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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So you've arranged a social meet at a local coffee shop for 10am, you arrive at 950am go in and order your drink and sit down. 10am comes and passes, how long do you then wait before giving up on the other person turning up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An hour, then I will drift away.

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

30 minutes and if I haven't heard anything would bugger off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 minutes max.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

15 minutes after agreed time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Until I'd finished my coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10mins give them a call or text.

nothing then after 5mins il be gone..

an hour?!!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if they've been in touch or not. If they've been silent I'll give them 20 mins maybe, but if they've let me know they're running late then I'd wait longer

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish

30mins I reckon.hard to say really,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Until I'd finished my coffee. "

That's what I did.

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Until I've finished my drink

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London

"Until I'd finished my coffee.

That's what I did. "

Did you have the person's number to keep in touch? Maybe give them a call.

By the way we wouldn't have stood you up, just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Until I'd finished my coffee. "

Same here

Kitten

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

"So you've arranged a social meet at a local coffee shop for 10am, you arrive at 950am go in and order your drink and sit down. 10am comes and passes, how long do you then wait before giving up on the other person turning up.

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. I'm sorry I let you down,,,, I will turn up next time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Until I'd finished my coffee.

That's what I did.

Did you have the person's number to keep in touch? Maybe give them a call.

By the way we wouldn't have stood you up, just saying."
aw thank you x

All contact had been good up to the point of be there in 5. Then nothing at all. Logged in to fab when finished my drink and he was unlos.

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By *eckandcarlCouple
over a year ago

leicester

As soon as coffee has gone so am i lol x

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"Until I'd finished my coffee.

That's what I did.

Did you have the person's number to keep in touch? Maybe give them a call.

By the way we wouldn't have stood you up, just saying. aw thank you x

All contact had been good up to the point of be there in 5. Then nothing at all. Logged in to fab when finished my drink and he was unlos.

I don't get the point of people doing that, what do they gain from it really. Losers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Discuss. I'm sorry I let you down,,,, I will turn up next time.

You could never let me down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Until I'd finished my coffee. "

This

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London

"Until I'd finished my coffee.

That's what I did.

Did you have the person's number to keep in touch? Maybe give them a call.

By the way we wouldn't have stood you up, just saying. aw thank you x

All contact had been good up to the point of be there in 5. Then nothing at all. Logged in to fab when finished my drink and he was unlos.

There could be a number of reasons for that person to stand you up.

But the thing is none of them reflect on you, this person is a timewaster, nothing else, don't let it get to you.

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By *r C Miss CCouple
over a year ago

llanelli

We would probably only Wait twenty minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"30 minutes and if I haven't heard anything would bugger off"

long enough to drink my coffee or drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s difficult I once met a sub Babygirl and she was 20 mins late. But on the plus side she asked me to punish her.

It’s difficult. I’d say once 30 mins are up, they ain’t coming.

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

"Until I'd finished my coffee.

That's what I did.

Did you have the person's number to keep in touch? Maybe give them a call.

By the way we wouldn't have stood you up, just saying. aw thank you x

All contact had been good up to the point of be there in 5. Then nothing at all. Logged in to fab when finished my drink and he was unlos.

There could be a number of reasons for that person to stand you up.

But the thing is none of them reflect on you, this person is a timewaster, nothing else, don't let it get to you.

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Until I'd finished my coffee.

That's what I did.

Did you have the person's number to keep in touch? Maybe give them a call.

By the way we wouldn't have stood you up, just saying. aw thank you x

All contact had been good up to the point of be there in 5. Then nothing at all. Logged in to fab when finished my drink and he was unlos.

There could be a number of reasons for that person to stand you up.

But the thing is none of them reflect on you, this person is a timewaster, nothing else, don't let it get to you.

It got to me but not that I am going to rant, but I was curious in other peoples timescales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they'd text to say they were going to be late due to traffic id drink my coffee slowly!Otherwise id give it ten mins after agreed time,bugger off and report them as no shows(Not that that seems to have any effect in my experience!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30 mins max then id be long gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Until my drink had gone.

Although i would most likely have arranged to meet them outside the cafe/pub anyway and then i'd only wait 5 mins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Until I'd finished my coffee.

That's what I did.

Did you have the person's number to keep in touch? Maybe give them a call.

By the way we wouldn't have stood you up, just saying. aw thank you x

All contact had been good up to the point of be there in 5. Then nothing at all. Logged in to fab when finished my drink and he was unlos.

Some people are just bloody cruel.

I would have asked for a number to stay I touch if I was meeting not just rely on fab for messages.

When I'd realised they had gone unlos I'd have bought cake

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Until I'd finished my coffee.

