FabSwingers.com forum: Bi-Sexual or Bi-Playful ??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Help please distinguishing between the 2.

I just put the following post on another thread..

I wouldn't expect anything from anyone that I wasn't prepared to give myself Only had two experiences with females so far, so I don't class myself as experienced enough to class myself as Bi, but on both of these occasions I both gave and received...

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pussyneedsattention - don't confuse bisexual with bi-playful.

What is the difference?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The difference is subjective, it al depends on each persons interpretation of what constitutes sexual orientation.

This is the kind of thing that gets talked about on here more then the X-Factor. Only with the X-Factor you get a definitive result.

Be who you wanna be, do what you wanna do. don't get hung up on labels which describe it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree with _ensualfire88 why be labeled just be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the way i see it with me, is easy.

I love cock, i prefer cock and at this point in time i dont get enough cock so i'm always on the hunt for cock,

however....

there are times at parties / clubs / random meets, that i want to play with a woman, so i do

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By *ns2006Couple
over a year ago

milton keynes

Does it not come down to whether you could have (romantic) feelings for the other person?

Some of us can play with the same sex (i.e. Bi-playful) but not all of us could have "feelings" for them (i.e. Bi-sexual)

KnS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Help please distinguishing between the 2.

I just put the following post on another thread..

And got this comment....

pussyneedsattention - don't confuse bisexual with bi-playful.

What is the difference?

The difference is some people live and let live and others want to tell others what to do and think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...bisexual with bi-playful.

What is the difference? "

Bi-sexual = love it, want more of it

Bi-playful = enjoy it when the moment is right, but can live without it.

At least, that's how we read it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi-playful....enjoy the physical aspects only.

Bi-sexual....you can fall in love & have a meaningful, serious life-long relationship with either or male or female.

The thing that confused me was that you said you don't see yourself as Bi because you have only slept with 2 women. Numbers don't mean anything. You don't need experience to be Bisexual. Do you need experience to be hetro? Of course not.

You are either Bi, or your not, just as someone is straight or they're not.

But as others have said, does it really matter? As long as you & your partners (male or female) are happy & having fun, who cares about labels! Just be you & love life, everyone else is unimportant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so i wonder what i would fall into

i am bi but haven't played with a lady for over 10 years, iknow i will but i have to feel comfy

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

So now wondering if have the wrong option on my profile...

Enjoy bi play, but dont feel attraction like I do with women. Or put another way, its fun sex with men or women, but for life long company women are the desired ones.

Switched from bi-curious to bi-sexual to reflect having gone beyond curiosity...so do most use bi-curious to mean bi-playful around here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it not come down to whether you could have (romantic) feelings for the other person?

Some of us can play with the same sex (i.e. Bi-playful) but not all of us could have "feelings" for them (i.e. Bi-sexual)

KnS"

Blimey-swingers do like their labels don't they?

For me Bi-sexual is just that...we have sex with both genders

Everything else is just pedantic semantics...why get hung up on them?

Be yourself, those who matter don't mind and those who mind really don't matter...xx

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

I agree i am myself, as for my Bi side, some women i can go all the way with, other women i can soft play, and some women i wont play with at all. Im even more fussy with my women than i am with guys. Got to be a real click or in the right mood to play with women. And as i have said each women i will feel different to how far i can go. Im not a lable im just me. I prefer to put straight on our profile as other wise we get loads wanting to meet to do just girl on girl and thats deffo not for me. So if a couple contacts us and she is Bi and i like the look of her, i will go for it on the meet lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...bisexual with bi-playful.

What is the difference?

Bi-sexual = love it, want more of it

Bi-playful = enjoy it when the moment is right, but can live without it.

