FabSwingers.com forum: Was chatting today and something disturbed me.

By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Was told that men don’t know how to strap ba lady down hard, that they often are scared of hurting them.

What disturbed me was the are they made of glass, or is the pedestal high enough kind of thinking.

Equally, can understand why some women run rings round some men on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you say that again? It doesn’t make sense

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Are men too soft on here and the women play it.

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

Is this the general assumption that some men think women are weaker than them or maybe that they must place women in a pedestal and always handle with care? Either way, it seems to be a common opinion that a lot of people have, even some women agree with the assumptions.

When it comes to rough play, people that are into it, also have the same assumptions but are still able to partake in the play and enjoy it.

Best bet is to look for those that are into in first and foremost

Hopefully I understood the thread :O

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Is this the general assumption that some men think women are weaker than them or maybe that they must place women in a pedestal and always handle with care? Either way, it seems to be a common opinion that a lot of people have, even some women agree with the assumptions.

When it comes to rough play, people that are into it, also have the same assumptions but are still able to partake in the play and enjoy it.

Best bet is to look for those that are into in first and foremost

Hopefully I understood the thread :O "

You fully understood, didn’t want to project, so might have sounded a little fuzzy.

The comment did come from a lady, just made me think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we talking physically weaker?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a male, I’m not one for being overly delicate. When it comes to certain aspects i can be initially but that’s purely because I wouldn’t like to leave a mark in a visible spot if I don’t know their profession. But no, I don’t see women as physically inferior whatsoever.

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Holding a woman down or physical domination play for me can be right or wrong, I find no middle ground. Some men in my experience are not confident enough or unsure how far to push and that uncertainty is a turn off. Does that make them too soft? For me yes. Does that mean I play it? No, can't be fucked tbh.

I also think since 50SOG it goes too far the other way as well with some guys thinking every woman they meet wants rough sex with hair pulled and slapped around, some missing the concept of consent, not knowing or caring that all women are different or the skills to have any elegance in what they do. Some women may like that but I don't. It sounds harsh but I've experienced it a good few times.

The skilled man who gets it right with his intention and, with consent, takes her full on and she is at his mercy...now that is hot AF

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Holding a woman down or physical domination play for me can be right or wrong, I find no middle ground. Some men in my experience are not confident enough or unsure how far to push and that uncertainty is a turn off. Does that make them too soft? For me yes. Does that mean I play it? No, can't be fucked tbh.

The skilled man who gets it right with his intention and, with consent, takes her full on and she is at his mercy...now that is hot AF

Suspect porn has a lot of infiuence to this play. Type of thinking, would like this however, let’s not hurt the wife/gf.

Have to agree around the consent bit.

What’s wrong with a sexual growing man theses days.

Arse up, strapped down and a ....

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

It's finding the right balance.

On one hand Frisky is my fuck buddy/play mate and I love pushing her boundries and limits, she's had rough sex with me and others.

On the other hand, she's my wife, mother of my children, love of my life and I don't want her to be hurt...

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

This shows the importance of pre me chat. Establishing where someone is at and where they potentially want to be taken. The fact that no two women are alike means it's impossible to get it right without discussion. At least to some degree.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"This shows the importance of pre me chat. Establishing where someone is at and where they potentially want to be taken. The fact that no two women are alike means it's impossible to get it right without discussion. At least to some degree."

Spot on. I was going to say the same thing.

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