FabSwingers.com forum: Fwb guidelines

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I’ve never been in that situation. I think I’d struggle to make a regular meet work though. I mean if I was single. I think I’d become too emotionally connected. It intrigues me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve never been in that situation. I think I’d struggle to make a regular meet work though. I mean if I was single. I think I’d become too emotionally connected. It intrigues me."

Im just curious what others think as from my personal experience those situations have always only been on the guys terms. So only meet or text at their say so. Etc....not a fair situation lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do women want from a FWB situation? I think males and females have different expectations.

For me a FWB situation is something casual where you both meet up sometimes when the mood suits. No talking to each other, or hanging with each other all the time, and definitely no developing any meaningful feelings.

If I get the feeling that the other person is becoming attached I have to cut it off immediately.

I find that guys are better at dealing with this. The women I’ve had this situation with have usually wanted things to become more eventually

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Dont think its quite like that

Nobody should feel used after it and if they do its probably because theres only contact when he needs to get his dick wet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I get the casual side of things but in the past if ive had this ill see if the guy is available to come over and their never free when i want its only when they want it so surely this is all about what they guy wants so not fair pmsl

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dont think its quite like that

Nobody should feel used after it and if they do its probably because theres only contact when he needs to get his dick wet"

This is spot on lol and coming from a man too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s worked for me. If I text and they’re free we meet and vice versa. Focusing on the “F” parts we are friends too so have dinner, go to the cinema etc. It’s not just a hook up with no talking otherwise it’s not FRIENDS with benefits

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s worked for me. If I text and they’re free we meet and vice versa. Focusing on the “F” parts we are friends too so have dinner, go to the cinema etc. It’s not just a hook up with no talking otherwise it’s not FRIENDS with benefits "

Clearly im meeting all the wrong men then lol

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

This intrigues me. How do you keep it at friends? Assuming you are both single, having sex with a friend, surely you’d develop feelings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me that’s not friends with benefits. That’s dating

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Worked with me for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This intrigues me. How do you keep it at friends? Assuming you are both single, having sex with a friend, surely you’d develop feelings? "

We keep it at friends because that’s what we are and agreed from the outset

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

FWB can work provided both individuals are on the same page, expectation wise. Is it just meets for sex when the mood suits with little interaction in between? Or is it regular meets for sex, but with a social component as well (hanging out, dinner, drinks, etc) that includes interaction in between meets. The problem arises if both are not on the same page expectation wise.

I personally enjoy the social component as it adds greatly to the sexual one. I'm at ease with this type of arrangement as i'm not looking for a relationship but enjoy fun, like minded company. For me, this is what FWB is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me that’s not friends with benefits. That’s dating"

Not dating at all. Dating is where there is the possibility of feelings or a relationship happening. This isn’t that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well i dont need the whole going out for drinks etc.... But i would certainly not be happy if a guy thinks he can just text when ever hes in the mood and ignore me the rest of the time because id see that as being used when he wants his dick wet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seen my fwb almost every day for 15 months, everything is equal, if we are both free then we see eachother. There are rules and we are always honest about EVERYTHING! We love eachother but will never be in love, we are both able to see things for what they are. We do alot together, we are best friends and lovers and that is all it will ever be. We are both more than happy with that, but I think what we have is very hard to find and keep from getting complicated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it."

usually any rules i make i break LOL

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it.

usually any rules i make i break LOL

Hes the one making all the rules thats my issue lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it.

usually any rules i make i break LOL

Hes the one making all the rules thats my issue lol"

only rule i have is openness and honesty, they have never failed me yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it.

usually any rules i make i break LOL

Hes the one making all the rules thats my issue lol

only rule i have is openness and honesty, they have never failed me yet "

Im really starting to doubt hes being honest tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the key word is friends?

And with friends there are always feelings the clue is in the word

But perhaps it's about managing expectations in both directions and knowing what works for you as well as for the friend and being mutually supportive of the situation as it is. Otherwise is just serial fucking with the same person.

I find it impossible not to care about my friends and with that comes all the normal human experience beyond just meet fuck leave. So to suggest we can live in a vacuum where friends is just a regular fuck with little other interaction does I suggest miss the point of fwb a bit.

But then I often think maybe I do things wrong on here and it's only my view others will see it differently.

And the whole fwb thing where I share more than just a regular meet with someone ... well I hope for me it happens. After all what's the point if the only time there is any friend connection is just when we meet.