At least, that's how we read it "

I dont really like all these labels but if I had to define it that is how I would.. and I would fall into playful. Women alone really dont do much for me but in a situation that we can play with a man I love it.. now dont get me wrong, I love to play with a woman but the way they play back just makes me yawn.. Its just well not how I like it lol

So I only really like to play with girls unless the moment is right and its with Master.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to us its about the moment i enjoy playing with women on meets if it feels right. so in some peoples eyes im not bi in others i am. we both just love to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This label issue always riles me up. Its like go live in your box and stay there. For me its a case if you don't like it, I won't go there and if I don't like it I hope you respect me enough not to go there. I've got Bi-sexual as my "label", I'm probably more of a Bi-playful, I'm definitely way past the Bi-curious. And as for those who put, "Absolutely no Bi or Bi curious men" in their profiles. Is this some form of extreme homophobia or what? Well it does tell me that a certain element of mutual respect is missing......Live and let live I say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys I think I'll just enjoy playing with whoever it may be I'm playing with at the time & my only label will be I'm me

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Help please distinguishing between the 2.

I just put the following post on another thread..

And got this comment....

pussyneedsattention - don't confuse bisexual with bi-playful.

What is the difference?

i'm bisexual,i find men and women attractive, i cud have ended up in a relationship with a woman.

i have never heard bi playful but i suppose it suggests that you are are willing to have sex with a woman,but it is not your sexuality.

i see sexuality as a spectrum. Many women on here are willing to play with other women,but only in a swinging situation.

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By *ne-just4funMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"...bisexual with bi-playful.

What is the difference?

Bi-sexual = love it, want more of it

Bi-playful = enjoy it when the moment is right, but can live without it.

At least, that's how we read it "

Spot on! I describe myself as Bi-playful. I don't go looking for guys, but in a group i am happy if a guy also wants to play with me.

Or is that just a tart?

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

OMG thats it I am just a tart, happy now.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"This label issue always riles me up. Its like go live in your box and stay there. For me its a case if you don't like it, I won't go there and if I don't like it I hope you respect me enough not to go there. I've got Bi-sexual as my "label", I'm probably more of a Bi-playful, I'm definitely way past the Bi-curious. And as for those who put, "Absolutely no Bi or Bi curious men" in their profiles. Is this some form of extreme homophobia or what? Well it does tell me that a certain element of mutual respect is missing......Live and let live I say. "

and what about those of us who prefer to play with bisexual people?? i know lots of women who are very attracted to some of the games i play with some of my friends, but i also know others who are repelled by them...

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By *XXNikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Lancs, Cheshire

Well said, I could'nt of put it better myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have always just thought these are labels and people have their own opinion on what each means

I use bi playful as i will play in a bi scenario but with straight folk i can resist those yummy hard throbbing cocks from entering my mouth hehe

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

As someone who has fought for gay rights i find it odd that people say its just a label, i am proud of being bi,i wont have my sexuality dismissed as just a phase or aberration, i had enough of that as a teenager.

Yes its a label and one i wear with pride,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forget labels. Do what you want. Be honest and it whats for you will not pass you bi

Straight profiles who play Bi do bother us though,We do wonder if they pretend to the next straight profile that they are defo straight and don't play Bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is a label, as is straight, its how that is interpretted

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"it is a label, as is straight, its how that is interpretted"

no one beats straight ppl up for their sexual choices... i find the whole live an d let live brigade annoying ...let those of us who are bi have our label.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe we need a bisexuality option based on the likert scale..

Q. Bi-sex. Is it for you?

A. Never ever

B. Unsure

C. Depends If the mood suits

D. Yes please, I'm happy to go with the flow

E. Bi only, and i want it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it is a label, as is straight, its how that is interpretted

no one beats straight ppl up for their sexual choices... i find the whole live an d let live brigade annoying ...let those of us who are bi have our label."

By all means have your label but don't presume to label me...it's a false construct designed to shove us all in little boxes in order to allow unimaginative people to make sense of things they don't really understand

I'm an individual and I refuse to be clumped in with anyone else for the convenience of others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it is a label, as is straight, its how that is interpretted

no one beats straight ppl up for their sexual choices... i find the whole live an d let live brigade annoying ...let those of us who are bi have our label.

I'm an individual and I refuse to be clumped in with anyone else for the convenience of others"

I agree we are all individuals but there are these labels that people like to use, not saying they are wrong or right, just that they are labels. Often not describing the contents properly hehe

I am an individual myself, hope so, not sure the world is ready for two of me! hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friday & had a few pints.. If you always eat vegetarian dishes you're a vegetarian. If you happen to eat a vegetarian (dish lol) when you normally don't, it doesn't make you a vegetarian?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a very interesting thing the bi question, for some it evokes very big feelings like being gay and proud, for others it's a bit throw away that they play when swinging only and only occasionally.

