FabSwingers.com forum: Fab dating

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with.

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Casual meets can turn into more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Casual meets can turn into more "

Yes, so I've heard, not experienced it myself though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Casual meets can turn into more

Yes, so I've heard, not experienced it myself though!"

Ditto

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

Really good idea that. I would b very interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to find a lady for a relationship that is into this side of life.

That said there is a lot of overlap with the usual dating sites!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Looking for the same

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By *razysexysingleWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with.

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there done that didn’t work for me after 2 yrs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been there done that didn’t work for me after 2 yrs! "

Can one ask what happened?

If it's too personal then don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there, done it....twice.. and both times the guys turned out to be liars and very dishonest in what was meant to be a semi open relationship.

Made me a bit wiser and harder and not so gullible to men's lies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been there, done it....twice.. and both times the guys turned out to be liars and very dishonest in what was meant to be a semi open relationship.

Made me a bit wiser and harder and not so gullible to men's lies

Being on the dating scene has made me extremely cynical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been there, done it....twice.. and both times the guys turned out to be liars and very dishonest in what was meant to be a semi open relationship.

Made me a bit wiser and harder and not so gullible to men's lies

Being on the dating scene has made me extremely cynical. "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agreed I’d love to find a partner in crime so solve mysteries and help turn wrongs into rights!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All dating websites are polluted by men who lie and cheat, so a dating section on here would be no different at all.

It would be nice to have a section for people who are looking for a relationship, but honest and open about their sexual preferences from the start as it is such an important part of any relationship.

I would love it to happen. X

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By *hinypants77Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I’d be up for it. Might be very difficult to find the right person though with and an incredible amount of trust would be needed.

Would be cool to meet my match though who’s as perverted as me but honest and loyal too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been there, done it....twice.. and both times the guys turned out to be liars and very dishonest in what was meant to be a semi open relationship.

Made me a bit wiser and harder and not so gullible to men's lies

Being on the dating scene has made me extremely cynical. "

I agree why im not on the dating scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd deffo be interested in this.

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had what I thought was a relationship until her husband who worked away found out. Always looking for another should one come along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

You old romantic you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have had what I thought was a relationship until her husband who worked away found out. Always looking for another should one come along."

I have been there and done the other man thing .............never again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

Marry me

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

A while ago someone suggested a forum space ‘(like the lounge, introductions etc) for those looking for fwb’s/relationships/couples looking for a ‘sictificant third’! It ran for weeks with 100% positive comments.

There was loads of support for it but not one solitary comment from admin!

If anyone had broken a site rule they’d have been on it like a rash!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

Make that ‘double penetration’ and I’m in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely be interested in that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be a great thought like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer good sex, that needs trust, not looking for a relationship, or anyone that has done most of Fab, but a regular meet would be good with the same one or two people.

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By *ust Ms LovinWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Me and Cheeky met as singles been together almost 4 years now takes all the bullshit out of it .

I agree though I (ms) would love a girlfriend x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the dream isn't it?

To find someone as kinky as yourself but that you can also have a "normal" life. ...whatever that is.

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

Marry me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just like to find a guy who enjoys kinky sex

as I'm not into 3sums then I doubt il find a relationship on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People do series of threads like Matchmaking and similar. Maybe try posting in those?

Not sure if a separate forum would be a good idea. The Lounge is the busiest part of the forum so keeping it as threads in there will get more views. A separate place might get quiet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with.

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

This

although the fun of meeting new people is great, to find that someone to share it all with is much more appealing to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can happen

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

There used to be fab-dating, another website but it seems to have disappeared. Never seemed to have many people on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with.

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

It does happen....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

Not at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A while ago someone suggested a forum space ‘(like the lounge, introductions etc) for those looking for fwb’s/relationships/couples looking for a ‘sictificant third’! It ran for weeks with 100% positive comments.

There was loads of support for it but not one solitary comment from admin!

If anyone had broken a site rule they’d have been on it like a rash!

Got a politics forum, cannot see why we cannot have a dating one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

Yup... Im far too messed up to mix with the general populus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

Yup... Im far too messed up to mix with the general populus

I'd date the fuck out of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

Yup... Im far too messed up to mix with the general populus

You can mix with me any time sexy!

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I’m in.