Maybe one day I'll be that lucky...i certainly hope I am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just think i meet all the wrong guys lol claims hes too busy to answer a text yet i see him online on here on and off all day lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do women want from a FWB situation? I think males and females have different expectations.

If I get the feeling that the other person is becoming attached I have to cut it off immediately.

I find that guys are better at dealing with this. The women I’ve had this situation with have usually wanted things to become more eventually"

I think it's all about finding someone who wants the same as you- great sex with a no expectation of a more involved relationship. No scheduled weekly get together, no movie dates, etc.

Do you communicate with your vanilla friends every day? Do you have regularly scheduled dates? I know I don't. That's dating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do women want from a FWB situation? I think males and females have different expectations.

If I get the feeling that the other person is becoming attached I have to cut it off immediately.

I find that guys are better at dealing with this. The women I’ve had this situation with have usually wanted things to become more eventually

I think it's all about finding someone who wants the same as you- great sex with a no expectation of a more involved relationship. No scheduled weekly get together, no movie dates, etc.

Do you communicate with your vanilla friends every day? Do you have regularly scheduled dates? I know I don't. That's dating.

I talk to my friends daily lol

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

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"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it."

It's working for me at the moment. I think communication is key!. Soon as one of you feeling as it's getting more then you have to say something or it can become very weird

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it.

It's working for me at the moment. I think communication is key!. Soon as one of you feeling as it's getting more then you have to say something or it can become very weird

Im try to communicate with him hes just not listening its all about what he wants/needs

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"Well i dont need the whole going out for drinks etc.... But i would certainly not be happy if a guy thinks he can just text when ever hes in the mood and ignore me the rest of the time because id see that as being used when he wants his dick wet"

Yup, that's just a fuck without the buddy!

I've had open relationships and casual regular meets and everything in between - it just depends on the dynamic between two people and what's been agreed rather than the label you try to apply.

Some I've talked to several times a day and some only when we feel like meeting - but if even that is done with mututal respect it's cool if you both feel the same. If it gets one sided and one uses the other (leaving the other feeling used) then that is not healthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spot on!!! Otherwise you'd just use fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me that’s not friends with benefits. That’s dating"

Dating I would be exclusive other one person, friends with benefits gives you that leeway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yup, that's just a fuck without the buddy!

I've had open relationships and casual regular meets and everything in between - it just depends on the dynamic between two people and what's been agreed rather than the label you try to apply.

Well im definately feeling used!!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yup, that's just a fuck without the buddy!

I've had open relationships and casual regular meets and everything in between - it just depends on the dynamic between two people and what's been agreed rather than the label you try to apply.

Well im definately feeling used!!"

You need to have a talk or find a better fb then!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yup, that's just a fuck without the buddy!

I've had open relationships and casual regular meets and everything in between - it just depends on the dynamic between two people and what's been agreed rather than the label you try to apply.

Well im definately feeling used!!

You need to have a talk or find a better fb then!!"

Ive repeatedly told him n he just says thats not the case and hes a nice guy and im apparently just untrusting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yup, that's just a fuck without the buddy!

I've had open relationships and casual regular meets and everything in between - it just depends on the dynamic between two people and what's been agreed rather than the label you try to apply.

Well im definately feeling used!!

You need to have a talk or find a better fb then!!

Ive repeatedly told him n he just says thats not the case and hes a nice guy and im apparently just untrusting lol"

Yada, yada, yada.....that's just gaslighting, believe his actions, not his words. And your gut. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this type of relationship a couple of times. The last, started last year and finished earlier this, after 8 months when she found a boyfriend. I'd like to think we were both equal, we would meet once a week, set time and day, spend a few hours together before going back to 'real life'. We would communicate most days in between, I'd like to think we were friends, the sex was great, but even when we met we would spend time chatting before and after sex.

Previously I've had similar that have lasted a couple of years and even with couples too. One that lasted 8 years.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"What do women want from a FWB situation? I think males and females have different expectations.

That's just an fb in my book, a fairly casual one at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me that’s not friends with benefits. That’s dating"

You can have more than one friend with benefits, but I'd only ever date one person at a time. ..there's the difference.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do women want from a FWB situation? I think males and females have different expectations.

If I get the feeling that the other person is becoming attached I have to cut it off immediately.

