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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Responded to a profile from a local member who wanted an imaginitive reply so did a good one in verse only to find it has been not even been considered and has been deleted! Am new to all this but struggling to understand why some people do this without even taking the time to find out more about you!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

It happens mate, you need to accept it might and move onto the next one.

Try joining in the forums/ chat. get yourself to a social etc and maybe elaborate on your profile and you may touch lucky with getting an answer.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Responded to a profile from a local member who wanted an imaginitive reply so did a good one in verse only to find it has been not even been considered and has been deleted! Am new to all this but struggling to understand why some people do this without even taking the time to find out more about you! "

Did you forget to send 4 cock shots with your message?

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"

Responded to a profile from a local member who wanted an imaginitive reply so did a good one in verse only to find it has been not even been considered and has been deleted! Am new to all this but struggling to understand why some people do this without even taking the time to find out more about you! "

Erm...cos they didnt want too...no one is obliged to fuck you.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Maybe she just didnt fancy you?

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Maybe she just didnt fancy you? "

Didnt u get the memo...attraction is irrelevant once u join a swinging site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Responded to a profile from a local member who wanted an imaginitive reply so did a good one in verse only to find it has been not even been considered and has been deleted! Am new to all this but struggling to understand why some people do this without even taking the time to find out more about you! "

Firstly, if you have come back to find it deleted it doesn't necessarily mean it wasn't read. She could have read it and deleted it and it would still say the same thing.

Secondly, you might find if women get a lot of mail then they could have any number of ways of quickly filtering it down to a manageable level. If you were them, what would be the first thing you'd do? Delete all the ones that have silhouettes as avatars perhaps? Or maybe do it by age or location?

It could be nothing to do with too much mail, she might just not be meeting or chatting to anyone new at that time. There could be any number of reasons, take your pick. Maybe she did try and "find out more about you", looked at your profile and saw one sentence and realised she couldn't!

As Rugby said, onto the next, but you could really do with working on your 'advert' a bit first!

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay


"

Responded to a profile from a local member who wanted an imaginitive reply so did a good one in verse only to find it has been not even been considered and has been deleted! Am new to all this but struggling to understand why some people do this without even taking the time to find out more about you! "

You think that's uncommon?

I read a profile that says 'no one liners' so I write three paragraphs, and I don't even get a 'thanks for your creative reply, but not interested'

Just deleted, my passion, my mind, my intelligence wasted on a common denominator of society, believing they wanted an intelligent and sensual person to approach them.

Anyway I found a solution to the problem so it's not wasteful of my time any more. Took me a while to work out, but I did!

And for the record, for a time I had access to another account. I would post a nice articulate and well written introduction with my account and with the other a simple 'Love ya profile, wanna meet this friday night'

Guess which one got the replies!

Oh did I give the punch line away already?

xox

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay


"Maybe she just didnt fancy you?

Didnt u get the memo...attraction is irrelevant once u join a swinging site! "

Yeah people forget this!

Attraction is your partner, soulmate and who you go home and wake up with each morning.

Swingers are just additional players to the sport side. You don't have to be attracted to have a good time, you just need someone who's damn good and not a jack hammer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly dont care what others think i have to say but, the promotion of uppity,ignorant and uncaring profiles, especially those that request YOUR details and just delete the messages without replying, does MY fucking nut in too.

I'm the last person to moan as i love the friends and meets ive had/have/yet to have- but i dont think we can always rush to the defence of a profile asking for particulars who simply delete the said message.

sorry i just dont think some deserve to be treated like that, of course i dont think its in any interest to mail them back about it especially not begging.

and i hate catty fucking replies to these subjects, it promotes nothing good or postive about the subject.

Good luck Poster. i think ur post was actually quite mature and didnt sound angry pathetic or needy

paddy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice guys - Will take the sensible ones on board! We all need a chance in life so it's a shame when some people are unwilling to give you even that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a award thing messages

i read most messages when i am sent them unless they are "hi" or "how u" which they do not get replied to

but if the message was well constructed and well thought out and something in the message was mentioned about the profile and had a photo attached then yes i would reply, even if it was a no

dont feel to down on it all, we all get it

have fun x

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not always respond to messages, especially from those who clearly have not bothered to read my profile, and send me a "fancy a shag" kind of message with a cock pic attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that you've had a bad experience, OP, but I concur that spending some time expanding your profile is likely to be time well spent x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the main reason why I don't message, its pretty soul destroying I guess, to compose a message after reading through the profile, only to be deleted without a "by-your-leave".

I have rationalised that couples and women get loads of messages, so I will wait, patience is a virtue and all that. I dont mind people winking me, this indicates interest and then I read the profile and write ahort (1 paragraph) message, thanking them for the wink and then asking them some questions regarding their profile.

I know its not the best method, but for me it works. Ok I dont have a meet every night, but thats ok, I get to chat to people that want to chat with me and hopefully meet. To the OP its up to you my friend, I cant advise you on "first contact" (lol), but don't stress about it, relax and dont jump on everyone that views your profile and you will be ok, I am sure

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"

Responded to a profile from a local member who wanted an imaginitive reply so did a good one in verse only to find it has been not even been considered and has been deleted! Am new to all this but struggling to understand why some people do this without even taking the time to find out more about you! "

You obviously have a good imagination to be writing messages in verse,use that imagination in your profile so that everyone that looks at it can see it

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast


"I honestly dont care what others think i have to say but, the promotion of uppity,ignorant and uncaring profiles, especially those that request YOUR details and just delete the messages without replying, does MY fucking nut in too.