*checks out location of all the hotties in here*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

Yup... Im far too messed up to mix with the general populus

I'd date the fuck out of you

grrrr

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

You old romantic you!"

True story.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

It’s happened to me before. I’m holding out for another time.

But until then I’m enjoying the casual

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what I want but it is proving harder than I thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of us want this I suspect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's what I want but it is proving harder than I thought"

I'm doing ok off this thread

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It can and does happen. While it last it’s great fun.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

Tea and biscuits too

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Would love to find someone for a relationship knowing I wouldn't have to have the awkward "erm I've been to swinging clubs" chat

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By *iltshiregentMan
over a year ago

Calne

"Would love to find someone for a relationship knowing I wouldn't have to have the awkward "erm I've been to swinging clubs" chat

Ditto. There are people out there who don't like regular sex, and they're terrifying...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

There is a very small section here

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/698019

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A separate forum would dilute The Lounge but a 'looking for more' tick box under profile preferences might be the way forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u met 29 people non of them worked out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been there, done it....twice.. and both times the guys turned out to be liars and very dishonest in what was meant to be a semi open relationship.

Made me a bit wiser and harder and not so gullible to men's lies

Being on the dating scene has made me extremely cynical. "

Yes, I feel the same too.

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon

This thread needs mucho hugs !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the dream isn't it?

To find someone as kinky as yourself but that you can also have a "normal" life. ...whatever that is."

It’s what I hope for.

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over a year ago

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"A separate forum would dilute The Lounge but a 'looking for more' tick box under profile preferences might be the way forward."

Perfect idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree sounds like a great idea. I no it's happened to quite a few people on here. Some relationships have worked, some havnt.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Im not sure I'm specifically looking for anything, but I'm not refusing anything interesting either. I'm definitely not looking for a standard relationship, that's all I'm really certain of.

Sign me up......

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

Tea and biscuits too

Nothing wrong with tea and biscuits

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By *razysexysingleWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

"It's the dream isn't it?

To find someone as kinky as yourself but that you can also have a "normal" life. ...whatever that is."

You would think so, all a person wants and more but even then it’s not enough for them

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yes a forum would be great for those who want 'more'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On behalf of most single men on here can I just point out it’s hard enough to get a message response never mind an actual relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with.

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

Keep the faith chica, he's out there/on here. We meet on here and have met many more at parties who have also met through fab.

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

It would be definitely x a non swingers run a mile when they hear about it because they just don't understand it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, it is possible, I've met someone from here that totally rocks my world and apparently I rock hers too ! Woop!

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By *usthere4uMan
over a year ago

North East

"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with.

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

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yeah.. i would like to meet a "partner in crime"..

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

Not easy is it. Back when I was single

I was reasonably successful on here but there was a gaping hole that needed to be filled with cuddles on tap and genuine companionship.

Traditional dating apps were for me a total waste of time although OKCupid did appear to have a bit more potential than the rest. In part because it made allowances for non-monogamy.

I focused most of my energy here on Fab and on F**life. What I like about the other site is the number of purely social events (munches) organised through it that gave me the opportunity to meet people in a relatively relaxed environment.

Its not perfect and it has its fair share of idiots and unpleasant people , as does every site But at least I could be up front about who I am.

Considering how hard it is to find someone compatible I can't for the life of me understand why swingers that meet and fall "in love" would lie and cheat behind each others back.....don't get me started on that one lol

Anyway, I just wanted to say that it is possible. Its hard work, requires patience and understanding on both sides and honestly of an almost microscopic level. No two people are ever going to like exactly the same things sexually but if you are honest from the start and have each others best interests at heart amazing things can happen. Keep anything to yourself and you're fu**ed. That's my take anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with.

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

Absolutely agree!

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

I really couldn't go back to a vanilla relationship now, swinging and kink is part of who i am and it makes me happy.

Ive had two romantic relationships over the seven years ive been here and though neither worked out in the end i would not swap the awesome experiences we had for the world. Could have done without the heartache when they ended of course but its all part of growing up

Im holding out for a third time lucky.

Keep the faith people, and say bollocks to those who tell you that you shouldnt be here to date

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

"I really couldn't go back to a vanilla relationship now, swinging and kink is part of who i am and it makes me happy.

Im holding out for a third time lucky.

