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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve been speaking to some friends on here and also just into the lifestyle about a “Master & Sub” role

I’m not looking for the BDSM side but more just being someone’s master and them being under my control and jurisdiction.

Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try Fetlife, though I doubt you'll find many that just want to be controlled.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Without the BDSM/punishment....its a tough ask.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Go to Fetlife.

There are lots of forums for all permutations of dom/me & sub.

It's not all Bondage, Discipline, Sadism & Masochism.

Though your desire to control probably falls within Discipline.

It's also a good place to learn more about the lifestyle.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been speaking to some friends on here and also just into the lifestyle about a “Master & Sub” role

I’m not looking for the BDSM side but more just being someone’s master and them being under my control and jurisdiction.

Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction "

I'm sorry but did I just read you correctly?

"I’m not looking for the BDSM side but more just being someone’s master and them being under my control and jurisdiction"

I think you need to re evaluate your knowledge of what bdsm is really about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Without the BDSM/punishment....its a tough ask. "

This

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Intrigued to understand better what you mean by "control and jurisdiction" OP - especially as your profile gives no indication of any interest of that sort?

Whilst it's possible to be assertive or even dominant in the bedroom without getting into the BDSM side of things, I'm not sure that's quite what you mean. So perhaps if you could clarify further better advice could be given.

One thing's for sure though - please make sure you know exactly what you are looking for, and what it means, if considering any kind of D/s relationship - there's never such a thing as too much knowledge when it comes to that.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction "

Your post appears to show little understanding of a sub/dom relationship.

Would you post on here asking for help to find a girlfriend?

A submissive is a partner, not a disposable sex toy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction

Your post appears to show little understanding of a sub/dom relationship.

Would you post on here asking for help to find a girlfriend?

A submissive is a partner, not a disposable sex toy."

Yeah, but he's seen 50 shades and got himself some pink fluffy handcuffs

He's good to go

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton


"Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction

Your post appears to show little understanding of a sub/dom relationship.

Would you post on here asking for help to find a girlfriend?

A submissive is a partner, not a disposable sex toy.

Yeah, but he's seen 50 shades and got himself some pink fluffy handcuffs

He's good to go"

Ouch.....

That is a verbal whip crack if ever there was...

I like it though.

Harsh....

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction

Your post appears to show little understanding of a sub/dom relationship.

Would you post on here asking for help to find a girlfriend?

A submissive is a partner, not a disposable sex toy.

Yeah, but he's seen 50 shades and got himself some pink fluffy handcuffs

He's good to go"

I like fluffy handcuffs

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction

Your post appears to show little understanding of a sub/dom relationship.

Would you post on here asking for help to find a girlfriend?

A submissive is a partner, not a disposable sex toy.

Yeah, but he's seen 50 shades and got himself some pink fluffy handcuffs

He's good to go

I like fluffy handcuffs "

I prefer rope. Or a mans own strength

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like you just want someone to do as they are told

maybe you have issues in past of inadequacy

the dom/sub role is about a connection or chemistry between 2 people it requires trust and usually the couple have a very strong connection

in my experience its like all good relationships it grows in strength with desires and boundaries pushed

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"I’ve been speaking to some friends on here and also just into the lifestyle about a “Master & Sub” role

I’m not looking for the BDSM side but more just being someone’s master and them being under my control and jurisdiction.

Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction "

Long I've met you at abfab. I'd suggest you attend a few Heathrow Dungeon zones and chat to people there and see what goes on. As others have said you won't get a M/s relationship without other elements of BDSM - control includes head play and jurisdiction includes discipline. Women won't be subservient just because you want that. It's a deep hole and Master is well travelled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction

Your post appears to show little understanding of a sub/dom relationship.

Would you post on here asking for help to find a girlfriend?

A submissive is a partner, not a disposable sex toy.

Yeah, but he's seen 50 shades and got himself some pink fluffy handcuffs

He's good to go

Ouch.....

That is a verbal whip crack if ever there was...

I like it though.

Harsh....

"

Dunno WHAT you mean

I'm a pussycat

Ask any of my exes

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction

Your post appears to show little understanding of a sub/dom relationship.

Would you post on here asking for help to find a girlfriend?

A submissive is a partner, not a disposable sex toy.

Yeah, but he's seen 50 shades and got himself some pink fluffy handcuffs

He's good to go

I like fluffy handcuffs

I prefer rope. Or a mans own strength "

Rope, what on earth would you, ah, yes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently the navy have a couple. I doubt they'll share them but if you don't ask you won't get

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish


"Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction

Your post appears to show little understanding of a sub/dom relationship.

Would you post on here asking for help to find a girlfriend?

A submissive is a partner, not a disposable sex toy.

Yeah, but he's seen 50 shades and got himself some pink fluffy handcuffs

He's good to go"

This!!

So many guys like the idea of being Dom so they can direct there own porn scenes

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By *i-DottyWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"I’ve been speaking to some friends on here and also just into the lifestyle about a “Master & Sub” role

I’m not looking for the BDSM side but more just being someone’s master and them being under my control and jurisdiction.

Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction "

Otherwise known as Domestic Abuse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been speaking to some friends on here and also just into the lifestyle about a “Master & Sub” role

I’m not looking for the BDSM side but more just being someone’s master and them being under my control and jurisdiction.

Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction

Otherwise known as Domestic Abuse! "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anyone that could help me find a Sub or lead me in the right direction

Your post appears to show little understanding of a sub/dom relationship.

Would you post on here asking for help to find a girlfriend?

A submissive is a partner, not a disposable sex toy.

Yeah, but he's seen 50 shades and got himself some pink fluffy handcuffs

He's good to go

This!!

So many guys like the idea of being Dom so they can direct there own porn scenes

"

Yup

There's alot of it about

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Otherwise known as Domestic Abuse! "

And all sex is r@pe?

A D/s relationship should be about trust and consent.

It's not necessarily about sex, sometimes it's drinking a cup of tea you don't want, because you had to give your sub a task.

There is a huge responsibility in being the one in control.

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