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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wife has asked me to ask why men don't put as many pic's on there profile as women do in couples profiles.

Before you rag me I know i'm guilty as well lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wife has asked me to ask why men don't put as many pic's on there profile as women do in couples profiles.

Before you rag me I know i'm guilty as well lol

Might be that men don't actually have any pictures of themselves because they won't relinquish control of the camera...

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By *ettuceslugCouple
over a year ago

Driffield

Or is it because men aren't as exciting as ladies and they've often only got one pair of boxers and not a black basque, white lacy undies, sexy hold ups etc etc.

Also a pic of a man flashing his nipples in the local high street isn't as much fun as a lady doing the same?

Only joking of course, we agree that there should be a balance between pics of men and ladies after all it is a kind of 'here are our pics, do you like us' thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also a pic of a man flashing his nipples in the local high street isn't as much fun as a lady doing the same?"

In one cruel post, you've destroyed the months of planning that went into our next photo shoot idea!

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By *amescoupleCouple
over a year ago

north walsham

Though you said it tongue in cheek, the whole lingerie etc point was pretty valid for us.

Whilst mrs-games owns more lingerie than an anne summers store and loves to wear it. Meaning lots of photos in and outdoors.

Mr-games is pretty much confined to heres my butt, heres my cock, heres me, rinse and repeat in boxers or fully clothed.

Just our thoughts lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I agree that there should be face pics of the two of you available for prospective meets, I do not agree that anyone should feel obliged to post public pictures just to satisfy peoples curiosity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's simple!

Women just look better naked or in nice lingerie than men do!!!

End of

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By *ewportguyMan
over a year ago

Newport, NP20

Just out of curiosity, what would the ladies on here prefer to see in a photograph of a guy then? Naked or clothed? Mankini? lol

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

From what I've read been told...

Tasteful bottom/thigh shots.

Photos showing your home has more than one room.

A sense of humour if possible in a photo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back to the OP, I agree with, its a little strange, especially for bi-couples. I mean if a bi-couple is explicitly looking for a bi-male to join them, then surely (dont call me that!) said potential bi-male would like to look at both toys (erm I mean potential playmate). Isnt that just logical

And yes, you could say, well, they may get a pic in private, but how will they "encourage" said bi-guy to message them inthe first place (What do you mean single guys don't need encouragement to message!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Back to the OP, I agree with, its a little strange, especially for bi-couples. I mean if a bi-couple is explicitly looking for a bi-male to join them, then surely (dont call me that!) said potential bi-male would like to look at both toys (erm I mean potential playmate). Isnt that just logical

Yes I can see your point but what if the guy in a couple wishes to remain anonymous to the masses during a random search because of his profession it wouldn't be sensible to do so and what if he doesn't wish to take photographs of his arse - is a bi guy or couple wanting a few hours of fun really worth that - I think not. People have choices ti suit themselves. People either accept it or they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i was looking for couple( yes i am btw)

but i would want to see both parties photos not just the ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree about choice, disagree with the rationale (sorry), I dont know of a person I have swung with, that would be "happy" at the thought of their work colleagues finding out about their lifestyle, but the communities down this way are very small (in some respects

It also implies that the woman's career or reputation is not that important (again, not digging, just you know, comments on an open forum) couple this with the fact that many work colleagues socialise (and therefore people would know the guys wife anyway and well.... moot point)

Taking a pic of your cock or arse isnt really that difficult (ask the thousands of single guys!

) and is hardly likely to expose you to the masses unless you work in porn and then well..... or you are a politician, in which case fair enough

I get the privacy thing, I get the choice aspect, as I say, what I don't get is that if you are advertising yourselves as a bi-couple, why the pictures don't reflect the interest of people you are hoping to meet

All in good faith, don't hate me, I am just the devils advocate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the "single" men are married so the face pic will be stashed away in their private pics lol

How many women would take random rude shots of men? Theres more men offering services to take pics of the ladies but not the other way round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would love to take photos for someone

as i like to mess about with photos and props

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the "single" men are married so the face pic will be stashed away in their private pics lol

How many women would take random rude shots of men? Theres more men offering services to take pics of the ladies but not the other way round."

