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There are quite a few people on fab who are genuinely stunning/gorgeous - but I wonder if they are as ‘popular ‘ (as in offers of dates/meets etc from people they might find attractive ) as those who might be considered as ‘approachably attractive’?
For instance - on a good day I’d consider myself to be ‘woman next door ‘ attractive and I do ridiculously well both on fab and in clubs. If I had to analyse it, I’d say it’s because I don’t have a face that frightens small children - but neither am I ‘unapproachably Beautiful’ Seems to work the same way in the real world too!
Hence, though I used to wish I was ‘gorgeous ‘ - I’m now pretty happy with being ‘averagely attractive ‘ as it seems to serve me pretty well!
Anyway - I’m waffling! What are your thoughts? Do you think, as I do, that there can me more benefits to being the ‘girl (or boy!) next door’ than there are to being a stunner?
And if you do - is that just on fab - or the real world too?
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"Hello my lovelies! Just posted on an old thread about Amanda Holden that someone dragged up - and it got me thinking (I know - and on a Sunday too! )
There are quite a few people on fab who are genuinely stunning/gorgeous - but I wonder if they are as ‘popular ‘ (as in offers of dates/meets etc from people they might find attractive ) as those who might be considered as ‘approachably attractive’?
For instance - on a good day I’d consider myself to be ‘woman next door ‘ attractive and I do ridiculously well both on fab and in clubs. If I had to analyse it, I’d say it’s because I don’t have a face that frightens small children - but neither am I ‘unapproachably Beautiful’ Seems to work the same way in the real world too!
Hence, though I used to wish I was ‘gorgeous ‘ - I’m now pretty happy with being ‘averagely attractive ‘ as it seems to serve me pretty well!
Anyway - I’m waffling! What are your thoughts? Do you think, as I do, that there can me more benefits to being the ‘girl (or boy!) next door’ than there are to being a stunner?
And if you do - is that just on fab - or the real world too?
Big hugs everyone
Peachy "I’m think I’m probably averagely attractive but it hasn't helped me much.... maybe I’m just deluded 
But seriously, girl next door attractive or super hot attractive doesn’t hugely concern me, it’s more about the person you are, if you’re a c@£t, you’re a c@£t wether you’re attractive or not!
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"Hello my lovelies! Just posted on an old thread about Amanda Holden that someone dragged up - and it got me thinking (I know - and on a Sunday too! )
There are quite a few people on fab who are genuinely stunning/gorgeous - but I wonder if they are as ‘popular ‘ (as in offers of dates/meets etc from people they might find attractive ) as those who might be considered as ‘approachably attractive’?
For instance - on a good day I’d consider myself to be ‘woman next door ‘ attractive and I do ridiculously well both on fab and in clubs. If I had to analyse it, I’d say it’s because I don’t have a face that frightens small children - but neither am I ‘unapproachably Beautiful’ Seems to work the same way in the real world too!
Hence, though I used to wish I was ‘gorgeous ‘ - I’m now pretty happy with being ‘averagely attractive ‘ as it seems to serve me pretty well!
Anyway - I’m waffling! What are your thoughts? Do you think, as I do, that there can me more benefits to being the ‘girl (or boy!) next door’ than there are to being a stunner?
And if you do - is that just on fab - or the real world too?
Big hugs everyone
Peachy
I’m think I’m probably averagely attractive but it hasn't helped me much.... maybe I’m just deluded
But seriously, girl next door attractive or super hot attractive doesn’t hugely concern me, it’s more about the person you are, if you’re a c@£t, you’re a c@£t wether you’re attractive or not!
HG
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"People tend to go for partners who are the same "attractiveness" level. So a "6" or "7" will get a lot more response imo" Yeah I guess so Not on fab - I’ve slept with some gorgeous guys - but when it comes to long term relationships the guys tended to be ‘on a par’ with me in looks! X | |||
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"I've often wondered this too. I have met some lovely people on fab but it's not a smooth ride... I've had many a conversation end after sharing a face pic, always thinking ah Well, they don't fancy me. Until recently when I new forum friend said I might be considered too 'beautiful' It's not something I've ever thought about as I don't consider myself a great beauty, but in retrospect I must admit I've not sent a message to a profile I deemed to be out of my league so maybe it is a theory...." Not seen your face so I’ve no idea but yes - I do think ‘too much beauty ‘ can be deemed unapproachable! | |||
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"First off..... Wish you where my neighbour! ???? Personally, if the lady is an absolute stunner, model type. Then yes I won't approach her as im well out of her league! That said, girls I have spoken to savvy hey dont get approached and that the real ones woild welcome a chat from ordinary guys. Fake ones with head up own arses didnt reply and walked off! " Well maybe bite the bullet and chat to the gorgeous ones next time? | |||
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"I think you have to take the approach that a " stunner" has just as much sexual need as the girl next door. We all have differing libido's and looks so it pays to be bold but respectful. For all you know a stunner may have a fetish for older. Even little old me has had that pleasure from truly beautiful women
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"Hello my lovelies! Just posted on an old thread about Amanda Holden that someone dragged up - and it got me thinking (I know - and on a Sunday too! )
There are quite a few people on fab who are genuinely stunning/gorgeous - but I wonder if they are as ‘popular ‘ (as in offers of dates/meets etc from people they might find attractive ) as those who might be considered as ‘approachably attractive’?
