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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you've been here a yr or so and nobody has met you and they have read your messages etc and not replied. Do you get a complex or do you just move on?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Hopefully some men will post and answer you very soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You learn that there are far more men then women here and that you’re more likely to win the lottery then get a reply, you grow a thicker skin, and hope for the best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hopefully some men will post and answer you very soon"

Hopefully but I get a complex as half of Middlesbrough dont want me lol. I cant be that bad

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

One of your other posts won't be helpful to you either to be fair, as some will follow the green arrow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One of your other posts won't be helpful to you either to be fair, as some will follow the green arrow."

OAP?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"One of your other posts won't be helpful to you either to be fair, as some will follow the green arrow.

OAP?"
just remember a lot will use the forums as a filter and block

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By *hy-totCouple
over a year ago

Skellow

males on here are in there thousands we are a couple and still struggle on here its how it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has been mentioned the ratio of men to women on here is ridiculous, so it can be difficult for us guys to get a meeting set up.

Persistence and patience is the key, you've just got to stick with it. Keep tweaking your profile if need be and write an opening message that is specific to that person/couple and once you've sent a message don't dwell on it, you might get a response or you might not and if not you've it just means that your not suitable for each other so don't let it get you down.

Getting active I the forums can help too to raise your exposure and you never know it may even spark a private conversation or two.

Keep at it and good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Getting active I the forums can help too to raise your exposure and you never know it may even spark a private conversation or two.

Keep at it and good luck OP"

We both have solo profiles and I, The male half, got a party invite based on my forum activity a while back, through my solo profile. It does happen.

Good luck x

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley


"As has been mentioned the ratio of men to women on here is ridiculous, so it can be difficult for us guys to get a meeting set up.

Persistence and patience is the key, you've just got to stick with it. Keep tweaking your profile if need be and write an opening message that is specific to that person/couple and once you've sent a message don't dwell on it, you might get a response or you might not and if not you've it just means that your not suitable for each other so don't let it get you down.

Getting active I the forums can help too to raise your exposure and you never know it may even spark a private conversation or two.

Keep at it and good luck OP"

^^This always the best advice to be honest and often given to those with a similar question. Just chill and have fun in the forums.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Just took a look at profile, looking good and you have a verification already, onwards and upwards...good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just took a look at profile, looking good and you have a verification already, onwards and upwards...good luck x"

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you've been here a yr or so and nobody has met you and they have read your messages etc and not replied. Do you get a complex or do you just move on?"
Don't watch your sent messages for being read or not just send a few decent ones and forget about them or it'll drive you mad, you'll get replies

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Also check profile before messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you've been here a yr or so and nobody has met you and they have read your messages etc and not replied. Do you get a complex or do you just move on?"

No I don't think you should get a complex. I see you are only looking to meet single women. There are approximately 100 men on Fab for every single woman. If you were to walk into a bar every night full of a hundred men and 1 women would you and the other 98 men get a complex for not being chosen? Also those men will be competing with couples for a woman. And in addition to that some single women won't be looking for one on one meets with men. In short you are looking for a lady but have chosen to look for that on a site where there are relatively few. I do though believe that if a Fab does not work fir the individual there is no point. It doesn't work for everyone. Maybe think about your profile though. Put up photos that show you looking sexy. And I personally don't think you should tell everybody that you have dyspraxia and mild autism. That's your personal business. Let people get to know your personality first.

Mrs

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"When you've been here a yr or so and nobody has met you and they have read your messages etc and not replied. Do you get a complex or do you just move on?

No I don't think you should get a complex. I see you are only looking to meet single women. There are approximately 100 men on Fab for every single woman. If you were to walk into a bar every night full of a hundred men and 1 women would you and the other 98 men get a complex for not being chosen? Also those men will be competing with couples for a woman. And in addition to that some single women won't be looking for one on one meets with men. In short you are looking for a lady but have chosen to look for that on a site where there are relatively few. I do though believe that if a Fab does not work fir the individual there is no point. It doesn't work for everyone. Maybe think about your profile though. Put up photos that show you looking sexy. And I personally don't think you should tell everybody that you have dyspraxia and mild autism. That's your personal business. Let people get to know your personality first.

Mrs"

I think it can only be a good thing if he tells people,I understand what you're saying,but then if people don't know they may just think he's being rude. If he tells people why he is the way he is then people can have a better understanding. I would want to know.

Maybe it's down to your height op I personally prefer someone taller,I know it's not a great reason not to meet someone,but we all know what we like don't we.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to a few socials in my early days, they help a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you've been here a yr or so and nobody has met you and they have read your messages etc and not replied. Do you get a complex or do you just move on?

No I don't think you should get a complex. I see you are only looking to meet single women. There are approximately 100 men on Fab for every single woman. If you were to walk into a bar every night full of a hundred men and 1 women would you and the other 98 men get a complex for not being chosen? Also those men will be competing with couples for a woman. And in addition to that some single women won't be looking for one on one meets with men. In short you are looking for a lady but have chosen to look for that on a site where there are relatively few. I do though believe that if a Fab does not work fir the individual there is no point. It doesn't work for everyone. Maybe think about your profile though. Put up photos that show you looking sexy. And I personally don't think you should tell everybody that you have dyspraxia and mild autism. That's your personal business. Let people get to know your personality first.

Mrs

I think it can only be a good thing if he tells people,I understand what you're saying,but then if people don't know they may just think he's being rude. If he tells people why he is the way he is then people can have a better understanding. I would want to know.

Maybe it's down to your height op I personally prefer someone taller,I know it's not a great reason not to meet someone,but we all know what we like don't we."

I dont know. I am always put off when people announce their problems or difficulties before I have had a chance to get to know them, whereas if I get to know them first I won't notice if they tell me something like that later.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"When you've been here a yr or so and nobody has met you and they have read your messages etc and not replied. Do you get a complex or do you just move on?

No I don't think you should get a complex. I see you are only looking to meet single women. There are approximately 100 men on Fab for every single woman. If you were to walk into a bar every night full of a hundred men and 1 women would you and the other 98 men get a complex for not being chosen? Also those men will be competing with couples for a woman. And in addition to that some single women won't be looking for one on one meets with men. In short you are looking for a lady but have chosen to look for that on a site where there are relatively few. I do though believe that if a Fab does not work fir the individual there is no point. It doesn't work for everyone. Maybe think about your profile though. Put up photos that show you looking sexy. And I personally don't think you should tell everybody that you have dyspraxia and mild autism. That's your personal business. Let people get to know your personality first.

Mrs

I think it can only be a good thing if he tells people,I understand what you're saying,but then if people don't know they may just think he's being rude. If he tells people why he is the way he is then people can have a better understanding. I would want to know.

Maybe it's down to your height op I personally prefer someone taller,I know it's not a great reason not to meet someone,but we all know what we like don't we.

I dont know. I am always put off when people announce their problems or difficulties before I have had a chance to get to know them, whereas if I get to know them first I won't notice if they tell me something like that later. "

Yeah I appreciate that it's a difficult one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe in yourself! Just hang in here there are some lovely people out there. And your time will come. Be polite be patient and relax and dont get hung up on what you dont have or not yet achieved.

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