FabSwingers.com forum: "making do"

By *r and Mrs B xx OP Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham

What's your thoughts on single guys that only have seeking women on their profile but message couples proposing to meet. When you point this out, they say "that's OK, I'm keen to try a couple" that's fair enough. Then you ask if they are comfortable with close male contact as hubby always joins in. They scream like a girl!!! ( Sorry all girls.. lol) and you never hear back.

Are they just "making do" with a couple, hoping the husband will just watch. Because they can't find a fem?

Thoughts please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was with a woman and we had a couples profile on here I felt exactly the same. It was almost a bit like they were trying to take advantage and just fuck my woman, as if I was pimping her out. It made me quite annoyed to say the least, and we quickly found a radar for it and blocked pretty quickly after that.

It's sad because there are so many guys who genuinely want to meet a couple and they get a bad rep because of others.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I would NEVER see it as "making do". Have enjoyed threesomes over the years. Would love another one, like being involved with BOTH partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get this a fair bit. It's as though the male of the couple is just embuggerance to getting a leg over.

They make me laugh, they start off the conversation talking about to both of us but then rather quickly just go onto talking to me (Mrs) and trying to ignore him!

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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If they don't have mf as an option on their preferences we won't entertain them.

Also, reading their blurb (if they even have one) is a good way of identifying if they are right for a couple.

We prefer to meet singles who are genuinely looking for couples, not those who are settling for a plan B or C just to get laid.

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

Why chat to them if they aren't seeking couples?

Waste of your time really - I'm sure there are hundreds of men who are and have played with couples

Maybe chat to those and forget the rest?

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham

Yes you are right, but I usually reply to guys that take time to send a decent message. It's usually a "sorry but you're not for us as you aren't looking for couples" they then come back with, I would like to try.... Conversation then goes as discribed.

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham

I will be deleting messages instead of a polite reply in future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's your thoughts on single guys that only have seeking women on their profile but message couples proposing to meet. When you point this out, they say "that's OK, I'm keen to try a couple" that's fair enough. Then you ask if they are comfortable with close male contact as hubby always joins in. They scream like a girl!!! ( Sorry all girls.. lol) and you never hear back.

Are they just "making do" with a couple, hoping the husband will just watch. Because they can't find a fem?

Thoughts please. "

or they appear to be labouring under the delusion that couples only swing because the male partner is incapable of satisfying the female partner so they're needed to show her what she's missing while he sits and watches how it's done...

we don't engage with them at all...why waste the time...

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

"I will be deleting messages instead of a polite reply in future. "

Sounds like a plan

There's hundreds of guys for you to chat too, those you delete will just move on to someone else

Being polite is great but sometimes realistic is better for all concerned

A delete simply means "sorry not interested"

Nothing else is required if you're not

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

If I felt I was just an option to anyone or they were making do I wouldn’t give them my time. Life’s too short

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

I fine with it

I am not bi but love please the woman with the hubby

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham

"I fine with it

I am not bi but love please the woman with the hubby

But you have seeking couples, i mean the ones that only have seeking women.

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham

"I will be deleting messages instead of a polite reply in future.

Sounds like a plan

There's hundreds of guys for you to chat too, those you delete will just move on to someone else

Being polite is great but sometimes realistic is better for all concerned

A delete simply means "sorry not interested"

Nothing else is required if you're not

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham

Are they just "making do" with a couple, hoping the husband will just watch. Because they can't find a fem?

Thoughts please.

we don't engage with them at all...why waste the time..."

This is very true, we have learnt how to identify these types.. so much to learn.. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They always ask us "will hubby be there?" Ill say yes "does he just watch?" No its a 3sum not free porn for him "oh ok erm well im happy to try"!!

I often feel like they just want me and hope that ill bend to their will maybe they should try tinder rather than a swing site

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

It would be a 'no' from us. I (mr) am completely straight, but for an mmf you need a guy who understands the dynamic. So somebody who only had 'seeking f' on the profile would probably not work out right.

A similar issue exists with couples who have profiles clearly looking only for single women, and then accept couples. That won't work well either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They always ask us "will hubby be there?" Ill say yes "does he just watch?" No its a 3sum not free porn for him "oh ok erm well im happy to try"!!