For instance - on a good day I’d consider myself to be ‘woman next door ‘ attractive and I do ridiculously well both on fab and in clubs. If I had to analyse it, I’d say it’s because I don’t have a face that frightens small children - but neither am I ‘unapproachably Beautiful’ Seems to work the same way in the real world too!
Hence, though I used to wish I was ‘gorgeous ‘ - I’m now pretty happy with being ‘averagely attractive ‘ as it seems to serve me pretty well!
Anyway - I’m waffling! What are your thoughts? Do you think, as I do, that there can me more benefits to being the ‘girl (or boy!) next door’ than there are to being a stunner?
And if you do - is that just on fab - or the real world too?
Big hugs everyone
Peachy
I’m think I’m probably averagely attractive but it hasn't helped me much.... maybe I’m just deluded
But seriously, girl next door attractive or super hot attractive doesn’t hugely concern me, it’s more about the person you are, if you’re a c@£t, you’re a c@£t wether you’re attractive or not!
HG
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"Approach them and ask. You already know what you think they'll say, so when they reply "okay let's talk..." You"ll be prepared for it right.. When you are confident, you dismiss all thoughts of not being good enough. Live and breath that way of thinking and the number of doors that open increase. The only problem I see in this is that you might not get as much attention as others see YOU as out of their league. Spend half an hour at th" at the high street at the weekend and watch these so called mismatched couples walking holding hands. | |||
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"Lots of really hot people have problems finding dates because many people assume: they will already be attached, the hot person won't fancy the average person, that the hot person will be stuck up and egostistical. So yes I do think that the more 'average' looking people may have some things easier/ more benefits. " I'm probably the girl next door type, and even though I sex myself up for this lifestyle, men do find me approachable in clubs. The majority of men I've been involved through swinging and Hotwifing have been probably been on the same level as me in looks and intellect. Typically they have all be reasonably goodlooking guys with dads bods. Like me, no youthful gym bunnies. I don't as a norm do what I call 'batting above my station', but I think this is partly because I never fancy the young fit handsome guys with the chiselled bodies. Subconsciously I know I don't stand a chance. Having said that when we did first start using Fab properly, a mutual friend set us up with a man who was way above my station. But he like older women, so it didn't matter. He came to parties with us as a trio and I saw how women threw themselves at him. I never understood why he latched onto us for so long, but I think he was bemused that I didn't chase him, which was what he was used to on the swing scene. Although he's the best looking man I've ever slept with, I didn't fancy him at first - he was too goodlooking to fancy! Though as I got to know him as a person I started to like him a lot, so as the tables turned he got bored of me. Mrs | |||
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"Lots of really hot people have problems finding dates because many people assume: they will already be attached, the hot person won't fancy the average person, that the hot person will be stuck up and egostistical. So yes I do think that the more 'average' looking people may have some things easier/ more benefits. I'm probably the girl next door type, and even though I sex myself up for this lifestyle, men do find me approachable in clubs. The majority of men I've been involved through swinging and Hotwifing have been probably been on the same level as me in looks and intellect. Typically they have all be reasonably goodlooking guys with dads bods. Like me, no youthful gym bunnies. I don't as a norm do what I call 'batting above my station', but I think this is partly because I never fancy the young fit handsome guys with the chiselled bodies. Subconsciously I know I don't stand a chance. Having said that when we did first start using Fab properly, a mutual friend set us up with a man who was way above my station. But he like older women, so it didn't matter. He came to parties with us as a trio and I saw how women threw themselves at him. I never understood why he latched onto us for so long, but I think he was bemused that I didn't chase him, which was what he was used to on the swing scene. Although he's the best looking man I've ever slept with, I didn't fancy him at first - he was too goodlooking to fancy! Though as I got to know him as a person I started to like him a lot, so as the tables turned he got bored of me. Mrs " That's really interesting. You always make thought provoking posts. x | |||
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"Op. Your pics appear on the top pics regulary which would stop me messaging you. I would imagine you get inundated more than usual. That and I am also out of your age range. The fact you are very attractive would not affect a decision to message though." If you like someone who appears on hot photos and feel you match their criteria, I’d personally give it a go (they can only say no or not read/delete your message - no major disaster). Personally I’d just keep the message short but friendly, attach a face and torso pic - but most importantly wait until the person has dropped off hot photos before you message - as she’ll be less inundated then! Oh - and thanks for the compliment! | |||
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"In the real world I think body language has a lot to do with being approachable, and facial expressions. On nights out, or weekends away, myself and 2 of my friends are approached by a lot of men. Whereas, our other friend isn't. She has a sour look on her face most of the time and rarely laughs. When she does laugh her face doesn't light up, and she's a very negative person. I think there's an invisible barrier around her that keeps people away. I've tried to cheer her up, but she's bloody hard work. " I know exactly what you mean! I don’t have a ‘resting bitch face’ at all - I tend to have a simple grin all the time which makes me look like I have an IQ of about 50! At least people have no problem approaching me to chat to me - and if I like someone in a club who ‘looks approachable ‘ then I’ll happily go up to them! Xx | |||
