated from members saying its their choice to go bareback.

Good luck & have fun xxxx

Good on you for sticking to your guns.

We can understand your reason for taking "safe sex" from your interest list.

The only thing is its a double edged sword, a lot of people , us included, won't contact people who don't have it on their list.

We've had some brilliant times but none, in retrospect, worth dying for.

XXXX

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"So... at last. A sexy lovely bifem. She winks me. Seems genuine. She sees my pic and OH. Still all good. She sends hers.... very nice indeed. We chat further. Hit it off. Sexually we def are interested in the same things. She doesnt live too far... she can accommodate! She would love to meet up for some very horny fun with us... her offers were very attractive. Then...she says the word bareback... I ask holding my breathe... yes she does. Damn damn and all the bloody damns. Thats it, game set and match. Agh!!!!! the disappointment. Ah thanks... that feels better

Look on the bright side. It was probably a single guy anyways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I just count everyone as having just barebacked most of the site..

That way its my choice if I go safe or bare..

although mostly its safe.. but we have with a regular partner gone without... but that is our choice..and we do put that on our profile so people can make an informed choice.

I have been asked by most men if I will go BB.... even those that have a big song and dance on their profiles about ONLY SAFESEX..

Hence my stance that I treat everyone as if they just have..

as most people wont be honest anyway.

cali

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"been to clubs meet nice couples then in private room he wants to do without... that's a big "No"...happened now twice, how do people like that tick?

Well to be honest Ive given up trying to understand it and just try and concerntrate efforts in finding people who are likeminded. "

likeminded couple waves

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Look on the bright side. It was probably a single guy anyways

Ha ha. Thats what I said to OH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

couldnt you have just asked her if she would mind using condoms with you?

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"To be fair I just count everyone as having just barebacked most of the site..

That way its my choice if I go safe or bare..

although mostly its safe.. but we have with a regular partner gone without... but that is our choice..and we do put that on our profile so people can make an informed choice.

I have been asked by most men if I will go BB.... even those that have a big song and dance on their profiles about ONLY SAFESEX..

Hence my stance that I treat everyone as if they just have..

as most people wont be honest anyway.

cali "

I think you are right. A lot would go for it but all we can do is try our best to meet likeminded people. Can do no more. We know there are risks, we just try to minimise them. Didnt meet single fem as we are not comfortable with it.

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"been to clubs meet nice couples then in private room he wants to do without... that's a big "No"...happened now twice, how do people like that tick?

Well to be honest Ive given up trying to understand it and just try and concerntrate efforts in finding people who are likeminded.

likeminded couple waves

waves back

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

couldnt you have just asked her if she would mind using condoms with you?"

we just arent comfortable meeting peeps who bareback. we have discussed it and agreed its something neither of us is happy with. Everyone has a choice, but ours in non negotiable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interested in the same things" its uncanny, on a swingers site , swingers talkin to swingers it happens quite a bit that.

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Interested in the same things" its uncanny, on a swingers site , swingers talkin to swingers it happens quite a bit that.

now now, be nice

actually we dont all like the same things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We live a swinging lifestyle. We're all at risk. Condom or not.

Protect yourselves as best as you can or stop swinging. That's the safe way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

couldnt you have just asked her if she would mind using condoms with you?

we just arent comfortable meeting peeps who bareback. we have discussed it and agreed its something neither of us is happy with. Everyone has a choice, but ours in non negotiable. "

I do see where your coming from but im sure you have met people who bareback before, just not everyone is as honest as this lady

I remember someone on here posting......treat every meet as they bareback and you wont go wrong

And its right, you can only protect yourself meet to meet the best you can, and tho a lot of people on here put down those who bare back i actually applaud their honestly because at least they give you the real facts for you to make a decision on and not just tell you what you want to hear like a lot on here

But anyway im sure someone else will be along soon dont take long on here to replacde a meet lol

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"We live a swinging lifestyle. We're all at risk. Condom or not.

Protect yourselves as best as you can or stop swinging. That's the safe way!

Of course, but didnt really aim to have another bareback thread. Was just letting out a little frustration. Tongue in cheek (my own unfortunately)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interested in the same things" its uncanny, on a swingers site , swingers talkin to swingers it happens quite a bit that.

now now, be nice

actually we dont all like the same things "

Just being ironic, was'nt being nasty, we dont accurately like the same stuff, true.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Good for you for walking away...you might have just saved your own life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you for sticking to your principles. We'd have done the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know Ruggers doesn't like it when other threads are mentioned but funny how some people change their mind. Just read the "trying to get pregnant by swinging" thread. I think I was the only one that mentioned the hypocrisy: this thread proves my point.