Keep the faith people, and say bollocks to those who tell you that you shouldnt be here to date

Amen

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By *aiseaneyebrowMan
over a year ago

Fylde

I suppose it’s diferent for all but I know I enjoy building the genuine affection that comes from a more long term relationship. But I’m conscious I can and would enjoy a varied sexual element with others simultaneously.

I don’t believe I can be “with” more than one person at once but I can desire a wide and varied and exciting sexual life. Both with a long term partner and others.

But then there are also periods where to be frank I want to be alone.

Suppose that makes me awkward. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I'm not looking, I do find myself sometimes missing a "special someone" in my life. However I know I would never want to live with someone again or ever get married again. I also don't get a lot of spare time and I do enjoy being by myself sometimes -so I think it would be selfish of me. If I met anyone though here I would absolutely want them to stop meeting as a single male. I used to think I would be ok with it but recent experiences have proven to me that I wouldn't be.

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

"Whilst I'm not looking, I do find myself sometimes missing a "special someone" in my life. However I know I would never want to live with someone again or ever get married again. I also don't get a lot of spare time and I do enjoy being by myself sometimes -so I think it would be selfish of me. If I met anyone though here I would absolutely want them to stop meeting as a single male. I used to think I would be ok with it but recent experiences have proven to me that I wouldn't be."

Its all about being honest and figuring which compromises work and which would feel like too much of a sacrifice. Interestingly though boundaries are sometimes fluid and can change back and forth over time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples that have this are very lucky. I would love this x Someone as filthy as myself, is there such a person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

Move closer to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love more also with a like minded person. Romance and swinging, an unconventional relationship....is that too much to ask for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would love more also with a like minded person. Romance and swinging, an unconventional relationship....is that too much to ask for?

Like a man with a thai bride asking why she doesn't love him.

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By *ree2view2uMan
over a year ago

Nr Donny

I think it is a good idea. The idea of sharing your life with someone who enjoys the same things.

Better that way then approaching the subject in a vanilla relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there, done it twice

Wouldn't recommend looking for love on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been there, done it twice

Wouldn't recommend looking for love on fab.

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ohhh why not ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow, so many amazing posts and clearly lots of us on here wanting more!

I think the idea of a box to tick if looking for more than casual is brilliant! I have got shit for saying I want more than just a fuck, but where else can I be open about my sexual desires without being seen as a slut?

If anyone in the south east sees this and would like to chat, feel free to message!

All I want is love and lots of naughtiness... xxx

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By *ake442000Man
over a year ago

North west

True

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Bloody great idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve all but given up on dating but I’m always hopeful. Someone who enjoys the non vanilla side of life would be perfect

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"I’ve all but given up on dating but I’m always hopeful. Someone who enjoys the non vanilla side of life would be perfect

Teesside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with.

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

Keep the faith chica, he's out there/on here. We meet on here and have met many more at parties who have also met through fab.

Not so easy for us regular dad bod to guys most ladies have only gym fit guys please. I got injured while in the forces so my gym days are very few and far between. Stuck with a dad bod for eternity lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A separate forum would dilute The Lounge but a 'looking for more' tick box under profile preferences might be the way forward."

I have a "rabbit hole" in my garden Roxi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would a kik group work? Probably not though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with.

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

This would be my ideal scenario...I always come back to fab when i'm singl. In my last couple of relationships i've found that when really opening up about sexual desires they've just not been on the same wavelength as me...When mentioning things like swinging or fucking on cam they've reacted like i'm some kind of sex freak lol. I always hope i'll meet that holy grail of a local girl on here who is likeminded. An easier way of being able to go about that on here would be great...Some mind of singles searching for more section.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im looking for a bbc who wants an open relationship x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

great idea if operators are reading.

london here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to date a sexy fabber. It would be cool to flirt and have vanilla experiences with someone i already know is on the same page as me sexually. Let the chemistry flow

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Oh likewise altho it's proving pretty elusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question is why is this so elusive we are all adults here !

So most people are happy to meet for Nsa sex but can't do dinner or a movie

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"Question is why is this so elusive we are all adults here !

So most people are happy to meet for Nsa sex but can't do dinner or a movie

I can't even get sex ..... never mind anything else

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over a year ago

I dont think I could date a swinger .Men are hard to trust .keep them at arms length until you want sex

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Question is why is this so elusive we are all adults here !