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"Lots of really hot people have problems finding dates because many people assume: they will already be attached, the hot person won't fancy the average person, that the hot person will be stuck up and egostistical. So yes I do think that the more 'average' looking people may have some things easier/ more benefits. I'm probably the girl next door type, and even though I sex myself up for this lifestyle, men do find me approachable in clubs. The majority of men I've been involved through swinging and Hotwifing have been probably been on the same level as me in looks and intellect. Typically they have all be reasonably goodlooking guys with dads bods. Like me, no youthful gym bunnies. I don't as a norm do what I call 'batting above my station', but I think this is partly because I never fancy the young fit handsome guys with the chiselled bodies. Subconsciously I know I don't stand a chance. Having said that when we did first start using Fab properly, a mutual friend set us up with a man who was way above my station. But he like older women, so it didn't matter. He came to parties with us as a trio and I saw how women threw themselves at him. I never understood why he latched onto us for so long, but I think he was bemused that I didn't chase him, which was what he was used to on the swing scene. Although he's the best looking man I've ever slept with, I didn't fancy him at first - he was too goodlooking to fancy! Though as I got to know him as a person I started to like him a lot, so as the tables turned he got bored of me. Mrs " Come across this myself. The ‘thrill of the chase’ is a big thing to some - and both in the real world and on fab a lot of people like to play games! I’m truly rubbish at this - I’m very direct and an open book - and I still find other people’s game playing bemusing and sometimes a little upsetting! | |||
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"Aparantly, from the opinion of others, banshee has 'do not talk to me' written on her forehead when we go to a club. None the less... we think we are down to earth and approachable "Lol I’m hearing you ! I get told that I look unapproachable yet once met in reality it’s a different story  | |||
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"Aparantly, from the opinion of others, banshee has 'do not talk to me' written on her forehead when we go to a club. None the less... we think we are down to earth and approachable
Lol I’m hearing you ! I get told that I look unapproachable yet once met in reality it’s a different story "How the feck are you unapproachable, you're bloody gorgeous Sadly in the wrong Yarmouth though  | |||
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"There once was a girl from next door Who fucked me, face down, on the floor When I asked 'Was I good? She replied, 'With a hood, I shall definitely come back for more....' Eye of the beholder and all..... X " Haha Nice work, did not expect to bump into Shakespeare in the forums. | |||
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"There once was a girl from next door Who fucked me, face down, on the floor When I asked 'Was I good? She replied, 'With a hood, I shall definitely come back for more....' Eye of the beholder and all..... X Haha Nice work, did not expect to bump into Shakespeare in the forums. " Cunning linguistics... But thanks for the big up.. X | |||
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"Aparantly, from the opinion of others, banshee has 'do not talk to me' written on her forehead when we go to a club. None the less... we think we are down to earth and approachable "Knowing her pretty well myself, I think her ‘natural ‘ pose isn’t a smiley one and I guess that may put some people off. When she smiles, though, it’s a very different story! I guess your job, Director, is to get people to stick around long enough to see her lovely smile! | |||
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"There once was a girl from next door Who fucked me, face down, on the floor When I asked 'Was I good? She replied, 'With a hood, I shall definitely come back for more....' Eye of the beholder and all..... X " Haha nice poem! Can I borrow the hood? | |||
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"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!" Indeed - and if everyone had exactly the same ‘type’ - then 90% of us would probably never get a shag! | |||
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"There once was a girl from next door Who fucked me, face down, on the floor When I asked 'Was I good? She replied, 'With a hood, I shall definitely come back for more....' Eye of the beholder and all..... X Haha nice poem! Can I borrow the hood? "Hmmmm, so you wish to borrow the hood I'd very much think that you could. But what would you do For its latex (and new) I would hope you do with it what you should..... | |||
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"Aparantly, from the opinion of others, banshee has 'do not talk to me' written on her forehead when we go to a club. None the less... we think we are down to earth and approachable
Lol I’m hearing you ! I get told that I look unapproachable yet once met in reality it’s a different story How the feck are you unapproachable, you're bloody gorgeous Sadly in the wrong Yarmouth though "What a lovely compliment .. I can only put it down to the fact that my past relationship destroyed my own self confidence so although now outwardly I’m a bit in your face looks wise inwardly I’m still that awkward shy girl so really prefer others to approach me It’s easy to hide behind a camera on here That’s a bit deep for a Monday morning lol | |||
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"People tend to go for partners who are the same "attractiveness" level. So a "6" or "7" will get a lot more response imo" | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well " So I wasn't the only one who thought that? 