I'm the last person to moan as i love the friends and meets ive had/have/yet to have- but i dont think we can always rush to the defence of a profile asking for particulars who simply delete the said message.

sorry i just dont think some deserve to be treated like that, of course i dont think its in any interest to mail them back about it especially not begging.

and i hate catty fucking replies to these subjects, it promotes nothing good or postive about the subject.

Good luck Poster. i think ur post was actually quite mature and didnt sound angry pathetic or needy

paddy"
Well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We delete or ignore silhouettes and photo-less profiles and know many others do the same.

That could be the reason, no matter how good your message was "a picture paints a thousand words".

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*think a pic was on lol- Idve pointed that out to be honest haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP, I'd delete your messages without reading too. When I was meeting I always looked at the profile before the message. As my profile was detailed and specific I expected to see the same.

We are tit deep in single men with detailed profiles...why waste time pulling teeth with profiles like yours? You need to make an effort if you want to be in with a chance...it's down to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry OP, I'd delete your messages without reading too. When I was meeting I always looked at the profile before the message. As my profile was detailed and specific I expected to see the same.

We are tit deep in single men with detailed profiles...why waste time pulling teeth with profiles like yours? You need to make an effort if you want to be in with a chance...it's down to you! "

"tit deep"... I like it lol!

I agree with Sassy. This is an 'add-on' bit of fun to our busy lives (talking about me and hubby here). We seriously haven't got time to try and extract a feel for someone with a weak profile that tells us diddly squat about the person behind it. There are thousands of detailed profiles on here that are interesting and give us an idea about the person/people we are considering meeting, ultimately for 'fun'.

Do yourself a huge favour and update your advert/profile.... you'll hopefully notice a rewarding difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is obliged to fuck anyone but manners cost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was me you'd sent a message to, then I would most likely have deleted it also. Your profile is very limited, so unless your reply was a really good one, that included pictures in which I felt I would be attracted to you, then I would delete and move on as I would have very little on which to base what kind of a person you are, and if I'd be attracted to you (no matter how long your first email)

I get a bit overwhelmed on this site with messages the minute I log on, I can't keep up with who's who. If I took the time to say 'thanks but no thanks' to every single message, then I'd be here all day and wouldn't get any swinging done. It's not to say I don't try to do so, it's just that inevitably with being polite, you then get stuck in a further unwanted email exchange with the 'are you sure you're sure? I'm really good at oral..' etc etc.

Sometimes people write me a really long reply as I've asked for in my profile, and it just does nothing for me, some go into great detail about how much oral they'll give me, which just isn't something I'm in to, some talk about how they want me to dominate them which again, I'm not in to, etc etc and some just write a boring waffle.

Some people are super polite and have the time to reply, and others like me, don't.

When the girl/couple for you comes along, they won't be deleting no matter what you write

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

I'm overnighting in Bolton next week, so changed my status and postcode. Came home from work today to 19 messages. Of those, only one was in the age range i'd specified, had included a pic as requested and didn't write one line. If you don't fit the criteria, really don't expect a reply.

I deleted them all without a second thought. It's 8.30pm, I just got in form work and don't have time to reply to 18 people who couldn't be assed to read my profile (or did and ignored it anyway)

Sorry if that sounds harsh....

*Her*

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"No one is obliged to fuck anyone but manners cost nothing."

Who has been rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In defence of 'the woman', I try to relpy with a polite, 'thanks but no thanks', but get the needy, 'why don't you fancy me/ am I ugly' crap, far too often!

Today I sent one back saying, 'do you want honesty or a polite lie?' to which he said honesty- some people will not get the hint!

So I delete and block- again!

My point- both sexes mess people around!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Oh I love my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm overnighting in Bolton next week, so changed my status and postcode. Came home from work today to 19 messages. Of those, only one was in the age range i'd specified, had included a pic as requested and didn't write one line. If you don't fit the criteria, really don't expect a reply.

I deleted them all without a second thought. It's 8.30pm, I just got in form work and don't have time to reply to 18 people who couldn't be assed to read my profile (or did and ignored it anyway)

Sorry if that sounds harsh....

*Her*"

Not harsh... honest and fair more like.

Why be respectful (reply) to someone that has been disrespectful (ignored your profile text)?

We are the same (helps shortlisting tbh lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one is obliged to fuck anyone but manners cost nothing.

Who has been rude? "

I can't see anyone being rude... just honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In defence of 'the woman', I try to relpy with a polite, 'thanks but no thanks', but get the needy, 'why don't you fancy me/ am I ugly' crap, far too often!

Today I sent one back saying, 'do you want honesty or a polite lie?' to which he said honesty- some people will not get the hint!

So I delete and block- again!

My point- both sexes mess people around!"

Second this one

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By *uttercup!Man
over a year ago

stockport

I'll match your deleted and raise you a deleted and blocked!

As ever it's the profile that states 'don't send me a copy and paste message' and 'don't send me a one liner'.......

Yeah you have every right to be pissed, it doesn't take much effort to say (or copy and paste) 'sorry, you're not my kind of guy' but that's the way it goes, maybe your recipient is overwhelmed, maybe they are a cretin or maybe they are an overwhelmed cretin.

Peace, etc.

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By *ussiebloke40Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

I once sent a message to someone whose profile i didnt match , they had winked me, naturally i looked at them, then sent message pointing out that i am a smoker, no reply. I have also answered many meet listing but only had 1 thanks but no thanks and 1 apology for not getting back to me . No replies will happen regardless of how good or bad your message is (mine is probably crap, I know my pic is) but dont take it to heart if you are not blocked its not out of spite but probably ond of the above.

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