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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Was reading an out of date magazine article in the doctors surgery today regarding dominatrix and men paying women to beat the shit out of them.

One lady was paid £300,000 a year to do this.

I'm half tempted myself

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated!

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By *otwife and Him 69Couple
over a year ago

Preston

There’s definitely a niche

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated! "

It would be one of my biggest turn offs.

I'd guess that most men wouldn't, a small percentage obviously do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The amount of men asking me I think your right!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated!

It would be one of my biggest turn offs.

I'd guess that most men wouldn't, a small percentage obviously do."

How come? Just curious x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the messages Natalie gets are not for the faint hearted

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands


"Was reading an out of date magazine article in the doctors surgery today regarding dominatrix and men paying women to beat the shit out of them.

One lady was paid £300,000 a year to do this.

I'm half tempted myself

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated! "

In the right setting it can be hot

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England


"Was reading an out of date magazine article in the doctors surgery today regarding dominatrix and men paying women to beat the shit out of them.

One lady was paid £300,000 a year to do this.

I'm half tempted myself

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated! "

For me it would be hard to be someone who can stomach inflicting that level of pain on someone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Was reading an out of date magazine article in the doctors surgery today regarding dominatrix and men paying women to beat the shit out of them.

One lady was paid £300,000 a year to do this.

I'm half tempted myself

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated!

For me it would be hard to be someone who can stomach inflicting that level of pain on someone "

Even if they were getting paid to do it by willing men?

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated!

It would be one of my biggest turn offs.

I'd guess that most men wouldn't, a small percentage obviously do.

How come? Just curious x"

For me personally, It's a combination of things. Sexually I like a woman to want/desire me so someone who tried humiliation would kill the moment. Also I've worked really hard to drag myself up to a certain level in life and I've probably picked up a bit too much hard nosed pride to be dragged back down (even in a role play scenario).

For a lot of guys (myself probably included) it's old school male ego/machismo. What drives us to be competitive and be the best makes giving in and being submissive on a no-go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was reading an out of date magazine article in the doctors surgery today regarding dominatrix and men paying women to beat the shit out of them.

One lady was paid £300,000 a year to do this.

I'm half tempted myself

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated! "

Think the fact they are paying for it adds to the thrill they get out of it

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England


"Was reading an out of date magazine article in the doctors surgery today regarding dominatrix and men paying women to beat the shit out of them.

One lady was paid £300,000 a year to do this.

I'm half tempted myself

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated!

For me it would be hard to be someone who can stomach inflicting that level of pain on someone

Even if they were getting paid to do it by willing men?"

Yes even then ..I think you must have to have it in you to be able to cause pain without feeling bad for it.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Was reading an out of date magazine article in the doctors surgery today regarding dominatrix and men paying women to beat the shit out of them.

One lady was paid £300,000 a year to do this.

I'm half tempted myself

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated!

For me it would be hard to be someone who can stomach inflicting that level of pain on someone

Even if they were getting paid to do it by willing men?

Yes even then ..I think you must have to have it in you to be able to cause pain without feeling bad for it. "

Equally, if you haven’t been there do you understand it?

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England


"Was reading an out of date magazine article in the doctors surgery today regarding dominatrix and men paying women to beat the shit out of them.

One lady was paid £300,000 a year to do this.

I'm half tempted myself

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated!

For me it would be hard to be someone who can stomach inflicting that level of pain on someone

Even if they were getting paid to do it by willing men?

Yes even then ..I think you must have to have it in you to be able to cause pain without feeling bad for it.

Equally, if you haven’t been there do you understand it?"

Nope.. I just know how squeamish I am so can't contemplate it myself

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Was reading an out of date magazine article in the doctors surgery today regarding dominatrix and men paying women to beat the shit out of them.

One lady was paid £300,000 a year to do this.

I'm half tempted myself

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated!

For me it would be hard to be someone who can stomach inflicting that level of pain on someone

Even if they were getting paid to do it by willing men?

Yes even then ..I think you must have to have it in you to be able to cause pain without feeling bad for it.

Equally, if you haven’t been there do you understand it?

Nope.. I just know how squeamish I am so can't contemplate it myself "

Thank you.

Suspect you might have thought about it though.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The art of domination and submission takes on many forms and is as unique to two individuals as any other sexuality.