Anyone that takes the word of horny strangers that they don't bareback are frightenly naive. I assume everyone I meet has been bareback gang banging but try and protect myself as best I can.

"Safe sex" on here is as meaningless as the Sydney disclaimers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know Ruggers doesn't like it when other threads are mentioned but funny how some people change their mind. Just read the "trying to get pregnant by swinging" thread. I think I was the only one that mentioned the hypocrisy: this thread proves my point.

Anyone that takes the word of horny strangers that they don't bareback are frightenly naive. I assume everyone I meet has been bareback gang banging but try and protect myself as best I can.

"Safe sex" on here is as meaningless as the Sydney disclaimers."

So true Sassy. I'd even go as far as comparing it too a love struck girl asking a bloke with a hard on if he loves her.

It all comes down to whether or not you are prepared to believe what anyone tells you

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"I know Ruggers doesn't like it when other threads are mentioned

That is more if it is to get at someone because there has been a spat or if the thread had been stopped xx

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Well if you ask someone if they do bateback and they readilly agree that's not a good sign. What I was saying was yes we only play safe obviously but also don't meet people who offer bareback. We aren't daft...its no guarantee but don't want to meet those that seem willing! Personal choice I think. Anyway...didn't mean it as another bareback thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok so she does BB

And you don't so does she object to condoms?

Or do you just not play with people who bareback?

Just curious is all because surely everybody bare backs someone at some point in there livers en if it's just a regular partner

Like I said I'm just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody phones that of course should say lives

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Ok so she does BB

And you don't so does she object to condoms?

Or do you just not play with people who bareback?

Just curious is all because surely everybody bare backs someone at some point in there livers en if it's just a regular partner

Like I said I'm just curious

Obviously people in committed relationships don't all use condoms. We meet singles. Its different from meeting a woman who is barebacking whilst swinging etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know full well that most of the people I meet will have barebacked someone...

So on that I take everyone as a risk and assess it on that.. I have safe sex on mine ticked as do normally do it... But am honest that we don't always...

I know everything in life has risks.. but if I overly worried I'd never get out of bed..

Cali x

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"I know full well that most of the people I meet will have barebacked someone...

So on that I take everyone as a risk and assess it on that.. I have safe sex on mine ticked as do normally do it... But am honest that we don't always...

I know everything in life has risks.. but if I overly worried I'd never get out of bed..

Cali x "

I know you do Cali and I admire your honesty.

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

throwing a stone in the works here, ok we are the same dont like bare back but your taking just as must risk doing oral so why are people shocked when people play bare back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some dispute it.. I think that if a man does not cum in your mouth the risks are less... but I always and I do mean always.. swallow at least some if not all...

Cali

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

well atleast your a good girl and dont spit lol

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"some dispute it.. I think that if a man does not cum in your mouth the risks are less... but I always and I do mean always.. swallow at least some if not all...

Cali "

Exactly. So I dont. We minimise our risks but dont dispute there are risks. As I said, everyone has a choice and ours is to MINIMISE our risk taking. Just looking for likeminded people. I think thats fair enough.

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

agree 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree totally... I wouldnt want someone that would feel uncomfortable with anything we want to do...

So I make it clear.. Funny thing is had a few people be a bit funny ( only couples to be fair) that we on occassion bb... yet not had one person moan that I love messy play orally..

and when I do a good bukkake session it ends up all over me..

I think its not unreasonable.. I just think that as long as you do whats right for you then thats okay.. but I just wouldnt trust someones word that they always play safe.. that is my only issue with those that say they wont play because someone will go Bare.. as really to be fair.. the next 3 people that say "oh no... never" may have had a gangbang creampie for all we know..

That is just how I see it..

I just couldnt actually not taste or swallow cum.. if I cant have it in me that is the next best thing.. I actually cried once when a guy came in a condom..

cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I not reading this right? Your message says "she". Is this where I discover the word "bareback" is not what I think it means

Forgive me if I am being thick (;-) I thought non-bareback was wearing a condom

I suspect i am far too innocent for this complex world

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Am I not reading this right? Your message says "she". Is this where I discover the word "bareback" is not what I think it means

Forgive me if I am being thick (;-) I thought non-bareback was wearing a condom

I suspect i am far too innocent for this complex world

you are correct. she has sex with guys without condoms. Her choice. Not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bareback...equals piss off i dont know where youve been bearing in mind i only know you from a sex site !!!! enuff said

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

I think you will find only mods have the power to close a thread

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