That's what I did.

Did you have the person's number to keep in touch? Maybe give them a call.

By the way we wouldn't have stood you up, just saying. aw thank you x

All contact had been good up to the point of be there in 5. Then nothing at all. Logged in to fab when finished my drink and he was unlos.

Some people are just bloody cruel.

I would have asked for a number to stay I touch if I was meeting not just rely on fab for messages.

When I'd realised they had gone unlos I'd have bought cake

I went and upgraded my phone instead

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Till I finish my drink so about 15mins after meet time.

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Terrible to stand anyone up but unfortunately more and more Fake / messers on here

Reminds me of an incident about a year ago .. I had arranged an MFM both myself and Mr Inked were at the hotel

The ‘extra cock’ was on contact messaging away on Kik (yes that’s when we stupidly used it) and said he was leaving , in the car , driving etc ... pulling into hotel then nothing !!!

Luckily a very nice guy that had wanted to meet us jumped in to save the day

Never know what happened to the other loser but the giy that replaced him was a happy man haha

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

20 mins max. If they have said they will be late I will add on 10 mins to their eta, after that I'm out of there

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

Discuss"

You know time is a relative thing...

And I don't mean a family fling

Like dear Einstein said

If you must be in bed

It depends how much you want to swing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Until I'd finished my coffee. "

This

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Half an hour or so to finish my coffee and chec any messages for reason for delay etc... then leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are reluctant to give their number out till they've met you and worked out if you're OK or not.

I knew there was a small cafe on the edge of a town that was roughly a half way point. She said she knew it, all was cool. I sat there for 40 minutes before leaving. On my way out of the town I noticed another cafe, same name, same graphics, same owners. I realized what had happened and went in but she'd gone. Got home to a rather shity email. Understandable. I tried to explain what had happened but never got a reply. Until 3 weeks later, she'd been back to the town for some reason and spotted the other cafe. She did email me to apologize which was nice. But I'd lost interest by then. I won't meet with anyone if they won't exchange numbers. And I'll only wait half an hour unless they contact with a good reason as to why they're running late.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"10 minutes max."

Yep , same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I would wait until my coffee has gone.Then I would walk,hunt them down like Liam neeson in taken and murder them to death with a rusty spoon...my wife thinks I may be a tad over the top though

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Unless they had been in contact to say they were running late it'd be when i finished my cuppa probably about 15-20 mins

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Personally I would wait until my coffee has gone.Then I would walk,hunt them down like Liam neeson in taken and murder them to death with a rusty spoon...my wife thinks I may be a tad over the top though

Murder them to death!

that's harsh you could choose murder or death not both surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the murdering is ok...but to death! That really is a little over the top

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"30 minutes and if I haven't heard anything would bugger off

long enough to drink my coffee or drink"

Yep, I’ll go along with this consensus.

Sorry you’ve been messed about x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Like many others we would leave once our coffee was finished.

We made the mistake once of ordering food and a man who felt it ok to turn up an hour late found us still there finishing our lunch.

Mind you we reckon he had access to a time machine that had a fault because not only was he one hour late but 15 years older.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

15 mins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drink my drink , try and make contact then that’s their loss, I do wish some people would be honest and just say, gives us decent ones a bad name , and of course the other party reluctant to trust again , makes me angry

By the way I wouldn’t leave you waiting either xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Drink my drink , try and make contact then that’s their loss, I do wish some people would be honest and just say, gives us decent ones a bad name , and of course the other party reluctant to trust again , makes me angry

By the way I wouldn’t leave you waiting either xx"

Aw thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless there some sort of communication but as other have said till my tea and biscuit are gone

People can be late but only good manners to make the other person aware of this

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

Hate this when it happens - finish my brew then off I'd go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the way I wouldn’t leave you waiting either xx

Aw thank you x"

Your welcome xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

24hours, hold on, er would that appear desperate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Murder them to death!

that's harsh you could choose murder or death not both surely

Nope only murdering to death will do..otherwise the next day I could wake up dead

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"24hours, hold on, er would that appear desperate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the murdering is ok...but to death! That really is a little over the top

Well that what my wife says too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually ask to meet outside the coffee shop, and I would only wait 10 minutes past the arranged time, unless they messaged to say they would be late. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discuss"

I'd have another coffee and maybe an empire biscuit..pointless just rushing away..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless there's contact to say running late I'd give them 5 mins just because I hate coffee so I'd be sat there twiddling my thumbs

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

"30 minutes and if I haven't heard anything would bugger off"

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Until I'd finished my hot chocolate. But not before I'd had the satisfaction of blocking the fecker first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I hadn't heard anything like a reasonable explanation to why they were late

I'd finish my coffee

Order a proper breakfast and a milkshake and see if they turned up to be my dessert

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Murder them to death!

that's harsh you could choose murder or death not both surely

Nope only murdering to death will do..otherwise the next day I could wake up dead

That's true, I hadn't thought of that.