It's not all about humiliation or whips and chains or even pain either, but in its most basic form it is about giving up/taking control - for some that's a role reversal from their every day lives, for others it's a natural instinct and there are many other reasons besides including just "playing kinky" for added spice.

The act of paying for it is no different from paying for any other kind of sexual service, but guess it may come at a more premium price as it's a bit more specialised than just vanilla sex. It doesn't surprise me that some Dominatrices can earn the kind of money the OP mentions though - just the same as it wouldn't surprise me to find a high class prostitute on similar figures.

I personally wouldn't pay for it, or any other sexual service, for the same reason I wouldn't play with anyone I didn't feel a connection and chemistry with, it just wouldn't be satisfying to me.

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Ive paid a Pro Domme who does it full time for a session. It was worth it for me to get what I needed and she earns every penny

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By *rongstantineWoman
over a year ago

hull


"Was reading an out of date magazine article in the doctors surgery today regarding dominatrix and men paying women to beat the shit out of them.

One lady was paid £300,000 a year to do this.

I'm half tempted myself

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated! "

Impact play is a completely different subject from humiliation and degradation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When 18 I worked for Cruella, great money both on film and private and plenty of guys will pay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the start of my journey into kink I went to a fetish night at Hellfire. A tall elderly man slightly, slightly balding, was standing in a frame with with his arms outstretched tied at the wrists and his legs slightly apart shackled at the ankles. He was naked. His female partner, only a little younger than him was dressed and lightly swatted him with a flogger. Not far from them a slim short haired blonde woman in a corset was bent over a bench. She was naked from the waist and her naked arse was being seriously belted. Somewhere in my brain I could connect to the treatment of the woman, it sickened and fascinated me. But the treatment of the man did not compute. His partner was not even belting hell out of him! My female companion explained it's the humiliation of not being in control and of being naked in public which is the turn on. In that case the man had a sympathetic partner.

I really believe that kink is about revealing and living that bit inside us that we cannot in vanilla society. Sometimes we are lucky to meet someone with which the masks can come off and we can be who are inside without judgment and with desire and away from the dictats of society.

But if you have desires that can't be catered by Amazon then payment tends to be the only way. But satiafying them would still require, I would suggest, like all things D/S a meeting of minds. If the sub wants to provide maid service beating them is no good. It is also a question of what style the domme likes to take.

To return to OP, yes there are men that will pay for a niche service even a corrective service but you will still need to know how to read the sub. Whether you are dom/me or sub, you have a film or a feeling of the unspoken fantasy that brings satisfaction and in the case of a sub unless the domme (or dom) gets it right this leads to intense disappointment. Therefore the good domme understands this and takes on people whose fantasies match their skills and interests.

It is more than beating the sh#t out of people, it is helping them be themselves and giving them what they need to get through vanilla life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On the start of my journey into kink I went to a fetish night at Hellfire. A tall elderly man slightly, slightly balding, was standing in a frame with with his arms outstretched tied at the wrists and his legs slightly apart shackled at the ankles. He was naked. His female partner, only a little younger than him was dressed and lightly swatted him with a flogger. Not far from them a slim short haired blonde woman in a corset was bent over a bench. She was naked from the waist and her naked arse was being seriously belted. Somewhere in my brain I could connect to the treatment of the woman, it sickened and fascinated me. But the treatment of the man did not compute. His partner was not even belting hell out of him! My female companion explained it's the humiliation of not being in control and of being naked in public which is the turn on. In that case the man had a sympathetic partner.

I really believe that kink is about revealing and living that bit inside us that we cannot in vanilla society. Sometimes we are lucky to meet someone with which the masks can come off and we can be who are inside without judgment and with desire and away from the dictats of society.

But if you have desires that can't be catered by Amazon then payment tends to be the only way. But satiafying them would still require, I would suggest, like all things D/S a meeting of minds. If the sub wants to provide maid service beating them is no good. It is also a question of what style the domme likes to take.

To return to OP, yes there are men that will pay for a niche service even a corrective service but you will still need to know how to read the sub. Whether you are dom/me or sub, you have a film or a feeling of the unspoken fantasy that brings satisfaction and in the case of a sub unless the domme (or dom) gets it right this leads to intense disappointment. Therefore the good domme understands this and takes on people whose fantasies match their skills and interests.

It is more than beating the sh#t out of people, it is helping them be themselves and giving them what they need to get through vanilla life."