I'm not the girl/woman next door, don't go to clubs or parties, don't constantly post new/recycled photos or 'look at me' statuses, yet I get the volume of messages and quality meets that I want from Fab. I also get a fair amount of attention/compliments in the real world, without looking for any.
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well " Just to clarify - if it’s needed - in saying I did ‘ridiculously well’ I meant that I get messaged by/meet people who I personally consider to be far more attractive than I am! Not sure how that interprets as me being ‘up my own arse’ when I think they’re far better looking than I am? Apologies if I phrased it badly though! X | |||
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"Imo any attractive ‘next door type of girl’ can look like a so called ‘gorgeous’ lady (bearing in mind this is all subjective). Boils down to makeup and clothing. Personally i don’t need to see an attractive lady in fancy clothes or caked in makeup for them to get my attention. Jeans and a white t-shirt can be just as effective " Absolutely - particularly when it’s a wet t-shirt! | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well " Talk about projection! It's not an up your arse statement, It's just an objective fact that if you get x many messages, fabs and winks on fab then one is doing ridiculously well. The fact that most single female profiles can do ridiculously well with a one word profile and silhouette for a profile picture doesn't make the OPs statement arrogant in the slightest. It's just a statement of fact. | |||
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"Imo any attractive ‘next door type of girl’ can look like a so called ‘gorgeous’ lady (bearing in mind this is all subjective). Boils down to makeup and clothing. Personally i don’t need to see an attractive lady in fancy clothes or caked in makeup for them to get my attention. Jeans and a white t-shirt can be just as effective Absolutely - particularly when it’s a wet t-shirt! "An added bonus for sure  | |||
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"I've often wondered this too. I have met some lovely people on fab but it's not a smooth ride... I've had many a conversation end after sharing a face pic, always thinking ah Well, they don't fancy me. Until recently when I new forum friend said I might be considered too 'beautiful' It's not something I've ever thought about as I don't consider myself a great beauty, but in retrospect I must admit I've not sent a message to a profile I deemed to be out of my league so maybe it is a theory.... Not seen your face so I’ve no idea but yes - I do think ‘too much beauty ‘ can be deemed unapproachable! "Yes I think that's true. People can be intimidated. Much easier to approach someone "ordinary" (all of these terms are completely subjective of course) | |||
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" There are quite a few people on fab who are genuinely stunning/gorgeous - but I wonder if they are as ‘popular ‘ (as in offers of dates/meets etc from people they might find attractive ) as those who might be considered as ‘approachably attractive’? For instance - on a good day I’d consider myself to be ‘woman next door ‘ attractive and I do ridiculously well both on fab and in clubs. If I had to analyse it, I’d say it’s because I don’t have a face that frightens small children - but neither am I ‘unapproachably Beautiful’ Seems to work the same way in the real world too! Hence, though I used to wish I was ‘gorgeous ‘ - I’m now pretty happy with being ‘averagely attractive ‘ as it seems to serve me pretty well! Anyway - I’m waffling! What are your thoughts? Do you think, as I do, that there can me more benefits to being the ‘girl (or boy!) next door’ than there are to being a stunner? And if you do - is that just on fab - or the real world too? Big hugs everyone Peachy "LOL, you use "doing ridiculously well on here and in clubs" as a barometer of your attractiveness? Christ almighty some of you are naive and delusional. Plenty of guys here would fuck a cardboard box here with a hole in it. Fab is ABSOLUTELY NO indicator of your attractiveness. And I would be kinda amused if this opinion is held by anyone above the age of 20. | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well Talk about projection! It's not an up your arse statement, It's just an objective fact that if you get x many messages, fabs and winks on fab then one is doing ridiculously well. The fact that most single female profiles can do ridiculously well with a one word profile and silhouette for a profile picture doesn't make the OPs statement arrogant in the slightest. It's just a statement of fact. " As was my comment. Thanks | |||
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"Hmmm. I think this works for women, but not so much for men. My opinion (and it is only my opinion) is that women have more latitude on a site like fab, predominantly because of the skewed cross section - they're in far greater demand than their male counterparts. Though I'm more of a forum lurker than contributor, I notice that there are quite a few men that just want a female - no other criteria. The opposite does not appear to be true. What I find especially fascinating is the couples dynamic (and I'm speaking as the M half of a couple) - do average couples like us appear more approachable to others? Apparently not. But if we were a stunning couple, would we have more luck? Probably. Interesting question. I'd sooner be a stunning couple than an average one, but would also be more likely to approach a couple/female of similar appearance (if there is such a thing) to ourselves. Ironic. " Fab is a far greater indicator of male attractiveness than of a female. This is just logic. In a buyers market (with women being the selectors) it will inevitably be only the most desirable men who really get a look in. | |||
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"Imo any attractive ‘next door type of girl’ can look like a so called ‘gorgeous’ lady (bearing in mind this is all subjective). Boils down to makeup and clothing. Personally i don’t need to see an attractive lady in fancy clothes or caked in makeup for them to get my attention. Jeans and a white t-shirt can be just as effective Absolutely - particularly when it’s a wet t-shirt! "Beauty in the eye of the beholder for me OP. | |||
