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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So how do you feel about women approaching you at a club to play? It always seem to be guys that ask, but I have had few times where I cant help myself, see someone one very attractive and have perved there pics on fab before the club (I always have a look to see who's going if it's on here)

But i go in, start chatting, get all flustered, sometimes stutter and blush. But what I am asking is, do you find it more of a complement if I women approached you than a guy? I'm bi so chat up men and women. Greedy girl

Anyone got some good stories of being chatted up at a club? X

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By *andm_69Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage

We would love it people made the first move some times, not all the time tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do often x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my younger days I was frequently approached by women who made the first move. It's not unheard of now either..

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

We should be so lucky!

We get approached by single men in clubs, but have never been approached by anyone else. I guess equally we're a bit pants at it ourselves, and particularly if it's a single woman! So I guess as long as someone makes a move, but it'd be nice if it was a mix as well.

Hmm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never had a girl approach me directly. The usual scenario when I am approached is for her to nudge her hubby forward and make him ask if I wanted to join them/her.

I can live with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel very uncomfortable about making the first move at a club, and on the few occasions I have, it hasn't gone well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any ladies near me are welcome to approach me for a meet I would be extreamly grateful -LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone got a neon light? I never make any move on anyone... possibly why our club visits are always social

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

we iften reach out to people before we go to clubs, then we have someone to talk to& possibly more

we are always happy for people to come and say hi, we try to do the same as it generally makes the visits more fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel very uncomfortable about making the first move at a club, and on the few occasions I have, it hasn't gone well! "

How has it not gone well!?

Love giving a cheeky smile and see what I get in return and then have a chat, I'm a bit of a what have I got to loose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel very uncomfortable about making the first move at a club, and on the few occasions I have, it hasn't gone well!

How has it not gone well!?

Love giving a cheeky smile and see what I get in return and then have a chat, I'm a bit of a what have I got to loose. "

Well I can think of one occasion when it went well: the other times, the guy in question treated me very disrespectfully; another guy literally ran away; and most recently I was just hit by a wall of indifference. So I rarely bother now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely happens in real life let alone Fab life. Let’s not rock the boat, it could be a revelation.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Speaking from the male point of view but am sure it is the same for both genders it can be a relief sometimes if somebody else makes the first move.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How I would feel depends who does it, I'm not great at rejecting people and would just feel very awkward if I wasn't really interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem approaching a guy I like the look of at a club, introducing myself, and having a chat. It's 2017, not the 1950s, it's fine for women to make the initial approach. Sometimes a quick chat makes it clear the chemistry isn't there for one or both of us, but sometimes things end up getting very naughty!

I do online too - I will wink or message guys that take my fancy. If I don't hear back from them, it's not a problem, as we can't all be everybody's cup of tea, can we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I had more confidence approaching people in clubs. Unless they've given some indication that they're interested, I generally assume they I/we won't be their cup of tea, and wouldn't want to make anyone feel awkward.

I might need to have a word with myself about that!

V x

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By *eedsortingMan
over a year ago

Radley

Has happened a couple of times and it's great - especially as I am useless at reading any signs of interest! One would think that in these days of equality it would be happening a lot more often...

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By *eedsortingMan
over a year ago

Radley


"I wish I had more confidence approaching people in clubs. Unless they've given some indication that they're interested, I generally assume they I/we won't be their cup of tea, and wouldn't want to make anyone feel awkward.

I might need to have a word with myself about that!

V x"

Shouldn't need much of a word - gorgeous smile. I would imagine that smile would melt anyone within a 100ft radius making it a snap for you to start up a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish I had more confidence approaching people in clubs. Unless they've given some indication that they're interested, I generally assume they I/we won't be their cup of tea, and wouldn't want to make anyone feel awkward.

I might need to have a word with myself about that!

V x

Shouldn't need much of a word - gorgeous smile. I would imagine that smile would melt anyone within a 100ft radius making it a snap for you to start up a conversation.

"

What a lovely thing to say, you may have just boosted my confidence a little. Thank you.

V x

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By *eedsortingMan
over a year ago

Radley


"I wish I had more confidence approaching people in clubs. Unless they've given some indication that they're interested, I generally assume they I/we won't be their cup of tea, and wouldn't want to make anyone feel awkward.

I might need to have a word with myself about that!

V x

Shouldn't need much of a word - gorgeous smile. I would imagine that smile would melt anyone within a 100ft radius making it a snap for you to start up a conversation.

What a lovely thing to say, you may have just boosted my confidence a little. Thank you.

V x"

You are welcome. Just saying what I see. And if you feel a little more confident then that's a beautiful bonus. xx

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Wouldn't mind at all if someone made an approach in a club - as somewhat of a wallflower it's something I struggle with doing myself unless there are really obvious signs made or a chance conversation arises.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always making conversation with couples/ladies but never know how to ask if they want to have some fun

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By *eadyforachangeWoman
over a year ago

Second star to the right, and straight on till morning.

I have no problem making the first move as just think if I don't I may miss out on some nice times. Even just chatting is fun and given I visit clubs alone it would be darn boring not to chat to people I like the look of.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I would welcome it. Who wouldn't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its hot that a woman knows what she wants and has the !! To go for it!

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

At non sex parties I've had no hesitation approaching a guy flirting with him if I felt he was attractive. Same in real life if I see an attractive man I'll say hello and see if there's potential. In rare horny moments I've even passed my number to a sexy bloke I saw and let him call.

As said above it's 2017 not the 60s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is difficult for anyone, a boy or girl, a man or a woman to take the first move especially if he/she is trying newly. So it is difficult to break the ice but once broken it usually works but some can only take it forward which leads to long term relationship. People want to explore new things new experiences all new new with short term life in this fast moving world

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

Had a few girls and couples make the first move in clubs, pretty sure I'd have missed out on quite a lot of fun over the years if we'd all had to wait for me to pluck up the courage to do it.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"Anyone got a neon light? I never make any move on anyone... possibly why our club visits are always social "
don't shine it near your crotch, those lights zaps flies...

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

As Mrs M knows what she does and doesn’t like, she takes the reins and will usually start the conversation.

Within minutes I can tell if it’s a want to take it further or not.

I am happy to chat too but she has caught me off guard a few times with her choice of playmate(s) hence letting her lead.

Works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how do you feel about women approaching you at a club to play? It always seem to be guys that ask, but I have had few times where I cant help myself, see someone one very attractive and have perved there pics on fab before the club (I always have a look to see who's going if it's on here)

But i go in, start chatting, get all flustered, sometimes stutter and blush. But what I am asking is, do you find it more of a complement if I women approached you than a guy? I'm bi so chat up men and women. Greedy girl

Anyone got some good stories of being chatted up at a club? X"

Excellent thread

From our limited experience it’s not been like that, it’s always been the ladies who make the first move, usually with each other and the guys join in, that’s how it’s been so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only remember one time a woman aproached or came on to me my entire life,... I need to comprehend that now.

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By *one_Fishing83Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm not great at approaching anyone so really appreciate slightly more forward women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was actively swinging, I was always the one to approach people. I've had my fair share of knock backs, I just wish them well and hope they enjoy the rest of their evening.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

L is quite flirty and enjoys the fun of a little bit of tease and will open the conversations, however P tends to take the reigns, so to speak....

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