FabSwingers.com forum: Grrrr

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hate, hate, hate getting messages of people who haven't bothered to read your profile

Or even changed their cut and paste to note you haven't actually shown any bloody pictures !!!

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By *iandsylviaCouple
over a year ago

Ely

welcome to the club lol! We either just delete them or send a little sarcastic reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dead easy to sort that one out, just block single guys and you do the prospecting.

Think of the time you'll save having to read unsolicited emails

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had 7 this morning.... possibly in their defense they "may" have read my profile - just ignored it! then they have the nerve after a polite no thanks, to ask why.... then ask me to change my preference ?????

get real guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree happens all the time and drives me nuts. if I know its cut n paste I just delete. same if they don't read my profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dont even start with me on that one this morning.. I had someone ask me to wear a collar for him....

Its like asking someone to wear a wedding ring for you...

Grrrrrrrrr.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't reply and I do block them but its still damn annoying lol

Then you get all the posts from single men saying how 'rude' it is not to reply. Well I think it's rude not to read what people have taken the trouble to write on their profile. So there !

Pmsl

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Calm down people...its meant to be fun....

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All single men on fab are evil and should be shit!! Until you need one then suddenly were ok again lol cos couples are perfect yep never been messed around at all nope sirrry, whinge britain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All single men on fab are evil and should be shit!! Until you need one then suddenly were ok again lol cos couples are perfect yep never been messed around at all nope sirrry, whinge britain"
how did you work that 1 out then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All single men on fab are evil and should be shit!! Until you need one then suddenly were ok again lol cos couples are perfect yep never been messed around at all nope sirrry, whinge britain"

Strange how people take comments very personally - must strike a cord

I never initially meant single men- but most of the wingeing about replying seems to come from that group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which bit? As Lionel Blair would say give us a clue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which bit? As Lionel Blair would say give us a clue"
you said all single men are evil??i ask how you work that 1 out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funandgames, I never said u there was a comment block all single men!! Doesn't strike a chord as I always respect the wishes of the profile!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which bit? As Lionel Blair would say give us a clueyou said all single men are evil??i ask how you work that 1 out"

Lol was sarcasm, taking the Michael etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which bit? As Lionel Blair would say give us a clueyou said all single men are evil??i ask how you work that 1 out

Lol was sarcasm, taking the Michael etc"

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"All single men on fab are evil and should be shit!! Until you need one then suddenly were ok again lol cos couples are perfect yep never been messed around at all nope sirrry, whinge britain

Strange how people take comments very personally - must strike a cord

I never initially meant single men- but most of the wingeing about replying seems to come from that group"

is that a whinge?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not a whinge an observation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to play with single guys.. in fact I only really play with single guys..

But.. its just little things like total disrespect that do annoy me... The collar comment was to me like asking another man asking me to wear their ring.. okay it was only for that time.. but it was insulting...

cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny thing is, I have only been let down by couples on this site, all the single ladies I have met, who requested a meet.

I don't message, I get winks aplenty, and then the mails start, the "oh so excited to meet, tell me what you are going to do with my wife" mails and then, "sorry, somethings come up" and then evaporation

But I guess you couples dont want to hear that, because its the single guys that are the timewasters.......sigh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which bit? As Lionel Blair would say give us a clueyou said all single men are evil??i ask how you work that 1 out

Lol was sarcasm, taking the Michael etc"

Woohooooo I got the sarcasm...Do I get a prize???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I should mention I am not part of a couple.

I am part of the also much complained about group of married's playing alone

I also mainly only meet single men so I know there are genuine, nice guys out there whocan read and stringa coherent sentence together xxx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Here we go. As soon as someone has a legitimate gripe, a group of single men turn up saying if we weren't so mean then we wouldn't get treated so badly. I am afraid what the OP posted is true - very, VERY few single men read my profile. We can tell you know, there are little clues in the profile that tell people what we want and still, people don't read it. They see 'single woman' and click 'message'. It's rude and reflects badly on the messager. And when it happens over and over again, of course we are going to start thinking that there is a theme.