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"I think there's an awful lot of women that don't fall into either of those 2 categories, there's a big ole grey area where most wild find themselves. I'm basing this on Fabs / swinging ~ I don't think it's a level playing field as generally most women will do well regardless of what they look like, the main stumbling block if they don't is probably logistics/ availability. " Hell even I get plenty of offers on here ...and nobody looks at me in the real world | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well " Up her own ass? More the opposite actually. I think women on Fab have, by far, some of the lowest self esteem I have ever come across among any group of women. The amount who think Fab is an indicator of desire is actually kinda worrying. Blows my mind that many in middle age still have no grasped the fact that we men are desperate for sex. There are profile with no pics with 300+ messages in their inbox (or so I have been told). Fab is for NSA sex or possibly to meet a regular/partner who is also into polyamory/swinging. Those of you using this site as some kind of validation tool are only doing your mental health a disservice. | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well Up her own ass? More the opposite actually. I think women on Fab have, by far, some of the lowest self esteem I have ever come across among any group of women. The amount who think Fab is an indicator of desire is actually kinda worrying. Blows my mind that many in middle age still have no grasped the fact that we men are desperate for sex. There are profile with no pics with 300+ messages in their inbox (or so I have been told). Fab is for NSA sex or possibly to meet a regular/partner who is also into polyamory/swinging. Those of you using this site as some kind of validation tool are only doing your mental health a disservice. " *applause* | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well Up her own ass? More the opposite actually. I think women on Fab have, by far, some of the lowest self esteem I have ever come across among any group of women. The amount who think Fab is an indicator of desire is actually kinda worrying. Blows my mind that many in middle age still have no grasped the fact that we men are desperate for sex. There are profile with no pics with 300+ messages in their inbox (or so I have been told). Fab is for NSA sex or possibly to meet a regular/partner who is also into polyamory/swinging. Those of you using this site as some kind of validation tool are only doing your mental health a disservice. " Thanks for the analysis. I'm not doing myself a disservice. I simply said I wouldn't say I'm doing ridiculously well. | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well Talk about projection! It's not an up your arse statement, It's just an objective fact that if you get x many messages, fabs and winks on fab then one is doing ridiculously well. The fact that most single female profiles can do ridiculously well with a one word profile and silhouette for a profile picture doesn't make the OPs statement arrogant in the slightest. It's just a statement of fact. As was my comment. Thanks "If you think the OPs comments make her sound "up her own arse" then we don't agree, but apologies if I've misunderstood | |||
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"Hmmm. I think this works for women, but not so much for men. My opinion (and it is only my opinion) is that women have more latitude on a site like fab, predominantly because of the skewed cross section - they're in far greater demand than their male counterparts. Though I'm more of a forum lurker than contributor, I notice that there are quite a few men that just want a female - no other criteria. The opposite does not appear to be true. What I find especially fascinating is the couples dynamic (and I'm speaking as the M half of a couple) - do average couples like us appear more approachable to others? Apparently not. But if we were a stunning couple, would we have more luck? Probably. Interesting question. I'd sooner be a stunning couple than an average one, but would also be more likely to approach a couple/female of similar appearance (if there is such a thing) to ourselves. Ironic. Fab is a far greater indicator of male attractiveness than of a female. This is just logic. In a buyers market (with women being the selectors) it will inevitably be only the most desirable men who really get a look in. " I think it's a good indicator of mens social skills, which could be considered part of attractiveness. | |||
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"Hmmm. I think this works for women, but not so much for men. My opinion (and it is only my opinion) is that women have more latitude on a site like fab, predominantly because of the skewed cross section - they're in far greater demand than their male counterparts. Though I'm more of a forum lurker than contributor, I notice that there are quite a few men that just want a female - no other criteria. The opposite does not appear to be true. What I find especially fascinating is the couples dynamic (and I'm speaking as the M half of a couple) - do average couples like us appear more approachable to others? Apparently not. But if we were a stunning couple, would we have more luck? Probably. Interesting question. I'd sooner be a stunning couple than an average one, but would also be more likely to approach a couple/female of similar appearance (if there is such a thing) to ourselves. Ironic. Fab is a far greater indicator of male attractiveness than of a female. This is just logic. In a buyers market (with women being the selectors) it will inevitably be only the most desirable men who really get a look in. I think it's a good indicator of mens social skills, which could be considered part of attractiveness. " Social skills are part of desirability. But yes, in the