So most people are happy to meet for Nsa sex but can't do dinner or a movie

I can't even get sex ..... never mind anything else "

You are having us on....!!!

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over a year ago

"Question is why is this so elusive we are all adults here !

So most people are happy to meet for Nsa sex but can't do dinner or a movie

I can't even get sex ..... never mind anything else "

Lady ... I just checked your profile !

What the hells goin on up there why you can't find some good company. Hey London is calling

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over a year ago

"I dont think I could date a swinger .Men are hard to trust .keep them at arms length until you want sex

Come on Rose we aren't all scum bags, show a little love lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a great idea.

But like some other posts from fellow fabbers I am cynical. 2 single males I met turned out to be cheaters. One wanted something regular and agreed cheaters are bad. Then hey Presto, partner with child.

Online sites have made genuine people hard to find. X

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"It's a great idea.

Online sites have made genuine people hard to find. X "

I read 'hey pesto', and thought I must make some fresh this weekend.

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over a year ago

"I dont think I could date a swinger .Men are hard to trust .keep them at arms length until you want sex

Come on Rose we aren't all scum bags, show a little love lol"

Most are until proven other wise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think I could date a swinger .Men are hard to trust .keep them at arms length until you want sex

Come on Rose we aren't all scum bags, show a little love lol

Most are until proven other wise

Ohh I guess that makes me a true exception. I think I'll reach round and pat myself on the back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl

Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late .

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over a year ago

"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl

Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late .

"I'm quite happy in our fun together to bring third parties .But we do this together and agreed upon"

That is the perfect attitude lady, win win if you ask me, Any guy who would dump on such an arrangement wouldn't be worth seeing in the first place,

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over a year ago

I dated someone from here for a year, big mistake, he fell for me because I’m a free spirit but then he wanted to dull that spirit, had to block all men on my phone, wasn’t allowed male friends, I would dress up for him and he would start questioning me and looking round the room as if I had another guy there. Yet he could talk to any girls he wanted and often took advice from these girls about me. He was basically mega controlling but couldn’t see it him self. Then when I was at my lowest he dropped me.

So all I’m saying a lot of guys on here are not swingers...

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over a year ago

"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl

Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late .

Exactly this, I always get a message 3 months later. Can I explain.........?

Nope. Moved on. No need.

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over a year ago

"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl

Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late .

"I'm quite happy in our fun together to bring third parties .But we do this together and agreed upon"

That is the perfect attitude lady, win win if you ask me, Any guy who would dump on such an arrangement wouldn't be worth seeing in the first place, "

Believe me men always want more .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I would like to meet a lady that understands and accepts my lifestyle choices as I would accept hers. If you start off on the same page, it should only get better. My ex didn't understand that, but her loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in

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over a year ago

"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl

Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late .

"I'm quite happy in our fun together to bring third parties .But we do this together and agreed upon"

That is the perfect attitude lady, win win if you ask me, Any guy who would dump on such an arrangement wouldn't be worth seeing in the first place,

Believe me men always want more .

As a man myself I won't be a hypocrite and disagree. But why creep when you don't have to ? If my partner in crime is on the same page, jealousy and insecurities aside why not have the cake, eat the cake and have a food fight with the rest !

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over a year ago

"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl

Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late .

"I'm quite happy in our fun together to bring third parties .But we do this together and agreed upon"

That is the perfect attitude lady, win win if you ask me, Any guy who would dump on such an arrangement wouldn't be worth seeing in the first place,

Believe me men always want more .

Its happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am actually looking for something similar but more long distance.

A fwb scenario with a couple really excited me

If anyone is interested... let me know x

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over a year ago

"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl

Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late .

"I'm quite happy in our fun together to bring third parties .But we do this together and agreed upon"

That is the perfect attitude lady, win win if you ask me, Any guy who would dump on such an arrangement wouldn't be worth seeing in the first place,

Believe me men always want more .

Its happens

Well .... Hello Honey Rose ! How are you

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

Think it's a great idea, but the players would still play, lying about wanting more to get a shag unfortunately!!!

And yeah I'd love a swinging, open relationship!!

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Oh man. I saw your username and hoped that an eight inch Yorkie bar was an actual thing.

Sorry.

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By *ostEchoWoman
over a year ago

London

While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again.