I find that guys are better at dealing with this. The women I’ve had this situation with have usually wanted things to become more eventually"

This is how it works best for me. I find the lack of contact in between meets makes it work better. Non stop daily trivia is not relevant, and creates contact dependence. In my experience, I have had to end the playmate experience, because the man always wanted more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yup, that's just a fuck without the buddy!

I've had open relationships and casual regular meets and everything in between - it just depends on the dynamic between two people and what's been agreed rather than the label you try to apply.

Well im definately feeling used!!

You need to have a talk or find a better fb then!!

Ive repeatedly told him n he just says thats not the case and hes a nice guy and im apparently just untrusting lol

Yada, yada, yada.....that's just gaslighting, believe his actions, not his words. And your gut. Good luck!"

Problem is im so nice/gullible ill believe owt and easily get talked round wish i could be an ice queen lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think i meet all the wrong guys lol claims hes too busy to answer a text yet i see him online on here on and off all day lol."

is he a fb or FWB

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just think i meet all the wrong guys lol claims hes too busy to answer a text yet i see him online on here on and off all day lol.

is he a fb or FWB"

At this point i have no idea lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just think i meet all the wrong guys lol claims hes too busy to answer a text yet i see him online on here on and off all day lol.

is he a fb or FWB"

When ever we talk about it he just says he wants summat casual coz he doesnt have time for owt else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think i meet all the wrong guys lol claims hes too busy to answer a text yet i see him online on here on and off all day lol.

is he a fb or FWB

When ever we talk about it he just says he wants summat casual coz he doesnt have time for owt else"

fuck buds usually are people like a "Booty call" u hook up fuck and roughly nothing more to it

FWB friends u may spend time with and fuck....

(not trying to patronize you) that may help x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just think i meet all the wrong guys lol claims hes too busy to answer a text yet i see him online on here on and off all day lol.

is he a fb or FWB

When ever we talk about it he just says he wants summat casual coz he doesnt have time for owt else

fuck buds usually are people like a "Booty call" u hook up fuck and roughly nothing more to it

FWB friends u may spend time with and fuck....

(not trying to patronize you) that may help x"

I get what ur saying lol but he basically had a go at me for tecting him more than i was meeting him lol coz i was too busy so i distanced myself and ignored him for afew days then he was constantly texting asking what was up. Hes making it more confusing and making mefeelused and like a crazy person lol. You cant have itboth ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think i meet all the wrong guys lol claims hes too busy to answer a text yet i see him online on here on and off all day lol.

is he a fb or FWB

When ever we talk about it he just says he wants summat casual coz he doesnt have time for owt else

fuck buds usually are people like a "Booty call" u hook up fuck and roughly nothing more to it

FWB friends u may spend time with and fuck....

(not trying to patronize you) that may help x

get a new Fb

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just think i meet all the wrong guys lol claims hes too busy to answer a text yet i see him online on here on and off all day lol.

is he a fb or FWB

When ever we talk about it he just says he wants summat casual coz he doesnt have time for owt else

fuck buds usually are people like a "Booty call" u hook up fuck and roughly nothing more to it

FWB friends u may spend time with and fuck....

(not trying to patronize you) that may help x

get a new Fb

Easier said than done lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think i meet all the wrong guys lol claims hes too busy to answer a text yet i see him online on here on and off all day lol.

is he a fb or FWB

When ever we talk about it he just says he wants summat casual coz he doesnt have time for owt else

fuck buds usually are people like a "Booty call" u hook up fuck and roughly nothing more to it

FWB friends u may spend time with and fuck....

(not trying to patronize you) that may help x

get a new Fb

Easier said than done lol"

Fwb seems way harder the fb's to find. The difference for us is that you don't just use each other to scratch an itch and hence genuinely liking each other's company has to be there. Always like to think if we decided not to be 'wb' anymore the friendship will always be there! (After all we know too much about each other

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just think i meet all the wrong guys lol claims hes too busy to answer a text yet i see him online on here on and off all day lol.

is he a fb or FWB

When ever we talk about it he just says he wants summat casual coz he doesnt have time for owt else

fuck buds usually are people like a "Booty call" u hook up fuck and roughly nothing more to it

FWB friends u may spend time with and fuck....

(not trying to patronize you) that may help x

get a new Fb

Easier said than done lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree op, the FWB thing is really hard to fathom out and get right. I know that I don’t want(and can’t deal with) a full on relationship but I need a bit more then a fuck & go type situation but not too much more!!! I love male company but don’t want to get too involved in each other’s life.....men seen to take this to mean sex when it suits them.

