FabSwingers.com forum: I just don't get it

By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Why when you reply to a message with thanks but no thankS do some guys then write back asking for a reason? I'm not knocking all single guys as we love them but if I was in their position there is no way I would demand a reason for not someone not wanting to have sex with me. Its just plain weird! Anyone want to admit to asking and tell me why?

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they do just tell em u can smell em from here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why when you reply to a message with thanks but no thankS do some guys then write back asking for a reason? I'm not knocking all single guys as we love them but if I was in their position there is no way I would demand a reason for not someone not wanting to have sex with me. Its just plain weird! Anyone want to admit to asking and tell me why?

Mistress x"
is asking demanding?

Maybe they just want feed back.

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guys just cant take a hint - even a straight forward kindhearted one.

ive had thanks but no thanks replies and i think its nice to recieve them.

asking why is just asking for trouble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with what your saying. Like you say very politely that they are not your type. As if you are going to like everyone who asks to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

arrgghhh! I don't know which post to reply in, tell me why, i demand to know why you wont tell me why......

The best response to the "Why" question is..... "because you are too far away", if they respond "but I am just down the road", say "no, mentally",........ Profit

P xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Apologies for my tech problems with phone grrrr. Lol. Well some do demand, others ask. Not really annoyed about it more wondering why? Isn't it better not to know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think so. cuz its only 1 ladies opinion.

why ask like every woman onhere is gonna have the same one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"arrgghhh! I don't know which post to reply in, tell me why, i demand to know why you wont tell me why......

The best response to the "Why" question is..... "because you are too far away", if they respond "but I am just down the road", say "no, mentally",........ Profit

P xxx"
Lol please may I borrow that one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apologies for my tech problems with phone grrrr. Lol. Well some do demand, others ask. Not really annoyed about it more wondering why? Isn't it better not to know? "

just dont reply to the message they will get the hint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or just block the user if it gets pushy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"arrgghhh! I don't know which post to reply in, tell me why, i demand to know why you wont tell me why......

The best response to the "Why" question is..... "because you are too far away", if they respond "but I am just down the road", say "no, mentally",........ Profit

P xxx"

Classic...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"arrgghhh! I don't know which post to reply in, tell me why, i demand to know why you wont tell me why......

The best response to the "Why" question is..... "because you are too far away", if they respond "but I am just down the road", say "no, mentally",........ Profit

P xxxLol please may I borrow that one?

A gift for you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mistress x"

Oddly enough, it's not single guys who have tended to do that with us-mostly couples...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just some single men that have a problem. Had a couple that were interested and said get back to them with a yes or no if we liked them. Said yes and sent them a pic as well with the same message of yes or no, they just blocked me. How rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"arrgghhh! I don't know which post to reply in, tell me why, i demand to know why you wont tell me why......

The best response to the "Why" question is..... "because you are too far away", if they respond "but I am just down the road", say "no, mentally",........ Profit

P xxxLol please may I borrow that one?

A gift for you...."
thankyou kind sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Under the circumstances, I'd just accept that I wasn't their type and move on. There might have been a whole host of reasons, I look too young and they prefer lads that look a little more spread and seasoned, I smoke on occassion and that may have put them off, etc, who cares?

No one is suitable for everyone so its no point trying to please everyone is there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why when you reply to a message with thanks but no thankS do some guys then write back asking for a reason"

Hmph! When did you go back to 'Thanks but no thanks'? I had a good revenue stream going there! My nephews aren't gonna get Xmas presents now, hope you're proud of yourself

(For anyone who's baffled: yes, this is a running joke between OP and I)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"arrgghhh! I don't know which post to reply in, tell me why, i demand to know why you wont tell me why......

The best response to the "Why" question is..... "because you are too far away", if they respond "but I am just down the road", say "no, mentally",........ Profit

P xxxLol please may I borrow that one?

Borrow?? I already have it in the swag bag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they ask me why I say its because Im into women, but prefer not to say on my profile. If that doesnt work viva la button de block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they ask me why I say its because Im into women, but prefer not to say on my profile. If that doesnt work viva la button de block"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why when you reply to a message with thanks but no thankS do some guys then write back asking for a reason

Hmph! When did you go back to 'Thanks but no thanks'? I had a good revenue stream going there! My nephews aren't gonna get Xmas presents now, hope you're proud of yourself

(For anyone who's baffled: yes, this is a running joke between OP and I)"

Id like something a little more intimate than a running joke between us. Phwoaaar wobbly randy old lady alert.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL @ Trois

Anything you had in mind. And remember, the 9pm watershed is not for another 30 minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"LOL @ Trois

Anything you had in mind. And remember, the 9pm watershed is not for another 30 minutes

Damn missed it!!! I ensure my sexy thoughts are always expressed before the watershed

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Why when you reply to a message with thanks but no thankS do some guys then write back asking for a reason

Hmph! When did you go back to 'Thanks but no thanks'? I had a good revenue stream going there! My nephews aren't gonna get Xmas presents now, hope you're proud of yourself

(For anyone who's baffled: yes, this is a running joke between OP and I)"

Lol. Do resort to that when mail goes into overdrive!