I often feel like they just want me and hope that ill bend to their will maybe they should try tinder rather than a swing site"

Although randy is totally straight we also get asked if he would be happy to "have a go at a bimale half of a couple"so he doesnt feel left out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are they just "making do" with a couple, hoping the husband will just watch. Because they can't find a fem?

Thoughts please.

we don't engage with them at all...why waste the time...

This is very true, we have learnt how to identify these types.. so much to learn.. lol"

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham

"It would be a 'no' from us. I (mr) am completely straight, but for an mmf you need a guy who understands the dynamic. So somebody who only had 'seeking f' on the profile would probably not work out right.

A similar issue exists with couples who have profiles clearly looking only for single women, and then accept couples. That won't work well either."

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham

"They always ask us "will hubby be there?" Ill say yes "does he just watch?" No its a 3sum not free porn for him "oh ok erm well im happy to try"!!

I often feel like they just want me and hope that ill bend to their will maybe they should try tinder rather than a swing site"

This is what we are experiencing lately. Shortage of fems so they'll hope that they hit on a couple where hubby doesn't join in because he cant satisfy his wife..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They always ask us "will hubby be there?" Ill say yes "does he just watch?" No its a 3sum not free porn for him "oh ok erm well im happy to try"!!

I often feel like they just want me and hope that ill bend to their will maybe they should try tinder rather than a swing site

This is what we are experiencing lately. Shortage of fems so they'll hope that they hit on a couple where hubby doesn't join in because he cant satisfy his wife.. "

Yes but unfortunatley for them he fully satisfies me and we just enjoy the excitement of sharingx

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Are they just "making do" with a couple, hoping the husband will just watch. Because they can't find a fem?

Thoughts please. "

Yes.

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

I love meeting couples even though im a strsight guy. I wouldnt want any mm contact but i love to see a lady enjoy the attention of to guys and being a greedy girl enjoying 2 cocks to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh this irritates the hell out of me. On reading a lot of single male profiles it’s so obvious that couples are just an ‘afterthought’ when they can’t find a suitable single lady. We’re quite aware that the majority of single guys probably would have no interest in us as a couple. But we don’t get ourselves into that situation. It’s easy to tell which men genuinely want hubby present as part of the dynamic. Oh and the expression ‘I might try a couple’. It’s said in the same way as they might ‘try suishi’ - you know something to be experimented on but they might not like it.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind you couples can be just as bad. What they really want is a single lady. And I discover she wants me, and he wants me. So I wonder where does my husband fit in with this delightful arrangement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some couples profiles are confusing ~ it's not always clear if they are a couple that play together, if it's a hot wife, full or soft swap ~ There are some guys out there who are just fishing, throw a line out there to all & sundry and see who, if any reply.

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

I love meeting couples, love the whole dynamic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mind you couples can be just as bad. What they really want is a single lady. And I discover she wants me, and he wants me. So I wonder where does my husband fit in with this delightful arrangement? "

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham

We've had that scenario too, met a couple believing we would all play but they had other ideas. Him and hubby watching girl on girl.. we are sure they had a code word when she had enough too.. very quickly he had his boxers on and it was all over... Trust no one!!!!

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham

"Oh this irritates the hell out of me. On reading a lot of single male profiles it’s so obvious that couples are just an ‘afterthought’ when they can’t find a suitable single lady. We’re quite aware that the majority of single guys probably would have no interest in us as a couple. But we don’t get ourselves into that situation. It’s easy to tell which men genuinely want hubby present as part of the dynamic. Oh and the expression ‘I might try a couple’. It’s said in the same way as they might ‘try suishi’ - you know something to be experimented on but they might not like it.

Mrs"

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Way I play, make do wouldn’t work.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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I speak for me and not all men first and foremost. The thought of joining a couple is very appealing. I am sure I am not alone in saying that other peoples enjoyment increases my own. The bigger and different dynamic of a mmf and helping two people to enjoy the occasion as opposed to one is exciting. Another bloke in the mix adds to the challenge. As much as I want the lady to feel satisfied by me as the extra I want the chap to feel he has a wingman that gives equal effort and satisfaction to his lady. I have no interest in bi play at all and that would be made clear and agreed well before. That being said accidental touching is not a concern whatsoever. Can't have that worry in this scenario or it just won't work.

In terms of letting the man watch us and not take part at all is just not for me at all. If i was in a club and it was part of the evening maybe but in a private scenario no. It's not my bag.

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