case of the site only, yes looks would be a big factor (especially considering people have a knack for not actually reading profiles). | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well Up her own ass? More the opposite actually. I think women on Fab have, by far, some of the lowest self esteem I have ever come across among any group of women. The amount who think Fab is an indicator of desire is actually kinda worrying. Blows my mind that many in middle age still have no grasped the fact that we men are desperate for sex. There are profile with no pics with 300+ messages in their inbox (or so I have been told). Fab is for NSA sex or possibly to meet a regular/partner who is also into polyamory/swinging. Those of you using this site as some kind of validation tool are only doing your mental health a disservice. " Excellent comment. This website and this lifestyle is about having sex with hot people and occasionally making friends too if you get on. If those who you find hot want to have sex with you too then great...what is one person's girl next door is one person's "stunner" and vice versa. I would say that if you're basing your entire life around fab / swinging and if you seek all your validation on here, then that won't end well. Having said that, if a woman in the real world doesn't get the attention and validation as she does on here I can understand why she would make it her real world, even if I do think it's harmful as I really do believe a lot men on here will shag anything with a vagina. | |||
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"Looks and social skills equally important on here in my view " I quite agree. | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well Up her own ass? More the opposite actually. I think women on Fab have, by far, some of the lowest self esteem I have ever come across among any group of women. The amount who think Fab is an indicator of desire is actually kinda worrying. Blows my mind that many in middle age still have no grasped the fact that we men are desperate for sex. There are profile with no pics with 300+ messages in their inbox (or so I have been told). Fab is for NSA sex or possibly to meet a regular/partner who is also into polyamory/swinging. Those of you using this site as some kind of validation tool are only doing your mental health a disservice. Excellent comment. This website and this lifestyle is about having sex with hot people and occasionally making friends too if you get on. If those who you find hot want to have sex with you too then great...what is one person's girl next door is one person's "stunner" and vice versa. I would say that if you're basing your entire life around fab / swinging and if you seek all your validation on here, then that won't end well. Having said that, if a woman in the real world doesn't get the attention and validation as she does on here I can understand why she would make it her real world, even if I do think it's harmful as I really do believe a lot men on here will shag anything with a vagina. " They will? I'm going wrong somewhere | |||
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"I've often wondered this too. I have met some lovely people on fab but it's not a smooth ride... I've had many a conversation end after sharing a face pic, always thinking ah Well, they don't fancy me. Until recently when I new forum friend said I might be considered too 'beautiful' It's not something I've ever thought about as I don't consider myself a great beauty, but in retrospect I must admit I've not sent a message to a profile I deemed to be out of my league so maybe it is a theory.... Not seen your face so I’ve no idea but yes - I do think ‘too much beauty ‘ can be deemed unapproachable!
Yes I think that's true. People can be intimidated. Much easier to approach someone "ordinary" (all of these terms are completely subjective of course) "No I think you’re spot on! I think I’m successful on fab because A) I have a vagina B) I’m a friendly fecker And C) because I’m what I’d describe as ‘ordinarily attractive!’ Ie I don’t make you pewk in disgust, but you’re not likely to fall to your knees in worship either! | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well Up her own ass? More the opposite actually. I think women on Fab have, by far, some of the lowest self esteem I have ever come across among any group of women. The amount who think Fab is an indicator of desire is actually kinda worrying. Blows my mind that many in middle age still have no grasped the fact that we men are desperate for sex. There are profile with no pics with 300+ messages in their inbox (or so I have been told). Fab is for NSA sex or possibly to meet a regular/partner who is also into polyamory/swinging. Those of you using this site as some kind of validation tool are only doing your mental health a disservice. Excellent comment. This website and this lifestyle is about having sex with hot people and occasionally making friends too if you get on. If those who you find hot want to have sex with you too then great...what is one person's girl next door is one person's "stunner" and vice versa. I would say that if you're basing your entire life around fab / swinging and if you seek all your validation on here, then that won't end well. Having said that, if a woman in the real world doesn't get the attention and validation as she does on here I can understand why she would make it her real world, even if I do think it's harmful as I really do believe a lot men on here will shag anything with a vagina. " Way to make a girl feel great... and I thought they liked me  | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well Up her own ass? More the opposite actually. I think women on Fab have, by far, some of the lowest self esteem I have ever come across among any group of women. The amount who think Fab is an indicator of desire is actually kinda worrying. Blows my mind that many in middle age still have no grasped the fact that we men are desperate for sex. There are profile with no pics with 300+ messages in their inbox (or so I have been told). Fab is for NSA sex or possibly to meet a regular/partner