Good luck op

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree op, the FWB thing is really hard to fathom out and get right. I know that I don’t want(and can’t deal with) a full on relationship but I need a bit more then a fuck & go type situation but not too much more!!! I love male company but don’t want to get too involved in each other’s life.....men seen to take this to mean sex when it suits them.

Good luck op

Exactly then i always find if i say owt the reply is always well we did meet on fab....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the key word is friends?

And with friends there are always feelings the clue is in the word

But then I often think maybe I do things wrong on here and it's only my view others will see it differently.

Maybe one day I'll be that lucky...i certainly hope I am.

What a lovely post, would you consider moving to Bristol lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After reading the replies think i may just give up pmsl

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Good luck op

Exactly then i always find if i say owt the reply is always well we did meet on fab...."

Haha, that old chestnut....that's just an excuse for a total lack of responsibility for their actions!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good luck op

Exactly then i always find if i say owt the reply is always well we did meet on fab....

Haha, that old chestnut....that's just an excuse for a total lack of responsibility for their actions!

Thats exactly what i think like fab is an excuse for shitty behaviour and no respect for us.

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

"Hes the one making all the rules thats my issue lol"

Maybe this is really the heart of the matter & not the guidelines.

I dont even know my FB’s name & that is just fine by me. I don’t want to know anything other than if they’re free for some hot sex. So if they send a KIK/Text message & I’m free/in the mood then we hook up. We have absolutely rockin hot sex, & they leave. It doesn’t stop us being fond of each other, but I’m not the slightest bit interested in “details”, even though we’re exclusive - until one of us moves on, finds a regular partner, or I move abroad.

Good luck OP. Hope you find what you’re looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hes the one making all the rules thats my issue lol

Maybe this is really the heart of the matter & not the guidelines.

Good luck OP. Hope you find what you’re looking for. "

thnx

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

thnx"

You’re very welcome.

One last bit of advice... YOU make YOUR OWN Rules/Guidelines. If your FB/FWB objects to your rules kick their sorry ass to the kerb, dont look back (EVER) & find one that is happy to play by your rules. Chin up, good luck, go get em.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thnx

You’re very welcome.

I just need to grow some balls lol

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By *ixtyandsexyMan
over a year ago

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I have had a friend with benefits for a number of years!it suits both of us to have our own busy lives and get together when both of us are in the mood!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think ive just been completely used lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fairly just told him im so proud of myself lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I can manage the FWB thing, it's fantastic when it works properly.

You get the good bits of a man and don't have to be with him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can manage the FWB thing, it's fantastic when it works properly.

You get the good bits of a man and don't have to be with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - this sounds all too familiar sometimes we are just too nice for our own good ! Once you get them out of our system eventually they always come back wanting to meet up again as they have missed you and you had the best sex togeather it’s all just Bullshit lol X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP - this sounds all too familiar sometimes we are just too nice for our own good ! Once you get them out of our system eventually they always come back wanting to meet up again as they have missed you and you had the best sex togeather it’s all just Bullshit lol X"

Lol totally wising up to the bullshit now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too OP ! guys wonder why you have your guard up about meeting new guys as previous meets have totally knocked your confidence and the fun out of being on here x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Me too OP ! guys wonder why you have your guard up about meeting new guys as previous meets have totally knocked your confidence and the fun out of being on here x"

Its just a total mindfuck coz their all 'nice guys'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup sure is x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've had one last 10 years, so they can definitely work.

I start out by picking well and open to regular. Then just continue arranging every meet as it fits us - can be weeks between or few times a week.

As long as the general outline of what you all need is set at the start, things only change if circumstances or one of you gets new expectations. If you talk openly, you can just enjoy the fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont think its quite like that

Nobody should feel used after it and if they do its probably because theres only contact when he needs to get his dick wet"

So much this.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

thnx

You’re very welcome.

I just need to grow some balls lol"

Just as with relationships, it's totally better not to be with someone when it's not right for you. You can miss the sex, company and positive stuff but sometimes you need the space to establish and get what you need at that point. Never be hard on yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thnx

You’re very welcome.

I just need to grow some balls lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think looking for a fwb really works. It's something you just fall into, there's so many factors that need to be right that it's difficult but just occasionally you will find someone who it all just clicks with. There's no point forcing it, it either works or it doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think looking for a fwb really works. It's something you just fall into, there's so many factors that need to be right that it's difficult but just occasionally you will find someone who it all just clicks with. There's no point forcing it, it either works or it doesn't."