If a single woman wants to filter messages from single guys, that's her prerogative. A single guy is more than welcome to filter messages from single women. Nothing stopping you from preventing us 'whinging women' from messaging you. But I stronglt recommend people (and couples do also act the same) start reading profiles carefully and then you'll have a lot less messages going unread and deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmmm very interetsting thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funandgameswanted

You say you are sick of people not reading your profile, your profile says:

"Looking for man at least 5'10, not fat or chubby (although I am not skinny myself), white, aged 35-50, married (preferably) and naughty (definately);-)"

But your last post states that:

"I also mainly only meet single men so I know there are genuine..."

I don't want to be picky here, but maybe you should read your own profile too

I'm off to my put my bullet proof jacket on now to take the flak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here we go. As soon as someone has a legitimate gripe, a group of single men turn up saying if we weren't so mean then we wouldn't get treated so badly. I am afraid what the OP posted is true - very, VERY few single men read my profile. We can tell you know, there are little clues in the profile that tell people what we want and still, people don't read it. They see 'single woman' and click 'message'. It's rude and reflects badly on the messager. And when it happens over and over again, of course we are going to start thinking that there is a theme.

I think its too much of a generalisation to say that its only single men that do not read profiles. Seldom does my profile get read in any depth before a message comes "how big is your cock". Now I dont mind, genuinely who cares right, I can delete it, reply and say, thank you for the compliment etc etc. It really is no biggie (pardon the pun).

It would be more honest to say that a lot of "people" do not read profiles, rather than singling out one group of website users. I dont doubt that couples and single ladies get a lot of dross in their inboxes, but I have three outstanding friend request from couples that havent even said "hi" and about 9 winks from people whose profile does not match my own, ok its not an "avalanche" of unwanted attention, but it exists all the same.

Not moaning, just trying to introduce some balance...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"But I stronglt recommend people (and couples do also act the same) start reading profiles carefully and then you'll have a lot less messages going unread and deleted."

I admitted it wasn't single men only. Or did you not read to the end of my post?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's totally correct except your cut and pate stopped in the wrong place

I would rather meet married men because they understand my 'constraints' more but they are more likely to sent mails saying things like 'when can we meet ?' and 'wanna fuck ?' hence most of the men I get on with are single

Not deliberate it's just the way it works out c

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont read profiles ... Most of them say the same thing anyway lol and a lot of them are scary and shout a lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But I stronglt recommend people (and couples do also act the same) start reading profiles carefully and then you'll have a lot less messages going unread and deleted.

I admitted it wasn't single men only. Or did you not read to the end of my post?

I did, but men would never block women, you know that

To be honest this whole thread was hijacked up along , when someone said "block all single men", this immediately turned the thread from "why dont people" into "why dont single men". Its not your fault, its not my fault, its......

Anyhoo, I am just a single man, like my opinion counts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And in my OP I said people. I didn't single out anyone !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I should mention I am not part of a couple.

I am part of the also much complained about group of married's playing alone

I also mainly only meet single men so I know there are genuine, nice guys out there whocan read and stringa coherent sentence together xxx "

I aye illiterate is I? Lol I would message you as I actually fill most criteria but not all, thank apple!! The single people in fab are all scum pmsl men or women (sarcasm no gifts on offer!!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Pmsl I am on my phone and the keyboard is very little and what shows on the screen seems to be changed sometimes by demons

I can write 'properly' promise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And in my OP I said people. I didn't single out anyone !

Your thread got hijacked to be fair, but it did open up into an interesting discussion.