He was a prolific single male party boy, had a fab profile also, yet convinced me he wanted a committed monogamous relationship with the added benefit of swinging. I was hesitant, but it sounded perfect.

However his idea of that in reality was keeping our involvement as a couple in anything "scene like" at an an arms length, while hooking up with other women on the regular, arranging fab meets and arranging and hosting his own swingers parties in secret from me. He even took secret holidays abroad to swing, and had tinder and meetings through other online platforms. I contacted one of the couples he met behind my back on Fab, and they were horrified.

This was happening even though I offered him the option of swinging together and separately on a regular basis. He insisted "no" at every turn whilst talking of marriage and life commitment. It all came out in the end of course.

In the end it all came down to manipulation and control. He was used to life as a single male alpha "hunter" and clearly felt a need to exercise sexual control over himself, and me. He actually got off on it and spent a lot of energy seeking it out. Anything involving me having the same freedom or giving up on his right to fuck who he wanted when he wanted was beneath what he was willing to accept. It was quite horrific for me and I can't say I would trust single swinger men's integrity to have an honest relationship after that.

If you've been a single male "party hard" swinger for most of your experience, I think it's too hard for many to ever give up or compromise on. Even when a woman offers you that freedom, you want the freedom on your own terms. It's a toxic situation I hope I never become involved in again.

Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with.

Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets?

If only I were younger and closer

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over a year ago

"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again.

Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single.

Wow that's crazy Echo. I guess my FB was right when she told me I'm too normal for fab !

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over a year ago

"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again.

Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single.

Narcissist?

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"All dating websites are polluted by men who lie and cheat, so a dating section on here would be no different at all.

I would love it to happen. X

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I dated someone from here for a year, big mistake, he fell for me because I’m a free spirit but then he wanted to dull that spirit, had to block all men on my phone, wasn’t allowed male friends, I would dress up for him and he would start questioning me and looking round the room as if I had another guy there. Yet he could talk to any girls he wanted and often took advice from these girls about me. He was basically mega controlling but couldn’t see it him self. Then when I was at my lowest he dropped me.

So all I’m saying a lot of guys on here are not swingers... "

Indeed.....for in my experience, swingers want to harm no-one x

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"Question is why is this so elusive we are all adults here !

So most people are happy to meet for Nsa sex but can't do dinner or a movie

I can't even get sex ..... never mind anything else

Lady ... I just checked your profile !

What the hells goin on up there why you can't find some good company. Hey London is calling

Ha last time I was in London it was because I was dating. Said guy met 3 women behind my back and was having a relationship with his sister in law. Why when you can have cake and eat it do men still fuck it up?? Plus London isn't where I feel settled

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again.

Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single.

Not that is describe myself as party hard, but I always think it’s a shame when one experience sours the whole batch... there are dicks in all walks of life ... but understand where yr coming from .... sounds like you had a shitty experience *hugs*

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS
over a year ago

North west

Awww eh cmon now

Not all guys are cheaters/narcissistic /players /generally trying to fuck the world behind your back.

Women do it , trans do it , men do it , but it's going to be hard to even contemplate a relationship if you're already convinced they're cheating bastards.

After nearly 2 years single It would be great if I could find a woman who has the same outlook on life and kink as I have on here. Yeah that one you wake up with in the morning and just want to snuggle into because she's her and her hair smells lush .

Not fuckin likely going on history to date

but if she appeared out of the blue. We'd have to discuss about our feelings and the "lifestyle" and how It would all be handled.

Then if she turned out to be a Alpha party hard duplicitous bitch , I'd have to deal , sob at sad songs on the radio an eventually take the next person as they come.

AFAB - all fellas aren't bastards

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over a year ago

"Awww eh cmon now

Not all guys are cheaters/narcissistic /players /generally trying to fuck the world behind your back.

Women do it , trans do it , men do it , but it's going to be hard to even contemplate a relationship if you're already convinced they're cheating bastards.

Not fuckin likely going on history to date

but if she appeared out of the blue. We'd have to discuss about our feelings and the "lifestyle" and how It would all be handled.

Then if she turned out to be a Alpha party hard duplicitous bitch , I'd have to deal , sob at sad songs on the radio an eventually take the next person as they come.

AFAB - all fellas aren't bastards

1 in 20 are

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By *ostEchoWoman
over a year ago

London

"Awww eh cmon now

Not all guys are cheaters/narcissistic /players /generally trying to fuck the world behind your back.