It works, it just takes a while finding the right one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me too OP ! guys wonder why you have your guard up about meeting new guys as previous meets have totally knocked your confidence and the fun out of being on here x

Its just a total mindfuck coz their all 'nice guys'"

You need to dump him and find someone else. It just sounds like he's messing you around. Sorry to be harsh, but we are sure you deserve better. Good luck with whatever you decide.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Me too OP ! guys wonder why you have your guard up about meeting new guys as previous meets have totally knocked your confidence and the fun out of being on here x

Its just a total mindfuck coz their all 'nice guys'

You need to dump him and find someone else. It just sounds like he's messing you around. Sorry to be harsh, but we are sure you deserve better. Good luck with whatever you decide."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do women want from a FWB situation? I think males and females have different expectations.

If I get the feeling that the other person is becoming attached I have to cut it off immediately.

I find that guys are better at dealing with this. The women I’ve had this situation with have usually wanted things to become more eventually"

To me that's a fuck buddy - a booty call and nothing else. Hardly friends with benefits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me that’s not friends with benefits. That’s dating"

It's dating if you both have hopes of a relationship developing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could never have a fb as there's no way they'd be able to compete with my toys

. I would have to have a fwb which includes a social element.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sick Z you’ve completely off the chart

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

"I have seen my fwb almost every day for 15 months, everything is equal, if we are both free then we see eachother. There are rules and we are always honest about EVERYTHING! We love eachother but will never be in love, we are both able to see things for what they are. We do alot together, we are best friends and lovers and that is all it will ever be. We are both more than happy with that, but I think what we have is very hard to find and keep from getting complicated

That's exactly what I have ... only thing is it makes it hard to ever move on and find a real relationship!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do women want from a FWB situation? I think males and females have different expectations.

If I get the feeling that the other person is becoming attached I have to cut it off immediately.

I find that guys are better at dealing with this. The women I’ve had this situation with have usually wanted things to become more eventually"

That sounds like your not friends with your FWB.

. No talking ? Is that during sex too?

You just described what I imagine a fuckbuddy would be. (I know we label differently). A friend is someone who I want to get to know, it would involve talking to my friend.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it."

Most of my sex partners I meet on my own terms. Doesn't mean I won't say yes if he messages for sex and I'm free and I'm in the mood but most of the time it's me saying when and where (well, where is usually at mine, LOL). Of course my sex partners are not exclusive they're free to sleep with others (some do, some don't) and I definitely do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it.

I want that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sick Z you’ve completely off the chart"

Phew he's gone unlos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it.

I want that lol"

I have an amazing fwb who is my best friend as well !

She has the freedom to do what ever she likes as a single and we meet when we can to have a laugh and fun

It can work just need to find the right person or persons for you !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Apparently i shouldnt be on fab coz i want a relationship.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Apparently i shouldnt be on fab coz i want a relationship."

So do most of the women on here, or many anyway. Unless you want to become a nun while you're waiting for one of the very few decent, truly single men who also want a relationship to appear, then you are in an appropriate place IMO!!

Tell him I said he's a tosser lol!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Mind you - I see you're only 30, the world is your oyster I am sure!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Apparently i shouldnt be on fab coz i want a relationship.

Tell him I said he's a tosser lol!

Lol apparently im to blame for all of this coz he was honest from the start....but if u knew someone wanted more would you continue to sleep with them and tell them all the time you still want to see them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it."

I think the rule is it has to end badly. Or is that just me?

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I have been seeing my fwb for 4 years. We both were honest in what we wanted. We see each other as much or little as we want. We go out together, spend weekends away. I'm not looking for a relationship but with him I have a great friendship and sex. I could go back to being just platonic friends with him if our situationship changed. Feelings I have are for a close friend I can be intimate and not want a relationship. Communication is the key.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it.

I think the rule is it has to end badly. Or is that just me?"

Just did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I have had fb’s they are just that. Someone I would text once in a blue moon for play time and vice Versa.

With friends with benefits more come into it. You should ultimately be friends-

That includes doing things that friends do- meals out etc it’s basically a relationship with out the commitment. You need to be honest with each other but the other can’t get annoyed if you see others. Fwb can be hard to establish in the beginning as the boundary issues can come up but once you both establish what you want out of it then it works

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I have had fb’s they are just that. Someone I would text once in a blue moon for play time and vice Versa.