A very wide spectrum and from my experience of meeting bi straight gay tv/TS singles and couples, have found that everyone has different ideas and prejudices towards others and some none at all.

I just wish everyone on here would chill out and just let people do what they want and between consulting adults then anything and everything will take place, if you don't want to do it don't and if you do do xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I hate labells, I am bi. So use the Bi label. The word Curious for me is clear, they are curious and haven't tried it.

On this sort of site I do not think Bi sexual means looking for either sex as a life partner as this site is not about finding a life partner (yes it happens and I dont personally think that's a bad thing, it's about connections)

But 'bi playful' is new to me. Just because I am bi, doesnt mean I need both all the time, but that I like both. Personally the label bi curious or playful doesn't really tell me they are bi, and as I said on the other post I like my sexual partners to know what they like - want, so both labels do not appeal to me.

I guess thats why profile text is so important, it allows us to expand on 'labels' and give some understanding to what we are looking for.

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By *enaughty2Couple
over a year ago

colchester

Does it really matter, surley its about how you and the person your playing with want and feel. It should be about enjoyment, not having a label attached!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I joined this site a couple of years ago, I put bi-curious on my profile.

I investigated this curiosity, and realised that although I find some women very sexy, going further than making out with them did nothing for me, personally.

I did however get a kick out of seeing how turned on my (then) fb was about it, so derived some pleasure.

However, I got contacted by so many couples wanting to 'give the wife a treat' that I changed my profile to straight.

Plus, I had satisfied MY curiosity!

But its clear from my verifications that I have played with women if anyone bothers to read them!

So IMHO its all very subjective and communication is the way forward- ie. communicate between you and potential playmates what your personal boundaries are xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whilst I hate labells, I am bi. So use the Bi label. The word Curious for me is clear, they are curious and haven't tried it.

I guess thats why profile text is so important, it allows us to expand on 'labels' and give some understanding to what we are looking for. "

I am inclined to agree that bi curious taken literally would mean they are purely curious about the bi side of things, but then for me, despite having had bi fun i am still curious about other things.

For me Bi playful is how i describe myself and i have said it before and will again, i think it would be a great additional category.

But then like with so much other stuff, my thoughts on what bi playful is to me is going to be different to what it means to another!

But hey, if you want to know what it means to me etc...... then just come and ask!

Never know where it may lead hehe

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Not really keen on giving myself a label as I'm just me. But if I had to would describe myself as Bi-Playful.

I could never see myself in a relationship with another woman but I love playing with sexy ladies with or without men present.

I am attracted to women sexually and phyiscally but I often find it hard to get that spark with women.

Have come across alot of ladies who only seem to do it, to please the guys and not because they enjoy it.

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By *XXJAYMan
over a year ago

Warrington

"it is a label, as is straight, its how that is interpretted

no one beats straight ppl up for their sexual choices... i find the whole live an d let live brigade annoying ...let those of us who are bi have our label.

I'm an individual and I refuse to be clumped in with anyone else for the convenience of others"

Well said, and a shame so many people are so ignorant about the subject

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

"Bi-playful....enjoy the physical aspects only.

Bi-sexual....you can fall in love & have a meaningful, serious life-long relationship with either or male or female.

You are either Bi, or your not, just as someone is straight or they're not.

But as others have said, does it really matter? As long as you & your partners (male or female) are happy & having fun, who cares about labels! Just be you & love life, everyone else is unimportant

I agree completely this is what always comes to me when most profiles say bi-sexual when they would never dream of been with a women out in the open as aposed to having some sexy fun in the play rooms

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

For the purposes of swinging we always read it the way. bisexual to us means they are happy to have a meet based on same gender sex.

bi curious/playful they will play with the same gender during a meeting but this is not their main interest and would go away disappointed from just playing with the girl of the couple.

In our senario when we meet Beth has little interest in fucking guys. So we tend to look for bisexual ladies as its girl on girl sec she is looking for. We tend to think some one who is bi curious would find us very frustrating to meet.