who is also into polyamory/swinging. Those of you using this site as some kind of validation tool are only doing your mental health a disservice. " Couldn’t agree more! I live very much in the real world - which is why I found my ‘fab popularity’ mystifying at first! I’ve since concluded that it’s simply because I have a vagina, I actually meet people (many, seemingly, don’t!), and I like meeting/chatting to nice people! It worries me when people base their self esteem, either by becoming narcissistic or being filled with self doubt, on the opinions of a number of people who may or may not want to shag them! If fab stops being fun then it’s time to take a break! Xx | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well Up her own ass? More the opposite actually. I think women on Fab have, by far, some of the lowest self esteem I have ever come across among any group of women. The amount who think Fab is an indicator of desire is actually kinda worrying. Blows my mind that many in middle age still have no grasped the fact that we men are desperate for sex. There are profile with no pics with 300+ messages in their inbox (or so I have been told). Fab is for NSA sex or possibly to meet a regular/partner who is also into polyamory/swinging. Those of you using this site as some kind of validation tool are only doing your mental health a disservice. Couldn’t agree more! I live very much in the real world - which is why I found my ‘fab popularity’ mystifying at first! I’ve since concluded that it’s simply because I have a vagina, I actually meet people (many, seemingly, don’t!), and I like meeting/chatting to nice people! It worries me when people base their self esteem, either by becoming narcissistic or being filled with self doubt, on the opinions of a number of people who may or may not want to shag them! If fab stops being fun then it’s time to take a break! Xx" I tend not to worry too much about what people think of me here and in life. I'm just me, I say things how I see them. You've met me therefore you know this. When I stop enjoying what fab gives me I take a step back. | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well Up her own ass? More the opposite actually. I think women on Fab have, by far, some of the lowest self esteem I have ever come across among any group of women. The amount who think Fab is an indicator of desire is actually kinda worrying. Blows my mind that many in middle age still have no grasped the fact that we men are desperate for sex. There are profile with no pics with 300+ messages in their inbox (or so I have been told). Fab is for NSA sex or possibly to meet a regular/partner who is also into polyamory/swinging. Those of you using this site as some kind of validation tool are only doing your mental health a disservice. " But not to worry there's always someone around to make sure we realise our worth (or not as the case may be) | |||
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"I think I'm average/ girl next door. Though I'm not up my own arse enough to say I do ridiculously well Up her own ass? More the opposite actually. I think women on Fab have, by far, some of the lowest self esteem I have ever come across among any group of women. The amount who think Fab is an indicator of desire is actually kinda worrying. Blows my mind that many in middle age still have no grasped the fact that we men are desperate for sex. There are profile with no pics with 300+ messages in their inbox (or so I have been told). Fab is for NSA sex or possibly to meet a regular/partner who is also into polyamory/swinging. Those of you using this site as some kind of validation tool are only doing your mental health a disservice. " Fair point. | |||
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"Much prefer woman next door attractive tbh. Too good looking is intimidating, and it's not just a myth that the fab elite are quite unlikeable in real life. " That’s quite a sweeping statement I’ve met some really gorgeous people male and female that are ‘Fab elite’ (presumably that means regular Hot pics and they are really lovely people I have met some right arseholes too but they are in the minority bracket | |||
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"Much prefer woman next door attractive tbh. Too good looking is intimidating, and it's not just a myth that the fab elite are quite unlikeable in real life. " There's a fab elite?  ... in who's eyes?? | |||
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"Much prefer woman next door attractive tbh. Too good looking is intimidating, and it's not just a myth that the fab elite are quite unlikeable in real life. " Oh no, I'm likable too | |||
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"Much prefer woman next door attractive tbh. Too good looking is intimidating, and it's not just a myth that the fab elite are quite unlikeable in real life. There's a fab elite? ... in who's eyes?? "We both know we are in it | |||
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"Much prefer woman next door attractive tbh. Too good looking is intimidating, and it's not just a myth that the fab elite are quite unlikeable in real life. That’s quite a sweeping statement I’ve met some really gorgeous people male and female that are ‘Fab elite’ (presumably that means regular Hot pics and they are really lovely people I have met some right arseholes too but they are in the minority bracket " The best thread fab ever had was on 'who the fab clique' are! Of course it was quickly deleted my the moderators but if the 'fab elite' are the same then the couple from that list that we've met are extremely likeable in real life and we've met someone who is frequently on page 1 of the pictures and is also a sweetheart. In any particularly large sample of humans, some will be unlikeable, but i see no evidence the unlikeables over over-represented in the fab elite. | |||
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"Much prefer woman next door attractive tbh. Too good looking is intimidating, and it's not just a myth that the fab elite are quite unlikeable in real life. There's a fab elite? ... in who's eyes??