Women do it , trans do it , men do it , but it's going to be hard to even contemplate a relationship if you're already convinced they're cheating bastards.

Not fuckin likely going on history to date

but if she appeared out of the blue. We'd have to discuss about our feelings and the "lifestyle" and how It would all be handled.

Then if she turned out to be a Alpha party hard duplicitous bitch , I'd have to deal , sob at sad songs on the radio an eventually take the next person as they come.

AFAB - all fellas aren't bastards

Ah, should have known someone would get "not all men" about this somewhere. I clearly didn't state "all men".

YMMV as with any situation in life. It goes without saying that many many convos were had about what we both wanted. Having those conversations won't simply stop someone lying to you with their answers, and cheating anyway. Some people claim that swinging as a lifestyle choice, stops cheating. Which is clearly untrue and only believed by those who have a more limited grasp on the complexities of human behaviour and motivation.

They say everything in life is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power. And for the prolific party hard single swinger men on the scene, there are a larger number who link some kind of "hunter" alpha male mindset to the constant pursuit of sex and winning over women outside of societal norms, and long term it can sometimes lead to an unhealthy relationship with sex, women, and themselves. For some, sanctioning something like that winthin a relationship can kill the fire of the pursuit and make the option of doing it for yourself in secret, the thrill they feel they need. It's something I literally couldn't get my head around at first, especially when there is the thrill itself of that kind of adventure when doing it with your partner. He didn't do it because he needed sex, I would have given him the green light if he had mentioned it. He did it because he needed the power.

Women cheat, men cheat, trans people cheat, and gender neutral/fluid people cheat. And some people never do, some swingers included. However as a demographic, I think you run some extra risks with long term single men on the scene, due that situations unique nature and I stand by that. Swinging is easier to access and has less risk of discovery than traditional dating and sex seeking (relatively speaking of course). I think as a long term single man, that option to you is harder to let go of if you have a propensity to that kind of mindset, I feel for the single vanilla women that meet swinger single men that behave like this as they will never even know. The only reason I found out was because I know where to look and what to look for when things didn't add up. I wouldn't have had a chance if the swinging scene wasn't even in my comprehension.

Could easily be the same for single women here! Maybe someone has their own story as we have had a few of cheating swinger men here so far. Personally I find cheating abhorrent in any circumstaces so am pleased to distance myself from that lifestyle choice.

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS
over a year ago

North west

Ah, should have known someone would get "not all men" about this somewhere. I clearly didn't state "all men". "

It wasn't just your comment I was replying to , you just had the catchy party hard quote that I reused.

Though you did say you couldn't ever trust the integrity of single fab male swingers to form a proper relationship , , or something along those lines and I think thats one of the bits that made me go awwwww eh.

I actually felt sad for you having to experience that if I'm honest , as like you I don't cheat and never have and the fella you invested your heart in turned out to be a lying cheating prick ,which considering the options given him ,your comments on him are correct.

Sex being about the power thing , sort of makes me do another awwww eh.

Yes I get the power thing in certain sexual contacts but most

of the time with a partner I loved , pleasure ,enjoyment , fun and some good fucking felt more like what we were doing , not some power struggle.

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again.

Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single.

Sorry that happened to you hun, I never knew. That sounds like a very controlling narcissistic personality on his part, seems like there are many sides to a coin, but the basis of any relationship should be honesty and trust. You'd hope that a guy like him would have appreciated your openness and willingness to explore swinging as a couple. Sometimes i just don't understand peoples thought process

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play.

That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?

Make that ‘double penetration’ and I’m in! "
VDP and I'm in too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love something from here to develop into a relationship it would just make life so much easier than having to hide certain parts of myself from a SO but I really don't see it happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great idea to use the forums or a tick box.

I have it clear on my profile that I’m looking for 1 guy to have a swinging relationship with, so far I’ve had positive messages from guys saying they like my honesty. Haven’t met anyone to fill the part but I’m having fun trying them out for size!

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

My casual meet a year ago has turned into much more. Not expected and not what I was looking for but it’s flippin fabulous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a casual meet unexpectedly turn into something much more, was amazing at the time but never again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Great idea to use the forums or a tick box.