With friends with benefits more come into it. You should ultimately be friends-

Well after this whole argument hes just turned around and said "thought we were fwb" yea coz all my friends just text me when they want to get theirs dicks wet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I have had fb’s they are just that. Someone I would text once in a blue moon for play time and vice Versa.

With friends with benefits more come into it. You should ultimately be friends-

Well after this whole argument hes just turned around and said "thought we were fwb" yea coz all my friends just text me when they want to get theirs dicks wet..."

Your better off without him!

My Fwb is someone who I class as a really close friend- we can’t be in a relationship together for various reasons but we spend time together doing normal things, we just have the added bonus of being able to hook up when we want to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I have had fb’s they are just that. Someone I would text once in a blue moon for play time and vice Versa.

With friends with benefits more come into it. You should ultimately be friends-

Well after this whole argument hes just turned around and said "thought we were fwb" yea coz all my friends just text me when they want to get theirs dicks wet...

Your better off without him!

Lol ive never even seen him out the bedroom before hes never suggested it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is conscious is clear aparently must be nice....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is conscious is clear aparently must be nice...."

Seek others and put him on a back burner. He needs to know he's merely a fuck option as opposed to an fwb - cos that is where you currently stand with him, no matter what he says.

Tell him no even if you're gagging for it. Use a wand instead. Put HIM in his place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is conscious is clear aparently must be nice....

Seek others and put him on a back burner. He needs to know he's merely a fuck option as opposed to an fwb - cos that is where you currently stand with him, no matter what he says.

Tell him no even if you're gagging for it. Use a wand instead. Put HIM in his place.

Yea i dont think hed be bothered lol well good luck to him trying to find meets pmsl

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Dont think its quite like that

Nobody should feel used after it and if they do its probably because theres only contact when he needs to get his dick wet"

Had first hand experience of this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dont think its quite like that

Nobody should feel used after it and if they do its probably because theres only contact when he needs to get his dick wet

Had first hand experience of this

Its shit

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Apparently i shouldnt be on fab coz i want a relationship.

Tell him I said he's a tosser lol!

Well, that's up to you to continue meet him or not with what he's ACTUALLY giving you. I would say he's just an fb and that's fine, they're useful people to know sometimes. But if you want an fwb - well then you need to go out and find yourself one, you can have both you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear you've had experiences like this, never been in a fwb situation myself (yet) but if anything I'd think the guy should try to be flexible to the woman, or at very least both be able to agree on meets - It's what I'd do.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

to me that’s not friends with benefits. That’s dating"

I think it is exactly that. What you are describing is an FB. FWB you are friends first and foremost. Sex is an extra but you do hangout and chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just been having a read of some of the other replies in here. Have to agree a fwb should be more than just someone who you hit up for a hook up every now and again and can see how and why it would easily lead in to something more.

Sadly I think most guys just see it as a way to keep getting their dicks wet and not an actual friendship with a sexual side. As a fwb to me would be someone I could happily hang out with socially, go to movies, meal, whatever and then if the mood strikes us have some sexy fun too! Not just message once a week or however often for a shag.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"What do women want from a FWB situation? I think males and females have different expectations.

If I get the feeling that the other person is becoming attached I have to cut it off immediately.

I find that guys are better at dealing with this. The women I’ve had this situation with have usually wanted things to become more eventually"

I think what you're describing here is a fuck buddy, literally someone for sex, nothing else.

A fwb to me is someone who is also a friend, that you talk to, hang out with etc, without all the complicated stuff, just friends that have sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just been having a read of some of the other replies in here. Have to agree a fwb should be more than just someone who you hit up for a hook up every now and again and can see how and why it would easily lead in to something more.

Exactly this but apparently he was honest with me....todays the first he said we were fwb news to me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guys you meet are obviously married.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The guys you meet are obviously married."

He reckons hes not

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Yes it can work. For me it did although the benefits bit fizzled out when we both had other options. We are now just best friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fwb to me is someone who is also a friend, that you talk to, hang out with etc, without all the complicated stuff, just friends that have sex."

This^^^

Been with my fwb for 5 years and this is how it works for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A fwb to me is someone who is also a friend, that you talk to, hang out with etc, without all the complicated stuff, just friends that have sex.

This^^^

Been with my fwb for 5 years and this is how it works for us. "

Well apparently fwb dnt need to hang out unless its for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fwb to me is someone who is also a friend, that you talk to, hang out with etc, without all the complicated stuff, just friends that have sex.