But as others have said everything is open to interpretation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it we need labels to identify potential playmates. All this over analysis is unnecessary as we're not talking life partners here.

I was looking for straight, tall, white, single, sub men. If I'd put simply "men" I'd have been inundated. Likewise I'm a size 22, 51 and black. If I don't label myself bbw say I'd be wasting the time of someone not looking for my body type.

The thing is it's all subjective, however it gives you a frame of reference. A short, black, married, Dom looking for a petite bi blonde wouldn't contact me.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Bi-playful....enjoy the physical aspects only.

Bi-sexual....you can fall in love & have a meaningful, serious life-long relationship with either or male or female.

I wouldn't agree with that. I'm bisexual. I enjoy the physical side of it and I like women. However, I'd never have a one to one relationship with a woman. I have one to one meets but I wouldn't want to set up home with a girl. Does that mean I'm not bisexual?

It's all subjective really... we all have parts of sexuality that fit us, some bits fit some people better than others. I don't feel the need to label myself so specifically. I tick the box that's closest to what I feel suit me best but my _iews are always changing. Some days I don't feel the urge to have sex with a woman. Other days I can't think of anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Help please distinguishing between the 2.

I just put the following post on another thread..

And got this comment....

pussyneedsattention - don't confuse bisexual with bi-playful.

What is the difference?

i would say im more bi playful than bi sexual

I dont really get turned on by women and i would never do 1 on 1 or meet a couple etc, however if im at a club or party and in a group situation and really turned on i will play with women if it feels right and everyones joining in together

I think thats the difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree withy the post above this one.

I don't actively seek women but in clubs or meets if it happens it does and I enjoy it. Si I would say i'm bi-friendly not bi xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the condundrum is not one of the label methinks. I declare bi-curious as I wish to retain the choice of whether the person is attractive to me or not. If you say bi-sexual there can be an assumption that you WILL play no matter what.

Just my penneth worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally I would just say that I am sexually adventurous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the condundrum is not one of the label methinks. I declare bi-curious as I wish to retain the choice of whether the person is attractive to me or not. If you say bi-sexual there can be an assumption that you WILL play no matter what.

Just my penneth worth."

I have to say, that is one of the most frustrating things about being openly Bisexual. People ASSUME that you will sleep with anyone & everyone just because you're Bisexual. It's like saying that every hetero woman will never turn down a guy because she's straight. It's ridiculous thinking.

Another is that people assume you can't be monogamous or faithful to one person.

I will NOT sleep with anyone & everyone & if Tod turned round & said he doesn't want to play with others again & just be the two of us, I could easily do that.

Bisexual does not equal nymphomaniac, no standards or easy lay. Just because someone is bisexual it does NOT mean they're going to jump into bed with you.

Reading a lot of posts & seeing that people such as Be Nice don't feel they can say they're Bisexual due to other peoples ignorance, as well as responses I have had face to face, it's obvious there is still an misunderstanding & presumptions surrounding Bisexuality.

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By *orkduoCouple
over a year ago

york

deffo bi sexual but have met cpls where the lass is bi playfull to full fill her blokes fantasy,its ok but if they state on there profile that they are bi sexual n not bi curious its a bit frustrating but hey ho !!x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The mixed _iews on this have ben really interesting.

I've decided to stick with I'll play with whatever or whoever I fancy at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mouse is buy anything as long as I pay for it

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"The way I see it we need labels to identify potential playmates. All this over analysis is unnecessary as we're not talking life partners here.

The thing is it's all subjective, however it gives you a frame of reference. A short, black, married, Dom looking for a petite bi blonde wouldn't contact me.

Reading this thread from the top, I was wondering how so many people were anti-label but ALL have labels of some kind on the profile!

The post I have quoted, by Sassy sums it up for me too. Those "politically Correct" amongst us who detest labels, should climb down of their lofty perches and join the real world. I'll bet everyone of you are labelled in vanillasville and bet you don't gripe like kids at that!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

What is the difference?

Same as 2threes or half a dozen.

bi.... Bi.... bi bi bi

The more you say it, it easier it becomes

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