We both know we are in it "Shit on it... does that mean we are the clique too??  | |||
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"Much prefer woman next door attractive tbh. Too good looking is intimidating, and it's not just a myth that the fab elite are quite unlikeable in real life. There's a fab elite? ... in who's eyes??
We both know we are in it
Shit on it... does that mean we are the clique too?? "Fucking right we are, that means we only have to shag other elite members. | |||
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"Lol all the super attractive ppl getting butt hurt over someone's opinion. Bless " I'm going to cry myself to sleep tonight. | |||
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"I don’t get chatted up or even much eye contact when I’m out in real life but I get a few messages here... I’m going to need to start hitting guys over the head and dragging them off I’m larger girl door but that doesn’t cut it in real life.. most guys still want someone they won’t be embarrassed to be seen with" Guys must be blind then because your a stunner | |||
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"I don’t get chatted up or even much eye contact when I’m out in real life but I get a few messages here... I’m going to need to start hitting guys over the head and dragging them off I’m larger girl door but that doesn’t cut it in real life.. most guys still want someone they won’t be embarrassed to be seen with" You’re an extremely attractive woman - so much so that I ‘had’ to fab all your pictures! If I had a willy (and I wasn’t totally feckin skint all the time! ) I’d be delighted to take you out! Xx | |||
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"I don’t get chatted up or even much eye contact when I’m out in real life but I get a few messages here... I’m going to need to start hitting guys over the head and dragging them off I’m larger girl door but that doesn’t cut it in real life.. most guys still want someone they won’t be embarrassed to be seen with You’re an extremely attractive woman - so much so that I ‘had’ to fab all your pictures! If I had a willy (and I wasn’t totally feckin skint all the time! ) I’d be delighted to take you out! Xx"Aw that’s so sweet.. five in post for saying nice things xx Thank you | |||
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"Much prefer woman next door attractive tbh. Too good looking is intimidating, and it's not just a myth that the fab elite are quite unlikeable in real life. " It's not intimidating to other good looking people
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"I just like who I like. Couldn't give a fuck if they are considered girl next door, super hot, super elite, elite xl, elite plus or spank my arse and call me Charlie shit dont stink clique founding uber fabbers. " I like you. | |||
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"Hello my lovelies! Just posted on an old thread about Amanda Holden that someone dragged up - and it got me thinking (I know - and on a Sunday too! )
There are quite a few people on fab who are genuinely stunning/gorgeous - but I wonder if they are as ‘popular ‘ (as in offers of dates/meets etc from people they might find attractive ) as those who might be considered as ‘approachably attractive’?
For instance - on a good day I’d consider myself to be ‘woman next door ‘ attractive and I do ridiculously well both on fab and in clubs. If I had to analyse it, I’d say it’s because I don’t have a face that frightens small children - but neither am I ‘unapproachably Beautiful’ Seems to work the same way in the real world too!
Hence, though I used to wish I was ‘gorgeous ‘ - I’m now pretty happy with being ‘averagely attractive ‘ as it seems to serve me pretty well!
Anyway - I’m waffling! What are your thoughts? Do you think, as I do, that there can me more benefits to being the ‘girl (or boy!) next door’ than there are to being a stunner?
And if you do - is that just on fab - or the real world too?
Big hugs everyone
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"I don’t get chatted up or even much eye contact when I’m out in real life but I get a few messages here... I’m going to need to start hitting guys over the head and dragging them off I’m larger girl door but that doesn’t cut it in real life.. most guys still want someone they won’t be embarrassed to be seen with You’re an extremely attractive woman - so much so that I ‘had’ to fab all your pictures! If I had a willy (and I wasn’t totally feckin skint all the time! ) I’d be delighted to take you out! Xx
Aw that’s so sweet.. five in post for saying nice things xx
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"Anyway - I’m waffling! What are your thoughts? Do you think, as I do, that there can me more benefits to being the ‘girl (or boy!) next door’ than there are to being a stunner? And if you do - is that just on fab - or the real world too? Big hugs everyone Peachy "I think that on fab it makes no difference - whether you're gorgeous or "girl next door" you're set as long as you have a vagina. In the big wide world outside of fab? I think circumstances play as much a role as appearances. | |||
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" Do you think, as I do, that there can me more benefits to being the ‘girl (or boy!) next door’ than there are to being a stunner? And if you do - is that just on fab - or the real world too? Big hugs everyone Peachy "My experience is that most people (men and women) tend to under estimate their own attractiveness. The feww that don't tend to come across as vain or conceited. Being the girl (or guy) next door has always had a universal appeal otherwise there wouldn't be porn mags featuring said beauties. So the point I think is this, as long as you are comfortable in your own skin, your positive attitude and great personality would be the most attractive feature of all... | |||
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