The bottom line for me is this, we all joined a swinging site, we all put our profiles up there, some of us have pictures, some of us have a long list of "requirements", some people will read profiles and some wont, but we all joined the site, if we dont like attention from certain quarters, block and goodbye. Its swinging, not a vocation, I think some users (and I am not talking about the OP), need to learn to take a deep breath and smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow deep pauly more like fab philosophers!! Funandgames are I sir u can write properly?? I heard it's still quills and ink in Shropshire lol, I was thinking if you need a lesson on subtleties of our fine language you may like to visit Lichfield home of dr Johnson himself , innit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow deep pauly more like fab philosophers!! Funandgames are I sir u can write properly?? I heard it's still quills and ink in Shropshire lol, I was thinking if you need a lesson on subtleties of our fine language you may like to visit Lichfield home of dr Johnson himself , innit"

You want deep? You could all be a figment of my imagination.....In essence I am not swinging but masturbating in an imaginary world of my own creation, maybe I am in a coma and there are a bunch of intern doctors laughing at the skinny dude on the gurney wanking himself into consciousness.....

I think I need a lie down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey we even have inside plumbing nowadays in Shropshire !

I'm not sure that the Lichfield dialect is better than the Shropshire one but I personally don't have a yocal accent at all - although parts of Shropshire definately do !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yawwwwwn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow pauly my head hurts thinking bout that!! I'm not from Lichfield to be honest funandgames their too posh for a yam yam like me lol, Nubian u need to get to bed earlier yawning like that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just for info since writing the OP I have had two winks and 3 friend invites - all with no messages

And 4 messages from men under my lower age limit (by quite a way) and 1 from a bloke in Scotland

Not all were single men btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just for info since writing the OP I have had two winks and 3 friend invites - all with no messages

And 4 messages from men under my lower age limit (by quite a way) and 1 from a bloke in Scotland

Not all were single men btw

Pmsl I will stop sending winks now!!!! I have had one message sayin I'm a twat lol how observant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow pauly my head hurts thinking bout that!! I'm not from Lichfield to be honest funandgames their too posh for a yam yam like me lol, Nubian u need to get to bed earlier yawning like that!"

Yes you're right mate .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont read profiles ... Most of them say the same thing anyway lol and a lot of them are scary and shout a lot!

Happy to read the first couple of paras in a profile but anything more is too tedious. And we have a rule NEVER TO READ ANYTHING SHOUTY!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

http://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

Use your filters and seek people out yourself...it saves unwanted mail.

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By *im halpertMan
over a year ago

redditch

I really dont see it as a problem we all get unwanted mail from time to time just move on its not really an issue.as for single men basing that goes on the worst behaved group I ever met at a swinging club were a group of single women xxxmrs asexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is annoying at times. There's been times when we've wondered why we have a profile in the first place.

What gets to me a bit is when we reply with "Sorry we're only looking for a fem, no men." we get a, you should of read our profile first, from the couples, even though we don't message couples, we only respond to them.

& for the single guys, we've filtered them out of messages but while in the chat room we have to repeat again & again & again that we are not interested in meeting (or anything else) with guys. We have found that though the majority of the guys on here are great...polite, funny etc, there is always a guy in the room that can't understand the word no or goes on to make up s**t about me. ie saying that I'm only saying no because Tods there, that I actually want more. Basically I get called a liar quite a bit, just because I don't want to meet up with a guy behind Tods back or that I'm lying because I've said I've had enough & that it's time for bed.

At the end of the day, as frustrating as it is, they are the minority & I'm not going to let them spoil our fun. Ignore/delete & forget about them.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"At the end of the day, as frustrating as it is, they are the minority & I'm not going to let them spoil our fun. Ignore/delete & forget about them."

Exactly. Although we moan about SOME people on here, the majority are lovely, and thats what makes this site for me. I just wish that, when people do have a quick moan, everyone would stop assuming they're moaning about them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At the end of the day, as frustrating as it is, they are the minority & I'm not going to let them spoil our fun. Ignore/delete & forget about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol + 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"welcome to the club lol! We either just delete them or send a little sarcastic reply

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