I would love to know where you pulled the statistic "Most single men are married" from.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the "single" men are married so the face pic will be stashed away in their private pics lol

How many women would take random rude shots of men? Theres more men offering services to take pics of the ladies but not the other way round.

I would love to know where you pulled the statistic "Most single men are married" from.....

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just assumptions x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the "single" men are married so the face pic will be stashed away in their private pics lol

How many women would take random rude shots of men? Theres more men offering services to take pics of the ladies but not the other way round.

I would love to know where you pulled the statistic "Most single men are married" from.....

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just assumptions x"

The problem is that comments like this tarnish every single bloke, that is actually single, with the same brush as the minority (see what I did there, I made a fact up) of married men.

And when I say minority, I base this simply on human behaviour, statistically, people that cheat on their parters are less in percentage than people that dont. Anecdotally, people that do cheat are more likely to do so with people they already know, due to a social activity (for example, drinking) that gets out of control.

People that join swinger sites are looking specifically for something, (lol, for an analogy its the difference between manslaughhter and murder, one is premeditated and one is not)

Therefore, "most" of the single men on FAB are premeditated cheaters...... really? Manslaughter is far more common than murder, cheating with someone you actually know, by "accident" (for a given value), is far more likely than actively looking to cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the "single" men are married so the face pic will be stashed away in their private pics lol

How many women would take random rude shots of men? Theres more men offering services to take pics of the ladies but not the other way round.

I would love to know where you pulled the statistic "Most single men are married" from.....

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just assumptions x"

Most of the so called single men that have contacted us on here and other sites we are on have confessed to being married or have a partner and that is the reason they don't or wont show face pics.

Not blowing smoke up anyones arse, just speaking from years and years of experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YET there is people who are single and not married or attached

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By *carletRomanceCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

"Or is it because men aren't as exciting as ladies and they've often only got one pair of boxers and not a black basque, white lacy undies, sexy hold ups etc etc."

I think there’s actually a really good point there.

Sexualised imagery of women is more common in the media, yes there’s also increasingly sexualised imagery of men, but you’re more likely to see a beautiful, sexual woman on the side of a bus, billboard, bus stop etc… It’s easier to imagine, visualise and create such images ourselves due to how saturated we are with them.

I think it can be harder for guys because they’re not sure how to portray themselves as sexy on camera. I’m not saying all women automatically know how, but there’s more there to reference.

I’ve recently started shooting images of men and couples along with women and have found I had to do a LOT of research (anyone looking at my history would get the wrong idea) in order to figure out how to do it well.

Doesn’t actually explain why couples profiles are dominated by girlie shots. For us it’s because I’m the one with the camera (which is about, if not more, precious to me than my goods).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the "single" men are married so the face pic will be stashed away in their private pics lol

How many women would take random rude shots of men? Theres more men offering services to take pics of the ladies but not the other way round.

I would love to know where you pulled the statistic "Most single men are married" from.....

sigh

just assumptions x

Most of the so called single men that have contacted us on here and other sites we are on have confessed to being married or have a partner and that is the reason they don't or wont show face pics.

Not blowing smoke up anyones arse, just speaking from years and years of experience."

SO, based on this statement YOUR experience is that MOST single men are actually married from YEARs of experience, nothing changes, things stay the same?

Ok, I confess, I cannot and will not question YOUR experience, but presenting it as a fact, meh, sorry.

The damage is done for new swingers, who will first peruse the forum, and then think, "Well it seems MOST of the single guys are liars", sweeping genralisations and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the "single" men are married so the face pic will be stashed away in their private pics lol

How many women would take random rude shots of men? Theres more men offering services to take pics of the ladies but not the other way round.

I would love to know where you pulled the statistic "Most single men are married" from.....

sigh

just assumptions x

Most of the so called single men that have contacted us on here and other sites we are on have confessed to being married or have a partner and that is the reason they don't or wont show face pics.