This^^^

Been with my fwb for 5 years and this is how it works for us.

Well apparently fwb dnt need to hang out unless its for sex"

Sounds like he wanted fb not fwb. The terms don't really matter as long as both people want the same things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear he's being an ass. It seems kinda obvious he doesn't want to be fwb as it sounds like it'd be too much "hassle" for him. You should make clear to him what you want and if he isn't for that maybe let him go as he does not seem worth your time.

If you are looking for friendship first and potentially more feel free to drop me a message

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A fwb to me is someone who is also a friend, that you talk to, hang out with etc, without all the complicated stuff, just friends that have sex.

This^^^

Been with my fwb for 5 years and this is how it works for us.

Well apparently fwb dnt need to hang out unless its for sex

Sounds like he wanted fb not fwb. The terms don't really matter as long as both people want the same things.

Just pisses me off coz he keeps say well i just wanted a fwb lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it."

It depends on who is involved really

And how people react to certain things and situations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fwb to me is someone who is also a friend, that you talk to, hang out with etc, without all the complicated stuff, just friends that have sex.

This^^^

Been with my fwb for 5 years and this is how it works for us.

Well apparently fwb dnt need to hang out unless its for sex"

Really!! then I would be calling him a fb. I've had some great days out, weekends away with my fwb. The friendship is just as important as the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fwb to me is someone who is also a friend, that you talk to, hang out with etc, without all the complicated stuff, just friends that have sex.

This^^^

Been with my fwb for 5 years and this is how it works for us.

Well apparently fwb dnt need to hang out unless its for sex

Sounds like he wanted fb not fwb. The terms don't really matter as long as both people want the same things.

Just pisses me off coz he keeps say well i just wanted a fwb lol

People will say anything when they're horny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A fwb to me is someone who is also a friend, that you talk to, hang out with etc, without all the complicated stuff, just friends that have sex.

This^^^

Been with my fwb for 5 years and this is how it works for us.

Well apparently fwb dnt need to hang out unless its for sex

Sounds like he wanted fb not fwb. The terms don't really matter as long as both people want the same things.

Just pisses me off coz he keeps say well i just wanted a fwb lol

People will say anything when they're horny."

Yup lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is conscious is clear aparently must be nice....

Seek others and put him on a back burner. He needs to know he's merely a fuck option as opposed to an fwb - cos that is where you currently stand with him, no matter what he says.

Tell him no even if you're gagging for it. Use a wand instead. Put HIM in his place.

Yea i dont think hed be bothered lol well good luck to him trying to find meets pmsl"

Mentally for you it will put you back in control. It's not about how he thinks and feels, it's about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is conscious is clear aparently must be nice....

Seek others and put him on a back burner. He needs to know he's merely a fuck option as opposed to an fwb - cos that is where you currently stand with him, no matter what he says.

Tell him no even if you're gagging for it. Use a wand instead. Put HIM in his place.

Yea i dont think hed be bothered lol well good luck to him trying to find meets pmsl

Mentally for you it will put you back in control. It's not about how he thinks and feels, it's about you."

I mean in control of what you want and how you feel about it.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it."

Was lucky enough to find a lovely lass on here who became a fwb. Unfortunately she has moved on from fab but we met once or twice a month and went to clubs or met other couples. It was fun while it lasted and we parted on good terms (hoping she will return one day

I woukd love to find someone elsw looking for the same but find it a bit difficult to meet someone genuinely looking for the same.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

Exacly!

There should be communication outside of organising a 'hook up'

My old fwb and I would got to cinema or out for drinks. We would spend a day or couole of days together and order takeaway amd watch a movie etc. We would text or message every couple of days just like normal friends.

Think you need to establish what you both want at the start so its clear if it is fwb's or a hook up.

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Wow. I don't think this man of yours meets the brief for either FB or FWB.

User perhaps.

Conclusion: jettison.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wow. I don't think this man of yours meets the brief for either FB or FWB.

User perhaps.

Conclusion: jettison. "

Haha could you maybes tell him that coz im apparently the crazy one lol

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"Wow. I don't think this man of yours meets the brief for either FB or FWB.

User perhaps.

Conclusion: jettison.

Haha could you maybes tell him that coz im apparently the crazy one lol"

You don't sound like you are buddies, you aren't enjoying the benefits nor any friendship.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

This is actually true and correct

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

This is actually true and correct

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wow. I don't think this man of yours meets the brief for either FB or FWB.

