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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am trying to arrange my first meet as a fab member but as it has been mentioned many times messages seem to get ignored , although I accept this as the norm on here and just move on .

I attach my face pic and a few lines in my opening message as an intro and leave myself open to answer any questions they may have and request to see a face pic from them . For me this seems the most logical way to move things along .

I would like to know if most other members use a similar way to arrange a meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Homestly i just send an introductory hi message... Show ive read their profile and requirements... I dont start out thinking im messaging to arrange a meet. More to have a chat and find out if we get on.

From there just play it by ear as to how to progress...

Seems to be working well enough for me lol

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By *kexplorersCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Hi Jay,

It is good that you attach a face picture first of all.. that makes a huge difference

Take these factors into consideration before messaging:

1) Both have similar interest

2) Subject line includes something you have read from their profile

3) Enclose a picture which you have done already

4) You do not live a million miles away

5) Await a response and do not pester them if you do not receive one. You might just not be their 'cup of tea'.

The list can go on.. hope this helps

D&K x

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

If someone is attracted to you it wont matter exactly what you say etc.... you are either in or out. If they are not it doesnt make any difference what you say either, they dont want you.

Same as in normal life really.

Good luck.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am trying to arrange my first meet as a fab member but as it has been mentioned many times messages seem to get ignored , although I accept this as the norm on here and just move on .

I attach my face pic and a few lines in my opening message as an intro and leave myself open to answer any questions they may have and request to see a face pic from them . For me this seems the most logical way to move things along .

I would like to know if most other members use a similar way to arrange a meet . "

most messages i send when i am looking for a meet,

i would read the profile and see the photos if they are avialable.

send a nice message with something that mentions in the profile so it would prove i looked at the profile. i would attach a face photo and see where it leads

if i get a message i look at the following things

profile to see if they meet my criteria s

if the message has me thinking mmmmm and intrigue and lastly if they have attached a photo which is recent and clear

if someone has done the above and even if im not attracted i will send a reply explaining thanks but no thanks

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Homestly i just send an introductory hi message... Show ive read their profile and requirements... I dont start out thinking im messaging to arrange a meet. More to have a chat and find out if we get on.

From there just play it by ear as to how to progress...

Seems to be working well enough for me lol"

as you have a profile which can be read and its interesting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I read the full profile before I message anyone to make sure I fall in their criteria .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought u met people on your old profile goldonblack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at their profile before a reply and find that if they are too short, you can't get a sense of that person, so rarely take it further.

Yours is very short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show you have actually read their profile for instance mine says in capital letters Overnight stays only and yet I still get loads of messages everyday asking to meet me in the daytime...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe your message to people isn't all that!

Ie fails somewhere x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I look at their profile before a reply and find that if they are too short, you can't get a sense of that person, so rarely take it further.

Yours is very short."

What would you say about hidden profiles ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look at their profile before a reply and find that if they are too short, you can't get a sense of that person, so rarely take it further.

Yours is very short.

What would you say about hidden profiles ?

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depends as my profile was hidden for a reason and most of my friends know why x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMHO, there is no point in even trying to arrange a meet without establishing if there is any kind of rapport between the two parties first.

If I get a first message asking if I want to meet without so much of an introductory message first, then I would not be at all interested in meeting.

That's just the way I operate, and may not suit everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think that the person pearl many see this as one message meet and fuck

many dont do it this way and i dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely do not do one message meet and fuck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely do not do one message meet and fuck!

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i couldnt just not in my blood

i like to have some sort of connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No connection no meet not even a social one.... works for us, seems harsh but we dont take one for the team and never will....

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

I need a connection too otherwise no play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i couldnt sleep with someone i didnt like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me neither. I dont have a type as such but a sense of humour and an interesting personality go a long way to pushing the right buttons

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I am trying to arrange my first meet as a fab member but as it has been mentioned many times messages seem to get ignored , although I accept this as the norm on here and just move on .

I attach my face pic and a few lines in my opening message as an intro and leave myself open to answer any questions they may have and request to see a face pic from them . For me this seems the most logical way to move things along .

I would like to know if most other members use a similar way to arrange a meet . "

Nope, we meet peeps from chat or put up an ad, unsolicited mail is treated like junk mail thru our door.If something catches our eye and we are activly looking that day, we read it, otherwise its straight in the bin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I definitely do not do one message meet and fuck!

"

I always wait for a reply before I message again .

I find it helps in building up a rapport

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely do not do one message meet and fuck!

I always wait for a reply before I message again .

I find it helps in building up a rapport "

yes it does x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your aftershave. Hai Karate isnt a favourite on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Change your aftershave. Hai Karate isnt a favourite on here. "

can u still get that

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