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By *mallcock43Man
over a year ago

blackpool

It’s a massive turn on for me and I don’t know why, maybe am a bit odd

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"On the start of my journey into kink I went to a fetish night at Hellfire. A tall elderly man slightly, slightly balding, was standing in a frame with with his arms outstretched tied at the wrists and his legs slightly apart shackled at the ankles. He was naked. His female partner, only a little younger than him was dressed and lightly swatted him with a flogger. Not far from them a slim short haired blonde woman in a corset was bent over a bench. She was naked from the waist and her naked arse was being seriously belted. Somewhere in my brain I could connect to the treatment of the woman, it sickened and fascinated me. But the treatment of the man did not compute. His partner was not even belting hell out of him! My female companion explained it's the humiliation of not being in control and of being naked in public which is the turn on. In that case the man had a sympathetic partner.

I really believe that kink is about revealing and living that bit inside us that we cannot in vanilla society. Sometimes we are lucky to meet someone with which the masks can come off and we can be who are inside without judgment and with desire and away from the dictats of society.

But if you have desires that can't be catered by Amazon then payment tends to be the only way. But satiafying them would still require, I would suggest, like all things D/S a meeting of minds. If the sub wants to provide maid service beating them is no good. It is also a question of what style the domme likes to take.

To return to OP, yes there are men that will pay for a niche service even a corrective service but you will still need to know how to read the sub. Whether you are dom/me or sub, you have a film or a feeling of the unspoken fantasy that brings satisfaction and in the case of a sub unless the domme (or dom) gets it right this leads to intense disappointment. Therefore the good domme understands this and takes on people whose fantasies match their skills and interests.

It is more than beating the sh#t out of people, it is helping them be themselves and giving them what they need to get through vanilla life."

How elegantly expressed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was reading an out of date magazine article in the doctors surgery today regarding dominatrix and men paying women to beat the shit out of them.

One lady was paid £300,000 a year to do this.

I'm half tempted myself

But on a serious note do men like being humiliated! "
yes

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By *xoticloverMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"On the start of my journey into kink I went to a fetish night at Hellfire. A tall elderly man slightly, slightly balding, was standing in a frame with with his arms outstretched tied at the wrists and his legs slightly apart shackled at the ankles. He was naked. His female partner, only a little younger than him was dressed and lightly swatted him with a flogger. Not far from them a slim short haired blonde woman in a corset was bent over a bench. She was naked from the waist and her naked arse was being seriously belted. Somewhere in my brain I could connect to the treatment of the woman, it sickened and fascinated me. But the treatment of the man did not compute. His partner was not even belting hell out of him! My female companion explained it's the humiliation of not being in control and of being naked in public which is the turn on. In that case the man had a sympathetic partner.

I really believe that kink is about revealing and living that bit inside us that we cannot in vanilla society. Sometimes we are lucky to meet someone with which the masks can come off and we can be who are inside without judgment and with desire and away from the dictats of society.

But if you have desires that can't be catered by Amazon then payment tends to be the only way. But satiafying them would still require, I would suggest, like all things D/S a meeting of minds. If the sub wants to provide maid service beating them is no good. It is also a question of what style the domme likes to take.

To return to OP, yes there are men that will pay for a niche service even a corrective service but you will still need to know how to read the sub. Whether you are dom/me or sub, you have a film or a feeling of the unspoken fantasy that brings satisfaction and in the case of a sub unless the domme (or dom) gets it right this leads to intense disappointment. Therefore the good domme understands this and takes on people whose fantasies match their skills and interests.

It is more than beating the sh#t out of people, it is helping them be themselves and giving them what they need to get through vanilla life."

Well said..it’s like any other profession not every dominatrix can be as successful.

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By *ylonSlutTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

I never thought I would like at all. But a lady who I had a served suddenly verbally humiliated me. Turned me on like nothing before. Now I crave humiliation .

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

I ve been doing bdsm a v long time now im fully into the fetish scene . im 100% submissive and a real pain freak .I can take the cane ,paddle ,tawse ,strap ,crop,whip no problem at all .i get such a huge buzz from it .I recently had the birch used on me .I don't pay for any of my bdsm sessions these days . I'm v much an edge player looking for new ways and means to be tormented .

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

I wouldn't just let anyone loose on me . there's a big difference having someone beat the shit out of you and bdsm .its not a fast track thing either . it takes time to learn the art correctly .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me personally but I know there are lots of guys out there that would! Anyone watch kinky Britain last night? Pretty odd stuff lol

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