FabSwingers.com forum: What attracts women to men on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been on this site a few weeks and it feels a bit hard to start a conversation with someone, especially if you go in the chat room and type as slow as I do (;-)

So what advice would you give to help guys like me make friends with women on this site?

What do men like me need to do more of?

What do we need to do less of?

We could set this up as an experiment and report back what worked and what did not (;-)

All good fun!!

Ray

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

make me laugh, make me think, make me wet.

Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, the wanna fuck messages turn me right off, but thats just me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's a wanna fuck message/ a guy just writes a blunt message without askign your name or any 'getting to know you questions?'

I like jemmimapuddleduck's advice but not sure how to do it (;-)

ray x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"What's a wanna fuck message/ a guy just writes a blunt message without askign your name or any 'getting to know you questions?'

I like jemmimapuddleduck's advice but not sure how to do it (;-)

ray x"

A wanna fuck message is a message saying want to fuck...yes they exist and they are part of the reason single men get stick.

And ty...i cant tell u how to do it, be yourself, if chat is too fast, use the forum, remember if you make someone smile then they will leave with a positive impression of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave it out chum, they are women. Ignore everything they say and watch for the "death before dishonour" battle lights come up in their eyes.

Try, Hurt puppy eyes and your cock's too big for most women so you feel self conscious.

No they are not going to know the difference, men have been telling them that it is six inchs for years

F*** the experiment, lets tease

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By *lack_BoltMan
over a year ago

oxford

I'm saddened and amazed by the number of men who honestly think this is the way to make first contact. My other half got so fed up of all the "I want to fuck you", "love to fuck you", "like pussy", "do you like this" accompanied by a picture of his cock. No attempt at a conversation, or dialogue. And then they wonder why women get so pissed off with them.

So now I do most of the initial contact, not only for myself, but also on our couples profile. It helps bait but we still get the occasional one liner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

our profile is great 4wks isnt long on here for a guy to wait to get first meet. as a woman we have our pick of lots of guys and are picky. its not personal just how it is on here.

i go for guys who send more than a one line opening message. make me smile with humour in first message is a good start.

have fun on here you will get that first meet im sure. i would reply to a message you sent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the other ladies have said 80 % of the messages I receive are the "wanna fuck". These are straight deletes, of the ones that I actually read, I'm looking for something in the message that tells me they have read my profile, then hopefully something that teases me a little bringing that twitch between my legs and smile to my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"our profile is great 4wks isnt long on here for a guy to wait to get first meet. as a woman we have our pick of lots of guys and are picky. its not personal just how it is on here.

i go for guys who send more than a one line opening message. make me smile with humour in first message is a good start.

have fun on here you will get that first meet im sure. i would reply to a message you sent."

...and I wouldn't reply to a message from you, so it's a pointless task asking for opinions like this as one size doesn't fit all.

There is a lecturing quality to your profile which gives the impression you're married and don't want people to dismiss you because of it. Quelle surprise you can't accommodate and I never met men that couldn't no matter what the excuse was...hence it would be a "no" from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recommend coming to the chatroom more often.... you will get yourself known eventually. Don't worry about typing slowly.... a lot of men do.

Also, you might want to think about the ages of women you would like to meet.... an age range of only 6 years cuts down your prospects significantly.

See you in the chatroom!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well thank you to you all.

It seems to me the way to meet people is to pretend you are really with them and chat in the same way you would if you met in a pub or somewhere.

Thank you to you all for taking the time to give some tips

Best wishes

Ray

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey you want to fuck? lol

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By *rica77Couple
over a year ago

Norwich

Ensure your message is correctly written and forget about the crude "Hey hun wanna fuck " messages....straight to the bin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont complain in the forums when things dont go your way!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"make me laugh, make me think, make me wet.

Simples

Jem is there anything that doesnt make you wet??

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i (TAMMIE) get messages from a guy i like to chat about everyday things first i like to be able to hold a conversation with the guy that want to fuck me so wanna fuck is not the right way to go about it just send me a message saying hi and maybe a little about yourself and i hate copy and paste messages i like personal messages. and i would like a face pic yeah you might want to fuck me but i want to see if your my type i don't have sex with men to get my numbers up i have to find him attractive and be able to chat about lots of subjects. so the best advice i can give is just be yourself say hi tell us a little about yourself and send a recent face pic dont think you can go wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What a terrific message. I see exactly what you are getting at.

It's all about meeting people through the internet isn't it? See if we were in a face to face all the things you ask for would be part of that. But on this site you get to hear what a wonderful person someone is but you've only got their word for it.

Thanks!!!

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By *heekyladyCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Don't forget the 'hi, did you have a good weekend' type of message.... really not a particularly good way of introducing someone to a prospective meet ... these get deleted straight away from me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi Cheeklady,

I could see myself saying something daft like that (;-)

You see someone you fancy but there is no eye contact or other signs. So you put your bloke head on and think "What can I say that will make me sound real cool and attractive?" and what does a bloke head come up with? "Hi, just wondering if you had a terrific weekend" (;-)

Men are doomed to failure with the internet (;-)

Wonderful!

Ray

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

"make me laugh, make me think, make me wet.

Tickling stick, rubic cube and bucket of water. A perfect date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont be a puppet on a string

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Have a winning smile and be a wow on the dance floor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of things attract but genuine whit, politeness and a way with words always helps. The worst thing is someone trying too hard as it just seems so false.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of things attract but genuine whit, politeness and a way with words always helps. The worst thing is someone trying too hard as it just seems so false."

I whole heartedly agree with this post 100%, please don't try too hard.

Have to say I took a sneaky peep at your profile KPLP and wow what an amazing profile, I would do anything to meet you guys, anything, you name it.

anyway Sexyray, as stated don't try too hard.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Humour, big cock, small cock, medium cock, shaved balls, hairy balls, money, gifts, prepared to go bareback, never to go bareback,great profile, 3 word profiles, artistic pics, torso pics, bum pics... to name but a few.

oops... and pics of the sky remote control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Humour, big cock, small cock, medium cock, shaved balls, hairy balls, money, gifts, prepared to go bareback, never to go bareback,great profile, 3 word profiles, artistic pics, torso pics, bum pics... to name but a few.

oops... and pics of the sky remote control."

also must be able to lick pussy for hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

make me smile and laugh and make me go all weak at the knees with a face pic and im sold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on here for a while now and have met a couple of nice women although its true it can be hard work but keep at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who is very clean and tidy, and kind and gentle.

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