User perhaps.

Conclusion: jettison.

Haha could you maybes tell him that coz im apparently the crazy one lol

You don't sound like you are buddies, you aren't enjoying the benefits nor any friendship. "

Exactly lol but he still doesnt get it. Coz he was honest from the start.....todays the first time hes ever even said we were fwb...and if a lass is telling u they like u but ur not intetested would u still be saying well i really wana see u still but understand if you dont.....totally manipulated me lol

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"Wow. I don't think this man of yours meets the brief for either FB or FWB.

User perhaps.

Conclusion: jettison.

Haha could you maybes tell him that coz im apparently the crazy one lol

You don't sound like you are buddies, you aren't enjoying the benefits nor any friendship.

He knows you like him. He gets sex and doesn't have to give you anything more. Selfish but there you are.

If he doesn't give you what you want then move on, or relegate him to occasional shag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wow. I don't think this man of yours meets the brief for either FB or FWB.

User perhaps.

Conclusion: jettison.

Haha could you maybes tell him that coz im apparently the crazy one lol

You don't sound like you are buddies, you aren't enjoying the benefits nor any friendship.

He knows you like him. He gets sex and doesn't have to give you anything more. Selfish but there you are.

If he doesn't give you what you want then move on, or relegate him to occasional shag. "

Moving on just pisses me off he can say hes done nowt wrong and his conscious is clear....i hope his dick turns green and falls off and he never gets a meet off here again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion of FWB arrangements, is that if it needs formalising or a discussion of rules is required, then perhaps it’s more of a relationship than the 2 people care to admit. Or worse, one person might want more?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My opinion of FWB arrangements, is that if it needs formalising or a discussion of rules is required, then perhaps it’s more of a relationship than the 2 people care to admit. Or worse, one person might want more?

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Told him everyone agrees with me he should of ended it hes said go fuck ya selves and to the blokes says it to his face......charming bloke lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Told him everyone agrees with me he should of ended it hes said go fuck ya selves and to the blokes says it to his face......charming bloke lol"

What have you decided to do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Told him everyone agrees with me he should of ended it hes said go fuck ya selves and to the blokes says it to his face......charming bloke lol

What have you decided to do?"

After 2 days straight arguing and him still thinkings hes in the right i shall deffo never be seeing him ever again tosser...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it."

Have beem one for 3 years to a couple. Bascially...i am always respectful, patient, never possessive and never take the mickey. I have actually become great friends with lady and hubby and we often all play together. It takes time to develop but does build i to something very special.

It was not was i was looking for on here...but being a regular is so much better than one offs. We ha e even set up a 3some profile on here looking for moresomes.....long may it continue. Hope that helps.

Pm me.if you want any more detailxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it."

I always see it as having a expiration date. When feelings or jealousy gets involved, it's time to take a step back. Some can keep it going for years. I'm not sure how common that is though.

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over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it.

I always see it as having a expiration date. When feelings or jealousy gets involved, it's time to take a step back. Some can keep it going for years. I'm not sure how common that is though. "

Admittedly i was stupid and didnt take a step bk tho the few times i tried he would constantly text and get on my good side again...surely he shouldve ended it instead of using me then says its ok coz i agreed to have sex with him. What a tosser who treats ppl like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think i meet all the wrong guys lol claims hes too busy to answer a text yet i see him online on here on and off all day lol.

is he a fb or FWB

When ever we talk about it he just says he wants summat casual coz he doesnt have time for owt else"

Sounds like he’s telling the truth and that maybe you want more? If he doesn’t want more ham casual, not much you can do about it other than find someone who wants the same as you

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over a year ago

"Just wondering if fwb can ever actually work or is there rules or guidelines to follow its never worked out for me or anyone i know as guys always think differently about it.

I always see it as having a expiration date. When feelings or jealousy gets involved, it's time to take a step back. Some can keep it going for years. I'm not sure how common that is though.

I had one who tried constantly texting to get me back on side. I cut him dead and gave him no avenues to contact me. If your feelings have changed, you need to walk away to protect yourself. It seems that he wants it to stay the same. The only person you are hurting by continuing this, is yourself and you are worth more than that.

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By *upcake68Woman
over a year ago

Ely

My FWB & I are 4 years in & still going strong!

Everyone is different & expect different things from the "FWB" scenario, communication is key!

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