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By *rof SalamanderMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"Until I'd finished my coffee. "

Correct answer.....maybe have a 2nd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An hour - to be fair, I’ve waited an hour for a really good male friend in a completely non-sexual context, he wasn’t answering his phone and indeed became a ‘no show’.

Had a good reason as it turned out. People can have genuine reasons for ‘no shows’.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

15 min max. My free time is precious.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think this is one where I'd have to say it depends - I personally wouldn'T be meeting until I felt a level of connection and chemistry with someone and part of that would be trust, so would hope not to be in the situation in the first place, or at least if I was that I'd be confident the person would have a good reason such as stuck in traffic and unable to call to let me know they were running late.

However if by chance it was someone I didn't know that well then they'd get till I'd finished my coffee, or no more than 30 mins.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"An hour - to be fair, I’ve waited an hour for a really good male friend in a completely non-sexual context, he wasn’t answering his phone and indeed became a ‘no show’.

Had a good reason as it turned out. People can have genuine reasons for ‘no shows’."

They can indeed but it's less common on fab than the people who get cold feet or never intended to turn up in the first place.

If I arranged to meet a good friend I'd wait ages for them, but a stranger from the net?...No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Murder them to death!

that's harsh you could choose murder or death not both surely

Nope only murdering to death will do..otherwise the next day I could wake up dead

That's true, I hadn't thought of that.

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By *iSubSlutWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

if they are running late they should let you know... so 15 mins max....

more than that, I guess they've missed out eh?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This has been great for me to know that me leaving after my coffee is what most would have done too. I guess the thought of meeting a real woman was just too much for him to bare

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"This has been great for me to know that me leaving after my coffee is what most would have done too. I guess the thought of meeting a real woman was just too much for him to bare "

Being late is rude especially on the first meet 10min early and wait round corner is what I would do and walk in shop 1min early is what I would do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Until I'd finished my coffee. "

This!

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By *iss GalitzineWoman
over a year ago

Near Bath

"Terrible to stand anyone up but unfortunately more and more Fake / messers on here

Reminds me of an incident about a year ago .. I had arranged an MFM both myself and Mr Inked were at the hotel

The ‘extra cock’ was on contact messaging away on Kik (yes that’s when we stupidly used it) and said he was leaving , in the car , driving etc ... pulling into hotel then nothing !!!

Luckily a very nice guy that had wanted to meet us jumped in to save the day

Never know what happened to the other loser but the giy that replaced him was a happy man haha

What is the issue with kix please? X

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Until I'd finished my coffee.

That's what I did.

Did you have the person's number to keep in touch? Maybe give them a call.

By the way we wouldn't have stood you up, just saying. aw thank you x

All contact had been good up to the point of be there in 5. Then nothing at all. Logged in to fab when finished my drink and he was unlos.

Some people are just bloody cruel.

I would have asked for a number to stay I touch if I was meeting not just rely on fab for messages.

When I'd realised they had gone unlos I'd have bought cake

I went and upgraded my phone instead

Sorry to hear this op.

We never know their motives for doing this.

When i had my single profile,i arranged to meet one night for a social.He pestered me for ages and then left me standing outside the pub

I messages him and he said he had changed his mind,so i told him that he could have had thw manners to tell me at least.

He too went unos,rejoined a few months later and asked for a meet!!i declined ans reminded him he had blown me out.

Enjoy your phone;)xx

Miss

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

Drink up

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"Until I'd finished my coffee.

That's what I did.

Did you have the person's number to keep in touch? Maybe give them a call.

By the way we wouldn't have stood you up, just saying. aw thank you x

All contact had been good up to the point of be there in 5. Then nothing at all. Logged in to fab when finished my drink and he was unlos.

Some people are just bloody cruel.

I would have asked for a number to stay I touch if I was meeting not just rely on fab for messages.

When I'd realised they had gone unlos I'd have bought cake

I went and upgraded my phone instead

Sorry to hear this op.

We never know their motives for doing this.

When i had my single profile,i arranged to meet one night for a social.He pestered me for ages and then left me standing outside the pub

I messages him and he said he had changed his mind,so i told him that he could have had thw manners to tell me at least.

He too went unos,rejoined a few months later and asked for a meet!!i declined ans reminded him he had blown me out.

Enjoy your phone;)xx

Miss"

I don’t understand it either swingers site looking for sex you get a offer then bottle it. Just shows you the clowns out there

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