Not blowing smoke up anyones arse, just speaking from years and years of experience.

SO, based on this statement YOUR experience is that MOST single men are actually married from YEARs of experience, nothing changes, things stay the same?

Ok, I confess, I cannot and will not question YOUR experience, but presenting it as a fact, meh, sorry.

The damage is done for new swingers, who will first peruse the forum, and then think, "Well it seems MOST of the single guys are liars", sweeping genralisations and all that. "

Sorry! you must be right, you have got 6 cock pictures on your profile. Oh! and no face pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wife has asked me to ask why men don't put as many pic's on there profile as women do in couples profiles.

Before you rag me I know i'm guilty as well lol

We've grown used to receiving messages from couples where we're left to guess what the male's physique might be like. Even one headless body shot would be very helpful - face shots can come later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could u stop taking it out on the above please its petty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry! you must be right, you have got 6 cock pictures on your profile. Oh! and no face pic."

Firstly, I am not saying I am right or wrong, I was asking a question in an open forum

Secondly, at no point have i said that bi-men should show face pics on their "open" profile. In fact it was your post that mentioned face pics

Thirdly - Some people treat EVERY thread on the forums as a chance to rag against single men

Because we have moved away from the Original Point of the thread (and I take part responsibility for that), I will desist from commenting further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think a womans body is more beautifully configured, ie curves, smoothness and shapely lines.

Think a woman can be appreciated by both women and men and not just in a sexual context.

Sometimes it's just nice to appreciate the beauty of a photograph, and not the stereotypes of what shape and size constitutes a perfect woman.

Sorry lost myself towards end of that but I kind of know what I mean lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im pic daft....ok am just daft lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you have got 6 cock pictures on your profile."

But it is a very photogenic cock, so that's fair enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry! you must be right, you have got 6 cock pictures on your profile. Oh! and no face pic.

Firstly, I am not saying I am right or wrong, I was asking a question in an open forum

Secondly, at no point have i said that bi-men should show face pics on their "open" profile. In fact it was your post that mentioned face pics

Thirdly - Some people treat EVERY thread on the forums as a chance to rag against single men

Because we have moved away from the Original Point of the thread (and I take part responsibility for that), I will desist from commenting further

Never mentioned Bi men (something you need tell anyone?)

I answered the original post, you jumped down my throat for voicing an opinion that is valid from our own experiences.

Do people question other peoples fidelity in swingers clubs or dogging or any circumstances that involves a sexual lifestyle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im pic daft....ok am just daft lol"

^^^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wife has asked me to ask why men don't put as many pic's on there profile as women do in couples profiles.

Before you rag me I know i'm guilty as well lol

probably for the same reason as you

As the mrs why you have more pics or her than you and theres your answer lol

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

The majority of users are men. Men aren't really overtly interested in looking at Men. Though you will find they do because they like to compare by physical attributes their virility.

Sadly this doesn't compensate or compare to quality of function or capability.

A very high percentage of single male profiles are in fact married. Some are open about this 'I'm married don't tell my wife I'm here', hence deceiving only their wife, and others are just deceiving you, their wives and themselves.

There are a lot of single men, however they fear being 'identified' by someone for whatever reasons.

Men typically only put ip penis pics anyway cause that's the aspect of their mindset they feel is the most desirable. Again refer to my comments about comparing -v- function.

Men like to look at women, this is why many men create female profiles.

Pauly90 is a perfect example - pics of ass and penis. 20,000 profiles later still seeing asses and penis!

Yet women complain they want to see the face of the person who wants to have sex with them because they 'need to be attracted' and men always complain they need to see the face 'cause they don't want to meet a minger' (whatever that means)

It is funny that people who complain about something are usually the most significant guilty of the complaint themselves.

I don't need to see pics usually. Couples I've engaged have all been very nice and a lot of fun. Those focused on pics, rarely anything happens.

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