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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not sure if anyone can help with this....

We went to a club on sat which ended up looking more like a social meet.

Now we have been to this club a few times before and have only once picked up total strangers as to say.

The other few times we have been we have taken people with us.

This time we were on our own and it was really hard i (mrs) just couldnt talk to anyone or make eye contact.

Now i have no problems at all yacking to people at parties anyone any idea why i would come up with this sudden blank?

I'm fine once the 1st awkward bit is over and can natter for england.

1) what am i looking for what signs?

2)Then what? do you just go over and start talking or do you wait for them to come to you?

Its embarresing its like starting the dating bit again

All sat night hubby was saying they were looking at you/ smiling at you but i was missing this help! Please xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Natural to be nervy. Find someone you genuinely think looks good, go up to them and say 'I just wanted to say how good you look'. And then, as if by magic, the conversation flows. Works for us, anyway. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try reading body language I love people watching, flirt and mingle. The thing that I get stuck on is when chatting how do you broach the subject of playtime are you blunt come straight out with it or let the other people lead the way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Natural to be nervy. Find someone you genuinely think looks good, go up to them and say 'I just wanted to say how good you look'. And then, as if by magic, the conversation flows. Works for us, anyway. Good luck! "

Sounds good will try this xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try reading body language I love people watching, flirt and mingle. The thing that I get stuck on is when chatting how do you broach the subject of playtime are you blunt come straight out with it or let the other people lead the way."

See i have no probs with the end bit as you tend to find people ask YOU what you like or not and from there you just slip in 'well how do you feel about this meet?' and they will hopfully say good and you lead it from there x

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By *illow_femaleWoman
over a year ago

Thetford


"Try reading body language I love people watching, flirt and mingle. The thing that I get stuck on is when chatting how do you broach the subject of playtime are you blunt come straight out with it or let the other people lead the way."

haha... I too have a problem with that.... mind I have no objections to someone else leading the way, or getting carried away even... but ohh I can be so dumb some times and just dont know what to say or do....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im ok with one on ones its the group situations I get lost in lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im terrible at such things

Ive always said im the worlds worse swinging, in all the years i have been doing this i have never made the first move with anyone, either at clubs, parties or by messaging on here

I just go and wait for people to approch me

If you see someone you like just keep walking past them till they notice you, thats what i do, mind you by the time ive walked past them 20 times in a night they dongt always notice me for the right reasons lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I really love this club so dont want to give up but the cost of getting us there and then we get the same outcome as sitting in the corner of the local and not talking to anyone isnt cheep lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im terrible at such things

Ive always said im the worlds worse swinging, in all the years i have been doing this i have never made the first move with anyone, either at clubs, parties or by messaging on here

I just go and wait for people to approch me

If you see someone you like just keep walking past them till they notice you, thats what i do, mind you by the time ive walked past them 20 times in a night they dongt always notice me for the right reasons lol"

Lol if you walk one way and i walk the other we might end up causing a whirlwind and get them that way xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to start a conversation try getting some marking cards made like on ice skating as the guy passes and looks lift the cards awarding him the marks ,

bet they will laugh and at least you have a starting point to talk about ,xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"to start a conversation try getting some marking cards made like on ice skating as the guy passes and looks lift the cards awarding him the marks ,

bet they will laugh and at least you have a starting point to talk about ,xxxx"

Love it

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

If you walk past a lady and smile and if you get eye contact and smiled back at then as someone has said comment on what they are wearing as it van open chat. If your at the bar and someone comes aside you ordering a drink then make a comment on maybe what is the drink like.

Walk around smiling making eye contact and see who smiles back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would chat, every time! I know nerves can get the better of a person, but they could be the same!

When I used to go dogging, i would get so annoyed at guys who would pull up in thier car behind me, then just sit there and not come and say hello! I was a single female, if they havent got the balls lol.I know thats different, but it's the same lol. You are there to have fun, not worry about signals and body launguage. So unless they thow up as you approach, chat to them xx

Worse case you walk away after introducing yourslef to someone new, best case. . . .happy shags!!! xxx

Luv u all

LPxxx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have a time honoured method, and it tends to work. I just go up to them and say 'would you like a shag' and if they do, then wahey! if not then I move on to the next one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"to start a conversation try getting some marking cards made like on ice skating as the guy passes and looks lift the cards awarding him the marks ,

bet they will laugh and at least you have a starting point to talk about ,xxxx

Love it "

yey i got a green smilie

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how about ' wanna shag' if they say no try

'ok wanna laydown so i can '

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Not sure if anyone can help with this....

We went to a club on sat which ended up looking more like a social meet.

Now we have been to this club a few times before and have only once picked up total strangers as to say.

The other few times we have been we have taken people with us.

This time we were on our own and it was really hard i (mrs) just couldnt talk to anyone or make eye contact.

Now i have no problems at all yacking to people at parties anyone any idea why i would come up with this sudden blank?

I'm fine once the 1st awkward bit is over and can natter for england.

1) what am i looking for what signs?

2)Then what? do you just go over and start talking or do you wait for them to come to you?

Its embarresing its like starting the dating bit again

All sat night hubby was saying they were looking at you/ smiling at you but i was missing this help! Please xxx"

there is the lovely phrase in the north east....

Shy Bairns get nowt!!!

as i say to every who goes to a club... you can go out, be proactive and chat and maybe more.... or you can sit in the corner like lemons and hope...

hope isn't a strategy....

what is the worst that can happen... really just say no thanks...

and we are all big and ugly enough to take one of them!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its weird cos i can do parties no probs, meets no probs.

I can have sex infront of others and love it yet i can not just go up to someone in a club

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Its weird cos i can do parties no probs, meets no probs.

I can have sex infront of others and love it yet i can not just go up to someone in a club "

Trip them up then jump on them when they are on the floor?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its weird cos i can do parties no probs, meets no probs.

I can have sex infront of others and love it yet i can not just go up to someone in a club

Trip them up then jump on them when they are on the floor?"

Lol might just come to that

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By *ussiebloke40Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

see now i have your problem the other way around.

I have no problem approaching you and saying G'day and chatting from there, i can tell if you want me to go away and leave you alone, but you will have to just hit me over the head and drag me off or say to me "Oi are you going to fuck me or what" as i just do not or cannot see the signals

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"see now i have your problem the other way around.

I have no problem approaching you and saying G'day and chatting from there, i can tell if you want me to go away and leave you alone, but you will have to just hit me over the head and drag me off or say to me "Oi are you going to fuck me or what" as i just do not or cannot see the signals

Lol well you start i'll finish.

"

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By *ussiebloke40Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

DEAL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we go to clubs I always send Kate to the bar and she always comes back with another couple as well as the drinks. I usually just sit in the corner out of the way.

If she picks up a couple it's a sign to me that she likes the guy, so if I hit it off with the lady, we usually have a good night.

It doesn't always work out though

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"When we go to clubs I always send Kate to the bar and she always comes back with another couple as well as the drinks. I usually just sit in the corner out of the way.

If she picks up a couple it's a sign to me that she likes the guy, so if I hit it off with the lady, we usually have a good night.

It doesn't always work out though

"

You should be careful... them down the local... thems starting to talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When we go to clubs I always send Kate to the bar and she always comes back with another couple as well as the drinks. I usually just sit in the corner out of the way.

If she picks up a couple it's a sign to me that she likes the guy, so if I hit it off with the lady, we usually have a good night.

"

Thats the problem this club dosnt have a bar just a fridge your put your own in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as the round room at chams now if its quiet I can go in and play and totally oblivious to whats going on around me but if its busy I cant just dive in lol.

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