FabSwingers.com forum: Are all single bi guys subs and wannabe cuckolds?

By *reokink OP Man
over a year ago

London

Woke up this morning wondering why its so hard to find people that match what we are looking for. I think there is a sprinkling of irony and dark humour behind the thought too.

Single guys frequently go on about how hard it is to meet people. Sure its easier as a couple but its not exactly easy for couples either, just a different set of challenges.

As a couple we have no shortage of people taking an interest but those matching or taste seem to be very rare.

When looking for single guys our preference is for confident yet respectful guys eager to have fun with a woman and suck cock in equal measure.

What we get more often than not is straight guys who clearly haven't read our profile and bi guys who appear to be more interested in living out submissive and wannabe cuckold fantasies than three way pleasure.

Now don't get me wrong, as an experienced former Bull I loved getting my cock sucked and arse rimmed by eager cuckolds but as part of a couple what we're after is balance.

A straight guy would at best "put up" with me being around in an MMF session which for me would be boring as hell.....and the sub leaning bi guys appear to be a bit too interested in me as the male. That too doesn't work. I'm a firm believer in balance and want my lady to have her fair share of attention too. Our DVP adventure is months in the past now....gotta fix that

Anyway I was wondering if any other bi couples are having similar challenges?

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By *evelhazeMan
over a year ago

north staffs

Wish I was closer. I do get to London sometimes with work. You are such a beautiful couple, I’d love to lose my virginity with you guys. Xx

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By *ohncukMan
over a year ago

london

Yeah, well 'this guy is

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By *reokink OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Wish I was closer. I do get to London sometimes with work. You are such a beautiful couple, I’d love to lose my virginity with you guys. Xx"

Hi and thanks for the compliment. Mind you it depends on what you mean by loosing your virginity. Our bi fun is focused on lots of cock sucking but no anal play.....well excepted for the fact that I love getting rimmed by eager guys

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By *reokink OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Yeah, well 'this guy is "

As in sub or NOT sub?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Woke up this morning wondering why its so hard to find people that match what we are looking for. I think there is a sprinkling of irony and dark humour behind the thought too.

Single guys frequently go on about how hard it is to meet people. Sure its easier as a couple but its not exactly easy for couples either, just a different set of challenges.

As a couple we have no shortage of people taking an interest but those matching or taste seem to be very rare.

When looking for single guys our preference is for confident yet respectful guys eager to have fun with a woman and suck cock in equal measure.

Now don't get me wrong, as an experienced former Bull I loved getting my cock sucked and arse rimmed by eager cuckolds but as part of a couple what we're after is balance.

Anyway I was wondering if any other bi couples are having similar challenges?"

Good point most bi guys I find are subs, weird lol. But I must admit I tend to Dom in most bi Cpl meets I have and I'm looking for a female sub, so top bi guys are out there lol

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By *eadOverHeelsMan
over a year ago

Wherever you want me

Agree with last comment. Top bi guys are out there. I think the issue is often that, for guys, the bi element is psychologically often about activating the switch against typical cultural norms i.e. what it means to be ‘manly’ and that male = dominant. Therefore the act of going against this is submissive or subversive in nature, perhaps? Therefore it’s about men wanting to feel in a position of being powerless, not powerful. There’s no distinction really between a man submitting to a woman with a strapon. For most bi men being with the man is the same.

But us top bi males or, to be more accurate, switch bi males (like top or bottom, or anything to be fair!) are out there.

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I can play to suit so everyone can have fun x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Whilst I most definitely have a sub side, and enjoy playing that way - it's also not an overriding factor that has to be present - am just as happy playing on a level playing field where Dom/sub Top/bottom doesn't come into it.

Regardless of the dynamic though, mutual pleasure for ALL concerned is paramount

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

No Im happy for mutual pleasure of all involved. But compatibility of desires is a hard thing to match up either as a single and much more so as a couple.

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By *amRod64Man
over a year ago

Gravesend

I consider myself flexible...

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By *laytimenowMan
over a year ago

Essex

Id much rather you were passive then i could fuck you & your mrs .

Probably not your thing but one has to ask

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By *reokink OP Man
over a year ago

London

That was confusing, woke up to three private messages relating to a thread I started 19 weeks ago

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By *reokink OP Man
over a year ago

London

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By *reokink OP Man
over a year ago

London

"No Im happy for mutual pleasure of all involved. But compatibility of desires is a hard thing to match up either as a single and much more so as a couple. "

You can say that again. We find it relatively easy to find single males to have fun with when at clubs. Not so easy with couples, which is why these days I'm putting more effort into balancing things out a bit more.

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

There will be some out there. You may need to try different sites where the bi men are a bit more manly

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

"Wish I was closer. I do get to London sometimes with work. You are such a beautiful couple, I’d love to lose my virginity with you guys. Xx

For me this would be what limits my interest in a lot of couples looking for bi guys as like so many your limiting the man on man play to oral.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

To answer the headline question no not all bi guys are sub or wannabe cuckolds. I am a versatile bi guy, although I much preffer bottoming to topping, who is neither dom or sub. Personally I generally prefer an even power balance with everyone contributing to the direction of the action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m always find I go towards what the couples wants, bull, sub, equal, love equal MMf meets especially for DVP

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By *aulp4alsMan
over a year ago

Warrington

I look for an play with bi couples with the same interests as you as I like us all to be playing together or one of us can drop out for a rest then come back in.

I find it more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t speak for everyone, but I prefer the “everyone touching/fucking each other” type of bi meets.

So hot sharing a cock with the Mrs, or having mine sucked by both hubby and wife. Gets more fun the more people involved too

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By *ut4fun6969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

I'm happy to go with the flow. I'm not that sub but will take that role or can top or play total straight. I'm finding that if you have Bi in your profile as a single chap this seems put some people off Like if i'm with a straight couple i'm going to want to play with him and ignore the lady (which I would never do ladies first at all times)So it is hard for Bi guys to find meets sometimes with couples I think.

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By *edonistic Bi.Man
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I am part of a couple on here. We both have our own profiles as well.. but we know all to well the difficulty of getting a decent bisexual male. It's either straight males who "go with the flow" or overly submissive guys.

Or it's an overly arrogant "bull" (No offence intended) who's not read our profile and plainly has sent us a cut n paste message

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By *ammers43Man
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

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By *ung_londonMan
over a year ago

London

My experience has been that meeting couples in clubs the negotiation over what works for all three is more flexible / adaptable (perhaps because there’s the option of other play, so a single encounter doesn’t need to be so defined in advance?) Whereas a planned meet with just the three of us can risk a bit of second guessing what the other(s) want. I get the opposite dynamic often: initial invites being to be dominant / top the male in the couple, but as play develops it becomes more fluid. I think the point one of the other posters makes about some guys really enjoying the ‘flip’ in status / role in bi-play is often true. And that’s often a real turn on for their partners to witness / participate in. I also think for males more than females with bi-play maybe there’s an element that if they are dominated by another guy it helps with the ‘I shouldn’t be doing this’ feeling. It’s all a bit of a game of course but it relieves them of responsibility for choosing to do something transgressive. But of course everyone is different and has their own dynamics.

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