FabSwingers.com forum: serious question not rant

By *ussiebloke40 OP Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

Yes I am new to site but not new to scene. I am not ranting but asking serious question as I have not come across this before.

Why do peeps ask for single men in adverts but have us blocked before we even try to answer?

why read a message but not reply, delete, or block, but instead readvertise a meet.

If my message is not deleted, am I being held on a backburner in hope of a better offer?

I realise i not everyones cup of tea, and no-one can expect a reply everytime, but this seems to take the piss a bit

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Yes I am new to site but not new to scene. I am not ranting but asking serious question as I have not come across this before.

Why do peeps ask for single men in adverts but have us blocked before we even try to answer?

why read a message but not reply, delete, or block, but instead readvertise a meet.

If my message is not deleted, am I being held on a backburner in hope of a better offer?

I realise i not everyones cup of tea, and no-one can expect a reply everytime, but this seems to take the piss a bit"

let me answer the last bit first... if they don't answer they don't answer and they don't have to give you a reason..

If people aren't mature enough to take any non-answer as a no, then I do wonder why you would get involved in an activity where you are only going to get pent up at any sign of a rejection.....

as to single guys and blocking.. that way they can do the choosing without the hassle of getting loads of mail for every chancer under the sun

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By *ussiebloke40 OP Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

As i said

I am not having a rant, i fully understand peeps dont always reply, I am not looking for reasons as to why not, there are thousands. I dont get pissed with no reply, what i dont understand is my three questions.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"As i said

well wouldn't it be easier in concentrate on the things you can control... rather than go on about the things you can't....

in the end are the answer really going to help you... or is working on yourself going to help you get further

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By *ussiebloke40 OP Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

Lol I been working on myself so bloody long now, i forgot where i started from. Still doesn't seem to do me much good.

lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Lol I been working on myself so bloody long now, i forgot where i started from. Still doesn't seem to do me much good.

lol"

Sorry hun but its not all sex on tap here. You have to be what people want, when and where they want it. You may be perfect for me but you are too far away. You may be too young/old/white for some people. Just keep messaging, try and get to a social or club, and you never know what may happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do peeps ask for single men in adverts but have us blocked before we even try to answer?

because they are showing on their profile what they are looking for and are into, they might advertise for single men but like to pick and choose who they have. they advertise a meet and people who they are already in contact with or on friends list apply as these would not be blocked but everyone else would be

why read a message but not reply, delete, or block, but instead readvertise a meet.

because you wernt what they were looking for maybe, people can advertise a meet and not want to meet anyone that applied, that being the case then why wouldnt they re-advertise

If my message is not deleted, am I being held on a backburner in hope of a better offer?

no i would think they would contact you if you were on the backburner to find out more about you incase they would meet, rather than just save up peoples messages to pick someone, most people want to at least ask them one or two things before considering them as a potential meet, people dont have to action any of their messages, people might not delete them, where others delete as soon as they are done with them.

theres your 3 questions answered, shouldnt be any confusement now. fact is meet requests arnt lotterys where someone has to get picked. plenty of women and couples put up meet requests and they decide not to go ahead dispite interest. its just the way it goes, things come up or they might just change their mind and not fancy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do peeps ask for single men in adverts but have us blocked before we even try to answer?

why read a message but not reply, delete, or block, but instead readvertise a meet.

If my message is not deleted, am I being held on a backburner in hope of a better offer?

People may have enough single men in their friends list so are not wanting further correspondence so therefore they have reset their filters.

If they have readvertised a meet the replies they have previously received are not what they are looking for.

Some people don't delete their messages at all. Therefore no you are probably not being kept on the backburner. Accept its a no if you haven't had a message

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By *ussiebloke40 OP Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

ah, thankyou Stockton. Confusion is gone and curiosity satisfied. Thanks too, to you Wyrdwoman, age and physical limits I understand, distance is not so much of a problem as time and funds, and no i dont expect sex on tap (but its still ok to dream isnt it)

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By *uicyJoWoman
over a year ago

northampton

This is just from my point of view, and having a partner who swings as well I hear the same frustrations from him...but I have found that there are a lot of guys on here who will just blanket text a load of women just hoping one will reply - and they take no notice of if you are someone they would like to meet. For me being a big girl I have made the mistake of meeting men in the past who did not have anything in their profile about liking the fuller framed lady and this was more than apparent when we met...in other words they only met me because I replied to them. As you can imagine it wasn't a good experience for either of us. And if I reply to say thanks but no thanks I have had replies telling me "your loss and a gal like you should be grateful for the reply".

So until the minority of not so nice guys leave sites like this, the rest of you men unfortunatly will have to put up with this. And I know, its not fair.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"ah, thankyou Stockton. Confusion is gone and curiosity satisfied. Thanks too, to you Wyrdwoman, age and physical limits I understand, distance is not so much of a problem as time and funds, and no i dont expect sex on tap (but its still ok to dream isnt it)

At least you're honest.

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By *ussiebloke40 OP Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

@_uicyjo

no not particularly fair but understandable, as so often happens it appears the few spoil things for the man, but that is life

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

"Yes I am new to site but not new to scene. I am not ranting but asking serious question as I have not come across this before.

Why do peeps ask for single men in adverts but have us blocked before we even try to answer?

why read a message but not reply, delete, or block, but instead readvertise a meet.

If my message is not deleted, am I being held on a backburner in hope of a better offer?

I realise i not everyones cup of tea, and no-one can expect a reply everytime, but this seems to take the piss a bit"

i can only say if people are doing that they are very rude and just wasters lookin attention dont take them under ur notice, if u have read their profile and complied with woot they say they want and block u then just think urself lucky they didnt arrange to meet and just not show, we would some times block people when it is obvious they didnt read our profile ie way under our age over our age and worse of all dont accom, but we would usually give a reply to guys that put an effortinto message if not and didnt tick boxes we no longer waste our time as we ususlly get a rude reply, but to each their own xx

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Cant really add to the great answers u got..but i know from our experience that when i get too busy the easiest thing is to set the filters to no single males. It cuts post from 20 + a day to 2 or 3.

It doesnt change the fact we love mmf ,and meet singles, just means real life is getting in the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try not to take it personally also some more pics on profile may get you more interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen this question get asked alot,and it's a no win question,cause soon as somebody posts it they get jumped on by loads of ppl,especially men,saying why should they,and stop moaning basically,there is 2 ways to look at it I see,if somebody does fit the profile and writes a decent mail,and takes there time,why not say no thanks back,ok nobody should answer do you fancy a fuck or I want to fuck you,but I think a good mail to someone does deserve a reply,I know it's hard for couples and ladies on here getting loads of mail and some guys do spoil it,I'm

Just saying there is 2 ways to look at it

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