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

I only mention single guys because they are the ones who do it to us but that's because we mostly meet single guys! I can deal with messages so don't really need suggestions but was kinda wondering why someone would want to be critised like that. Just curious. No thanks would def be enough for me I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So anyway is it a yes or a no???? Pmsl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did write back recently and say “okay” so they knew there were no hard feelings.

Is that the kind of thing you are talking about?

Or are guys asking for a post mortem so they can learn?

Or maybe their ego took a knock in which case they should just shrug and move on, that’s life (;-)

Without a specific case it's hard to say really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting back to the plot! lol

Do some of them really want me to say.....

The truth? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be nice to get a no thanks back sometimes as nothing makes you think your inbox isnt working.

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"So anyway is it a yes or a no???? Pmsl x"

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"I did write back recently and say “okay” so they knew there were no hard feelings.

Is that the kind of thing you are talking about?

Or are guys asking for a post mortem so they can learn?

Or maybe their ego took a knock in which case they should just shrug and move on, that’s life (;-)

Without a specific case it's hard to say really

Talking about the 'why nots'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some don't understand what No means, Thats when we use the block function.

Best off, finding out early if someone is like that.

Move along we say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mistress xis asking demanding?

Maybe they just want feed back."

this is what i was wondering, i've never asked why before, but thinking about it now, if something is startingly bad in your initial message it'd probably be good for someone to let you know early on, so you don't end up making the same mistakes again,

however if they're rude about it.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mistress xis asking demanding?

Maybe they just want feed back.

I may sound harsh but why is it my role or responsibility to provide that?

If I'm not interested in an individual, I'm not going to enter into a dialogue with them...I have to do that far too much in real life...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually say "not my type" but lots mail back and ask why.

do they really want me too say that they are too short or too portly for my likeing?

No way would I want to know why someone rejected me,wouldn't make me feel any better about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if someone is not our type we say so. there has been only 1 guy i have given a reason to that was because he had no meat on him and i like my men to have a bit of meat and muscle but he took it great he said he would have to build his self up for me. but apart from that we have just said no thanks or sorry not our type and every one has been fine so far not asking why. i wouldn't like to start giving people a shopping list for the reasons i said no because they may not be my type but they could be someone's mr/mrs perfect so i wouldn't like to say why not because its just my preferences not every one else's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if someone is not our type we say so. there has been only 1 guy i have given a reason to that was because he had no meat on him and i like my men to have a bit of meat and muscle but he took it great he said he would have to build his self up for me. but apart from that we have just said no thanks or sorry not our type and every one has been fine so far not asking why. i wouldn't like to start giving people a shopping list for the reasons i said no because they may not be my type but they could be someone's mr/mrs perfect so i wouldn't like to say why not because its just my preferences not every one else's.

Exactly,nothing wrong with them,just wrong for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"LOL @ Trois

Anything you had in mind. And remember, the 9pm watershed is not for another 30 minutes

Wobbly randy old lady alert number two!!!

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

Guys are insecure.

They believe every women wants to be fucked by their long hard thick cock! Haven't you noticed that? Why do you think so many write to you! They want tea and cookies?

I get a LOT of requests from single *cough* guys, and always get asked why I don't want them to bang me or pound me cause I clearly desperately want a cock.

So besides the fact that I'm a lesbian, (genuine), and most of the guys have profiles saying straight and looking for women (though if they read my profile they could nearly convince me!), guys need finality on the reason for a NO.

I think sometimes it's fair to tell someone why you aren't interested in them, if it might help them grow and understand themselves.

I usually reply with 'Well I don't want to be pounded or banged, I like to be worshipped adored caressed and emotionally responded to and I doubt you could give me 3 hours of caressing'

Usually works, cause guys usually only want 15 minutes anyway, I only do minimum 3 hours meets

With chocolates!

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

"Usually works, cause guys usually only want 15 minutes anyway, I only do minimum 3 hours meets

With chocolates!

Damn that is a lot of chocolates...I polish of a box of Thorntons in an hour.

Seriously is that what people get...quickie type messages? What happened to the teasing, massaging, foreplay, that means its 3am already and you can see the sun start to rise and think shit I need to sleep so I can stay awake at work.

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Another two or three yesterday. Last one I said no yhanks. He asked why not?! I relied because he wasn't my type and I didn't want to waste his time. He relied...that yhis is nsa sex...why have a type! This was followed by all my reasons (no swearing) and a block. I added that men like him were the reason for all the unanswered mail. Hoped he might have learned ny it but severely doubt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the real world I don't think you need to justify rejecting someones advances to you. I don't see why you should be asked to justify your rejection of someone one here in the first place. Besides, doesn't NSA stand for No Strings Attached and not mean shag anything and any body any time any where?

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Another two or three yesterday. Last one I said no yhanks. He asked why not?! I relied because he wasn't my type and I didn't want to waste his time. He relied...that yhis is nsa sex...why have a type! This was followed by all my reasons (no swearing) and a block. I added that men like him were the reason for all the unanswered mail. Hoped he might have learned ny it but severely doubt it.

Lol sorry for typos on phone and hope you can read! Guess that large voddy didn't help either...

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By *herry n JonesyCouple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire / Leicester

I've just had one of these idiots who then proceeded to tell me that I was getting above my station and that the only reason I got any attention was cos of my big tits and the face I had a pulse!

Made me laugh lots! Oh dear, oh dear someone couldn't handle rejection could they!

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