I wish I could do that! Have reached a point where I was feeling fuckable but not girlfriend material (actually had someone tell me that once) so the sexcapades were leaving me feeling hollow and sad, hence not having indulged since June.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great idea to use the forums or a tick box.

Have you tried going to socials and clubs? I think that the wider variety of friends I have the more chance of being introduced to my dream guy!

You’ve got to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince x

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Exactly what I seek. My job as a dominatrix freaks most vanilla people out (or they just want to sample my skills

) as does my personal sexuality.

Feel I'm doomed to random shags and casual bonking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantastic idea.

Although can't you just ask people if that's what they'd fancy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would prefer the same. But would only share my partner with another woman.

Yes I'm aware I'll get lynched but that's my preference.

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

Although I'm nowhere near perfect I find myself particularly annoyed by so called swingers who are deceptive and cheat on their partners. Does the thrill of cheating really outweigh the benefits of finding a filthy minded companion that gets you and accepts you warts and all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would prefer the same. But would only share my partner with another woman.

Yes I'm aware I'll get lynched but that's my preference. "

Sign me up. Love the lady loving.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Great idea to use the forums or a tick box.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"My casual meet a year ago has turned into much more. Not expected and not what I was looking for but it’s flippin fabulous x"

Ditto

Just random how when in was looking it suddenly happened

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By *ostEchoWoman
over a year ago

London

"Although I'm nowhere near perfect I find myself particularly annoyed by so called swingers who are deceptive and cheat on their partners. Does the thrill of cheating really outweigh the benefits of finding a filthy minded companion that gets you and accepts you warts and all?"

For some, that answer is absolutely yes, every single time. I almost couldn't believe what I found out.

I do feel heartened by some very happy couples that swing together and have done long term. I'm wondering if the key here is meeting each other outside of the scene first though. I would still be concerned by unhealthy habits and views on sex/women/ego that have been adopted by long term singles (men mainly but possibly also some women) on the scene. I think it also comes down to massively unhealthy self confidence problems. Meeting someone outside of it might mean a better mindset toward relationships overall?

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Awww eh cmon now

Not all guys are cheaters/narcissistic /players /generally trying to fuck the world behind your back.

Women do it , trans do it , men do it , but it's going to be hard to even contemplate a relationship if you're already convinced they're cheating bastards.

Not fuckin likely going on history to date

but if she appeared out of the blue. We'd have to discuss about our feelings and the "lifestyle" and how It would all be handled.

Then if she turned out to be a Alpha party hard duplicitous bitch , I'd have to deal , sob at sad songs on the radio an eventually take the next person as they come.

I'd love to find a female partner in crime too. Chances are slim to anorexic, but it would nice. I'd definitely be interested Ina dating section.

AFAB - all fellas aren't bastards

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

sorry if I make my post about me but I honestly struggle atm (I do suck at it) finding out of someone wants more than meets... find it very difficult to know if we just get on as fb, fwb, or if more is on the cards

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By *has like usMan
over a year ago

east kilbride

I would love to meet a lady from here with a view to a relationship, both singing from the same hymn sheet is a damn good start.

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By *weet Delight2016Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere nice

Ditto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking to meet a like minded naturist swinging lady for long term loving relationship with plenty of mischief thrown in.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"My casual meet a year ago has turned into much more. Not expected and not what I was looking for but it’s flippin fabulous x

Ditto

Just random how when in was looking it suddenly happened

Bugger...bloody blackberry tiny screen....meant to say when I wasn't looking is just suddenly happened...

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By *ierre1Man
over a year ago

Hinckley

I am looking for something long term and this seem# the best place to find a likeminded lady.

I’m open to being cuckolded to if that’s your thing. Please message me and I will return my photos. X

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By *nton Von RandomnessMan
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Wow, I was having the very same conversation with swinging friends last weekend...interesting read and some very valid points from all sides...intriguing.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again.

Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single.

I can relate to so much of this! Got cajoled into a relationship just so I would stop meeting people whilst the whole time he did whatever the fuck he pleased! Dunno why I still want a relationship with a swinger tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again.

Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single.

Because you're a hopeless pervy romantic..?

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

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Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single.

Because you're a hopeless pervy romantic..?

and I'm sure there must be SOME nice guys out there

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again.

Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single.

Because you're a hopeless pervy romantic..?

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